Which self-sabotaging behaviours are you ready to let go of?

In my explorations in learning how to work in conjunction with the flow of the moon (stay with me), I’m starting to understand that it’s not about blaming the planets and the phases of the moon for not taking action or not succeeding.  It’s not about becoming a helpless spectator to life and the universe.

It’s in fact the complete opposite.

It’s about living more consciously.

The moon reminds us that every month it’s essential to complete a cycle – setting the goals, taking the actions, taking a step back and evaluating what’s working, what’s not working, how we’re tripping ourselves up, what to let go of, course correct.

It’s about those little things we do, the assanine stories we tell ourselves and then justifying it, the gremlins that really trip us up.

Furthermore, it’s normally done in the ‘relaxed’ areas of our lives which has us thinking it’s inconsequential.  You know, the areas that don’t make us money.

But you and I both know by now that everything is connected.

That how we do one thing is how we do everything.

What we think about one thing we think about everything.

Problem is, most of us never take the time to figure this shit out.

Or we go into self-blame, self-criticism and judgement which makes us feel bad and so we either stop doing it OR focus so much on beating ourselves over the head that we don’t get the learning and we don’t take corrective action which means we’ve now just replaced one fucked up set of behaviours with another which still doesn’t get us to a successful outcome.

Okay so I know that you spend most of your life focusing on your professional life, and so you tend to show up a little better there than in other areas.  Which is probably why so many professionally successful people who are not living holistically are either completely out of shape and out of health or getting divorced.

Instead of focusing on your career goals and behaviour I’m going to show you where to find the most glaring clues as to how you are truly conducting your life – your health and fitness.

Of course I had to pick that one.

Because most people still don’t get the power of the trilogy – body, mind and soul.

What I’ve come to see in more than a decade of coaching is that health and fitness is one of the sneakiest forms of self-sabotage that most people either completely disregard or severely underestimate.  They don’t understand that as long as you’re not working that body of yours to be in top condition, you’re NOT performing at optimal level in life.

I’m not talking about having a six pack.

For the love of all that is good in this world, can we PLEASE get over the fucking six-pack people.

It’s fucked up.

And what does it give you?

Fuck all!

You can’t run further because you have a six pack.

You can’t ride faster because you have a six pack.

You can’t birth smarter babies because you have a six pack.

I’m talking being in the best shape for your body having power, endurance and flexibility.  I’m talking about high levels of energy, vitality and clear thinking.

I’m talking about using your body to get yourself into the zone so you can experience the expansion of time when you go into your zone of excellence!

This includes daily training at the same level as you desire to live your life.

Want to live an average life?  Then do average training sessions.  Half-ass it.

Want to live the life of an elite?  Then you get down and you work your fucking ass like an elite!  You stay focussed.  You don’t give up when you’re tired.  You have a training plan.  You have a coach.  You fuel your body to get the best out of her.  You do the mind-set work that will have you completing the last set, the last sprint, regardless of what you’ve done before that.

You train smart.

You build in cycles and recovery.

You track your progress, your energy levels, your emotions and moods.

THAT is how an elite lives.

And when you nail this in your training and your physical life you take it to your relationships.

Are you in the zone when you’re with your lover?

Are you feeding the relationship with the fuel that will have it thriving or are you feeding it poison through constant blame and criticism and distraction through social media?

Let’s get real Darling.

Because lying to yourself will not change jack shit in your life.

You deserve the truth!

You deserve to start getting real.

You deserve to thrive.

And if your goals are feeling like a constant struggle and training like an elite, loving like an elite, working like an elite feels like punishment and asking too much of you, then settle for fucking mediocrity.

It’s that easy.

I don’t consider healthy living a chore.  I love feeling good in my body.  I love riding my bike and bunny hopping over branches with absolute joy.  I love getting up whilst others snore.  I love doing the mind-set work every single day which has my blood pumping with passion.  I love looking objectively at how I’m conducting my life and asking myself “Is this behaviour really setting me up with the best chances of success?”

And a lot of the time the answer is no.

Like you I’m a seeker.

I’m on the journey of discovery.

I fuck up.

But I also make conscious choices resulting from my questions.

If I choose not to change my behaviour, then I live with the mediocre (choke) results.

So let me ask you today Darling, which of your behaviours are NOT ensuring your best possible chances of success?

Which of your behaviours are in fact a sneaky ego setting you up for failure?

Not in your professional life – oh hell no.

In your fitness.

That’s where you will find the most glaring of clues which can then be translated to your business, your relationships, all of it.

The moon is waning – time to let go of our self-sabotaging behaviours.

What will you let go of this month?

Write it down.

Make the commitment to eliminate that shit from your life.

Burn that piece of paper up.

For death is inevitable.  Thriving is a choice.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  Remember that epic Core Confidence Challenge we did last September?  Well I’ve now made it available for you and it’s FREE!  30 days of working your core, working your mind-set, working your business.  Are you up for it?  Get access here.  But only if you’re all in – don’t set yourself up for failure.  Don’t sign up and then half-ass it.  Time to go elite level, Darling.  You’re worth it.

 

I never said it would be easy – I said you’re worth it…

These are the moments that light up my life…

As I watch her twirling around the kitchen floor laughing and dancing with her squealing toddler in her arms my heart overflows with joy and more than a little pride if I do say so myself.

It’s been a year since we started working together.

A year of celebratory highs, screaming dives, laughing twirls, crying lows.

A year of hugs and “Thank you’s” and more than a few “Fuck you’s” as my truth cut through her egotistical defences.

And yet after a year I look at her and I know that this is only the beginning.

It’s women such as Lilly that has me up at 5 am every morning.

Women who are prepared to break the chains of conformity and who dare to dream bigger than they ever thought they could.

Women who have the courage to connect with their life purpose, their true message and then use this passion to challenge the system.

When I first met her in a local coffee shop I instantly knew that this fireball was born for greatness.

Yet she was also one of the most humble people I had met in a long time.

As so many others she was well ‘socialised’ in how to conduct herself to be liked by the local community which resulted in her first goals being, well, ordinary to say the least.

The gift is that when a woman such as Lilly meets someone who sees the greatness in her, someone who is prepared to hold her to that which others don’t want to see because it scares them, and challenges the fuck out of her self-limiting beliefs and bullshit stories, she blossoms into an exquisite flower astounding all who witnesses her unfurling.

Slowly but surely I watched as those ordinary goals stepped aside for the grande visions.  And as those visions were allowed to breathe the Universe rose up and met her with the most astounding opportunities to live to her potential.

Before you think that means that everything fell into her lap I think it’s important that you understand the Universe doesn’t work with pussies to bring change.  When I talk about opportunities I’m talking the earth shook and broke apart!  Literally.

New Zealand experienced a devastating earthquake leaving communities isolated, families in terror, revealing a system which simply can’t cope with the reality of what is.

Lilly had some choices to make.

Be the well-liked little lady of a sleepy town going about her business as usual,

or

a force to be reckoned with who would not take no for an answer and make shit happen.

Lilly’s Angels were born.

Because Lilly stepped up to the plate.

And she continues to do so.

I witnessed Lilly go like a fucking tornado, never stopping, bashing down obstacles with her sheer willpower and determination to get to those in need with so much love and compassion that honestly, failure was never going to be an option.

I watched as Lilly stood, feet firmly planted, demanding government cooperation on national TV.  I watched as she stood at the checkout counter of the local grocer, absolutely exhausted and spent with her son on her hip, digging into a tub of ice-cream whilst paying for groceries because she needed the sugar just to take another step.

This, my Darling, is the path of a change catalyst.

It’s filled with moments of celebration and moments of despair.

It’s filled with laughs and the tinkle of champagne glasses and times of complete exhaustion and paralysing fear.

So often we look at the results of others discounting their daily reality of struggle and fear and rise and fall.   We tell ourselves that they’re different, special – and we use that as an excuse to never rise to our own potential.

To never courageously unfurl the big vision.

To never challenge the system which we all know is broken.

It’s just easier to keep setting our ordinary little goals and wait for others to take care of the shit.

Which is cool for the masses who never came here to live extraordinary lives.

But it’s not cool for you.

There’s a reason why you’re reading this – there always is.

If you’re reading this it’s because some higher force is telling you that YOU are a change catalyst!

YOU are here to bring healing, to create, to thrive.

And it’s going to be one helluva ride!

It’s not going to unfold the way it does in faerie tales.

It’s not going to be easy.

It’s going to be opportunities to make powerful choices.

Choices where most people will just burrow down deeper with their heads up their arses.

Choices where you have the opportunity to stand the fuck up and plant your feet and speak your truth.

Stop thinking that just because things are hard that you’re on the wrong path.

Stop thinking that just because you hear about being in the flow that the flow is an easy cruise down the river.

Sometimes it is.

But each river goes through torrents.

You have to be prepared to ride those out as well.

Are you?

Are you ready to stop playing small and to finally grow that pair of titanium balls so you can do the work you came here to do?

Are you ready to be in it for the long haul because purpose is not instant!

It’s for the rest of your life.

Are you ready to commit to that?

For death is inevitable.  And as far as I’m concerned mere existence is the equivalent of death.

Thriving is a choice.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  As someone who has personally received the blessings from the work done by Lilly’s Angels I’m really proud to say that I’m a patron of this charity.  You simply have no idea the change that Lilly has already made and will continue to make -not just in New Zealand but globally.  She is getting ready to launch her phenomenal book Come Together which is available for pre-order with all proceeds going to the charity.   Watch here as her story is told on Seven Sharp and then follow the link to her PledgeMe page where you can pledge and get the book.  And if you want to join my community of change catalysts such as Lilly, come over to Wild Woman Rebels today.

PPS:  Lilly – you fucking rock my world Darling.  It is such a privilege to work with you.  It is such a blessing to call you friend and sister.  I appreciate you more than you will ever know.

 

What lies in the darkness that we’re being told to fear?

Darkness…

What is being hidden in the succulent depths that has the puppeteers fill us with fear so that we will stay away?

This is the question which haunts me today.

It might have something to do with the energy of the full moon as she continuously calls me outside to dance in her radiance.

I’m starting to suspect that our true power is cradled within the dark which, as reflected by the Lady in the night, also resides deep within ourselves.

The side of us which nobody wants to talk about.

The side of us which we turn away from because we’ve been told that it is somehow bad, a little evil, and therefor we will be shunned by others if we dare to embrace it.

But what if that is all a lie?

What if instead the dark which is within us holds the key to our wisdom?

What if the dark is the missing pieces of self which we’ve discarded and without which we can never become whole?

Never become all that we came here to be?

No wonder the ‘powers to be’ doesn’t want us to go there.

For can you imagine how awe-inspiring we will be when we heal ourselves and rise up in our true form?

We are constantly told to walk in the light which quite frankly feels overpopulated and restrictive to me.

I’ve left the crowds who just shuffle forward, trying desperately to stay upright because they know if they pause to sit down and rest they’re likely to be crushed by others.  Sleep deprivation robs them of their senses which is exactly how conformity is reinforced – people are too exhausted to think for themselves!

Which is why I have chosen the solitary path where I can actually hear the voice within.

The voice which is calling me towards my dark.

The voice that tells me that I am safe, regardless of what happens around me.

It is when I sit down on my meditation pillow and I shut out the light that I can find peace in the dark.

The peace which is a deep inner knowing that it’s time for all to stop searching for the answers from the ‘gurus’ and instead focus their attention on awakening, on remembering, on connecting with the answers which lie dormant inside of them waiting for a sprinkle of water so they can bloom to life.

This is the path of the rebel.

You understand that nobody has THE answer for you.

For you quest is unique.  Your gifts are unique.  You are unique.

So you open yourself up to be inquisitive.  Instead of blindly following the steps depicted by the mentors, you sift through it all.  You let go of that which doesn’t feel right and you trust yourself enough that you know it’s safe for you to do so.  You look at what is left in the pan and you arrange it in a brilliant new way which through a new combination gifts new outcomes.

You see Darling, it’s when you constantly surround yourself with the lights and the noise and the perceived safety of the crowds that you stop trusting yourself.

At some stage you had an experience where the results were less than satisfactory, maybe even painful, and instead of understanding that there was some precious learning in there for you, you decided that you didn’t know how to do it.  You stopped being willing to fail aka willing to learn and grow, and you became impatient with your journey.  You decided that everyone else must have it right and that ‘instant’ was the way to go.

Except what I’m witnessing is that instant does not bring people joy.

Instant does not bring people satisfaction.

Instant is leaving you feel empty.

My soul tribe is craving richness in their lives.

They are craving the deep satisfaction which is brought upon the savouring of the moment.  The expression so deep that it stirs the soul.

My tribe is craving the dark, the silence, the moments where breath mingles with the waves caused by the silent beating of angel wings.  For it’s in these moments that we connect with our truth.

The truth is that we are powerful co-creators of our lives.

The truth is that we’re not here to do more of the same.

We’re here to upset the systems which has people enslaved in mindless obedience and suffocation.

We’re here to bring healing to those who are no longer willing to exist in the pain of a fractured self.

We’re here to fucking thrive!

We’re here to howl our passion in the light of the moon.

We’re here to rage against the storm whilst others are choosing instead to escape their reality with Destiny 2.

Today I beg of you to start questioning.

Everything.

I’m not asking you to take my truth as my own.  It’s my truth.

You should question my words and ask yourself “Does this feel true for me?”

And if not, then let it go.

But until you start being courageous enough to question, you will always be too afraid to trust your inner knowing.  And as long as you don’t trust yourself, you will be disconnected from your true power.

The power that lies sleeping in your darkness.

Stop being so terrified of yourself.

Stop being afraid of your darkness.

You will not find a monster.

You will find your passion.

And know that you will not burn out when you unleash the fire of passion in your soul.

You only feel burned out because you’re trying to take the limitless extend of your passion and squeeze it into a little square box handed to you by society driven by insanity.

Burn the fucking box.

Unleash yourself onto the world.

Your frustration is not with how incompetent you are.  Your frustration, your overwhelm, your depression is from you not allowing your soul free reign to make the impact she came here to make.

Go inside.

Reconnect with her.

Your wise woman.

Trust her.

Believe her no matter how crazy her voice may sound.

It’s your crazy that will create exceptional.

Be wild.

Be different.

Be you.

It doesn’t take a genius to see how many people are walking around dead.  They’re not choosing to thrive because thriving entails making the tough choices which leads to exquisite growth.

What do you choose today Darling?

What do you choose today?

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  The path of the solitary woman is not always easy.  There are times when we think there must be something wrong with us because we’re just so different from everyone around us!  But you’re not alone.  I’m calling in Wild Woman Rebels by creating a safe space of learning, sharing and expansion.  If you’re seeking such a place of belonging then join us today.

Are your decisions being driven by your true self?

For me, one of the favourite things of my chosen path as a coach, is that the work on myself is never-ending.

It stems back from my core value that I will never ask of others that which I’m not prepared to do myself.

A belief that’s seen me scrubbing many a toilet.

As I’m designing my next group program which entails manifestation through mindset, movement and magick based on the ancient system of chakras, I sit here contemplating the base chakra.

She sits on your most delicious of areas – your ass.

This gorgeous ruby red spinning fan of energy is your connection with your identity.

It’s connected to your feeling of safety which in modern day society has become a real contradiction as the question which should have us feeling safe is the one question that terrifies us.

The question we ask at the very foundation of ourselves is “who am I?”

The purpose of this question is the inner knowing that regardless of our outside world, when we are connected to our true identify of who we are, we are unshakable.

But life has become so noisy, people have disconnected with their essence and are building their identities on everything outside of themselves.  On social status.

I remember a time when this question scared the living daylights out of me.

I remember waking up sobbing because I had completely forgotten who I was in the myriad of roles that I was playing.

I was someone’s daughter.

I was someone’s sister.

I was someone’s wife.

I was someone’s mother.

But if I took all of those roles off the table, who the fuck was I?  It seemed that without these I had become obsolete.

Which brings me to my next insight.

If we don’t take the time to figure out who we truly are at our core, and stay connected with that, we start living in this dreadful fear of abandonment which will then mean we cease to exist!

A fear that I see reflected in my past and in my clients all the time.

A fear that their loved ones will leave them when they stop censoring their words and start speaking their truth.

A fear that they will be shunned by their nearest and dearest when they stop playing small and take centre stage with the work they are here to do.

See Darling, it’s not just a fear that they will leave you, it’s a fear that you will lose your very foundation when they do.

Which puts fear of non-importance firmly in the driver’s seat of all your decisions.

It happens as we go through life and we get ‘disciplined’ and ‘socialised’ by the all-knowing elders and we start to think that who we are is simply not good enough.  We start criticising ourselves and disown those parts that are offensive to others.   We start showing up as well-mannered, smiling, serving little darlings who get awards on stage and praise from our loved ones.  Heaven forbid you should do something that doesn’t please and all hell breaks loose with a belt on your ass.

Yet every woman knows that there’s a day when you wake up and look in the mirror and you see a complete stranger.  Her eyes are devoid of the light you remember sparkling as a young girl.  Her body has transformed into a testament of pain and heart-break in a desperate attempt to fit in which either left her emancipated or obese.

That’s when you have to start fighting for your life.

You  have to start making the choices of a continued life of existence for the appeasement of others (welcome happy pills) or risking it all to remember who the fuck you are, connecting with our purpose and thriving.

Possibly on your own for a while.

For those who are in your life because you’ve made them feel good will most probably leave.

It’s not their fault.  You’re the one who’s been living a lie.  A lie built on the abandonment of self.  Where you stopped asking “Who am I?” and you replaced it with “Who do I need to be to make others happy?”

You can never make others happy.  Happiness is an inside job and when you live your life to make others happy not only are you saying that you have power over them (delusional!) but you’re also setting yourself up for some serious failure Sunshine.

It’s hard, I know.

But I honestly feel that the world has had enough of the socialised bullshit of conformity because it’s killing the entire planet!  We live in a time where we’re going to have to start making the hard choices.

We’re going to have to stop ‘loving’ others and start loving ourselves again – way harder than you think.

We’re going to have to stop ‘fixing’ others and start healing ourselves.

We’re going to have to stop identifying ourselves through roles and start connecting with our essence.

“Who am I?”

Without all my relationships.

Without all my job titles.

Without all my to-do lists.

Are you ready to ask the question?

Let me warn you that this question will demand some serious breakdown – of all the walls you have built upon around you.  A breakdown of all the BS beliefs you have about your shadow side.  A breakdown of your current relationships which are probably not built on your authentic self.  Get ready for some ugly crying.

Are you willing to risk it?  Are you willing to risk the criticism and fear deflected onto you as others try to make sense of the change in you?  Are you willing to risk doing all the hard work and then being terrified by your true magnificence, your true power?

Because it will scare you.

And once you have revealed it there’s no covering it up again.

There’s no time for that anymore.

Now is the time that the true leaders, world changers, creatives and healers are being called to rise.

Now is the time that you’re being asked to choose for if you won’t live your purpose, someone else has to.  Your purpose is THAT important.

Death is inevitable.  Sadly, thriving is a hard choice that few will ever be brave enough to make.

Choose wisely.

With love eternal,

Anel

 

PS:  If there’s one thing I’m taking a stand for at this time, it’s women finding their voices and speaking their truth with pride.  I’m done seeing women being put down by others.  I’m done with women dimming their lights and hiding in the corner.  I’m done with seeing my sisters hurt because like me, they’ve forgotten who they are and now they have nowhere to explore and heal and just have some fun in the process.  Which is why I’ve created that safe space for you in my free group Wild Woman Rebels.  If you’re ready to stop taming yourself then we welcome you with open arms.

 

 

What really scares you is not your limitations but your greatness.

Let’s talk my favourite topic in the whole wide world – FEAR.

But not in the way you think.

Today I want to talk to you about the unspoken fear.

The one that we won’t even acknowledge because when we think about it it simply doesn’t make any sense.

Instead we focus on the same fears as all the little people around us.

The fear of what can go wrong when we fail.

We focus on the fear of being ostracised.

We focus on the fear of what we will lose.

We focus on the fear of shame and humiliation.

We focus on bullshit.

Because the bullshit is more socially acceptable.

The bullshit is easier to talk about because everyone nods their heads in sympathy.

The bullshit is ‘normal’ and keeps us ‘humble’ in front of everyone else.

When we say “OMG I can’t possibly do it because I don’t have the money, the talent, the support, the means and I’m scared shitless of failing because I will look like an idiot, will loose my car, will attract unwanted attention” everyone understands, holds us in their arms and console us with sweet whispers that we’ll be okay.

So that’s what we focus on and that’s what we talk about.

Yet this is not what’s truly keeping us stuck.

This is not what frustrates us.

This is not what has us looking in the mirror and screaming “What the Fuck?  What is wrong with you?  When did you become such a pussy?”

Because you and I were born to be the warriors of our time Sister and staying small is fucking killing us.

We are the leaders here to question and bring change to dysfunctional systems.

We are the artists here to create new ways of doing.

We are the healers here to heal the psychological pain brought on by senseless rules keeping people bound with conformity and mediocrity leading to depression, addiction and madness.

Which means we came here with so much power inside of us that it scares the bejesus out of us!

We can feel it in our veins.

When our guards are lowered there’s a heat which spreads through our bodies and we feel sweat dripping down our armpits.

We feel it when our hands start getting restless, craving paints and crayons and pens to create.

We feel it when we’re in nature and our feet connect with Mother Earth shooting roots deep down to quench our thirst for her love.

We feel it.

And it scares us.

For the day that we start to open ourselves up to create that which we came here to create, life as we know it changes.

Chance meetings and introductions with all the right people at the right time.

Resources get delivered to our doorstep and we wonder who the fuck left it there.

Soul clients are magnetically drawn to us without us ever having to follow any of the marketing rules as depicted by others.

It’s nothing short of miraculous!

We start realising that all we ever dreamed of is within our power to command and create.

Except if we had to own this shit in public we will be shunned.

We get told we’re full of hot air and it’s really unattractive for a woman to be so boastful.

We get told we’re delusional and a little crazy if we seriously believe in angels and fairies and magick.

We get told that nobody will love us if we don’t stop talking like this.

Which means we have to make a choice.

Sit back down and keep quiet, fit in, be average, exist.

OR

Take a deep breath, push those shoulders back, lift your chin in defiance and THRIVE.

For thriving is the only outcome possible when you own your inherent power and unleash it onto the world.

Thriving is what happens when you wake up in the morning filled with excitement for the possibilities of the day and the satisfaction when you go to bed having made a difference in someone’s life.

Thriving is what happens when you make the choice to no longer sit down for the little people and to walk towards your tribe who gets you.  Your tribe who are here to bring change as well.  Where you can celebrate your wins without ever feeling like an outsider – without ever feeling like you’re full of hot air.

Thriving is what happens when you allow yourself to rekindle the flame of magick and feel the support of the entire Universe at your back.

Does that mean that you wake up filled with confidence every single day?

Hell no Darling.

It means that you walk the path of the warrior.  And no matter how seasoned, every warrior still feels fear in the face of battle. This is how they hone their courage.  This is how they storm onto the battle field whilst others hide inside their homes.

It means you will sweat and bleed and fall and sometimes you will even feel your bones break.

But you will keep rising.

You will keep rising because that is what you came here to do.

You will keep rising because there is simply no limitation to your power.

You will keep rising until the day you die.

For only death will keep your physical body down when you allow yourself to thrive.

This is not the path for the average.

Then again, whoever told you that you’re average is a goddamned liar!

They were simply putting their fears, their shame, their bullshit onto you.

Fuck ’em.

Sister, I am speaking directly to you today.

This is your time.  You are ready.  You already know everything you need to know.

Stop looking outside for the answers.

It’s time to go within, to remember long forgotten wisdom, to unleash the power that’s flowing inside of you.

Stop being so afraid of your power because if you don’t start unleashing it it will burn you up from the inside out.  You know I speak the truth because you’re in pain trying so fucking hard to push it down all the time.

Let

It

Out.

Death is inevitable.  You can choose to enter Valhalla radiating satisfaction and pride knowing that you gave it your all

or not.

Time to wake the fuck up Sister.

It’s time.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  I have created a space of celebration and shenanigans where women ready to awaken come together without the need to play small.  If you’re done fitting into the realms of mediocrity and desire to be surrounded by your kin join us at Wild Woman Rebels.

 

 

 

Thinking that motivation alone will get you to the finish line is tripping you up.

If there’s one thing that never ceases to astound me it’s the amount of people going onto social media asking others to motivate them because they’ve lost their mojo.

As if true achievers have the time to sit on social media and motivate others instead of getting on with working on their dreams.

Because when these people lose their mojo they stop taking action.

When they stop taking action they make zero progress.

When they don’t make progress they get depressed.

And then they rage to the world how unfair life is, how disadvantaged they are, how hard it is, how tired they are, how they will never succeed.

Oh Toughen The Fuck Up Princess!

Motivation never gets anyone to the finish line.

If anything inspiration is what gets us started, motivation maybe takes you 20 % of the way and then if you don’t have everything else in place, you’re going to see your ass.

So let’s take a step back and revisit the four pillars which I believe is essential for an indestructible mind-set that will ensure you show up as the motherfucking winner you were born to be.

1. Drive

For the purpose of this blog we can call it motivation – except your drive is way deeper than just motivation.  It’s your reason, your purpose for setting the big goal in the first place.  It is that spark of fire that lights you up every time you think of yourself as having achieved that goal.  It is the start of your journey.

Yet so many people think they can half-ass this piece and give a couple of reasons that wouldn’t inspire someone hanging off a cliff to hold on for more than five seconds.

When investigating your drive, your motivation, you want to go DEEP!  You want to go into the impact this achievement will have on you as a person, who you will become, what you will learn, what you will gain, how you will show up differently, who else you’re impacting, what’s the cost of not achieving it.

Make it rock solid Baby.

Take more time on this than you have traditionally.  Because when the earth starts shaking, and it will when you set the big goals, and this foundational piece is not solid, it will crack and crumble and so will your dreams.

2.  Dedication

Once you’ve got your Big Why down, solid, you make a commitment to the outcome of the goal.  I’m talking obsession Darling.  I’m talking sacrifices made.  I’m talking life overhaul if needed.  I’m talking taking out a piece of paper and writing a contract with your Soul, your Higher Self, the Universe  if you have to and you sign that bitch in blood (not literally unless you’re into that weird shit).

I’m talking about you talk about your goals until others will either get sick of you and fuck off (bye bye distractions) or they will be so inspired by your passion that they will support you every step of they way.

A heads up here – there will be few supporters because most people get triggered as fuck by passion.

3.  Discipline

If you want to moan and bitch because you just don’t have what it takes to show the fuck up for your dreams every goddamn day of your life, I don’t want to hear about it.

Discipline is what will get you through the emotionally trying times.

Discipline will take over when you’re sooooo tired that you don’t think you can get out of bed.

Discipline is what makes the essential non-negotiable so you don’t even have to think about it anymore.  It just gets done.

This is the place you want to get to.  Because now you don’t have to waste your will-power on the basics.  Save it for the really tough decisions you have to make during your day such as how to impact your soul clients lives.

4.  Determination

How to explain this – Honey, get fucking mad at times.

Somewhere inside of you is this rock solid energy that forms part of your core and it’s not pretty pink and lace.  It’s not butterfly wings and candy floss.

It’s your dark side.

It’s mad as a hatter and if you never tap into this part because you think it makes you bad or that others won’t like that side of you then you’re losing out.

I remember a time when I was doing kick-boxing and my husband refused to spar with me because he didn’t like the look on my face.  It wasn’t lady-like.  It was raw and it was ugly and I would take that red hot energy and kick the shit out of whatever was in front of me.

I loved it!

And it is the same force I use every time I get sore and tired and I need that extra energy and power to get me to the finish line because giving up is simply not an option.

If nothing else, think of all the haters you picked up along the way.  YES they are a blessing.  I think that’s why the Universe has set up successful people to attract them.  Those who say you won’t be able to do it.  Those who say you look ugly when you rage.  Those who say you speak too much or move to much or whatever their bullshit is.  Think of them and do whatever it takes to prove the motherfuckers wrong.

Nothing is sweeter than the revenge called success.

There it is.

Four pillars.

All vital for success.

Next time you think of jumping onto social media for some motivation, instead sit your ass down and ask yourself:

  1. Is my why big enough?  If not, how do I make it bigger?
  2. Does my life reflect my dedication to my goal?  Can strangers look at me and just by observing how I show up each day know that I’m a winner?
  3. Am I disciplined as fuck?  Do I get up at 5 am?  Have I done my planning?  Do I fuel my machine properly?  Do I shake my ass?
  4. Do I need to switch from motivation to determination?  Do I need to get a little mad today?

 

Any questions?

Hit me a reply.

For death is inevitable.  Thriving is a choice.

Make it.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  Nothing inspires me more than when a soul client connects with me, sets awe-inspiring goals, and then work their asses off to achieve them.  It inspires me because my clients are ordinary people who accomplish extraordinary feats.  They bring change to the world.  They make a difference.  They are creative.  Above all, they are human which means they get tired, they get scared, they get deflated.  Through it all I stand by their sides, never giving up on them.  For I see the gold that is inside.  I see that they have what it takes even when they are in the eye of the storm and they simply don’t see a way forward.  Are you ready for extraordinary Darling?  Are you ready to set the goals that you’ve been hiding from everyone because they’re so big you just don’t have a clue how you’re going to achieve them?  Are you ready to say to hell with it all and go for it 110%?  Then let’s connect and get you thriving.  Book your free coaching consult here.

 

It’s not just what you say but how you say it.

I’ve been called insensitive.

A lot.

People seem to confuse sympathy with caring.  I don’t.

If you want sympathy go to the choir who thinks you’re a loser.

I think you’re fucking awesome and I will treat you as such.

So I don’t coo and ooh more when others are continuously telling me the drama which is their life.

I don’t feel sorry for people and their lot.

Their fate.

Over which they think they have no control.

Which, quite frankly, is all bullshit.

There are no victims in life.

None.

I believe that everything happens for us.

Everything is learning opportunities to guide us back to our thrive.

But if you sit and recite the same old shit day in and day out, stretching out the heartbreaking notes with the sound of a violin, as if you have no part in how your life is playing out, you’re fucking delusional.

Plus you’re stuck.

“But Anel, it’s true!  Just look at my bank balance.  At my marriage.  At my weight.”

Yip – there’s always evidence for you to find to solidify your story.

What I’m discovering is that it’s not WHAT you tell people, it’s the TONE in which you tell it that makes the difference between having a very long pity-party and getting real with current reality, finding the learning, and shifting ass!

“I’m overweight” can be stated with a whine whilst shoving a Twinkie in your face, or “I’m overweight” can be stated matter of factly.  You can be honest and look in the mirror and ask yourself “Why am I eating too much, training too little?  What am I trying to hide from?  Where is my life out of balance?  Why am I afraid of being sexy as fuck – which would mean powerful as a Mofo.  What within me needs healing so that I can completely love and respect myself because when I love myself I stop poisoning my body?”

“I’m broke again” can be stated with frustration and anger and resentment at the unfairness of it all driving you to go buy another bottle of wine to drown your sorrows thereby ensuring that next month you can make the same statement again, or “I’m broke again” can be stated with curiosity leading you to finally sit down and start tracking your money.  To investigate your relationship with money and to see where it’s out of love.  To understand that money is pure energy so if you’re not happy with the amount of energy in your life you need to start by raising your own vibration to attract more.  You can start understanding that there’s a glitch in your belief systems which has you showing up around money in a manner that has money running the opposite way.  You can start investigating why it doesn’t feel safe for you to have more money, what are the pay-offs of being broke, what are you afraid of will happen if you have more money.

“I’m in a miserable marriage” can be stated with defeatism in an attempt to get the attention you crave from others as clearly you’re not getting it from your spouse, or “I’m in a miserable marriage” can be stated as an awakening leading you to question what you truly desire in your marriage.  How you are currently showing up in your marriage that is contributing to the situation (yes Darling, it takes two to tango).  What are you tolerating and why you’re open for this?  Why are you staying in the marriage if you’re really that unhappy?  What are the payoffs.  What are the fears.

In other words Sunshine, everything in your life can be stated as a bitching session which will only perpetuate the situation, or as a learning opportunity from which you can start making empowered choices.

It’s my experience that most people are simply too stuck to go from the soap opera version of their lives to rewriting the story as an adventure.  It’s like trying to jump from depression to joy – the leap is so big that they stay frozen instead.

I invite you to become aware of your tone of voice and to change from melodrama to factual to see the impact it has on your thought process, your actions, and your life.

I invite you to stop being so fucking judgemental about yourself as it always keeps you from finding the learning.  If you’re going to look at your body and go into self-hatred and judgement about how could you do this to yourself you’re just shifting your focus from one destructive behaviour to another.

We don’t have time for that moronic shit anymore.

Not if you’re in my space.

If you’re in my energetic sphere you know that you’re here to bring change and that change has to start with you.

NOW!

I’m getting old and grey so shift ass.

Only death is inevitable.  Thriving is a choice.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  If you’re a woman with purpose tired of all the moaning and bitching so rife in many circles, I invite you to join Wild Woman Rebels where we celebrate your strength, your beauty and your wild side.  For that is what I see in you.

 

 

What will it really take for you to stop mucking around?

You

Are

Fucking

Powerful

Beyond

Your

Wildest

Imagination.

I know this to be true beyond a shadow of a doubt.

I know this as I know there’s grey hair creeping out from my hairline.

I know this as I know that as long as I take another breath I’m still alive in this body.

I know this because I have worked with hundreds of people over the past decade and each of them has shown me that no matter how deflated they feel one moment, when they tap into their purpose they become rock stars!

I also know that somewhere between the time you were born and where you sit today you’ve lost some faith in yourself and what you’re truly capable of creating.

You started doubting your perfection and started seeing the bullshit that other people offloaded onto you as they struggle to make sense of their lives.

You started following the rules, the steps, the structures and in the process you’ve lost some of your ingenuity, some of your magic, some of your essence.

And even though you’ve achieved some level of success in your life, you know that it’s nowhere near what you’re capable of.

You know that there’s so much more to you than meets the eye.  But it doesn’t fit into the paradigm given to you by our societal structure of what you should be aiming for, how you should be conducting yourself to be worthy of respect, how you should feel with what you’ve achieved when quite frankly most of societal success leaves you feeling rather empty, depleted, lacking substance.

I see you struggle with what you truly desire and what you think will make you look good in they eyes of others.

I see you year after year talking about the dream and instead of just throwing caution to the wind and going full throttle you follow the long and exhausting path laid out by others.  Others who are not you.  Others who needed to go that way but in all honesty it’s simply keeping you small, frustrated, distracted, stuck.

It’s time for you to say screw the rules, the limitations that all the narrow minded people have pinned on you.

It’s time for you to stop letting others define what is realistic for you.

In my opinion they can take their realistic, roll it up with some donkey dung and smoke it!

Your dreams are given to you for a reason.

It’s the whispers of your soul showing you why you came here in the first place.  What you wanted to experience.  What you wanted to do.  The change you wanted to bring.

Your dreams guide you back again and again showing you how it all unfolds and how every experience that you’ve had along the way has brought you back to your purpose.

But you still have to do the fucking work.

Destiny does not mean that you get to sit on your sweet ass and do nothing, expecting all to unfold.

Nope – you would hate that anyway because you would be bored to tears.

You wanted to take action.  You wanted to bump your head and rub the sore spot.  You wanted to fail so you could take a moment to learn, course adjust, do again.  You wanted to experience the contrasts to really decide which you prefer and then go for it.

Full out.

No more mucking around.

But you’re never going to do that whilst wanting to please others.  You’re never going to do it as long as you sit and top about the pros and cons.  You’re never going to do it as long as you surround yourself with the naysayers.  You’re never going to do it as long as you allow yourself to be kept busy by others’ agendas.  You’re never going to do it whilst tippy-toeing around other people’s feelings.

For you to truly stop mucking around and go full out for your dreams you have to put yourself first.

You have to become obsessed and talk about your dreams, eat around your dreams, sleep on your dreams.  At some stage you even start climaxing for your dreams!

You have to become unavailable to your bullshit stories and understand that that’s all they are.  Stories.  You get to choose which of your stories are going to drive your actions.

You have to stop tolerating incompetence from those who impact your life, your dream.  They are not your responsibility to rescue.  It’s time that people start being accountable and live with the consequences of their chosen actions.

You have to burn the goddamned boats and commit!  Full out.  Stop having one foot on the other side of the line.

Why are more people not choosing to live their dreams?

Because it’s scary.  Shit, most people don’t even want to take the time to figure out what the real dream is.  Because they know they would have to acknowledge how small they’re playing.  They would have to acknowledge that they’ve lost the balls to be themselves and instead continue to copy others in a desperate effort to be ‘recognised’ by the faceless masses.

YOU are not most people.

Stop playing by the rules.

Stop doing things in the ‘right’ order and in the ‘right’ way with the ‘right’ systems and the ‘right’ processes.

It’s fucking suffocating you!

Own your wild rebellious nature and RISE!

Stop waiting for next year when you have no idea what your expiration date is.

LIVE NOW!

Right now!

Right this second.

Close your eyes and ask to be shown the dream – the big dream – the ultimate dream.  And when you feel that absolute joy bursting through your arteries you will know.

You will know.

Then choose.

Existence.

Or thrive.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  I’m calling the wild women.  The rebels.  The born leaders.  The healers.  The change makers.  Those who are done mucking around and are ready to do the work.  The deep inner work where they stop hiding from their true glorious power and unfurl it into life.  Are you ready to step up?  Are you ready to set the “impossible” goals and smash them out?  Are you ready to become the change catalyst I know you were born to be?  If you’re ready to take the journey from which there will be no return then let’s connect.  Either drop me a mail at anel@anelbester.com or book your coaching consult today and let’s see if we’re a good fit.

 

 

Exhale and let that shit go…

Who ever taught us to be so hard on ourselves?

To be so critical of ourselves?

To never feel good enough?

To compare ourselves to unrealistic social images of what is considered beautiful?

Who the fuck cares.

That’s who.

The fact is that we can continue to blame our parents, our spouses, our boyfriends when we were ten years old, the media

OR

we can choose to take back our power and start thinking for ourselves.

And I have a feeling that when you decide to think for yourself you will agree with me that this insanity of self-judgement and not feeling good enough is complete and utter bullshit.

Oh don’t think that I’m immune to it.

Far from it.

I’m a work in progress.

I’m at an interesting juncture of my personal journey where I’ve had the awareness that all my criticism of self was in fact just screwing me over.  Keeping me in the shadows.  Feeling judged even when nobody was judging.

I look back at photos of myself a few years ago and think “Shit I was well built”.  Sadly at the time all I could see was a fat tummy, cellulite ridden thighs and no boobs.  I thought I looked like an overweight walrus.  I never had the true enjoyment of my IronMan body.

I look at the photo on my bedroom wall and I see a beautiful woman, strong in her vulnerability.  At the time all I felt was shame and most days I would pull my hair back in a ponytail, no make-up, baggy tracksuits, trying as much as possible to be invisible.  To not draw attention.  To not be seen for who I am.

There was a lot going on in my life a few years ago.  A lot of growth.  A lot of pain.  A lot of fire to forge the warrior woman I am today.

Which brought me to this point where I decided that in order for me to be who I came here to be, I had to start focusing on my strengths, my talents rather than always finding fault.  For you will always find evidence for that which you seek.

When all you are seeking is weakness, you will find it in spades and become weak.

When you start looking for talent, OMG your entire world changes.

I still catch myself every time I see myself in the mirror as I get ready to climb into the shower.  My first thought is almost always “Aaaaargh my tummy is too round and has extra skin, my thighs are too thick, my ass is sagging”.  Then I catch myself and rephrase “My tummy protected two gorgeous babies who have been a source of joy for seventeen years already.  Those hips and thighs have some powerful muscles which keeps me getting back up and moving forward.  That ass – okay well…”

It’s a process.

What I’m finding is the more I love my body, the more she loves me.  I’ve discovered that I have less desire to put greasy or sugary shit into her.  Instead I nourish her with healthy food and clear water.  She’s responding by letting go of the extra weight I’ve been carrying around the last couple of years.  I’m not however doing it to lose weight, I’m doing it from a place of self-love.

I’ve also discovered that there are different types of warriors.

There are the berserkers which is probably the most accurate description of myself for the past few decades.  A scared, hurt, raging animal charging forward relentlessly.  Not without gaining my fair share of scars mind you.  I have plenty of those and I carry them with pride.

Looking back most of my pain was self-inflicted.  I would take the hurtful words that others slung my way, multiply that a thousand fold and then take it as truth about myself.  The pain was quite frankly excruciating.  I took all that emotional pain and started hurting myself physically through drinking, smoking, overeating, overtraining.  You name it, I did it.

I’m not judging myself.  I respect the journey.  Not sure at times why I picked THIS journey, but hey…

Now I know that there is in fact a different art to being a warrior. It is the understanding that strength has a Yin and a Yang.

The Yang symbolises the addition of driving forces and the Yin is the subtraction of restrictive forces.

It is about building strength and flexibility.  It is about acknowledging my talents and recognising my weaknesses so I can bring in external support without thinking it makes me weak.

This accounts for all areas of our lives – physical, relationships, professional.

It is about tapping into your big why and always taking inspired action (drive) and then it is about identifying obstacles and removing those (subtract) so that we can achieve optimal results.

I find that one of those restrictive forces is self-hate.  I know hate is a strong word but quite frankly if you could have heard the way I spoke about myself a few years ago you would agree with me.  And why do we sugar coat this shit?

“Oh I don’t hate myself” you say, “I just can’t stand my fat tummy”.

Uhhhhm, hellooooo?

Look Hun I get it.  Fuck knows that the culture of mediocrity and conformity is trying it’s best to break the wildness within us.  To keep us small and submissive in the shadows.  For when we don’t love ourselves and feel confident about who we are, we don’t speak up.

But fuck them.

It’s time to start healing your relationship with yourself.

To start falling in love with yourself.

To become the warrior who honours both the Yin and the Yang.

To see yourself with new eyes so that you can become the powerhouse you came here to be.

It’s time to let that shit go.

For real.

Don’t listen to the voices saying that you’re full of yourself when you start loving who you are and you speak out with pride.

Don’t listen to the nay-sayers who see your new approach to life and tell you that you’re becoming weak.

For a rigid branch breaks in the storm that the flexible reed withstands.

Who cares what they say?

You do.  To the point that at times you never even take the first step as you pre-empt the judgement and think why bother.

Start bothering!

Start taking the first step!

It’s not easy.  And there are days where we all just want to throw in the towel and say “Fuck this shit.  It’s too much.  It’s never-ending.  It’s bullshit.  It’s easier to just go back to being average.”

It’s cool.  Throw the towel.  Rage and curse and get it out of your system.

Then go pick up the fucking towel, dry off your tears, take a deep breathe, square your shoulders and take the next step.

Just one step.

That’s all you can ask of yourself.

It’s all you need to take – one more step.

And another.

And another.

Before you know it you will have walked a mile.

The truth is you’re not going to do it until you start seeing the truth of who you are – your true power and beauty and magnificence.  You’re not going to do it if all you do is criticise yourself because that just slows you down, makes you tired, has you losing the fight.

So what will you do today to break the cycle of self-criticism?

My recommendation is that you write yourself a love letter.  Start with your body – God knows we love finding fault in her!  Except this time you are going to find all that is good and pure and beautiful and powerful in her.  Write it down.  Thank your body.  Each and every part of her.  Praise her.  Find the beauty even in those crooked little toes.

Then write yourself a love letter on relationships.  All of them.  The good, the bad and the ugly.  Praise yourself for attracting those lessons into your life.  Find the learning in each and every one.  Find the beauty of how you have grown in them.

Next write yourself a love letter on your career path and finances.  All the positions you’ve held.  All the companies you’ve maybe started and closed down.  All your ‘failures’ and learnings. All your decisions – those who gave you favourable results and those who had you landing on your ass.  Thank yourself for having the courage to make those decisions.  Praise yourself for your adventurous spirit in not always choosing the easiest path, for taking the long way to success.

This is not easy work Darling.  And it’s definitely not something you’re going to do once and never have to revisit.

This is a journey of empowered choice which few will make.

But it is one powerful first step.

The first step is choosing to heal this in yourself thereby taking back all the power you’ve given away over the years.

And it’s time to do it!

For our time has come to rise.  Our time to let that shit go and be the warriors that is so needed in a time when humanity is in crises.

For death is coming.  You can choose to thrive until then.

With eternal love,

Anel

PS:  Ever wonder exactly why people choose to work with me?  Well this is it.  This is the journey my clients take with me.  The journey whereby they rise and do the deep work that has kept them achieving average results instead of making the impact they came here to make.  They work with me because I’ve been gifted to see the magnificence residing within, the purpose they have in this lifetime, and I hold them up to that.  When they throw down the towel I tell them to choose – walk away or toughen up and pick it up.  I don’t pick it up for them.  It’s all about showing them the choices they have not seen before.  And every time they pick up that towel they become stronger.  This journey is not for everyone.  It’s for you if you’re truly ready to rise.  If you know that you can no longer tolerate living a false life pleasing the masses.  Things you need to know upfront – your tears don’t scare me; I curse like a sailor especially when I get passionate; I don’t tolerate bullshit excuses; I believe in you even when you don’t.  If this is speaking to your soul, then let’s connect today.  Mail me or book your free consult here.

 

 

What would you do differently if you had a gazillion bucks?

As I’m planning out my day ahead I can’t help but be filled with absolute joy and excitement.

Meditation and journaling is being followed by blogging.  After this I’m off to run through the forest and seeing how many bunnies I can spot before they burrow down for the day.  This will be followed with a private coaching session with a client who completely inspires me.  Then more writing.  Continuing with the creation of my next course.  I might jump into my FB group for an impromptu live and hang with the girls for a while.  Yoga to challenge this ole body and mind.  Spending time with the boys.  Reading and learning.

Marvellous!

I live a blessed life.

When I think about it, my life is just about as perfectly designed by me to fill me up on every side as she can be.

Which brought me to the question I normally ask prospective clients – if money was no longer a factor, what is the dream?

I can’t tell you how often the answer is ‘sitting on the beach doing absolutely nothing’.

You’re

fuckin

kidding

me.

Needless to say these are not my people.

These are the people so exhausted from pure existence that they are ready to give up and die.  They’ve lost the will to fight.

My soul tribe on the other hand, are creatives, achievers, change catalysts hungry for more.  They are here to bring healing and change in whatever form and NOT doing this is absolute torture.

Not bringing forth your art is suffocating.

Not bringing change and instead witnessing the suffering of others feels like a stab in the gut.

Not healing yourself and instead holding your gifts secret so that others won’t feel uncomfortable around you becomes intolerable and at some stage you have to choose – either let it out or commit suicide because the depression that ensues is too much to bear.

This is the life of my soul tribe.

The danger in this is that at times we can forget to look after ourselves.  We can get into a space of extreme hustle and “GO GO GO” that we forget to eat, forget to meditate, forget to fill our own cups.

Then one day you sit your ass down to create and NOTHING.

Not a single idea comes through and you’re like “What the fuuuuuuck?”

Because this is not our natural state.

We create like motherfuckers.

It just flows through us.

We are the messengers who understand that it’s never been about us.  It’s about the message.

So when the message doesn’t come through it’s like the canary in the mine.

Something is seriously wrong Darling.

There’s a lack of oxygen.  A lack of life force.  And if you don’t do something about it asap you’re in deep shit.

Which is exactly why I’ve designed my life in such a way that there is more than enough joob-joob to keep me going like an Energizer Bunny on steroids.

I’ve designed my life in such a way that the money has become irrelevant because I have witnessed first hand the destruction that obsession with dollars can bring.  Even if someone was to pay a gazillion bucks into my bank account today, I wouldn’t change my schedule.  Not a single thing.  Because every single item on my schedule fills me with joy and therefor is necessary for my thrive.

I honestly don’t feel like my ‘work’ is work.

In fact, holidays are more work for me than my daily life.

I’m not a big fan of holidays where I’m expected to sit around and do what?

I want to write every day.

I want to train every day.

I want to coach every day.

They all revitalise me!

This didn’t just happen overnight either.  I really had to start tuning in to my body to identify what brought me joy and what completely drained me and then had to make the choices of what to let go of and what to bring in.

I had to work with some seriously challenging clients for me to understand exactly who I am here to serve.  And my soul clients are a true gift in my life.

I had to stop training for a while as I started thinking there was something wrong with me for enjoying the pain to understand that my body was made to move.  A lot.  She fucking loves it!

I had to go through a period where I stopped writing because censoring myself for the haters became such a drain that I would rather drink vinegar than write another well thought-out sentence.

My life is a pure expression of me.

It is uncensored.

It doesn’t follow the rules of how a responsible adult should conduct herself.

I fucking refuse to ever adult!

I’m seriously happy in my energy of child-like exuberance and creativity.

If you had to give a child a million dollars they wouldn’t change.  They would continue to play in the same way they are playing right now.

Maybe that’s the answer then – maybe more people should grow the fuck down!

Maybe more people should start playing, drawing, creating, running whilst laughing, riding their bikes just for the hell of it bunny-hopping whenever they get the chance.  Maybe more people should start sleeping soundly and wake feeling refreshed.

Yip I think that might be the answer.

I personally think people take themselves way too serious.  If you can’t laugh at yourself you’re in deep Doo-doo because life has a way to keep us humble.  And you can’t laugh at yourself when all you do is grind away at a mere existence.

If you’re not enjoying your life because you’re slogging away to make that $10k month or $100k month or whatever the number is because you think THEN you will live an amazing life, you’re in for some serious disappointment Darling.  Because if you can’t have fun on the way of making whatever that amount is that you’re aiming for, then if the economy crashes and you lose all the money you’re going to be miserable as duck in hunting season.

Here is my challenge to you – sit that scrumptious ass of yours down, look at your schedule and ask yourself “How would I change this if I received a million dollars today?”

Then fucking change the thing.

Why not?

Who’s rules are you trying to follow by living according to a schedule that doesn’t make your ovaries tingle?

What are you doing because you think you have to?  Because you know, it’s what responsible adults do.

As long as you think along these lines you will never see the endless possibilities of living the dream AND receiving the money.

Even sadder, you will never get to the understanding that the money is just energy.  That it’s not the be all and end all.

Your life is!

For the love of God please stop wasting another day by choosing to be fucking miserable, unhealthy, addicted to mediocrity because it is sucking your soul dry!

Do you get that?

Is it really worth living a life that keeps you so exhausted that your family scatters the moment that you get home because you suck the life out of them in an attempt to restore your emptied reserves?  It is really worth trying desperately to numb the pain by murdering your body with booze and smokes and greasy food? Is it really worth empty promises to your loved ones of how things will change when you hit the jackpot only to realise that when you have all the money you have lost all the people?

I don’t think so.

Start living TODAY.

Start scheduling your day with activities that has you high vibing like a mofo.  And that always includes moving your body!  Always.

For death is inevitable.  Thriving is a choice.

With love always,

Anel

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