how we trick ourselves.
Telling ourselves that our academic knowledge makes us wise.
Except wisdom is the training of knowledge.
It’s when you take that which you’ve learned and you train it into the very fibre of your being.
Training involves repetition.
When others say it’s boring, they’ve done it before, they want something new, the masters know to bring the same intensity to number 1000 as they did to number 1.
It’s when you not only say the words but live the actions.
You integrate it into your everyday life.
For me one of the greatest gifts of my purpose is the way in which I create a life filled with opportunities to train the powerful tools of growth I receive.
So it is with the understanding that people are our mirrors.
I came across this concept years ago.
For a while I even practiced it.
I told myself that I was looking at the mirrors except I would do so in a way that didn’t have me feeling too shit about my true behaviours.
At first I would only find those that I admired and I would say ‘Oh goody, look at the potential magnificence mirrored back to me! Because if they can do it, so can I.’
Then I would find those that I found painful to be around and I would console myself with ‘Clearly they are showing me what I don’t want to be spending my time on.’
Do you see what I’m seeing?
I wasn’t looking in the mirror.
I was simply interpreting the concept in a way that didn’t demand responsibility.
I was putting a new spin on the idea in a way that didn’t make me feel into my truth.
For me, the truth is that people weren’t mirroring potential or what I didn’t want to be doing.
They were and continue to mirror what I AM and AM NOT DOING.
Just because the physical expression is different, doesn’t mean that the essence isn’t the same.
It took me a while to find the courage to truly practice the concept of mirrors.
It’s one that I now implement on a regular basis in my journal.
Her pages filled with individuals who are in my current experience and then delving into the truth of what the mirror is showing me which I didn’t want to see in myself.
This goes both ways by the way.
The self-sabotaging behaviours and also the beautiful behaviours.
I personally find it way easier to embrace the ‘negative’ mirrors – Thor knows that nobody is harder on me than I am on myself! And yet I would whitewash the impact of said behaviours. What I’ve come to learn is that every time someone really pisses me off, every time someone makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up, every time that I would despise the behaviour in others, I am showing same said behaviour in some aspect of my life. OUCH!
The gift in this is that I now get to choose consciously.
I get to choose if I want to continue with that behaviour and simply deflect my bullshit on others, or if I choose to own this for myself and change my behaviour.
Knowing that my behaviour does not equal who I am.
I really want you to understand this today – your behaviour doesn’t equal who you are!! It does not define you.
It’s the belief that behaviour = identity that keeps so many people hiding in shame.
What do we say to this?
Fuck that shit!
The effect of owning this in myself is that there’s not a single person I hate anymore.
You might be shocked saying how could I hate??? I’m gonna go to hell for hating.
Well hun, clearly I desired to experience deep love so I created in my life opportunities to feel deep hate.
Opposite sides of the same coin.
Yin and yang.
More than the ‘bad’, I struggled for the longest time to recognise the mirrored good in myself. The fact that I have a tremendous heart and uncapped love. The fact that I have an ancient wisdom inside of me that I have promised to remember and share with you at this time. The fact that I have the soul of a warrior and I bring my resilience, my honour, my dedication to the world at a time filled with disconnection and laziness.
I battled reconciling myself with the good inside because owning this part of me places a huge responsibility on my shoulders. It means that I actually have to choose whether I’m going to be coy and pretend that I’m just a mousy little old lady hiding in the forest, or if I’m going to share all of me with the world.
Nothing left to hide.
And before you say of course you want to share all of you with the world, I’m going to invite you to ask yourself if this is true?
I’ve found sharing myself with the world is scary AF.
I’ve found that not giving a shit because I care deeply is a double edged sword.
Just because I brush the haters off doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt when people attack me.
So I’m going to ask you today Darling, what are others mirroring in you?
What are your dearest friends, admired mentors, inspiring role models mirroring in you?
What are your most frustrating loved ones, your most infuriating clients, your most hated assholes mirroring in you?
Without the shame.
Coming from a space of genuine curiosity and desire to reclaim conscious choice.
For it’s in our conscious choices that we become conscious creators.
And there’s NOTHING that you can’t create in your life.
But you have to get honest with yourself first.
You have to own your current behaviours.
You have to claim your current greatness.
in a show of brilliance,
you bring all of this to the table and share your best version self with the world.
THIS is your greatest legacy.
Only death is inevitable Darling.
Thriving is still the choice of the brave.
PS: Hiding who you are because you fear judgement and criticism might be considered acceptable in todays society, but you and I both know that this cowardly behaviour is eating up your soul!
We both know that you have inside of you a gift that is unique and formidable.
We both know that you have everything you need right now, in this moment, to create epic success in every area of your life.
We both know that you have what it takes to be completely FREE!
But we also know that being this person, the one who can achieve more in a day than most do in a month, can be lonely.
It’s not easy to talk freely about your strengths when others experience that as boasting.
It’s not easy to create the life of your dreams when nobody is willing to hold up the mirror for you to fully own your current reality.
I’m often the only person in my client’s world not there to please them. I won’t sprinkle it with candy to make it sweet. I won’t let your fears keep you in the corner. I won’t believe your ‘stories’ regardless of how convinced you are of their truth. And I won’t buy into your bullshit. I’ll tell you how it is. I’ll say what no one else in your world is bold enough to say. And I’ll do that from an authentic, vulnerable and loving place.
When you’re ready we will talk about forming a potential partnership.
And your life WILL become legendary.