Yes, we all feel fear.
Especially those of us who set those big mother-trucking goals.
Fear is a constant companion.
She is there when you wake in the morning.
Waiting for her moment to slink up to you, wrap her seductive arms around you, French kissing you deeply.
And you can anticipate her.
You can wake up ready for her.
You can choose to kiss her right back with so much passion that she’s the one left breathless.
and only then,
she becomes your ally.
However this is not what I witness in most people.
Instead I see people fearing fear.
Dreading waking up because they know she is sitting patiently waiting for them to regain consciousness.
They constantly say they want to be fearless.
Thereby implying they’re marinated in fear.
Then they wonder why they are not achieving their desired goals.
They are frustrated by their lack of results.
They don’t understand why they are taking action every single day but the needle is not shifting.
The reason is because fear is their main driver and they are the slave.
You’ve heard this a gazillion times before Sweetpea, whatever you focus on you create more of. Whatever energy you are vibrating on you attract more of that as evidence.
So if you’re constantly terrified, if fear is the foundation of your goals, you only create more shit that keeps you stuck in fear.
You can set the most amazing goals in the world, they can look wonderful, inspirational, however if you don’t take the time to figure out the driver for this goal you’re screwed.
If you’re currently going through a particularly challenging time and you’ve set a goal thinking it will turn things around for you, the goal that will save you, the one that will make it all better, that’s FEAR baby.
There’s a sense of distress and you will bring that crap to your beliefs, your actions, your words, everything.
How do you know this is true?
You ask yourself why this goal is so important to you and the answer smacks of desperation.
A ray of hope to hold on.
Maybe the goal will make you feel better, or you think it will make you look better, get you more applause and recognition.
I’m sorry to tell you this but if that’s your driver, and if it truly is a kickass goal, you’re doomed.
Because the transformational goals DEMAND a big why.
One that takes you by your gut, it rips up into your heart, it raises you to a new perspective which you refuse to let go of.
Those transformational goals DEMAND sacrifice.
And if you’re already trembling in fear and scarcity you will hold on to what you know with everything you’ve got – even when what you know is fucking you over. Even those codependent relationships that has you shrinking smaller every day. Even when you know that bottle of wine makes you weak, your thoughts foggy, has you losing moments of time.
Those transformational goals DEMAND that you grow.
And growth, in my experience, is uncomfortable AF and scary and yes, at times it’s painful.
My pain is part of my story and I wear it with pride.
Those transformational goals DEMAND that you take full responsibility for your life, for your creations, for YOU.
That means YOU and only you raise your standards to a new level of excellence and you fucking REFUSE to ever bow down again.
You leave those fuckers behind who ever made you feel shit, who made you doubt your power, your sanity, your worth.
You surround yourself with the real players even though you don’t feel worthy in the beginning, even though you feel uncomfortable to start with, even though you feel slightly embarrassed at the outset. And then you work your sweet ass off, learning from them, using them as inspiration of what is possible, modelling their behaviour until you find what works for you.
It’s up to YOU!
Nobody else is going to save you.
Nobody else is going to do the work for you.
Yes, you can have the best coaches teaching you the best strategies in the world, but if YOU don’t implement with gusto, if YOU don’t bring your A-game, if YOU don’t load it with intensity, you will NOT show the results.
Do you think any of this happens when you slink around in the shadow of fear Darling?
Not a fuck!
I wake and face my fear head-on.
I dare her to take me back to hell.
I have been there before.
I have been burnt to the ground by the fires.
Now I am the fucking fire bitch.
And still I rise.
Fear has nothing on my passion.
I am driven by SOUL.
I am driven by PURPOSE.
I am driven by the fact that I came here to lead, to inspire, to wake up the masses who are ready to thrive, who are hungry for change, who are willing to make conscious decisions and take the results on as their own.
I will not be stopped by fear.
Previously she had me whispering.
She had me pissing my wetsuit.
She had me crawling on the floor, unable to breathe, terrified to live.
And still I rise.
I have no desire to live without fear.
I welcome her into my life.
I use her as an indicator of where my growth lies.
But not without reconnecting with my drive.
I prepare myself for whatever is thrown my way.
I get dispondent at times.
I get tired.
I get frustrated.
I get furious.
Always coming back to why the hell I set the goal in the first place.
And if it doesn’t light my ass on fire,
I’ve set the wrong goal.
Back to the drawing board.
If your foundation is shit, your results will be shit.
Take more time with the ground work.
Figuring out the right goals with the unbreakable drivers!
Successful people know their why.
Living with fear VS living in fear.
It’s a choice.
Only death is inevitable.
Thriving is the choice of the brave.
PS: Legendary is coming!