Stop being such a selfish bitch and instead choose to thrive!

You were born for greatness.

Of this I have no doubt.

That’s because out of the billions of people walking around, you are completely unique.

You have something special that nobody else has.

Whether that be a specific talent, or your vibrant energy, or massive ability to express love, or a wicked sense of humour.

Unique.

And if you play in my space you came here to make an impact.

You came at a time when there is massive transformation on this planet.

A time when chaos seems to be at the order of the day.

But in truth, the chaos is simply change.

Big change!

And no change happens in comfort.

So instead systems are crumbling and some are getting crushed under the rubble.

People are starting to understand that they are way more powerful than they were brought up to believe and that yes, they are co-creators of everything that they see around them.

This level of responsibility is daunting at first, liberating in the extreme!

And with this shift in perspective it’s time for you to step up to the plate and play your part in human evolution.

It’s time for you to get off the victim bandwagon and to mount your steed.

It’s time for you to stop feeling exhausted and overwhelmed and out of your depth and a fucking martyr and instead choose to thrive.

Because it’s not about you!

It’s about all the lives you promised to impact.

In whatever form that impact takes.

It might be in the nourishing foods that you serve, reconnecting people to their bodies and what it feels like to refuel compared to the sluggishness they feel when poisoning their bodies with crap.

It might be increasing their confidence and radiance with a gorgeous new hairstyle that has them showing up on a higher vibration to do their life work.

It might be sharing your story inspiring strangers to find their own personal brand of passion and purpose so they may liberate hundreds of thousands of souls to break free from the monotony of existence.

It might be dressing them in the finest of garments thereby providing a vehicle of expression for their own personal style which enhances their inner beauty.

Whatever it is, stop underestimating the importance of what you are here to do!

And stop thinking that you can have that massive impact when you’re struggling and exhausted and stressed out!

That’s total bullshit!

I was criticised once again for my focus on wealth creation in my personal life – told that I’m obsessed with money and that it is wrong and makes me evil.

What will it take for you to get that IT’S NOT ABOUT THE MONEY?  IT’S ABOUT THE IMPACT!

Let’s stop pretending that you can have a massive impact on a penny.

For one thing, the work we came here to do is energy intensive to say the least.

It takes money to surround yourself with the support required for you to be freed up from the mundane tasks and to focus on your zone of genius.

It takes money to nourish your body with the best food so that your engine keeps purring for hours.

It takes money to get your message out to a bigger audience thereby impacting more lives.

It takes money to get those weekly massages which has your muscles release toxins and knots thereby increasing the energy flow throughout your physical and energetic bodies.

It takes money to thrive!

And for me to thrive means to be in service to my soul clients and to make a difference.

To thrive is leaving behind a legacy which makes me a proud momma.

To thrive is to increase not only my own vibration, but every single person I have the privilege of coming into contact with.

I believe that to thrive is the most honourable thing to do.

And it’s time for you to get this as well.

YOU my Darling, were born to thrive.

I implore you, stop playing so fucking small.

Stop thinking it’s good to struggle.

Stop thinking that it’s normal to have anxiety attacks, feel depressed, pop pills, eat junk, sit on your ass.

It might be normal for average people, but YOU’RE NOT AVERAGE!

Yet nothing will change until you decide to change your beliefs of what is normal and good.

Nothing will change until you decide that you’re worthy, whole and enough.

Nothing will change until you tap into your soul tribe and understand that what you do, whatever you do, is not a luxury in their lives, but a necessity.

Nothing will change until you fall in love with yourself to say ‘fuck the naysayers’ and stop believing their bullshit.  What they believe to be true might be true for them, but you get to decide your own truth~

Nothing will change until you own the fact of who you truly are.

What will it take for you to reach this point?

How many more years are you prepared to wait?

How many excuses will you hold on to in order for you to play small?

Your kids.

Time.

Money.

Responsibilities.

Social appropriateness.

That’s all just excuses.

Instead, take a stand for the AND.

You can build an empire AND be an epic parent.

You can be paying off debts AND invest in the most important thing in the world – YOU!

You can be a free spirit AND take care of your responsibilities even if that means delegating most of the tasks.

Well I don’t know why you would want to be socially appropriate?

After all, you’re a born rebel and change catalyst.

My question to you today is where are you holding on to outdated beliefs that has you living less than thrive?

How are those beliefs serving you?

How are they keeping you stuck?

Which are the beliefs that would instead see you thriving?

Do you choose to now take them on as your own?

For as always, everything comes down to your choices.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving truly is a choice.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  The fastest, most powerful way to shift your experience is through proper goal setting.

I’m not talking about the quick 5-minute goal setting which has you all hyped for a week and then slipping back into your old shitty behaviours.

I’m not talking about the New Year’s resolutions which we both know is going to be filed in file 13 never to be looked at again.

I’m talking about the transformational goals that connects you to your purpose.

The goals that are driven by your values ensuring zero self-sabotage.

The goals that has you growing into your next level self thereby changing EVERYTHING.

These are the goals which I’m setting with some exquisite clients in their Ignite sessions.

90 minutes where we nail your values, unleash your desires, set your SMART goals and identify the beliefs that will shift your ass from where you are to where you desire to be in the least amount of time.

These sessions are my gift to you at an ultra low investment because I want to see you thrive!

I want 2018 to be your most epic year ever and I know that it starts with you setting the right goals.

I’ve had clients message me within a week seeing change happening.

YES it truly can happen that fast.

But you have to take the first step and book your session today!

There’s only a couple of weeks left and then this offer is coming off the table.

Are you choosing to thrive?

 

What would you do with a clean slate?

How often have you either heard the words or uttered them yourself?

If only I could start over.

If only I could wipe the slate clean.

If only…

This is not a philosophy I personally buy into.

For two reasons:

  1. I do believe that each and every night the Universal slate gets wiped clean and each day we are gifted with the opportunity to show up however we choose to; and
  2. Starting over suggests regret and I don’t regret anything in my life.  Not the good, not the bad and sure as hell not the ugly.  For it’s been these experiences that have provided me with the most magnificent of learning opportunities unfurling the woman I am today.

But let’s just say that you’re sitting here today, looking back at the past year, maybe you’re even looking back at the past decade or two and thinking “What the hell was I thinking?”  Maybe you’re sitting here and thinking to yourself that you’ve made some seriously fucked up choices in life and you’re not all that happy with the consequences.

Maybe you’ve been working too hard and neglected everything else in your life to wake up today, alone, miserable, confused and sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Maybe you’ve been living excessively and lost touch with your physical reality ending in a break-up of your marriage, debt up to your eyeballs, and a boep hanging over your pants making it uncomfortable to tie your shoelaces.

Maybe you’ve just not built the business to where you said you wanted to and you’re frustrated with the pile of bills that are stacked higher than the invoices.

Maybe you’re just feeling dissatisfied because you’ve done okay, you’ve got the job, the spouse, the 2.5 kids, the white picket fence, but there’s this emptiness inside and you just can’t figure out why you’re not ecstatic every day.

Wherever you find yourself my friend I want to tell you this –

YOUR PAST DOES NOT DEFINE YOU!

Not the bad, not even the good.

For no matter what you’ve already achieved thus far, it’s but the tip of the iceberg.

Oh if only you could see what I see.

I wish I could take photos with my eyes.

You would see that you are the most beautiful, most expansive, most loving soul alive!

You would see that nothing is impossible and everything comes down to choice.

What you choose to think

How you choose to feel.

What you choose to do.

What you choose to create.

What you choose to allow into your experience.

All of it.

And just because you’re not 100% satisfied with your past choices doesn’t mean that you’re stuck in this space forever more.

One of the most beautiful gifts I’ve received in the last decade is a change of perspective.

Understanding that I’m not a helpless victim of anything or anyone.

That in any given moment I can choose to see things differently.

To know that everything happens FOR me and that even when I think the Big U is screwing with me at times, Creator knows exactly what my little heart desires and always keeps me on track.

But I also know that I have one helluva adventurous spirit.

And I’m stubborn as can be!

So instead of walking on the straight and narrow I’m always fucking off into the bushes looking for a more exciting way.

And I’m a slow learner LOL.

I don’t care.

I have my entire life to get to the finish line.

I choose to bash through the marshlands, falling down, sometimes bleeding, sometimes cursing (okay mostly cursing), sometimes crying.

I’ve been seen sobbing on the ground not knowing where I would find the strength to get up again.

I’ve been seen raging against All That Is with my unbridled anger and frustration insisting that something changes right now!

I’ve been seen throwing my hands up as I’m finally ready to release my control freak tendencies and let the chips fall where they may.

I have to say, the chips are falling delightfully and I can’t remember when last I’ve had a day go by without at least one squeal of delight bursting from my lips.

Does that mean I’m anticipating a smooth ride all the way to the grave?

Oh fuck no!

I’m really not that naive plus I would get bored shitless and end up like all the other sheople overdosing with food, booze, entertainment and whatever else they use to prevent the pain from registering.

The pain of a life unlived.

A life of mere existence.

Which in my opinion is worse than death itself.

No matter where you find yourself today know that you have a clean slate.

That right here, right now, you can draw a line in the sand.

You can start by forgiving yourself – I’ve been doing a lot of this!

You can start forgiving everyone else who has ever hurt you understanding that it takes two to tango and that each relationship was there for learning, with a loving soul, a mirror that could show you your shadow side if you are only brave enough to look.

You can start investigating your beliefs and ask yourself where they come from, who they belong to, and if they are serving you?

If they don’t, fucking change them.

You can start identifying and owning your true desires and you can set the goals to achieve them.

The goals that are in alignment with your values.

The goals that are your life purpose in worldly form.

The goals that has you thriving.

The goals that are so big and juicy your mind goes into berserker mode trying to figure out how the hell you will ever achieve them.

The goals that require surrender to a higher power knowing that you are never alone.

Are you ready Gorgeous?

Are you ready to take that magnificent finger and draw that line?

Come on – I dare you!

You’ve got what it takes.

I believe in you.

But you have to start believing in yourself.

For death is inevitable.

But thriving, OMG it is such a stunning choice that I pray you make today.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  Coaching is for those who choose to thrive.

For the born leaders, the creatives, the high achievers who take full responsibility for their lives thereby empowering themselves to create iconic results.

Coaching is for those who are ready to do the work, the real work, the mindset work understanding that nothing will change until they change the way they think thereby showing up powerfully and transforming their lives.

I’m not going to lie to you – it is not a fluffy ride.

It’s not a comfortable journey.

No growth comes from comfort.

But it is exhilarating AF!

It is you showing up for yourself, for your dreams, for your purpose, for your life, that guarantees thrive.

Are you courageous enough to thrive?

Book your consult today Darling.

Hesitation leads to devastation so take the leap of faith.

It’s time for us to play.

What is the real cost for your lack of discipline?

Today is a bit of a smackdown.

I received a beautiful one from my coach yesterday and I do so love sharing the love.

That’s because I believe every now and again we have to get real.

We have to get over the bullshit stories we tell ourselves to justify our shitty choices and OWN the ripple effect.

The impact.

How we sabotage ourselves time and again.

And believe me Darling, this stuff might not be easy.  But once you get the hang of it, it WILL transform your life.

Let me start by saying everything counts.

From your thoughts to what you drink or don’t drink, to how you train or don’t train, to how you show up or not show up.

Everything is a choice.

Every choice is based on the story you’re telling yourself at any given moment.

Every story can either take you up, or down.

By the way, there’s no sitting in the middle.

It’s been my experience that the only reason we’re not prepared to do this little exercise is because we’re in ego.  And ego is a bitch!  She is fragile and loud but like a Chihuahua she’s all yap yap yap but doesn’t have what it takes to bite.

You ready?

Let’s do this!

  •  Spirituality

I know most of us want to believe that we can read the books, sit and meditate, we can even say the prayers and call ourselves spiritual but the truth of the matter is that if you’re only spiritual whilst your eyes are closed and then you operate in ego the rest of the day, you’re nothing but a fraud!  And this takes shit tons of discipline.

Why?

Because maybe like me, you were brought up in a religion where it was modelled for you that as long as you sit on that hard wooden bench for an hour on a Sunday listening to the relentless droning of some pompous old man telling you that you’re doomed and going to burn in hell unless you put your ten cents in the collection plate, you can pretty much do however you please the rest of the time.

And maybe like me, the preacher and his minions pretty much ruled and dominated through fear,  much the same as the schooling system, the government, the patriarchal way of living.

Which has you finding your truth at a much later age and now you have decades of bad behaviour stored in your muscle memory which you have to unlearn and replace with your own truth.

Which is that there is only love.

Everything else is bullshit.

What does this equate to?  The discipline of having faith.  Of believing everything happens FOR you.  The discipline of staying in appreciation.  Of taking the risks when they are purpose aligned.  Of speaking in love.  Of receiving fearlessly.  Of living a life on purpose.

Understanding that NOT doing these things have you cowering in fear.  Living as a victim.  Playing small.

Are you starting to see why this is so challenging?

Why this shit matters?

Let’s keep going.

  • Physical health, fitness and vitality

How disciplined are you really with your eating?

I’m going to fess up – I have not been honouring my body and my values with the food that I’ve put into my mouth.  Way too much meat!  Way too much bread!  Way too little water.  Way too few veggies.

I received a huge kick up my ass this morning after accepting the glass of wine my husband gave me last night.

I don’t drink.

But I was tired and being a grumpy bitch so I gave in.

It only took half a glass to see me lights out just after seven.

Probably my soul saying WTF?  This is NOT who you choose to be.  Go to sleep!

And this morning as I woke up I sat thinking how different it would have been if instead of that glass of wine I drank a glass of water and did a yoga session.

I would have been energised.

I would have been in an excellent mood.

I would have had a productive evening.

Everything counts!

Plus, since I’m being completely transparent here, I haven’t been committing to my daily yoga practice this week.  Instead I’ve been playing in the waves and then justifying to myself that I’ve trained so I could afford to skip the yoga.

Bullshit!

That’s not who I am!

I am the woman who honours her body and mind and spirit through daily yoga practice.

Which is why I take a stand for the AND – I boogie board AND I do yoga.

The impact is not only loss of flexibility and strength, but I have abandoned my values which leads to me being out of energetic alignment of my next level self.

SMACK

  • Wealth Consciousness

Creating wealth in your life is the responsibility of every single person!

When we shift our asses out of the competitive realm into co-creation, we finally get that the more money we make, the more wealth and abundance we create for everyone!

But there’s more to wealth creation than setting financial targets, taking action, and watching your bank account grow.

For one thing, wealth is a mindset!

I see so many people who earn multiple 6 figures yet they are constantly saying they’re broke or they can’t afford the things they want.

I see so many people earning multiple 6 figures yet not tracking their money to understand where they’re spending it to make conscious choices but moan that they’re feeling poor.

I see so many people bitching and moaning about debt repayments instead of living in heightened states of gratitude that a person or organisation believed enough in them to provide a product or service despite the fact that they didn’t have the cash available!  Seriously, why would you not have complete joy in paying for your blessings already received?

I see so many people learning the strategies not understanding that abundance is a mind-set and wealth consciousness reading is simply non-negotiable!

It takes discipline!

I recommend you start with The Science of Getting Rich and you read this 15 minutes minimum every single day.  When you get to the finish you start again at the beginning and see how the layers of fog lift from your mind.

I know personally that when this is part of my daily routine my wealth ALWAYS increases.

ALWAYS!

NO more bitching about money!

SMACK!

  • Your Business

There are certain areas in my business where I’ve been lacking in discipline.

Holy shit, by now you must think I’m some moron for all my lack of discipline.  I agree with you.

SMACK.

One of these is offering free coaching for the fantastic women in my Facebook Group Wild Woman Rebels.  This is a service I used to provide in my previous group and I know it’s powerful for my members.  My most sincere apologies ladies, I’ve got my shit together now and ready to serve at a higher level.

In fact this was part of the conversation with my MasterMind partner last night – that we have not been locking in training into our calendars.  Instead doing it when inspiration struck.

BULLSHIT!

Inspiration is the result of discipline.

There are so many areas in business where you can be sliding on discipline thinking it doesn’t matter if you skip it for a day or two.  But it does!

Just as we have compound success, we also have compound lack of success.

Think of  it as a graph with a straight line.

Each time you make a decision that takes you 1 degree off course, that line keeps going in the wrong direction which means over time you end up in a completely different place!

Everything matters!

Every conversation you have or don’t have.

Every task you complete or procrastinate on.

Every decision you put off until tomorrow.

Every time you don’t reconnect with your goals and your purpose.

And I’m not even getting into relationships today – but you know that is part of this conversation right?

Everything matters.

Discipline is powerful for a reason!

It ensures that you move forward in achieving your goals – the ones that YOU said were important to YOU – regardless of how you feel or what’s happening around you.

Honestly you’re either in control of your mind, in control of your actions, in control of your success, or you’re not.

Start listening to the words coming out of your mouth.

Are they the words of someone who has their shit together, who is in the driver’s seat?

Or do you sound like a bitching moaning tantrum-throwing victim continuously being washed about in the waves?

Discipline doesn’t tolerate victimhood.

TTFU and start showing me how much you really want it.

For death is inevitable.

Thriving is a choice.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  I believe in the power of coaching with every fibre of my being.

This is what I was born to do!

The impact of having an impartial person holding up a mirror and empowering you to see your truth and make conscious choices.

The quantum leaps in results brought by accountability which fosters discipline.

The transformation of lives through setting non-negotiable goals and taking the courageous actions to bring them to fruition.

I believe coaching is the one element in lives of achievers that’s simply a necessity.

Whether your goal is physical, financial, business or relationships, it all starts with mind-set.

It’s the foundation.

You can learn every strategy known to mankind but if you don’t have the right mind-set in place you will NOT execute and you will NOT see the results you truly desire.

The results which take you beyond the reach of average.

The results which has you playing with the iconic leaders, achievers and creatives.

Are you ready to get past your excuses and rise to your potential?

Book your free consult today and let’s play.

 

 

 

What it takes to have an indestructible mind-set.

We’re three weeks away from 2018.

More and more people are slumping their shoulders, desperately waiting for a holiday so they can recharge their batteries and do it again next year.

Giving up on dreams that have not yet come to fruition.

Walking away from unfinished goals.

Telling everyone that next year will be different yet when you ask them what they’ll be doing differently they don’t have a clue.

WTF?

I learned a long time ago that this is the time of year when miracles occur for those who are relentless.

Those who take a good look in the mirror and tell themselves that it’s not done yet.

That even if they still miss the mark they can make a quantum leap forward in three weeks.

That giving up says nothing about their goals, and everything about how they are showing up for themselves.

And you can still make it happen.

But it takes an indestructible mind-set.

You know – the grit to keep getting up regardless of how many times you’ve been knocked flat on your ass.

The stubborn jut of your chin that has you raise your gaze and proving all the naysayers wrong.

Lazer focus.

Zero distraction.

The energy coursing through your veins that gives you superhuman strength and capability.

The mind-set that sees people reaching incredible levels of success that makes you think that they’re special.

That they were born lucky.

That they must have it easy.

They don’t.  They are the same as you.

You simply need to get out of your own way, believe in yourself and do the fucking work!

It’s time for you to stop giving up, HTFU and thrive.

Today I’m breaking down how to have an indestructible mind-set so you can stop your self-sabotaging behaviour, never again giving up three feet from your goals.

  1.  An indestructible mind-set comes from practice.

It comes from understanding that your mind is nothing more than a muscle and you’re failure to train it on a daily basis leads to atrophy.

Which is why it’s become so easy for the masses to be controlled.

They’ve been fed with hormones and chemicals that keep them in a state of malnourishment and addiction.

They’ve been hypnotised to value entertainment above education and quite frankly when you tap into the violence that seems to be the craze, you understand that majority of what they’re being shown is shutting down their humanity.

In the same breath then, practice means that you welcome the obstacles, the situations where you have to get super creative, have to learn new skills, have to be completely out of your comfort zone.  You don’t expect to become a world-class cyclist by only ever training on the flats.

You welcome failure understanding that this powerful phenomenon has been made shameful by those who desire to keep you small.  Failure is fantastic!  It means you had the balls the reach higher than ever before.  That you took the risk and you’ve identified there’s a gap between where you are and where you desire to be.  Bridge the gap and you’ve succeeded!

2.  An indestructible mind-set starts with a decision.

A decision that you will never again settle for anything less than your true desires.

A decision that you will never again accept average anything, least of all an average version of you.

It comes from understanding that you don’t have to spend the next year in therapy investigating every block, every bad experience, every belief you’ve had over the past however many decades.

What we focus on we create more of.

Which means the more you focus on the past the more of that you create right now.

I don’t believe we can look forward and backwards at the same time.

So choose.

If you’re at the point of enough and no more you simply recognise that in the past you were constipated.  You acknowledge that things happened and you no longer wish to hide because of it.

Instead you choose right here right now to become indestructible.  Relentless.  To have grit.  To never again waste the journey.

3.  An indestructible mind-set comes from figuring out your life purpose.

Yes, I absolutely 100% believe that each and every person has a life purpose.  Yet few EVER bother to explore what this could be because once you lock it in, you HAVE to show the fuck up and do the work to live it.  The pain of not doing so is unbearable and will have you slamming your head against the wall in rage to the point of unconsciousness.

I am yet to meet a person with an indestructible mind-set who haven’t connected with their true purpose.

Which always unlocks their core values – the ones inside that drives their ultimate behaviour.

Thing is Darling, if you’re not connected with your purpose you most probably have societal values dictating your actions.  Values handed down to you by others who might not have played full out.  Do you seriously want to cap your big dreams by the values of little people?

4.  An indestructible mind-set comes from setting the non-negotiable goals.

I’m talking the goals that you will die for.  The goals that are your obsession.

It breaks my heart to see how many people are setting goals and then neglecting them like a homeless child, expecting they will flourish naturally without any nourishment or love.

Don’t you understand that your dreams are given to you for a reason?

That they have an energy, a life-force of their own, and your failure to bring them to manifestation is nothing less than murder???

When will you stop suffocating your dreams with your neglect?

I’m seeing shit tons of people who are drained and miserable on the hamster wheel yet too blind to see that all they have to do is stop running to get off.

They tick the boxes and set the goals they think will release them from the monotony but are not prepared to sacrifice comfort in order to invest in themselves and their dreams.  No time.  No support.  No nothing.  They deceive themselves by believing that epic dreams can be built when they have a few exhausted moments left at the end of the day.  Which normally becomes the end of the week.  Next month.  Next year.  Never!

Goals drive my life!

They absolutely deserve my everything!

My dedication.

My discipline.

My determination.

My investment.

And hell yes, for my goals, my dreams, I have cultivated an indestructible mind-set.

It has taken years of blood, sweat, cursing, tears, heartache, pain and sacrifice.

Was it worth it?

Oh hell yes!

Which is exactly why I continue to work my mind-muscle.  Why I continue to challenge myself.  Why I continue to invest in my dreams.  Why I insist on support to keep me on track.  It’s why elites work with coaches and those who just want to have fun, who are happy with average results, don’t.

They think they can do it by themselves even though historically they haven’t.

Make no mistake Darling – anyone can achieve average goals on their own.

You don’t even need an indestructible mind-set for those.

My question to you today is if average is all you desire in life?

For death is inevitable.

Thriving is a choice.

With love,

Anel

PS:  Average people underestimate the courage it takes to work with a coach.

They think working with a coach is the easy way out.

That it’s a sign of weakness – that you can’t do it on your own.

That’s what keeps average people average.

Working with a coach takes you into a whole new realm of self-worth.

It’s you making a statement to the Universe and everyone around you that you’re worth investing in.  That you value yourself, your dreams, your goals.

It means that you’ve reached the point in your life where you’re done playing in the splash pool of average and ready to take yourself serious.

And it starts with booking that consultation where you square your shoulders and say “Let’s do this!”

If you’re done with average anything, and I do mean anything, if you’re ready to get taken out of your comfort zone so far that your legs tremble, and if you KNOW that I’m the right coach for you, I invite you to take action right here, right now.

I work with Hell Yes clients!

Those who know it’s their time now and they are prepared to make it happen.

Option one is Ignite which is only available for a couple more weeks.

90 minutes of pure clarity, anchored goals, values, vision, beliefs.

Or if you’re ready to play full-out, book your consult today and secure the journey at the current investment price which is increasing January 1st 2018.

It’s time for the fast-action takers.

Let’s play.

 

 

 

Nothing ever happens until you give yourself permission.


For me, one of the greatest gifts of my vocation is the constant growth that I receive each and every time I have the privilege of working with a client.  OOOH and I do work with the best clients in the world!

Such as the gift that I received this morning.

It really started yesterday.

A full-on day which came to an exquisite close as I coached a powerful, gorgeous, high achieving woman to give herself permission to dream again.  To give herself permission to raise her expectations in receiving.  To give herself permission to stop settling out of guilt, obligation or a sense of shame.  To truly give herself permission to thrive!

This is what it always comes down to – giving ourselves permission.

Giving ourselves permission to stop looking at others for the answers and instead believing in ourselves that we already know, questioning, going inside, listening to the inner voice.

Giving ourselves permission to stop thinking we have to play small so that we don’t step on toes and instead knowing that as leaders we were born to walk in front where the crowds are not boxing us in.

Giving ourselves permission to stop thinking that receiving support is a weakness and instead  embrace the fact that the Universe is all about co-creating our success and that we deserve to be supported in our expansion and our growth as it is always in service of the collective.

So it was that I sat down under the moon last night, giving myself permission to be fully supported in clearing, releasing, receiving new insights and calling in my next level of thrive.

As it was the final full moon of 2017  there was a heightened sense of urgency, demanding deeper introspection for the next level of learning.  I felt the turning of energy as something shifted inside of me.

I have to confess, I’m not one to easily share my vulnerable moments.  Constantly in warrior mode, I tend to keep my underbelly closed off only sharing once I’m on the other side of the river.

I’m going to make an exception today as the year is coming to a close and I don’t want you to wait another moment before giving yourself permission to live fully.

Throughout my meditation I felt particularly raw around my sacral and heart chakras, the areas of creativity and relationships.  Now thing is, my business, my purpose, my life, is all about creating impact through relationship so I know that this shit matters.  Which is why I took extra time and attention, honouring myself in the moment.  Not necessarily pushing for the answers and the insights immediately, but instead clearing and releasing, stating my willingness to learn.

As I lay in bed later slowly drifting off to slumber, I felt into deep gratitude and appreciation for the past 45 years, every single person I met along the way, how incredibly blessed I am right now, and asked to once again be shown that which I have not seen before.

The Universe never disappoints.

I woke up this morning, grabbed an extra large coffee and my journal and started writing.

My original intent was simply to journal my affirmations of that which I’m creating and the woman I’m becoming in the process.

Instead what unfolded on the pages were all the relationship that I had ended in some form or way due to a feeling of insecurity and false self-preservation.  From romances to family to friendships.

All the relationships where I started telling myself that I had not lived up to their expectations and rather than wait for them to tell me what a stupid, worthless piece of shit I was, I had lovingly faded into the background until the busyness of their lives overtook their thoughts of me and I would never hear from them again.

I know this stems back to a childhood where I was frequently brought down to size by those who feared my individuality, my ambition, my stubborn will, my hunger for independence, my wisdom.

At the time it really hurt like a mofo and I took the insults on board as truth even though in my heart I knew it was not my shit to own.  I was simply too young and too inexperienced to realise the truth of my inner knowing – still trusting those who were in positions of authority due to their titles and age.

Isn’t it crazy that after all these years I’m still having this story run the show?

Yet I’m not sitting here bashing myself over the head.  Instead I have empathy and appreciation for the young girl in me knowing that she did the best she could with where she was at and with what she had available to her.

But I also know that if I don’t give myself permission to do the deep diving that I still allow the protection mechanisms of my younger self curb my results today.

We all do.

And I’m not even talking about past lives, Akashic records, familial oaths, and all the other stuff.

I’m just talking about your current life, and the fact that unless you give yourself permission to love yourself unconditionally, unless you give yourself permission to look back with appreciation to see where your current programming originates from, unless you give yourself permission to take on a new belief, you will always be playing smaller than you’re truly capable of, truly desire to, truly deserve to.

Today I choose to break my old pattern around relationships.  I choose to attract people who are a vibrational match to me who love me unconditionally, even when we get pissed off at each other at times.  I choose to stay open.  I choose to stay connected.  I choose to live my purpose more powerfully, knowing that the little girl inside of me is always safe and taken care of.

How about your Darling?

Where are you not giving yourself permission to see that patterns that has you stuck at your current level?

Where are you not giving yourself permission to play full out due to fears which stems from your vulnerable young self?

Where are you not giving yourself permission to thrive due to outdated values handed down to you by others which quite frankly is stifling your creativity, your joy, your best version self?

 

More importantly, what will it take for you to change that?

What will it take for you to get to the point where you own your self-worth?

When will you make that decision?

For it truly is just a choice.

It always is.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is a choice.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  2017 has been rough – on many levels for many people.

It’s been a year where the rebel inside of the achiever has just had enough of swallowing down bullshit, stifling down their truth.

And it’s not done yet.

During the last couple of weeks of the year you can draw the line in the sand and give yourself permission to go next level.  To set down the foundation of your thrive by connecting to your true core values, uncovering the vision that lights you up, set the goals that has you revving on all cylinders, and anchor it down with the beliefs that will finally support you in achieving your desired results.

Ignite is all about this.

It’s a judgement free, supportive and challenging space allowing you the freedom to dig deep and get the gold.

It’s for the ones who know they’re done settling.  They have the inner knowing that there is more for them.  That settling for anything less than their best has become intolerable and they’re taking back their power.

Ignite is for you if you know that I’m the person to lovingly kick your ass into action.

And if you decide after the session that you’re ready for deeper ongoing support, your payment will be off-set on the investment for 6 months coaching.

Time is running out so get your sexy ass off that fence and take action right now.

 

When you’re done putting your results in the hands of average…

The lines have been drawn.

War has been declared.

It’s time for people to make the ultimate choice.

Are they ready to soar, to rise to their best version self, to walk the path of the warrior, the achiever, the leader?

or

Are they determined to stay enfolded in the arms of the masses, thinking that there’s safety in numbers, delusional that average is honourable?

Make no question my friend, the time to choose is now.

And it sounds way easier than it is.

To choose the path of the achiever takes the courage to question, to fight the system, to become more than you are today.

For we have been programmed from infancy to be in service of the community.

To bow down to the cultural norms and will of the few in power.

That we had to strive for peace until they hunger for more and then we have to murder, plunder and rape in the name of the government.

We’re put in classrooms and we are trained to conform, to think only enough to serve but not enough to question, to regurgitate the truth of others as told by the authors of prescribed books and if we dare have a different opinion we are marked to fail, labeled as stupid, squashed back into place.

Our lives up to this point has been all about putting everyone else’s needs before our own, even to the detriment of our happiness. That we were responsible to make others feel supported, worthy, happy, thriving.  And in return we had to hope to god that we meet someone who doesn’t see how fucked up and insufficient we are, who deem us worthy of some praise, some love, so for a moment or two we can feel happy.

Except the instant we put our happiness and worthiness in the hands of others we are at the mercy of their ego, their moods, whatever is going on in their lives.

A recipe for disaster if you ask me.

Even worse, as high achievers we’re on fucking fire with action.

We don’t want to sleep late.

We have no desire to slow down and rest.

We adore the hustle.

We welcome obstacles.

We find honour in the cycle of the heroine knowing that rock bottom is simply a part of the journey and we will hit it time and again.

All of which has been shrouded in shame by a culture of mediocrity, a culture where entertainment is valued above wisdom, where comfort is seen more honourable than strive.

We live in a time where we are more addicted to sugar and alcohol than any other drugs, yet they are legal!

Even for kids.

In fact, advertising is geared towards rewarding yourself by putting more chemicals into your body.

Because you deserve it they say.

And it’s oh so easy to fall into the trap.

What harm can it possibly do?

Just one more glass of wine.

Just one wee chocolate.

You’ve worked so hard to get results in your business, your finances, some in your health, you’ve earned it dammit.

But that’s exactly it!

Every single time you give in to the habits of the average, you’re fucking yourself over.

And understand that it’s not about the weight gain or acting like a complete fool when you’ve had one too many beers.

It’s not about the fact that your spouse will sulk for the next few days because you’ve once again gone back on your word.

It’s not about any of this.

Instead it’s about the fact that you’ve given away your power.

It’s about the fact that you’ve taken yourself out of alignment of your best self energetically.

It’s about the fact that you’ve settled a little.

Bought into the bullshit of their idea of fun.

You have ultimately abandoned your path of excellence.

And it always bites you in the ass.

There’s always an element of dissatisfaction because you know you can do better.

There’s always a hint of guilt which has you shrinking just a little smaller.  Not as confident.

There’s always a price to pay, and the price is your thrive.

And until you start understanding that this is exactly why the culture of average is winning over the masses, you will be in their folds my darling.

You’re talking a big game whilst holding hands with the enemy.

Know as well that every time you blame them for your weakness, they win, you lose.

It takes you square out of the driver seat of your life.

Stop bitching and moaning that you had no choice.

You always have a choice.

Stop saying that it’s just the way you were brought up, just the way you are.

If the indoctrination of generations before does not have you living your most iconic life, it’s your responsibility to question and to change it.

You’re not a fucking robot helplessly following the code of a programmer.

All of these beliefs are simply ego-driven bullshit which you can rise above at any given moment.

Hey, if it really doesn’t bother you, if you’re really happy to settle for 60%, then great for you.  Continue sitting on the side lines stuffing your face with another hot dog, criticising those on the playing field.  Those who are prepared to sweat.  Those who are prepared to bleed.  Those who are prepared to lose today so they can go back to the game-board, learn more, train more, come back for more.

That’s the way of the achiever.

We don’t talk, we do.

It’s never about the current game.

It’s about THE ultimate game.

The game of life.

The finish line is death.

Everything before that is simply opportunity for betterment.

So Sweet-pea, which side will you choose today?

I happen to know that if you’re in my space, you’re a born leader, a creative, an achiever.  But just because you were born to be, doesn’t mean that it will come to pass unless you’re prepared to do the work.  Unless you leave the smothering comfort of average.

It’s always a choice.

Today I invite you to take a look at the tricky little ways in which you’re holding yourself out of alignment of your best version self.

And everything counts.

For me personally, even the fact that I still don’t drink enough water each day is weakness on my part.  The fact that I still eat products such as yoghurt which contains sugar, keeps me two steps behind.  The fact that I still tolerate some average people in my space out of loyalty, slows me down.

It sounds harsh, but this is my life I’m fighting for.

Mine and yours.

I’m not here to serve the masses.

I’m here to inspire those who are truly committed to thrive.

Awareness is the first step.

And even this very first step takes balls!  Because you have to own up to the fact that it’s all in your hands.  All the power that you seek.  Nobody can force you to do anything you don’t want to.  It’s up to you what you put first – yourself, your life purpose, your happiness, your thrive, OR your programming?

Death is inevitable.

Thrive is a harder choice than most think.

With love always

Anel

PS:  We are in the final weeks of 2017 which also means you only have three weeks left to grab your Ignite session.

This is for the ones who are drawing the line and who are determined to set the true goals that are in alignment with their core values, their ultimate vision, their best version self.

It is 90 minutes of pure clarity and passion.  Where you uncover that which you’ve been afraid of owning in public because your fear that they will criticise you, say that you’re full of yourself, that you want too much.

That it’s impossible.

Let me tell you now that Impossible Is Nothing!

Anything that you can dream is already available to you right now.

But you have to own your desires.

You have to make them non-negotiable.

You have to do the work.

You have to rise above the masses.

It starts today with you claiming your spot.

Ignite your passion!

Let’s play.

 

It’s actually not about having blind faith…

I don’t believe in having blind faith.

When I say it’s already done, it’s because I’m a fucking control freak.

I’m a control freak who woke up one morning feeling completely out of control.

Helpless.

Tortured.

A pathetic victim being shoved around by ego-driven people who tried their best to break my spirit.  To bend me to their will.  To have me conform.

I knew something was terribly wrong and nothing that I had been taught up to that stage made any sense to me.

From my traditional family, to the schooling system, to my religious upbringing, it all felt wrong.

Like so many of my generation I was punished for questioning – either by receiving detention in school or a scolding from an elder towering over me shouting “Because I said so!”

I was told to have blind faith.

To live by their rules or burn in the fires of hell for all eternity.

I was told that I had to give away all my power to those who are older than me, those who have testicles, those who have a title.

But for as long as I can remember I knew inside that this way of thinking and living was crazy!

The system was killing me so I chose to rebel against the system.

It’s been decades of work but as I sit here writing for you, I am finally in a space of complete pride in self for how I have chosen to live my life.

I took the time to question.

I took the time to go learn how the unfolding of our experienced reality works.

I took the time to investigate my relationships and all the beautiful lessons each and every one was able to teach me.  Yup, I’m a slow learner but then again the lessons are gold!

I took the time to step into my power and take the reigns of my thoughts finally understanding that I have this voice running a script and she is a drama queen!  Addicted to soapies, that is all she will tell me day in and day out if I let her.  So instead I feed her coffee and tequila and I put her on the backseat for one helluva ride.

I take the time to navigate according to my emotions.  Checking in frequently.  Is this making me feel amazing?  Then I’m on the right track.  Is this making me feel like shit?  Then I have to course correct because I’m moving away from my desires.

I keep doing the work!  I get up at 5 am, I take out my journal, I dig, I choose, I create, I meditate, I take the action.

I keep learning.  I keep finding the teachers and mentors who share their wisdom (not knowledge) and I incorporate what enhances me from a space of love and let go of the rest.  I feed my mind with truth every single day understanding that society is geared towards fear driven propaganda which I get bombarded with all the time – even through the energy of others who are addicted to the news.

I stay focussed on my desires.  My goals.  Every single day I take out my committed goal sheets and I reconnect with my big why, what has worked, what needs to change, what else I can do.

And then I know that it is done!

Because I asked for what I want, I’m taking the action, I’m staying in alignment.

Law of Attraction states it HAS to work.

Energy my friend – it’s all about your energy which stems from your thoughts which you have absolute control over.

I believe that we are powerful co-creators of our lives and that everything we experience we have created in some form or part.

Whether that was to experience a moment of bliss.

A moment of chaos to provide us with the opportunity to unlock our potential resilience and creativity.

A mirror of our blind spots which is keeping us out of alignment of our desired life.

We have co-created every single piece of it.

Even the natural disasters.

You are not a victim.

You’re not the helpless pawn created by a sperm and an egg.

You’re soul in human form.

You chose to live in this time.

You chose to be a part of the massive transformation that humanity is currently undergoing.

You knew every potential time-line and you said “Hell yeah, I’m up for that ride!”

Own it.

It’s going to sting like a bluebottle for a while and then you will feel the sweet relief as you shift the power back into your hands.

The interesting part for me is that those who are too lazy to get off the hamster wheel, to do the real work, to take responsibility so that they can empower themselves, are the ones who complain the most to those who are choosing to thrive.

They complain they’re tired.

They complain we don’t understand, that we are hard, unsympathetic bitches.

They complain that nobody wants to play their game – you know, the one where you twist yourself into a pretzel so they can smile.

They’re miserable AF all the time and then complain because you don’t want to hang with them.

If you’re not happy today, it’s on YOU my friend.

Stop asking random strangers how you can become happy.

Stop bitching and moaning, criticising those who have the chutzpah to go for their dreams and instead choose differently, or at the very least own the fact that you like being a grumpy old bastard.

And know this as well, society IS changing.

We are living in a time where each and every person is being forced to choose – awakening, madness or suicide.

Those are the choices.

The people who are choosing to wake the fuck up, the ones who are doing the work, the ones who will not settle for existence anymore, they are losing their patience with the rest.

Why?

Because we respect that we are not special.  That anyone can choose at any time to stop their shit and rise.

But we also realise that they’re energy is poison to us.

Doing the mindset work is challenging enough without having to please those who have no wish to change their circumstances.  Those who have no true desire to achieve iconic levels of success.  Those with empty words.

I no longer listen to words.

I observe actions.

Not the ones taken in public, but the ones done behind closed doors.

You can feel it in energy levels.

You can see it in bodies.

It’s weekend which means it’s the perfect opportunity for some deep dive journaling.

  • Are you happy?  I mean really happy – high vibing, excited, joyfully happy.
  • If not, what is the message?  Where are you out of alignment with your desires?

Break it down:

Relationships

Money

Business

Spirituality

Health and Fitness

Lifestyle

  • How are you out of alignment?  What are you tolerating?  Where are you showing up fake?  Where are you doing shit that’s killing you inside?  Because you know you’ve abandoned your truth for complacency.

And then the biggy –

  • What do you choose right now?

Do you choose to keep existing?  Then own it!

Do you choose to draw a line in the sand and state “Enough and no more”?

  • What will you be doing differently from now on?

Not from Monday.

Not from the 1st of January.

Immediately!  If you’re going to start tomorrow you’re bullshitting yourself.

Commit to it.

Write it down.

Put it in your calendar.

Done!

You don’t need blind faith.

Instead my Darling you can choose to own what you are truly capable of and you can start co-creating consciously today.

For death is inevitable.

Thriving truly is a choice.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  Getting to the point of decision takes no small amount of courage.

True decision.

When you look at your life and you’re no longer willing to settle for mediocre results or experiences in any aspect knowing that success in one area and failure in another means that YOU are NOT successful!

Success comes from an aligned life!  All of it.

If you’re done settling and ready to thrive, I invite you to book your free consult today.

Should we be a good fit we will create your unfiltered vision, set your goals, anchor it down with purpose, align it with your values, and have you take massive action to achieve iconic results.

We’ll be uncovering your beliefs – those who serve you and those keeping you stuck.

I will hold up the mirror so you can identify your blind spots, your self-saboting behaviour, your bad habits.

It will be a journey such as no other where you will experience discomfort at times.  You will feel challenged.  You will grow and that does include some measure of pain.  But I also happen to know that you’re a fucking a warrior and you’re up for the ride.

Let’s play.

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is your brand of self-sabotage?

I fucked up.

Again.

Fuckit.

Why do I keep doing this to myself?

Why do I continuously step out of alignment with my true self?

Why do I keep losing focus at the end of the day and unconsciously reach for the packet of M&M’s.

Popping them into my mouth one after the other.

Not even savouring the sweetness but instead gorging mindlessly.

I push past the discomfort I started feeling in my stomach after the fifth one.

I ignore the voice inside shouting “Hey Anel – Wake UP!  Look at what you’re doing!  This is NOT who you are!  WAKE UP!  WAKE! THE! FUCK! UP!”

I tilt the packet.

Nothing.

It’s empty.

And finally, I register.

I’ve done it again.

In a moment of slumber I gave into my old self-sabotaging behaviours which was made oh so easy as a loved one gifted me with the packet of M&M’s at the end of a full-on day.

No, I’m not passing the blame.  I take full accountability.

I sit with the energy and start looking at what is really going on.

Things are changing faster than the Flash can run at the moment.

It’s all good. REALLY good.

It’s what I’ve been working my ass off for.

It’s what I truly desire in my heart of hearts.

It’s my purpose manifested.

But my ego is a relentless bitch and lately she’s been whispering her poisonous lies into my subconscious.

Lies that I am not good enough.

Lies that I’m not safe.

It’s not safe for me to speak my truth so openly.

It’s not safe for me to be seen on this big a scale.

People won’t like me anymore.

They will turn their backs on me.

They will hate me and they will crucify me.

Again.

I will end up alone.

I sit in this energy and I question.

Always questioning.

Is this love?  For love is the only truth.

If not love, it’s bullshit.

Even when covered in deliciously sweet chocolate.

So I take a deep breath and I exhale.

Okay, so I ate the packet.

That kinda sucks for me.

But hell, I could have had a more painful reminder that this work is 24/7 so I’m grateful and appreciative of the opportunity to take stock.

And the old me would have gone straight into motherfucking guilt and shame.

I would NEVER have shared this moment of weakness with you.

I would have gone out and trained harder than ever before – punishing myself for being such a pathetic weak little bitch.

I would have gone out and ripped my muscles past the point of recovery and then relished in the pain because this is what I deserved.

I would have gone out trying to make amends with Creator because I had sinned once again so if I punished myself enough she wouldn’t have to.

Judge.

Jury.

Executioner.

Fucked up.

This was my old behaviour.

Beautifully plastered in shame.

I’m not standing for it anymore.

I have made a choice to reject shame.

I have made the decision that shame was never mine to own.  That it was simply passed on to me by others because they didn’t have the brass ovaries to deal with their shit.

I do.

I deal.

Breaking the cycle for generations to come.

I compassionately forgive myself and I move the fuck on.

I light some candles, put on some of my favourite tunes, and I gently massage the stress of the day out of my body.

I go stand in front of the mirror, look myself in the eyes and I tell my reflection that I approve of her.  That I love her.  That I accept her unconditionally.

And instantly I step back into alignment.

No pain.

No punishment.

No bullshit.

Because the whole guilt, shame, punishment cycle we go through when we fuck up, is part of the self-sabotage.  It takes us further away from our dreams!  It puts us on a freight train heading back to Shitville.

Today, right now, you can choose to get off.

Knowing that every now and again you will slumber, that the ego will seize the opportunity to take you off track, and yes you might even fuck up.

But that is part of the journey, part of the growth, part of the victory.

I invite you today to take a look at where and how you’re keeping yourself out of alignment with your dreams?

Is it the packet of chocolate?

The bottle of wine?

The excessive torturous exercise not for the joy and the health, but for punishment and revulsion at the image in the mirror?

Is it channel hopping way past ten?

Is it hitting the snooze button at 5 am and then having to skip your journaling, your meditation, your power hour?

Is it procrastinating in signing up with the coach that you know you are meant to be working with?

More importantly, how do you react to this?

With love and forgiveness OR shame and contraction?

What will it take for YOU to break the addiction?

What will you focus on that has you willing to do the work 24/7 because the pain of living out alignment is simply unbearable?

Who will you ask for support, accountability, reflection?

Not your loved ones – for they will always reinforce your old patterns.  They can’t help themselves.  You’ve trained them to act in this way.

Which means if you’re serious about change, it’s time to bring on the big guns.

To set yourself up for success.

To stop fucking around and make thrive your only option.

For death is inevitable.

Thriving is a choice.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  It has taken me decades to reach this point in my life where I am compassionately course correcting and quantum leaping to higher levels of success in next to no time.

It’s taken working with some interesting coaches and working with some powerhouse coaches to get here.  And I continue to work with the powerhouses because for me, failure is simply not an option.

Powerhouse is what I bring to my clients.

I hold a space of zero judgement and limitation for you.

A space where you can uncover your true desires without anyone telling you it’s impossible.

A space where you can finally witness your self-sabotaging behaviours and put the structures, the habits, the support in place that will keep you on track regardless of your environment.

I kick ass – because I love and respect.

I demand your best version self.

I demand your excellence.

Because I believe in you.

I know that once you are tapped in and turned on you can be, do and have it all.

But it takes work.

The true work.

If you’re ready, book your free consult today and let’s break your addiction to self-sabotage.

 

 

 

 

Hell NO – I won’t be that girl.

I almost caved.

I almost gave into the temptation to fit in – just a little.

What harm could it possibly do to give an inch to the system?

The system which I have taken a stand against the day I chose NOT to drink the pills.

To fucking fight for my life.

To reignite the flame of passion.

To honour who I truly am and knowing that I am worthy, I am enough.

And I do the work every day of my life.

The physical training unlocking the potential within my cells.

The mental training unlocking the resilience in my mind.

The spiritual training unlocking the wisdom that only comes from within.

Here’s the truth though – it never gets easier.

Easier is simply a lie the mediocre masses tell you out of ignorance to make you complacent.

They tell you when you start a new training regime that it will stop hurting so much the next day.  That exercising will become easier for you to do.  That there will come a day when it will feel natural.

Let me tell you my friend, if that day arrives you’ve simply given up the fight!

Again, they have put a glass ceiling on you and you’re buying into the bullshit.

This way of thinking is why so many people go through the pain to get started, only to hit a plateau and then slide backwards because the gains were not as great as they thought it would be.

The allure of comfort becomes the pot boiling them to death.

The frog is simply a little leaner than before.

He’s still dying.

For those of us committed to the path of the Warrior, it never gets easier.

Your hunger is insatiable and therefor your pain threshold goes up and you keep pushing.

YOU ALWAYS WANT MORE!

YOU GIVE MORE!

YOU TAKE MORE!

And this is exactly the way Nature designed you.

Stop listening to the normal people who want to tell you that you’ve done enough.

That it’s time to rest.

That you’re already awesome so you can afford to slow down a bit.

They will never get it.

They will never do the work.

They will lull you with false promises and slowly but surely they will bring you back into the fold.

In the sweetest voice they asked me to write for them.  Offering me a platform which reaches more people on a monthly basis than Oprah.

I confess, I felt flattered.

For a fleeting moment I felt that all my hard work is finally being recognised by the ‘powers that is’.

Except there was a condition –

They will replace fuck with f*ck.

And I have to go on their writing course so I can change the way I write to be more mainstream.

It’s just a little mindset shift, they say.

And THEN I will rock!

I have to admit – I was tempted.

Seriously tempted.

What damage could come from going on a course and learning how to write ‘professional self-help’ pieces to serve the masses?

What does it matter if they replace a little ‘u’ with a star?

Except it fucking matters to me!

Because for me to give an inch to the system is a betrayal of myself, who I am, what I stand for.

It is me saying that YOU are not important enough for me to keep walking the path.

And I’m not prepared to become another traitor for the system.

I’m not prepared to break my word to myself to always be authentic.

To say it the way I feel it.

To take a stand for the fact my passion will not be toned down by a star!

For what?  Faceless recognition??

So I declined.

I’m not here to serve the system.

I WILL NOT BE THAT GIRL

I’m not here to speak in the whisper that keeps people exactly where they are.  Docile.  Comatose.

I’m not here for the masses who choose existence on a daily basis.

I’m here for YOU.

Because I know that you wake up in the morning and you fucking fight for your life every single day.

You are the warrior who bleeds, who cries, who rage against the machine!

You have the courage to question all you’ve been taught and shut out the voices so you can hear yourself think.

You make the choice to stop existing regardless of the sacrifice.

Our purpose is worth any sacrifice.

And if that means that I have to listen to the endless criticism of those who tell me that my swearing is a lack of self control, then bring it on bitch.

They don’t know me!

They don’t know what I stand for.

They don’t know what I fight for.

They don’t know what I will do for thrive.

They don’t care to ask.  Instead all they want is for me to climb into their little box so they can stop feeling so uncomfortable in my presence.

GET OUT OF THE GODFORSAKEN BOX!

Acknowledge that you are not here for comfort.

That comfort kills your passion.

That comfort keeps you smaller than your soul desires to be!

And the pain of settling is smothering you oh so slowly that you’re lying on the floor gasping for air like a fish out of water.

Get back into the ocean of truth and swim Darling!

Out to sea where the storms rage.

Where the powerful beasts reign queen.

That’s where you belong.

You know you do.

I can see it in your eyes.

I hear your tummy grumble with the hunger for greatness, for change, for impact, for abundance, for joy, for passion, for pleasure, for thrive!

The fight for your truth is relentless.

You’ve got what it takes.

But you have to choose!

You have to choose to not give an inch no matter how tempting they make it.

You have to choose to stand by your values no matter how much it contradicts the societal norm.

You have to choose to sacrifice comfort for your honour.

The only thing in life which is inevitable is death.

Thriving is a choice you have to recommit to every single day.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  With the year coming to a close the temptation to take a break is greater than ever before.

Not just a break from work, but from your values, from your vision, from your boundaries.

To just give an inch.

But there’s another choice.

You can choose to use this time to make the massive changes you’ve not made thus far.

You can choose to use the extra time to set the foundation which will have you quantum leap next year.

You can choose to shut out the noise and reconnect with your wisdom within so that you will thrive.

Ignite is 90 minutes of pure clarity.

You will start before the call by reconnecting with your core values.

You will get clarity on your true desires – unfiltered.

No more playing in the presence of small-minded people.

You will set the goals that has you on fire with immovable purpose.

You will identify the beliefs that you’re currently missing that’s preventing you from already living next level.

Ignite sessions close December 2017 so if you’re still sitting on the fence it’s time to choose.

 

 

Are you hypnotised by impending disaster?

As I cut through the single tracks I’m once again amazed at just how much nature continues to change the path.

This is probably one of the aspects of mountain biking I enjoy the most.

You have to really stay alert and expect the unexpected.  Even though you’ve ridden the path a hundred times.  The wind changes the landscape by strewing the path with branches.  Rocks continuously shift and relocate themselves with the help of other riders.

So you scan ahead ensuring that you steer your bike according to the unfolding countryside today.

What is even more fascinating to me is how long it took me to train my brain to stop looking at the rocks which I didn’t want to hit.  It’s almost as if we are programmed to be hypnotised by obstacles, staring like deer in the headlights, stuck by fear.

In our minds we have the voice saying that as long as I keep my eye on the stone, I will miss it because I know it’s there and how to get around it.

But it doesn’t work that way my friend.

We steer where we look.

Which means that the longer you stare at the fucking stone, the greater the likelihood that you’re going to hit it, come tumbling down head over ass and walk away with some scrapes and bruises.

Instead, the trick is to acknowledge the stone and then immediately take your gaze to where you want your wheel to go and like magic you cruise around that baby without a blink.

Free flowing.

Joyfully.

Yet you have to train yourself to override your default setting which takes time and many a failed attempt.

The pain of falling eventually becomes greater than the pain of your ego yelling you to disaster.

Stupid ego.

It works the same in every aspect of your life.

Your relationships, your finances, your business.

No matter how accomplished you feel today, how secure, storms always bring change.

Whether that storm is your partner changing over the years or the economy going to hell or technology changing and your business floundering to keep up.

Isn’t it grand???

The way that life changes even when we ourselves are often so resistant to change.

It’s probably because the Big U understands that growth comes from change and challenge – not from comfort and sameness.  By the way, you think you want things to stay the same, but you get bored AF in no time at all.

Things happen.  The road changes.

And what do most people do?

They focus on the obstacles!

They sit there topping over and over what to do with the obstacle.

They make it huge!

It’s all consuming.

Their emotions go all over the show.

Fear.

Anger.

Blame.

Victimhood.

Disempowerment.

Depression.

No surprise then that they crash and burn.

Of course then they confirm to themselves that this was inevitable.  There was simply nothing else they could have done.  They tried to think of solutions but this was the only outcome from the word go.

Weellllllll

First of all I can bet you my sexy derriere that these people do not have a vision that is their obsession.  They rarely have non-negotiable goals.  They’re not connected to their big why.  Hell, I bet you they don’t even know their values.

Thank god you’re not one of those people!

Because when you have your foundation in place you look at the obstacle, acknowledge it, then you refocus on where you want to go.  Your goal.  Your questions simply adjust.

How am I going to get to my destination with this new element on my journey?

Is there a way for me to get over it?

What else can I do?

Who else can support me?

Do I have the tools to blast it to smithereens?

Can I simply go around it, enjoying the longer time it might take but hey, there might be a delightful surprise on the detour?

All of a sudden you’re firing on all cylinders.

Your creative juices are pumping through your veins.

Adrenaline lights a fire in your belly.

You’re even more energised than before.

Determined.

Thrilled by the prospect that the Universe has decided to challenge you!

“Whoooohooooo – bring it on baby cheeks.

Let me show you what I’m made of.”

It takes a while to rewire your brain to do this which is why I highly recommend you get your ass on a bike!

Honestly, this is the fastest way to train your mind – by using your body!  It’s what she’s there for.

And this works in other sports as well – trail running, car racing (Erm, I wouldn’t recommend this as your training ground without a pro), white water rafting, all of it.

Plus you have the additional element of fun when you train yourself out in nature doing something you love.

You change the scenery which always unlocks greater creativity.

I have my most powerful breakthroughs on my bikes!

It’s a win all around.

BUT

and this is a big one

You have to be willing to change the way you do things in order for this to work.

If you’re a couch potato carrying an extra ten kilos or so, you’re going to hate it in the beginning.

What the fuck have you got to loose?  Other than fat, lethargy, depression.

What have you got to gain?

New learning.

More energy.

Increased health and vitality.

An indestructible mind-set.

A new way of doing life.

A sexy body which probably means you’ll get laid more as well.

I guess thriving must really sound shit to people if they still choose existence.

Stop looking at the impending disaster.

Stop focussing on the perceived obstacles.

Get uncomfortable.

Challenge yourself.

Do it differently.

Connect to your desires.

Set your goals.

Toughen The Fuck Up.

Do the work.

Death is inevitable.

Thriving is one rocking choice!

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  Are you done feeling like a victim?  Like you don’t have a choice?

Are you done blaming the world for not being where you thought you would be at this stage of your life?

Are you ready for some radical transformation Darling?

I’m the unsympathetic bitch who will kick your ass into shape – body, mind, soul.

I don’t believe in one-dimensional living or coaching.

You want it?  Then want it ALL!  Work it all.  Have it all.  Stop settling for crumbs.  Raise your standards of expectations.

You CAN have your cake AND eat it.

When it’s done, bake or buy another one.

I believe that inside of you is a vision that will awaken your starving beast.  Your beast that will stop at nothing.  Your beast that will  take the action getting you iconic results in your life.

I will make you uncomfortable.  I don’t pull the punches.  Chances are you will sweat, swear, take more action than you’ve ever taken before.

You will rediscover the power of drive, dedication, discipline and determination.

You will step up to your best version self.

Ready to play?

Book your free consult today and let the games begin.