A word so many of my clients have been going into battle with lately.
Programmed by their mothers, fathers, teachers and preachers to cower before the word itself.
Thinking that if they’re feeling afraid,
it means there’s something wrong with them.
Because surely a brilliant, smart, confident woman should be fearless?
Fear is one of the fundamental emotions all humans feel.
Unless of course their high on drugs or bat-shit crazy.
I want you to know that you’re never ever ever going to be fearless.
I also want you to know that the fear is not the enemy.
The real enemy are all those ignorant idiots telling you that you have to run away from fear.
As if you could hide from fear.
As if putting your head in the sand makes it go away.
OMG that is absurd!
When your head is in the sand all you see is darkness.
Most people are scared of the dark.
Plus you have your entire ass hung out to dry for god knows whatever you don’t want to face, waiting for the inevitable pain as you feel fangs sinking into your flesh, ripping you to pieces.
Are you kidding me?
Seriously Darling, think for yourself!
What is fear?
Fear is a message.
Sometimes she’s telling you there’s some real physical danger about.
Whether that is the fact that you will explode like a water-filled balloon if you jump off the cliff,
or that the person with whom you’re sharing space is killing you softly with their words and actions.
You feel her desperately trying to shake you awake by the quiver in your body, the adrenaline to flee, the thickening of your throat.
WAKE THE FUCK UP AND PAY ATTENTION TO HER!
She is your bestie and if you start trusting her you will go way further, way easier.
Mostly she is showing you the way to FUCKING SPECTACULAR!
She is lighting the path to your personal growth.
Showing you where you will have the most fun if you find the courage to accept her challenge.
your fear has a wicked sense of humour.
Think of yours truly, shaking ass, teasing and taunting you, and that’s your fear.
She loves waving that red flag in front of your eyes and tempt you with whatever delicious reward lies just behind her.
You know what I’m talking about –
Those moments when you catch a glimpse of something you really really really want.
There’s a shiver up your spine.
Your face smiles.
Your body lights up with heat
sweat instantly forming in your armpits.
that moment when excitement turns to terror.
What if I fail?
What if I don’t have what it takes?
What if I look like a complete idiot and everyone shuns me?
You start piling that heap of ‘reasons’ as to why this was a stupid idea to begin with
feeding your fear with gas
when all she wanted to do was lead you to greatness.
Instead you’ve once again turned her into the monster.
You blame her for your lack of courage and adventure.
You blame her for the illness in your body.
You blame her for all the shit in your life because if only you weren’t so afraid you would make the changes.
If only you weren’t so terrified you would leave the toxic relationship.
If only you weren’t so petrified you would take the action that will transform your entire life.
SNAP OUT OF IT!
It’s time for some reprogramming around Fear.
I’m tired of her getting such a raw deal from humanity when she is not the problem.
Sit your ass down.
Take out your journal.
And write down what you are afraid of.
What is that thing that you fear?
And then ask Fear,
what is the message she’s so desperately trying to get through to you?
Are you in physical danger?
This is the only danger you should take seriously.
Anything else, is just bloated ego.
Is there an area of your life where you’re playing small?
Is it time to grow a pair?
Is adventure lurking around the corner, waiting for you to come find her?
Fear will always tell you.
You simply need to start trusting her.
If you want to take this further, ask yourself – what is the worst thing that could happen if you actually go for it?
When I entered my first IronMan I knew the worst thing that could happen is I could drown.
I could die.
So fucking what?
I’m going to die anyway Gorgeous.
There’s no escaping death.
I’ve decided that if I’m going to become dust or fish food eventually anyway,
I’m going to have one helluva ride on the way to my coffin.
You can choose the same.
Or you can choose to keep cowering in the corner.
You can choose to keep surrounding yourself with the people who hold up the shadows, elongating them on the walls.
You can choose to stay stuck and miserable.
Never feeling the exhilaration of walking courageously on wonky legs to the finish line of achievement.
Fear is not the enemy.
She’s not what will lead to your death.
She’s not what’s causing your average existence.
Only death is inevitable.
Thriving truly is the choice of the brave.
You know I love you,
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It’s never a life of adventure that leaves you feeling washed out and drained.
It’s a life of existence.
You can always choose to let another year float away in a sea of wasted opportunities.
Or you can choose to change your course, take back control, and be the captain of your ship.
Tick tock Gorgeous.
What will it be?