Your dreams – your responsibility

Good morning Sunshine.

What you up to this week?

Are you going to astound us with your brilliance?

Are you going to create something so incredible that those around you will sit, mouths wide open,

wondering who this delightful being of magnificence is?

Are you going to go full out for everything that you’ve ever said you wanted?

That rocking body that weakens knees with the pulsating energy that burns like a fire in your very core.

That company that is going to impact millions in a way that nobody ever thought possible.

That relationship that leaves you breathless with the deep connection that you feel every time you look into your partners eyes.

That amazing adventure that has you laughing your ass off, screaming in exhilaration.


are you just going to have another average, boring, depressing week?

Are you going to bitch and moan of how hard it is?

Are you going to say that it’s just not possible for you right now?

Because you have responsibilities.

Are you going to say it’s all just a dream anyway?

It’s time we stop putting dreams in the category of ‘oh, that would be nice.’

Time to stop putting dreams on the shelve.

Time to stop thinking that we’re not good enough, smart enough, strong enough to have it all.

Time to stop thinking in terms of scarcity, competition, settling for crumbs.

I believe that every single dream that’s in your heart, your mind, is given to you for a reason.

No matter how insignificant they may appear on the surface

I believe that every single dream forms part of a bigger picture,

a piece of the puzzle of your best version self.

And I honestly believe that your best version self is in service to the whole of humanity.

That every person who decides to become massively successful in all aspects of the word is creating a new vibration for the collective.

So why then does it feel so incredibly challenging to go for it?

Full out?

To train like a professional athlete.

Eat like a nutritionist.

Make love like a tantric master.

Spend money like a Kardashian.

Build an empire like Richard Branson.

I suspect it’s because things are changing rapidly on an energetic, magical level and it feels kinda weird most of the time.

I suspect that majority of dreams gifted to us at this time goes against the grain.

It challenges old thoughts, values and socialised norms.

It feels uncomfortable and we don’t really like feeling uncomfortable.

And because the masses are still buying into the archaic patriarchal bullshit,

the idea that there’s only so much to go around,

that if you take the entire cake someone else is starving to death,

that your desire for beauty is pretentious and makes you a little bitch,

that the sexual energy that is demanding to be fed makes you a whore,

that thinking you’re fucking fabulous makes you full of yourself,

and they have no problem shaming you in public,

giving yourself permission to show up fully is challenging even for the veterans.

I love how nobody ever criticises the pity-pieces.

That nobody ever says you’re a nasty piece of work when you tell people how weak they are and how they should take it slow,

that it’s not their fault that they eat too much, drink too much, binge too much,

just doing their best, even when their best sucks nickerballs, nobody can expect more of them,

that nobody ever threatens you when you give people more excuses to sit on their arses,

but oh golly,

when you write from the heart,

your soul to theirs,

speaking to the immense power that resides within each of us,



that it’s your responsibility to push the limits,

that it’s your responsibility to be massively fucking successful,

that it’s your responsibility to go for your dreams like your hair is on fire,

that it’s your responsibility to train insane and live like an empress,

everybody gets on the bandwagon of defending the average.

Saying you’re not being fair and should just calm the **** down (who the fuck speaks in stars???)


go on defending your excuses to stay average,

keep hiding behind your children, your relationship status, your bank balance,

keep showing up with 10% of your potential every day because it feels safe,

and comfortable,

and it makes you feel like ‘the man’ when you talk a big game,

knowing full well that when the cards are laid on the table,

you have a myriad of ‘reasons’ lined up as to why you can’t take the leap.

You keep on existing, day in and day out,

certain that they will defend your choices,

after all,

the sheople have teeth and they will protect those who huddle together.

You keep doing that Darling.

But, we both know that you’re not sleeping at night.

We both know you’re waking up exhausted in the morning,

because your soul is growing impatient with your choice to continue merely existing.

Your higher self is screaming in that coffin you’ve stuffed her in, demanding to be heard in the still of the night.

Your dreams are howling to the bright light of the moon,




because your average behaviour,

is fucking suffocating your brilliance.

Go on,

have that next drink,

thinking it will make you feel better.

Play another raid,

thinking it will make life a little more exciting.

You keep doing that.

Your life, and nobody is going to live it for you.

I simply want you to know that you have an alternative choice available to you right now.

Right now,

you can choose to stop pussy-footing around.

Right now,

you can choose to draw a line in the sand.

Right now,

you can commit to giving your life an over-haul.

Your body, your relationships, your business, your friendships, your adventures, your lifestyle.

All of it.

It’s available to you right now.

You simply have to decide that you will no longer tolerate average anything in any aspect of your life.

You simply have to take responsibility for yourself, your happiness, your dreams.

You simply have to show the fuck up every single day, not negotiable.

Pushing through the discomfort.

Giving fear the playful finger.

No longer giving a damn of the acid words spewed by the faceless haters.

Because at the end of the day,

they are not looking in your mirror.

And quite frankly Darling,

your opinion of self should be the only one that matters to you.

I’m currently interviewing those who are ready to partner in a coaching relationship to ensure that 2018 will go down in their history as the year of total transformation.

Men and women with a no-excuses policy.

Spiritual gangsters on a mission.

Those who demand high accountability and a coach who will not tolerate the bullshit excuses others eat up like honey.

If you’re done settling, let’s connect and see if I’m that coach for you.

After all, only death is inevitable.

Thriving is the choice of the brave.

With love and deep appreciation of your badass self,






self belief, mindset, action, goals, achievement

Is thinking killing your badassery?

I can spot them a mile away- –

the ‘thinkers’.

They normally have a frown deeply creased into their foreheads.

There’s a dark cloud hanging around them.

Their energy is low.

They talk in problems.

Always trying to puzzle out whatever is eating them.

They will start thinking of a goal they really want to achieve,

and instead of just saying ‘HELL YES’ to the excitement flowing inside of them,

instead of committing to do WHATEVER it takes,

instead of immediately taking action,

they first want to figure out the plan and steps and strategies.

Except if they knew the how they would have already achieved the goal,

so now they start worrying,

because if they can’t figure out the how they’ll never achieve said goal,

so maybe they should scale it down,

make it more realistic,

set something they DO know the answers to.

Which is not only BORING AF but completely defeats the object of setting goals in the first place which is


It’s about becoming your BEST NEXT LEVEL SELF.

You know,

the badass in you.

The one with the big balls of courage.

The adventurous one.

The one that inspires others to raise their game for themselves.

In my humble opinion,

thinking is highly overrated.

It gets people on this crazy-ass hamster wheel going around in manic circles in their heads.

Not understanding their minds are playing tricks on them.

Distorting everything.

Their stories,

their beliefs,

their realities.

And normally, people tend to ‘think’ when they’re unhappy about something or afraid of something.

The obstacle, the problem, becomes all-consuming and what you focus on, you create more of.

The biggest issue I have with people ‘thinking’ is,

they’re normally not moving.

The only elixir to fear is ACTION!

The only way to achieve any goal is ACTION!

The only way to improve a situation is through,

you’ve got it,


Not thinking it to death.

What really saddens me is that ‘thinkers’,

who historically don’t have a good track record of figuring it out,

convince themselves that if they think about it long enough,

they will find the answer.

Their ego tells them not to take action because heaven forbid they fuck up and then,

they’ll look like an ass,

they’ll fail,

they’ll be a failure.

Their ego, which is their think-tank, only draws on what it already knows,

it doesn’t connect to a higher realm of thinking where the soul plays.

It doesn’t connect to a deeper realm of courage and adventure where the soul plays.

It doesn’t connect to others who have already figured this shit out or who will provide a sounding board to hear the absurdity of the voices in the dark realms of your subconscious.

The ego, with all her good intentions, is the greatest enemy of your DREAMS.

Now I’m not saying you must start living stupid either,

you still have to use that beautiful grey muscle in your head.

What I am saying Darling,

is fucking believe in yourself a little.

Believe that whatever you truly desire is within your capability to achieve.


you have to start thinking differently about this thing called life.

You need to start understanding that YOU are the creator of your life.

And if right now, you’re looking around and it’s pretty derelict,


You created that, which means within you lies the ability to create the opposite and then some.

So how do you turn it around?

First step – DECIDE that you’re going to turn it around.

Everything starts with a decision.

BECOME UNAVAILABLE for everything that you’re not liking right now.

WRITE DOWN what you truly desire,

what you are COMMITTED to achieving.

Really committed.

Not this flakey bullshit we see everywhere of committed until things get a little tough and then giving up.

Why write?

A -writing slows down your thoughts which means your ego doesn’t have time to play her insatiable games with you;

B – research shows that the pressure of the pen on your fingers activates a deeper creative thought process; plus

C – seeing what you write makes it REAL for you.

Next, write down all your BULLSHIT EXCUSES as to why you won’t possibly achieve this.

Yip, I’m being mean right now.

Because I want you to start understanding that all your ‘reasons’ and ‘realities’ are choices you’re making.

And you can continue to hold on to them for dear life,

in which case you might not even get started with this process,

or you can start kicking your own ass.

You can come from an energy of ‘I’ve got this shit’ and confront yourself.

Once you’ve got those down on paper, COMMAND your higher self, Creator, the Universe, whatever resonates with you, to obliterate all of these interferences thereby creating space for new beliefs.

Then you get to consciously CHOOSE YOUR BELIEFS so make damn sure that they support your desires.

Write them down.

All the time you’re writing, you’re moving.

All the time you’re moving,

even if that moving is your hand,

you’re making progress.

Believe in this.

Then, from this space, simply commit to THREE ACTIONS that you will take TODAY to move you 1% closer to your goal.


I can almost guarantee that they will be uncomfortable.

Simply because you haven’t taken them before.


Just take the action.

And then, you get to EVALUATE the outcome of the actions.

Now, if the results are not exactly what you thought you wanted,

what you would have termed ‘failure’ before,

that’s GREAT!

It’s simply feedback to do something else.

Take the energy of the disappointment, use it to strengthen your resolve, and take another action.

And if you took the action and you’re blown away by the result,

fucking celebrate!

Use the increase in energy to take another action.

Nothing changes from thinking about it.

Nothing happens from thinking about it.

Everything that you desire is on the other side of your massive actions.

What do you think about THAT?

Only death is inevitable Darling.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave,

and yes,

the brave take action.

With deep love and appreciation of you,


PS:  I work with those committed to thrive.

Those who understand that they have a responsibility to themselves, their loved ones, humanity, to stretch their limits, live outside of their comfort zone, and achieve the ‘impossible’.

If you’re ready to set the goals that has you burning with an inner fire of excitement,

to be held accountable to a new level of excellence,

to be supported in confronting your inner demons of BS and consciously choose your thoughts, your beliefs, your actions and your results,

then let’s connect and see if I’m the right coach to guide you on this part of your journey.


mindset, empowered masculine, warrior, discipline

Suffocated by the bullshit of an outdated system which is crumbling around your ass.

Today I’m speaking to the hearts of the men of our time.

The winds of change has finally arrived.

A time when gentle breezes are bowing down to hurricanes.


Causing destruction.

Ripping up the old.

Showing you the underbelly of the beast.

That which has come before you.

Which you so unquestioningly accepted as truth.

Because your daddy told you that it’s the way it is.

That you had to respect your elders even when your elders were being bailed out of jail for drunken driving.

Do as you’re told even when it was killing your soul.

Your mom rocking you gently to her bosom, “Hush now child.  It’s because he loves you that he beats you.”

And I know that you did your best.

But your previous best is no longer good enough.

Not anymore.

Humanity is going through one of the most explosive times of change, and what is called for now, is a return of the warriors.

That’s right Darling,

I’m calling in the empowered masculine.

It’s time to pick your balls up from the floor and be the proud protectors of the empowered feminine.

Right now, what I’m witnessing for the greater part, is a huge fucking imbalance.

Women have had ENOUGH.

Enough of being oppressed.

Enough of being silenced.

Enough of not protecting their children from the drunk, inconsiderate, weak-minded assholes who have taken power through money.

Women have had ENOUGH.

Enough of fearing the system.

Enough of feeling stupid.

Enough of being talked down to.

So they are doing the work – in secret.

I’m truly saddened at the fact that 90% of the women who come to work with me never tell their partners they are being coached.


Because ‘their men won’t understand’.

Because ‘their men don’t believe in personal development’.

Women are gathering in sacred circles.

Dancing under the light of the moon.

Praying to the ancient goddesses.

Remembering the power of their bodies.

Honouring their cycles.

Bringing back the old ways.

Yes, there are some men who are doing the same and I am deeply grateful and appreciative of being in the space of some of these incredible humans – thank you!

But nowhere near enough.

The neanderthal still ruling the roost of the masses.

In these circles it’s still considered ‘manly’ to insult women.

To rape women.

To humiliate women in front of your mates.

To shut their kids up with whatever means you deem fair.

Tick-tock bitches.

Your time is running out.

Whilst you’re sitting in the pubs drinking away your stress, your women are preparing for war.

Whilst you’re escaping reality with your online games, thinking you’re such a badass for shooting those monsters in Lala Land, your children are watching you,

they see your weakness,

making their decisions,

to NEVER be like you.

And all the time,

you don’t have a fucking clue.

Of what’s going on around you.

Time to wake up Sunshine.

Time to choose.

You can choose to keep on this path of being a victim, a martyr, to hold on to the old ways out of some false sense of obligation and guilt,

you can choose to stay faithful to the teachings of your father,

you can choose to uphold his ways of drinking, bullying, threatening your wife and children with physical and verbal abuse,

I respect your choice,

it’s yours to make,

and know this,

nobody is ever going to make the choice for you,

nobody is going to rescue you,

you’re going to be left all alone,

wondering what you ever did wrong when you did everything right according to what you were taught.

You have another choice available to you at this time:

you can choose to wake the fuck up and realise that EVERYTHING is changing.

You can start realising that the empowered feminine has returned and she DEMANDS by her side the empowered masculine.

She will not plead with you.

She will not stand by your side if that means standing still.

She will not tolerate being silenced by your threats any longer.

She has zero fucking allegiance to patriarchy.

And she is strong my friend.

She is raising an army in the next generation.

She walks with warriors.

Men and women who are purpose-driven.

Men and women who are soul-driven.

Men and women who uphold the code of heart-set, mind-set and body-set.

Men and women who understand that the only person they can take full responsibility for is themselves.

And we do so unapologetically.

We have moved beyond shame.

We never blame.

We sort out our own shit, and we bring to others our best versions selves for where we’re at with what we have.

Knowing that this is a continuous journey of self-improvement.

Understanding that we all keep falling.

We all fuck up.

We all learn.

We choose to get back up.

And we choose to keep moving forward.

I understand that most are simply unaware of what’s happening, but if you’re reading this you’re not one of those who can plead ignorance.

You KNOW in your heart that radical change is happening.

And we need YOU to step up!

We need YOU to stop backing down because you feel bad disagreeing with your dad.

We need YOU to stop hiding away from reality and to start CONSCIOUSLY creating a new life.

We need YOU to stop being ‘one of the boys’ and to start being a MAN.

We need YOU to stop fucking around with average anything and to start being an EXQUISITE  specimen.

You have within you EVERYTHING you need to be a king of a man.

It happens through training.

Training of your mind to go from weak and exhausted to indestructible.

Training your body to go from jello to ripped.

Training your soul to go from victim to magician.

It won’t be easy.

There will be sacrifices to make.

People to leave behind.

Old habits to destroy.

You will have to question everything you’ve believed up to this point.

You will have to find the courage to seek out the mentors and coaches that make you uncomfortable AF, demanding MORE than anyone has ever demanded of you before.

But I know you can do this.

When you DECIDE that you will succeed,

you will become unstoppable.


gloriously empowered,

gloriously masculine,

that way you were born to be.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving remains the choice of the brave.

With deep love, respect and appreciation of who you are at your core,







emotions, well-being, mindset

How would you live your life if you didn’t have your precious labels?

When did life become so serious?

To the point that it appears most have left their sense of humour behind in the previous century.

I suspect it came along the same time as the rise of the fathers of psychology.

Oh Yes, I’m going there today.

I’m stirring the pot with my shit-spoon 😉

Simply because I’m tired of people feeling helpless, feeling that they need saving, that they need a pill, that they need a glass of whiskey to get through the day.

Here’s what I want you to know today:

Your Emotions Are All Natural and Perfect!

Humans have always had emotions since Adams’ first breath.

They’ve felt happy.

They’ve felt sad.

They’ve felt terrified.

They’ve felt worried.

They’ve felt fury.

It was considered natural.

When they were happy, they used the vibrant energy and danced to feel even happier.

When they felt sad, they withdrew, they mourned.  They understood that there was a lower level of energy available to them in their bodies, and like nature in winter, they would allow the stillness required for death to be honoured and released so the new can blossom.

When they felt scared, they used the adrenaline pumping through their veins, stoking a fire which had them break out in a cold sweat, and either fought or ran like a motherfucking rabbit.

No shame for any feelings.

No blame for any feelings.

Life flowed on.

In beautiful harmony of what is gifted to us.


Oh My Thor,

some well-meaning ass decided that he needed to UNDERSTAND.

He had to figure out what it all meant, what it resulted in, what has to happen for people to return to homeostasis,

and we were given


Now, I’m sure that he meant it out of the goodness of his heart.

I’m sure he had a true desire to be in service to others.

To make them feel better.

Because god forbid anyone should not be operating in a ‘pleasing’ manner,

upsetting the apple cart,

making it uncomfortable for others to be around.

There’s no way in hell that he could have predicted the insatiable desire of the sheople to keep the status quo at flatline.

For the longest time I bought into all of this myself.

I even dedicated years of my life to the study of psychology to get the degrees that would say “I now understand what the fuck is wrong with you and I have the solution”.

Once you know the label, you can prescribe the treatment.

And that’s when the Universe blessed me with the experience of one of our most popular labels, depression, only to find that the ‘cure’ prescribed by the profession, was killing me even faster.

My feeling of deep depression had a serious message for me.

One which I couldn’t hear when I was drugged.

One that had nothing to do with my childhood.

It had EVERYTHING to do with my current choices.

It never intended to define me, only to get my attention.

What I’ve come to realise is that people take these labels on as their identity and it becomes their self-fulfulling prophecy.

Crafting their lives around them.

Thinking there’s something seriously wrong with them.

Drinking some form of ‘medication’ to numb out.

And because this behaviour is underwritten by the official powers, others treat them differently.

Makes them feel special.

Let’s get some perspective here:

Do you honestly think that the cave man didn’t feel anxious as he hauled ass out into the big scary world to hunt a dinosaur??

Do you not think that he stood there shitting himself as T-Rex appeared unexpectedly and he knew that unless his mate Tom was slower than him, his goose was cooked?

Do you think our brave warrior went and sat on a couch telling Fred that he doesn’t understand why he gets so freaked out that he can hardly breathe?

Do you think Fred told him he has what’s known as anxiety which is a debilitating condition that can be treated?  Just take a day leave, drink three chill pills and meditate every day to calm the fuck down.

I think not.

I think our boy, being the clever caveman he was, felt anxious, and thought to himself:

‘OMG there’s danger!

I have two choices:

Charge that motherfucking beast and fight, maybe getting a kill in the process and feeding the clan for a week,

or not,

could lose the battle and feed T for the day,


Run my ass off and maybe live to tell the tale,

or not,

T could be faster and I’ll end up being breakfast.’

Our boy paid attention to this feeling clogging up his throat,

he would connect into the energy created by said emotion,

to make fast choices,

to take immediate action.

And either he woke up on the other side laughing his ass off for getting eaten by T, or he got back home with more evidence in his arsenal to build confidence, more learning had, and a badass tale to share.

Now if you think that I’m being disrespectful and inconsiderate because I’m bringing some humour into the field of emotions,

I’m not.

I simply want you to consider how you would live your life if you stopped thinking that anything you’re feeling is WRONG.

If instead of thinking there’s something out of place for feeling the FULL SPECTRUM of human emotions,

understanding that some of those emotions have a powerful fucking reaction in your body,

and that when you lean into the emotion,

when you release into the emotion,

when you move through the emotion,

you will get to the other side with a deeper knowing of self than ever before.

It’s been my experience that the real pain is caused by our resistance of our emotions as a natural part of us.

By making our emotions wrong or bad.

If you think about it, it’s like cutting off a piece of your arm because you think it should look like your leg.

That’s gonna hurt!

And honestly, if others stopped telling you to cheer up because THEY are feeling discomfort in your presence when you’re genuinely grieving, genuinely angry, genuinely scared,

if they weren’t so codependent and allow you to work it out for yourself,

you would not hold on to that emotion

because ultimately that emotion will NOT dissipate until acknowledged and heard and acted upon.

I deeply respect our desire to make sense out of everything,

our desire for certainty,

and I’m not here to take that away from you.

I’m not here to tell you that you have to start thinking any differently as to what you have up to this point,

if it serves you,

as it always does,

then hold on to that.

But if you’re sitting there thinking it would be really empowering to simply acknowledge what you feel, to take the time for some introspection as to the meaning of the emotion, to take a real look at what’s going on around you that’s causing this feeling, and then thanking that emotion for honouring your well-being, choosing action consciously from this space,

then I invite you to approach your emotions in a new way.

What have you got to loose?

Only death is inevitable Darling.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

With deep love and appreciation for you,


PS:  The only thing standing between you and all you desire,

is your stories.

Most of which I’ve found to be fear-based.

And the reason why people never get to the other end,

is because they live in denial.

They think that admitting their fears will make them appear weak.

Not in my space Darling.

If you’re SERIOUS about achieving success,

if you’re ready to name and claim your fears and then releasing them,

replacing them with a new perspective,

a new set of beliefs,

and then taking the aligned action regardless of how uncomfortable you feel at the time,

because you CHOOSE to be successful,

and you’re ready to be held accountable to that,

then I invite you to connect with me to see if I’m the right coach to guide you on this part of your journey.

Only those serious about results need apply.



mindset, soul, purpose, mental health, choice

Soul says it’s time to step the fuck up!


I was going to play it safe and write you a ‘nice’ piece today.

A piece that sings your praises and tells you that it’s all going to be okay.

That you’re going to be fine.

But Soul is not having any of this.

She keeps on going back and deleting my well thought out paragraphs.


You see Darling,

me writing ‘motivational’ pieces, or giving you another ‘three steps of how to’ do anything in life,

that’s ego.

That’s me wanting to cut you, and me, some slack,

believing the old story that you’ll like me more when I make you feel good like a big old bottle of tequila.

Buying into the theories of how I have to be more considerate of the complexities and fragility of the human psyche, and be gentle because right now you’re already feeling like you’ve had enough.

That you’re going to break.

That you just can’t handle any more.

And if you were NOT one of my soul-people,

if you were NOT one of the warriors,

we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

In fact,

if you just stumbled upon this, and you’re feeling a little tender and fragile today,

if you’re going to turn my words into hate,

then step the fuck away from this piece.


Go lick your wounds.

Go curl up in the arms of the sympathisers;

Those who will wrap you in cotton blankets of pity.

Letting you sink even lower into the darkness.

Hush now baby.

Go to sleep a little longer.

Go slumber another day, another week, another month, another year, another decade.

But if you’re still reading,

if you’re still with me,

I’m going to give it to you unfiltered:


That’s right.

I don’t care what’s going on in your physical reality right now.

YOU created that.

With your thoughts.

With your words.

With your stories.

With your beliefs.

If you’re looking around right now and it’s pretty good,


We both know that you’re nowhere NEAR where you’re meant to be playing.

How do I know that?

Because you’re still breathing.

You’re not dead yet.

No time to sit there and bask in the level of success when there’s BILLIONS of people fucking DYING today.

Right now.

Lost souls shuffling around in the throngs of mediocrity.

Some of those are YOUR soul-mate clients, and it’s time for you to shine your light brighter so they can look up and find you.

Regardless of whether or not you have an existing business , YOU have a gift that someone needs.

Regardless of what form your product or service takes, it is in service to the up-liftment of another’s life.

Acceptance of average is suffocating the artists, healers, creatives!

What’s called for now is leaders like YOU who are prepared to raise levels of what is acceptable to EXCELLENCE and then sharing THAT vibration with humanity.


You’re a born leader Baby.


And if you’re sitting in a pit of misery right now thinking it’s all gone to shit,


YOU can take that shit, shuffle it into the ground and use it to fertilise your land, start planting the seeds of your desires and grow the most lush garden of abundance.

That’s right Sunshine,

Turn your shit into compost and start thriving.

Some of us made the choice to come to this lifetime and experience the excruciating pain of a system that is eating up life-force.

We chose not to numb ourselves with their morphine drips but instead to FEEL!

We chose to temporarily buy into the social conditioning of what it takes for us to be considered as ‘responsible contributors’ to society.

In the process we have suppressed our truth, our passion, our artistic expressions of a soul song.

How do you know this is true for you?

You’ve hit rock bottom.

Probably more than once.


Desire to end your life.


Feeling like you’re losing your motherfucking mind!

All the time being told that you have to behave.

You have to be quieter.

You have to tread lightly.

You have to be considerate of everyone else.




Can you relate?

Then you will know,

in your soul,

in your heart,

that continuing on this path,

is no longer an option.

You didn’t come here to conform to the standards of mediocrity,

you didn’t come here to blend in,

you didn’t come here to exist,


So stop your sniffling,

stop listening to people who tell you to be gentle with yourself,


How will you EVER figure out just how powerful you are,

how badass,

how magnificent,

how creative,

how resourceful,

how resilient,

if you never dare to leap?

If you never take a chance on yourself and actually follow your heart?

If you never walk away from that which is draining your spark, leaving you feeling like an old dish-towel?

If you never cut the umbilical chord to your codependent relationships and actually stand on your own two feet?


It has been in my moments of greatest despair that I have found my greatest strength.

In the moments when I lay on that floor sobbing like there’s no tomorrow.

In the moments when I was so petrified that urine was running down my legs.

In the moments when I was so broken

so crippled

so desperate

that I didn’t think I could ever take another step,

that I have chosen to release my egotistical bullshit,

and go inward,

to my soul,

to my essence,

to my Creator,

and prayed for a miracle.

I didn’t pray for money.

I didn’t pray for a saviour.

I prayed for inner strength.

The untapped reservoir inside.

And there’s always more Darling.

You just have no idea how amazing you are until you’re willing to go there.

It was in my moments of darkness that I would ignite the light through whatever emotion was available to me at the time.

For me it was never pity,

it was never sympathy,

it never is for me,

for me it’s ANGER!


Without any shame.

I get raging mad,

at whatever I need to get mad at.

I seek out those who will kick me down and like a crazy bitch I will use that to fuel me,


Every time.

Whatever it takes my friend.

You do whatever it takes


You came here to lead,

you came here to heal,

you came here to create,

and it’s your time now.

You can keep hanging out in the pubs with those who will tell you how awesome you are,

stroking your ego,

you can keep doing that.

Or you can stop holding yourself back even if only for a millisecond,

you can raise your standards for yourself,

you can embrace discomfort,

and you can start doing Soul.

Only death is inevitable,

Thriving is the choice of the brave.

With deep love and appreciation of you,


PS:  When you’re done being held to standards of average,

when you’re done settling for good enough,

when you’re done letting yourself off the hook,

then, and only then, I invite you to connect with me.

I work with soul-aligned clients;

Entrepreneurs who build purpose-driven empires of impact and who are courageous enough to step up, do the work, and reap the rewards.

I work with those who want it all in all areas of life – spiritual, physical, professional, relationships, lifestyle.




mindset, fear, courage, goals, leaders

Your commitment to your fear is simply astonishing my Darling.

What the fuck do you think you’re doing?

Standing there

Clinging to your fear

As if letting go will be the most horrific thing in the world,

As if letting go will see you fail,

see you crumble,

see you die.

They’ve made it so easy for you.

Telling you that there’s a gazillion motherfuking steps to take before you can do anything right.

Making the path to success seem overwhelming.

Preaching that you are flawed and weak and that you need their rules to be safe.

You need their structures to keep breathing.

Keeping you so exhausted with their endless to-do lists so you simply don’t have the brain capacity to THINK for yourself.

Just barely having enough energy to serve a little harder.

Thinking if you just do a little more they will see your value, you’ll be worthy of their love, their inclusion, you will finally feel like you belong.

Except you know it’s all a lie.

You’ve known for quite some time now.

That you’re magical.


Un-fuck-withable in your raw power.

But you’re stubborn Darling.

You have this story going on in your head telling you you just need a little more time.

You just need to do one more course.

You just need to find one more answer.

One more healing session.

One more hour of meditation.


oh then you’re going to let go of the fear and


You’re gonna show us what you’re really made of.

You’re gonna shine your little light in the darkness and be the beacon for all who are lost in the ocean of illusions.

Until then,

you’re just going to drift a little longer,

in the safe harbour

of your fears.

Don’t you see what’s happening?

Don’t you see that you’re not ever going to let go as long as you’re so committed to your pathetic fears?

What are they anyway?

Other than your social conditioning for belonging.

For someone,


regardless of how good or how shit they treat you,

to say they love, that you did well, that they’re proud of you.

You will do anything, sell your soul, murder your dreams, for those three little words:

“I love you”

You’ve been taught to cherish them above all else.

Another truth dripped in psychedelic bullshit.

There IS ONLY love.

Everything else,

is a lie.

Your fears –


Your desire to please –


Your ability to make others happy –


The possibility of you fucking up your life –


You simply can’t screw this up.

You can piss away opportunities to brilliance, and serve as another warning to the next generation of what a life wasted with booze and distraction and martyrdom looks like.

You can keep lying to yourself and everyone else of what your values are, your ambitions, your purpose,

but if your actions are contradicting your words,

you’re simply full of hot air.

You can keep telling me tomorrow –

both of us knowing that tomorrow will never come.

You can play it ‘safe’ aka merely exist,

the masses,

they love mediocrity Darling.

They love every soul who bows down to the fear-driven machine,

enslavement of those weak of mind.

Are you weak of mind?

Are you????

Don’t tell me that you’re not and then you sit there in the corner.

Waiting to be saved by god knows who.


YOU and only YOU

must find the willpower

the passion

the overriding commitment to LOVE

true LOVE

not the romantic horse-manure the fairy-tales are feeding you as breast-milk,

and from this space,

it’s up to you to let go of your grip,

and take that leap of faith.

Into the unknown,

into your dream life.

You must be willing to fall flat on your face,

have the assholes point at you, laughing like insane hyenas,

thinking that a little mud will deter you,

will have you turning back to their arms,

shoulders slumped,

grateful that they are willing to forgive you your audacity to believe in yourself.

But fuck ’em.

You must wipe that mud out of your eyes,

You must NEVER look back.

You must keep your gaze firmly on your purpose, your goal,

and you just keep on taking one more step.

And another.

And another.

Until you are so far ahead that you can no longer hear their piteous screams to come back.

To come help them.

To carry them.

To save them.



That only happens when YOU are willing to get YOUR shit together and start living in alignment with your truth.

You keep marching forward,

and those who desire to follow,

they will have to choose, just as you did,

to cling to the pole of fear,

or to release and leap.

And yes, they too will fall,

and they too will have to recommit, get up, wipe off the dirt, and take another step.

This is the only way that we will ever break free from the oppressors,

those who rule by creating fear and then promising to be the solution to your problems.

FEAR is simply an emotion.

It’s simply another amazing opportunity for conscious choice, for growth, for liberation.

Let go of your death grip.

It’s time.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is the choice of the brave.

You know I love you,


PS:  Here’s what you need to know about me as a coach:

  • I don’t tolerate playing small, if you only want to take baby-steps, work with someone else.
  • I don’t give you a cookie-cutter plan of action, you’re an artist, I hold the space for your creative genius.
  • I don’t shadow-box, if you get into the ring with me you better be willing to spar.
  • I’m not going to cajole and pry your fingers loose, it’s your life, YOU have to choose to leap.

Who do I work with?

  • I work with the 1% of creatives, healers, messengers who do the work and get results.
  • I work with entrepreneurs who are building purpose-aligned businesses.
  • I work with those who have the honour, the grit, the discipline of warriors of old who understand that it’s their responsibility to be their best version self:  spiritually, physically, emotionally, financially.

Why do you want to work with me?

  • It’s a soul thing.
  • You’re done being treated like a victim and you’re committed to being an inspiration for generations to follow.  I will ONLY speak to your truth, your inner power, your best self.
  • Success is your only option and you’re ready to fail until you succeed.  I know that it’s not over until you cross the line.  I will celebrate both your failures and your successes with you so that you can flip that switch of shame that’s kept you stuck for so long.
  • I shift my clients fast by holding a safe space where they can break down and break through.
  • I believe in you and will NEVER save you.

Ask your soul, and if it’s a hell yes let’s connect.


Self-doubt: It’s real Baby. What are you going to do with it?

Nobody gets excluded from feeling doubt.

I don’t care how far you are on your journey.

I don’t give a damn how successful you are.

How serene you look on the outside, photoshopped by your publicity team so nobody can see the lines of stress.

Regardless of the amount of sexy blocks on your abs, or the dollars in your bank account

there comes a time, sometimes numerous times,

when something happens

which triggers the fuck out of you

and you stop dead in your tracks.

Doubting every decision that got you to this point.

Doubting the sanity of the vision you’ve created in your mind.

Doubting yourself.

You get called out on your bravado and the gods of mischief wait in anticipation to see your next move.

What will you do?

What will you doooooooo?

Will you go into a tailspin and take out your tarot cards, your pendulum, desperately looking for a sign!

Not understanding that you’re going to get the answers based on your frantic energy.

Will you throw a royal tantrum and tell every light-being that this is complete bullshit and you’ve just had enough.

Demanding a refund of your money because clearly they’re not sitting at the right table.

Will you run to your favourite Facebook group and spew out your confusion leaving it in the hands of mostly complete strangers to give you ‘the answer’ from which to take your next step.

Will you call your trusted friends and ask them what to do because you just don’t know anymore and expect them to give you the truth when it’s in their nature to save and protect you.

Will you message your coach with your conundrum and hope they give you some motivational line that will calm you down.


will you step away.

Will you give yourself some time for the dust of confusion to settle.

Giving yourself space to breathe.

Understanding that the world won’t fall off it’s axis just because, heaven forbid, you were unavailable for a day.

Will you allow yourself to go through whatever the hell you need to go through without making a firm decision?

Just letting the process flow through you.

And go to bed at night.

Sleeping like a baby.

Because all of the drama gets to be left behind if you choose it to stay in yesterday.

Reset Baby.

Every night.

Waking in the morning, laughing your ass off at your response to something so small yesterday.

Because look,

you’re still alive!

You’re still breathing.

You still have all the talents you had before the triggers.

You still have your dreams to achieve.

You still have your purpose to live.

You still have YOU!

Nothing else really matters.

So you sit with those gods of learning and you thank them for the opportunity to press pause.

The opportunity to take another look at your goals and decide whether they are still aligned for you.

The opportunity to take another look at your actions and decide whether they are still feeling exciting for you.

The opportunity to take another look in the mirror and place your bets on yourself.

Believing in yourself.

No matter what.

Or not.

You can also choose to see your goals in a new light and decide that they’re not that important after all.

You can decide that the sacrifice, the struggle, the pain is greater than your desire for success.

You can choose to review your actions and decide they’re just too much for you to cope with.

You can choose to look in the mirror and see a little whimp.

You can put on the spectacles of bullshit that everyone has handed you throughout the years.

Telling you you’re not good enough, smart enough, talented enough, pretty enough.

That’s your choice Darling.

I’m not judging.

And just so you know, I can make fun because I still do ALL OF THIS and then some.

You should have seen me yesterday.

I was a hot mess!

Thankfully I’m at a stage where I simply move through FASTER than years ago.

I don’t resist the process.

I don’t try and deny the existence of the emotions.

I know that the sky is not going to fall in.

I know that I simply have to choose:

little bitch


toughen the fuck up, grow up a little more, get a little stronger, and keep going.

Sound a bit insensitive to you?

Maybe it doesn’t even compute for you.

Maybe you still want others to tell you that it’s okay to give up.

That it’s okay for you to settle for less than excellence because you’re still better off than half the human population.

Maybe you still want to hear that you’re doing great even though you keep walking away from your purpose because you convince yourself that you’re not that important after all.

That humanity doesn’t even know about your existence so they don’t need you to step up to the plate and swing that motherfucking ball out of the park.

That there are more than enough other people who are coaching and healing and creating epicness in the world so you get a free pass.


Stop hiding behind your excuses.

Step out from behind the skirts of your fears.

Fucking Wo-Man up and start doing the work.

The real work.

The challenging work.

The work that has you doubt yourself every single day so that every single morning you can CHOOSE to believe in yourself.

Doubt is nothing more than opportunities of choice Darling.

Choice which involves ACTION.

There’s no decision without ACTION.

Stop telling the world how you choose to believe in yourself.


We’re ready for you.

I promise you we won’t run away from you in fear.

You won’t shine too bright for us.

Only those who choose to stay stuck will abandon your journey.

Let them go huddle in the corner with each other.

Waiting for death to come.

You’re not here to save them.

You’re here to thrive.

To walk your path and inspire others who choose to follow to do so on their own steam.

Because you believe in them as much as you believe in yourself.

The soul within honouring the souls around.

Your tribe is moving ahead.

They’re not waiting for you.

It’s up to you to catch up.

That’s how achievers roll.

Are you coming?

Or are you going to tell me tomorrow?

Letting doubt hold you back another day.

And another day.

And another day.

Make no mistake my friend,

Death is inevitable.

And she is closer than anyone ever thinks.

Thriving is the choice of the brave.

You know I love you,


PS:  Choice– Stay where you are.

Action – Nothing.

Choice – TTFU and go for gold.




soul, aligned, fun, joy, meditation, empowerment, mindset, success

Do it in a way that lights up your SOUL!

Call me stubborn.

Call me obstinate.

Call me wilful.

Call me whatever you like.

It doesn’t really matter.

I’ve made the decision that I would rather listen to my soul, continuously ‘failing’ according to some social standards, than do the shit others think I ‘should’ be doing in the way they think I ‘should’ be doing it.

My soul knows.

She knows what I’m here to do.

She knows how I’m here to do it.

She knows what lights me up and what dims my enthusiasm.

And I’m very fucking enthusiastic about thriving Darling.

I suspect that the amount of information available at our fingertips, is both a blessing and a curse.

A blessing as it’s simply never been easier to connect with deep wisdom of those who so freely share from a space of genuine love and care.

A curse as it’s never been easier to get overwhelmed, to doubt yourself, to stop creating from within because you think your way is wrong.

I believe that there’s tremendous value in exploring new ways, new thoughts, new input,

but where it becomes a nasty tangle of frustration,

is when you start thinking that you have to do it ‘just so’ if you’re going to succeed.

That if you miss a single step you’re fucked!

If you don’t follow the exact methodology you don’t deserve the epic results the teacher is exhibiting.

So you keep piling on.

One thing on top of the other.

All of the time your fear rising.

It feels like too much.

You feel like you’re going to explode.

Lying in bed at night running that mile long to-do list through your head, freaking out because you missed out a crucial step.


Get up.


Don’t wake the house.

Get on your knees and ask God for the strength to do that final item before passing out.

Begging for mercy from the lords of lists.

Crying out that it was an oversight – you’re just human after all.

All that beautiful information you’ve been gathering like the dutiful student,

has turned into another insatiable monster eating your dreams alive.

I don’t know about you,

but personally I’m tired of the idea that I’m constantly getting it wrong.

I got fed up with the notion that I was stupid or not good enough.

I never agreed with the schooling system of regurgitating for approval,

that your disagreement or curious nature was a sign of failure.

And failure was seen as the ultimate humiliation,

of yourself,

of your parents.

Followed by swift punishment.

Well hun,

‘not good enough’ bedamned.

YOU are perfect just as you are.

YOU already know.

YOU already have everything it takes.

YOU simply have to start believing in yourself and start listening to your body and your soul.

One of my greatest insights recently was around meditation.

The way that’s it’s being taught doesn’t light me up.

Instead I decided to figure out what’s the purpose of meditation for ME.

It’s to connect with my higher self.

It’s to connect with love.

It’s to connect with my future self and bring her wisdom, her energetic vibration into my present experience.

It’s to shut my ego up.

It’s to connect deeply with my body – feeling her, the energy inside, the life force, the brilliance of her working mechanism.

It’s about telling Creator what I truly desire and then listening for the guidance.

Now I have to be honest,

this doesn’t happen for me when I’m lying down, eyes closed, trying desperately not to sneeze or itch or fart.

For me this happens out on my bike.

Running through the forest.

Holding my head stand.

Writing in my journal.


And I fucking LOVE it.

It feels right.

It feels good.

It’s soul aligned Baby.

Do you have any idea what a sense of relief it is to do something in a way that feels fabulous??

No longer thinking that if I don’t do it ‘just so’ I’m doing it wrong?

Be honest now, how many things are you doing at the moment that feels absolutely horrible???

Thinking that if you just keep doing it long enough you will learn to like it?

Maybe even love it?

All the while hating it.

Feeling like a failure.

Feeling like there’s something wrong with you because you’re not getting the results everyone else is.

How about we get a little bit into reality here.

What’s working for a million people doesn’t necessarily work for ten million others.

Just because only those with the results comment on the post doesn’t mean that it’s actually working for everyone else.

Everyone else is just not saying anything.

They feel there’s shame in their failure.

So they give up.

Instead of taking the tools that is being shared, digging down into the purpose of the tools, and then finding unique ways to achieve the results in a way that feels


It’s Monday – the best day for setting new intentions for the week ahead, to do things differently.

My invitation to you today is to take ONE thing that you’ve been struggling with.

One thing where you can see the VALUE in doing, but how you’re being told to do it feels like shit.

There’s a disconnect inside.

Then, go deep into what would be the PURPOSE of doing said thing.

And then,

the sprinkle on top,

HOW can you do it that feels enchanting?

Then do it for a week,

come on,

you can commit to a week,

and see the difference in result!

I would love love love to hear from you.

What did you choose, why, how did you do it, and what was the outcome.

If nothing else, you will be having way more fun.

Don’t you want to have fun???

After all, only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

With love always,


PS:  It’s been my experience and observation that when a woman allows herself to have fun, her business thrives.

For this to happen, she has to liberate herself from all the social conditioning that has her cloaked in slave-girl rags.

Sounds easier than it is.

Simply because most of the times they’re so entrenched in their stories, they’re simply not able to see that they are the ones wielding the pen.

So they create drama and heartbreak and overwhelm.

I work with women entrepreneurs who take a stand for being conscious creators of their results.

Women here to build empires of impact.

Women who understand that her empire includes everything – her business, her money, her health, her relationships, her lifestyle.

Women who use their kids for inspiration, not excuses.

Women who take full responsibility for self.

If you know in your SOUL that you’re that woman and you’re done feeling like a failure because the cookie cutter doesn’t fit your curves, let’s connect and see if this partnership can strip you of the restraints and set you free to thrive.



leadership, love, warrior, mindset, choices

How would you be showing up if you chose to be a leader?

I’m so proud of my mom!

She’s finally giving less of a fuck what others think of her.

Choosing to do what feels in alignment with her values.

Saying yes to what is important to her and no to the people and things who quite frankly aren’t.

Willing to receive the backlash of her new choices, the disapproving frowns.

Willing to say “I don’t care if it makes me a not-so-nice person”


My mom is a born warrior.

She’s been battling her programming her entire life and I have so much respect for this woman.

Even if she hadn’t given birth to me (I consider it a bonus that she did) ,







Often I share with you my own journey,

my learnings,

my experiences,

my feeling of being born into the wrong culture.

How everything about my heritage feels like nauseating bullshit to me.

The patriarchy.

The violence.

The oppression.

The silence of truth.

The abandonment of self and desire.

It’s days such as these that I understand that as hard as it’s been for me to reach a point of enough and no more, it’s even tougher for our parents generation.

Most of them have given up a long time ago.

They’ve accepted the norm as normal.

Resigned to living out their days at the mercy of the machine.

You can’t exactly blame them.

Different times my friend.

Different choices.

All divinely perfect.

My mom is not one of those who gave up.

I’ve also come to realise that often we look at those who stand on a stage for hope, wisdom, inspiration.

For leadership.

Discounting the silent warriors who don’t do it to lead the masses with guru titles prefixed to their names,

instead simply choosing to lead themselves out of the hell of unconscious existence.

Silent warriors such as my mother.

Today I pay tribute to her.

My inspiration.

My greatest supporter.

My heart.

I have come to believe that true leadership has nothing to do with other people.

True leadership comes from taking responsibility for yourself.

Until your dying day.

It’s about continuously stepping out of your comfort zone, willing to learn, willing to grow, willing to change the identity you’ve taken on before.

I’ve watched my mom go from a lifetime of saying she doesn’t run, she doesn’t do sport,

to climbing up a towering sand wall after declining paramedics because she was determined to cross the finish line by herself after a very long, very hot trail run.

In her sixties.

Fucking badass AF!

I’ve watched my mom go from a lifetime of giving in to dominance, remaining silent to keep the peace, to speaking her desires out loud.

I’ve watched my mom go from a struggling abused woman, to a fighter. Often on her knees.  Often falling down.  Often crying tears of defeat.

She kept rising.

She kept taking one more step.

Using whatever she had to cling to for inner strength.

Her faith in God.

Her love for her children.

Her sense of responsibility to put food on the table.

Whatever the fuck it took.

My mom did it.

My mom has gone through hell and back and I suspect that even Satan respects her spirit.

At one stage she stopped being my ‘parent’.

She stopped telling me what to do.

She stopped trying to save me.

She had her hands full trying to save herself, which is clearly exactly what my soul desired, as it gave me the willpower to become the woman I am today.

She had no choice but to let me fail.

No choice but to trust me to always come out on top.

Circumstances had her fighting her own demons and she understood on a deep, probably unconscious, level that she was no use to me and our soul contract if she chose to stay drugged in a desperate way to escape the pain.

I suspect that once she came through her own dark path of the soul, she was a little aghast at the choices I’ve been making ever since.

Thank god she has lots of hair otherwise she would have been bald by now.

Yet she never tried to stop me.

Most times she couldn’t comprehend why the hell I was doing what I was doing.

Why I was saying what I was saying.

But her soul believed in mine and she let me walk my own journey.

With her unconditional love by my side.

With her unconditional faith in me.

THIS my friend, in my humble opinion, is true leadership.

It’s about allowing others to have their experience in life.

Without the need to save them.

It’s about quietly going about your life, taking stock, taking responsibility, taking another step forward.

Allowing others to have their experience of you and not giving a rat’s arse.

I have come to understand that for me to be a leader, it means I have to embody the energy of a leader.

I have come to understand that we are all followers at some stage of our lives, and it is never too late to step from follower into leader.

You don’t need an online following to be a leader.

You don’t need a company to be a leader.

You don’t need applause to be a leader.

True leadership has nothing to do with others, and everything to do with the world.

True leadership is about living your life in such a way that your 45 year old daughter can sit on a Zoom call from the other side of the world, glowing with pride because you’ve made a new choice that honours YOU.

True leadership is about living your life in such a way that people can use you as a benchmark of what they love and what they hate.

And it’s powerful for the haters as well.

If we’re constantly living our lives in a way that has the masses like us, we make zero impact.

There’s no unique fingerprint left behind where we’ve had a point of contact.

Today I pay homage to all the silent warriors in the world.

I pay homage to all the silent leaders in the world.

I want you to know that even if nobody says a word,

they are watching.

And what you do, matters.

What you choose, matters.

Who you are choosing to show up as, matters.

Someone is always watching my Darling.

Your kids, regardless of their age, is paying attention.

It is my prayer that one day my children will look at my old self and pay tribute to a woman they consider to be a leader.

A woman they consider to be a warrior.

A woman they consider to be their inspiration.

Releasing the desire to control their experience of me.

How do you want your children to view you?

How do you want to be remembered?

How are you living today?

Are you making the choices that can inspire generations to come?

Or are you currently making the daily choices that serves as a warning to a more conscious generation following you?

Are you living as your best version self in all areas of your life?





in all of your relationships,

in your purpose work,

in your lifestyle?

Or are you pissing away time?

No judgement.  No shame.  No blame.

Just time for some honesty, that’s all.

Mom – I want you to know that YOU ARE MAGNIFICENCE IN HUMAN FORM.

My love and respect for you is eternal.

Thank you for being my comrade-in-arms.  I would not have wanted any other shieldmaiden on this battle-field.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

You know I love you,


PS:  Liberate yourself and finally build that empire of impact you’ve been telling us about claiming your fears, busting loose from your programming, breaking through your limiting beliefs and ending the pain which ultimately comes from living a shadow of your desired life.

This is where you claim all you’ve ever wanted from a deep knowing that you are the creator of your reality.

If this is speaking to your soul, let’s connect.



individuality, judgement, personal choice, empowerment, life coach, mindset

The ONLY stroke that matters to you, is the one that turns you on.

‘Different strokes for different folks’.

You’ve heard it.

But do you believe it?

Do you live it?

Do you respect it?

Or are you still looking at what everyone else does and trying to emulate their recipe?

Are you still looking at others smiling and then doing what they’re doing even though it leaves you feeling less than orgasmic?

Are you still tying yourself up in knots in a desperate attempt to look like the ‘cool’ kids?

Are you still doing shit you hate, in a way you hate, chanting affirmations, convinced that you will reach a point of mind over matter?

For me, one of the most useful approaches to life has been to stay open to different experiences.

And then,

to be judgemental AF.

I’m open to participate in the new, and then be honest with myself in terms of what I love, and what I hate without any of the drama.

Yes, I said hate.

Not dislike.

If I’m going to experience deep love, I am willing to experience the complete spectrum of the opposite which for me is hate.

This goes for everything and everyone.

Not that I’m saying some people and things are better than others.

I simply know by now that some people and things are better for ME.

Some have me rise to greater heights,

others bring me down to a level that feels like slug slime,

others leave me unmoved.

Point in case – personal trainers.

I’ve been enjoying some monstrous HIIT training hosted by Hannah Eden.

She is fucking FABULOUS!


Tough as nails.

She challenges.

She curses like a motherfucker.

She sets the bar as high as it goes at elite level,

and then she dares you to keep up.

She pushes every single one of my buttons, and I THRIVE!

Enter another trainer whom shall remain nameless.

Not because she sucks nickerballs,

but she does for me.

Her style?

She fucking moans and groans ALL THE TIME!

Telling you how much she’s hurting.

How shit it is.

How awesome you are just for showing up.

That it’s okay to do the least amount because that still makes you a winner in her books.

I get it (eyes rolling) – for some people, this is like sweet honey and they eat that shit up.

Personally, I couldn’t be less motivated, less inspired, less interested.

Which is perfect.

I still open myself to experience this every now and again.

There is endless beauty and power in contradiction.

Every so often I do the same with my personal coaches.

I will go experience one of the ‘sympathetic’ coaches,

just to see if there’s been a shift in me that would benefit from a softer approach.

Apparently, not yet.

Probably, never will.

I do and always will have a warrior spirit –

I live for the fight.

I lick up my sweat.

I drink my tears.

I absorb my screams.

It is what I love.

For most, this approach makes no sense.

They think it must make me hard, inconsiderate, even unloving.

Yet the complete opposite is true.

I choose this energy BECAUSE I love more than most will ever be willing to experience.

I choose this energy BECAUSE I am a liquid gold caramel inside and I choose to stay soft in my heart.

I choose this energy BECAUSE I see the magnificence in others and always want to be considerate of their soul.

I also know that not everyone thrives in this approach.

In fact, most people fold and crumble.

They often look at those with warrior hearts and think it looks like a fun way to live.

That it must be nice to go through life with big cahoonas.

Until they start walking the path.

All of a sudden it feels uncomfortable and scary.

It’s hard and it hurts a lot of the time, so their egos go into overdrive screaming that this is fucking crazy!

Run away!!

This is perfectly normal.

This is where you get to go inside and choose:

is this the right path, the right approach, the right energy for you,

or not?

There’s no shame in difference!

I simply think it’s a shame that people are too pride driven or codependent to admit when something is not for them.

I’ve often walked beside the ‘wrong’ people for me, with some interesting (aka painful) consequences.

It leads to suffering with none of the desired results.

If you’re not achieving the level of success you say you want, chances are that you’re walking on the wrong path for YOU, with the wrong people for YOU.

Drop the shame,

fuck the blame,

get honest with yourself and start judging.

EVERYTHING in your life.

Do you love it or do you hate it?

Don’t settle for anything in-between.

This judgement of what YOU love and hate are the clues from your soul to guide you towards your BEST VERSION SELF!

It’s when we do more of what we love that we soar.

It’s when we stop doing things we hate that we grow.

This is also why I don’t believe in scarcity or competition.

Instead I believe that those who truly desire for others to rise to their best, will eagerly refer the moment they see that it’s NOT the best fit for the client.

Trusting that by saying NO to the wrong clients for them, they are saying YES to the right clients for them.

There is an ancient rule – ‘First, do no harm’.

This goes both ways.

Don’t harm others.

Don’t harm yourself.

It requires a belief in abundance, and love, and good.

It requires faith in yourself, in others, in the universe.

But you can’t go wrong with this approach Darling.

Maybe you’re simply at a stage where you’ve forgotten what you love and what you hate.

Maybe you’ve been so determined not to judge, that you’ve lost the honesty that comes from judgement.

I get why!

Some people have taken ‘judgement’ and turned it into public hating on and humiliation of those they are not in alignment with.


This is not the judgement I’m referring to.

Yes, I judge others.

For myself.

For my growth.

For my certainty.

Some are my people and others aren’t.

Not to publicly make others wrong.

NOBODY is ever wrong.

They’re simply wrong for YOU.

There’s a huge difference.

Take the time this weekend to remember which strokes light you up, and which rub you up the wrong way.

Then invite in more of what you love,

and tolerate less of what you hate.


Only death is inevitable,

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

With deep love and respect,


PS:  Coaching is powerful and impactful. It’s about making the smallest changes in trajectory that leads to an entirely different outcome.

A high-performer myself, I know there’s always a way.  I’ve invested and continue to invest in myself through study, implementation, working with exceptional coaches and mentors, physically challenging events and above all dedication to my craft, to have the resilience, strategies and innovation to find the puzzle pieces that has me create the outcomes I truly desire.

But the deepest truth is that I lived most of my life feeling like an imposter. I could appear confident on the outside whilst dying on the inside.  Regardless of how much I achieved in life, I envied those around me who always seemed to create more or bigger or better than I ever could.

Turns out that this feeling of inadequacy and relentless drive for more eventually became my gift in working with high performing men and women. You see, I am exceptionally gifted at seeing the true power in people—even when they can’t see it for themselves.

My clients do things that few ever dream of. They are dynamic, passionate and successful, yet whatever is coming next still feels like a really big leap of faith.

I help courageous people who already achieve ‘impossible’ goals to achieve what still looks ‘impossible’ to them.

If this sounds like you, let’s talk and explore if working together is a good partnership.