How often do you find yourself procrastinating?
As if it is the most natural thing in the world to drag your feet.
Yet this seems to have become as normal as breathing to people these days.
Procrastination is nothing more than lack of decision.
And I’m not talking about a decision taken with your mouth when you tell everybody that yes, this time you’ve decided you’re going to do it.
I’m talking about a decision in the very fibre of your being.
Think Gandalf slamming that staff down with motherfucking FORCE and EXCLAIMING WITH CONVICTION “YOU SHALL NOT PASS!”
THAT level of decision.
THAT level of choice that has you prepared to DIE for what you have just stated.
What’s becoming crystal clear is that most people are petrified of actually making decisions for themselves and stating it with conviction.
Skin in the game.
Willing to fail and be called a moron.
Fuck the naysayers who call them crazy.
TAKING OWNERSHIP OF THEIR LIVES, THEIR DESIRES, THEIR RESULTS AND REBELLING AGAINST THE TEMPTATION OF COMPARISON.
THESE are the leaders that are world is DESPERATE for.
Leaders in life, not just in industry or politics.
Instead we see billions walking around, hunched over, spineless little minions waiting for the puppeteer to pull their strings.
They’re constantly waiting for someone else to tell them what to do.
To give them permission to speak.
To say it’s okay for them to finally start building that business now that it no longer interferes with everyone else’s schedules and agendas.
Continuously looking for a scapegoat JUST IN CASE they fuck up.
I just want to highlight for you as well that no spectacular results come from decisions which do not demand a tremendous amount of courage.
The hard ones.
The ones that has your ego screaming like a little bitch!
You take action
That is where the courage comes in.
It’s not in stating your decision.
The courage comes from taking the action!
You never leave the scene of a decision without taking the action!
Let me say that again because this is EVERYTHING
YOU NEVER EVER EVER LEAVE THE SCENE OF A DECISION WITHOUT TAKING ALIGNED ACTION!
Because without the action that pulls it through, you have not yet committed.
Regardless of what you’re telling me.
Without the immediate action this is what happens:
You try and figure out the HOW
Those cursed hows
And the more you try and figure it out, the more you panic because you don’t have a fucking clue!
Because if you already knew the how you would have already done it and already achieved the result.
If you knew the how there would be no personal growth demanded which wouldn’t have made it courageous anyway.
So you start talking yourself out of it.
You say “maybe I should first talk this over with someone else, because just now my gut decision was wrong”
You’re not trusting yourself
Not believing in yourself.
FUCK I used to do this a lot.
The bitch is that you always find evidence for your beliefs.
You go and speak to the people who you trust to keep you safe.
Your family and loved ones, your closest friends.
They hear the tremor in your voice, the uncertainty, the fear and OF COURSE they want to protect you so they convince you that this is an unwise decision.
That you really should first think this over more before taking the action which makes your decision irreversible.
That you don’t have the time right now.
That you don’t have the money right now.
That everyone else needs you so maybe you should first rescue their asses and then, if you’re not dead yet, you can come back and reconsider.
Or, if you’re really shitting yourself, they will make it even easier on you and just say NO!
Decision taken out of your hands.
Because now you have a legit reason why you can’t follow through on your original decision.
SWEETHEART, YOU’RE SO FUCKING YOURSELF OVER.
You’ve just broken your word to yourself which means you have confirmed that you’re not believable, not trustworthy, not strong enough to do it.
You have just given away your power and you’re either powerful or powerless – there is no in-between.
I’m not judging you, ultimately I absolute 100% believe in the power of free choice.
I absolutely 100% believe in and respect the magnificence of each and every person.
Which is why I so often allow my clients to screw up because that is simply where they needed to get the learning.
Plus I don’t get caught up in the steps when I’m focused on the destination.
If I did I would be extremely ineffective as a coach.
Instead I simply provide a mirror.
I create a safe space for introspection.
I might even share my insights, my personal experience understanding that we’re all unique, my opinion, but I always leave it up to them to make the decisions and take responsibility.
It’s when we share our concerns with those who have a vested interest that we always back down.
Because now we have our own fear AND their fears to deal with.
In the back of their minds they are already calculating how this is going to impact them and what they will have to sacrifice.
Yes, we all play our roles in relationships and each of us have on some level agreed to those roles.
I do think it’s time for us to become aware of those roles and the unspoken agreements in our relationships and revisit them every now and again.
What served you in your twenties might be trapping you in your forties.
And unless you decide to change the rules of engagement you will never grow into your best version self.
So today I want to invite you to think about where you’re not making decisions with conviction?
Where are you putting off making that statement of intention and not taking immediate action?
What is the fear under that? What are you really afraid of?
Both the fear of success and failure needs to be investigated.
And then decide, are you ready to stop your shit and ACTUALLY show up as the leader that you were born to be, or do you choose to continue being someone else’s servant?
Hey, the world needs servants as well so I’m not saying it’s a bad thing.
I do insist that you stop torturing yourself by saying one thing and then showing up as the opposite because that is simply breaking down your belief in self.
Which is fucking torture!
I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
Decide with conviction and take courageous action.
For only death is inevitable.
Thriving is a choice.
FEMALE DOMINATION…. Sounds good, right?
We all want it, but we’re letting other factors tie us down like a Houdini straightjacket. You know who you need to start listening to? Yourself (oh and me).
There’s a reason why you haven’t reached your goals every year, it’s because they keep piling up like a game of Jenga. It simply becomes overwhelming after awhile.
But this year, promise me with conviction, you’ll change EVERYTHING.
We’ll start as small as we need to, but in reality, you need some INTENSE STUFF to drive new life-changing ideas home.
It’s easy to say you’ve probably never experienced what I can show you.
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Don’t stick to cheesy resolutions when you can have professional, ass-kicking advice that will turn your wishes into golden nuggets.
My private coaching is about kicking your excuses to the curb, uncovering your inner badass, and making your dreams a reality.