Increase the quality of your results through the quality of your breath

She runs so freely.
Powerfully.
With true abandon.
No thought to control the process.
Just pure exhilaration.
I hear it in her rhythmic breathing.
Not rushed in the least but instead a deep inhalation and same length of exhalation.
Chrissie is not just built for speed.
She’s built for endurance Baby.

As I listen to her breathing I reconnect to my own.

I’m instantly reminded of the impact of breath on everything in my life.

I’m not just talking about the obvious – that as long as I breathe I’m defined as alive.

But the small nuances that most people miss.

I first learned about the impact of my breath in kickboxing.

When I connect to my breath and work WITH it, I drastically increase my physical power output.

I draw energy with my inhalation, and I explode force with my exhalation.

On my bike I learned that for endurance and tempo it’s absolutely crucial that I don’t give in to the natural tendency to rush my breath.

For the faster I inhale, the less oxygen I bring to my muscles.

Which means I quickly have to exhale because my muscles are hungry wolves demanding more fuel.

But a quick exhalation results in most of the carbon dioxide remaining in my lungs which means there’s even less space for the next layer of oxygen.

This is why we blow!

Not because we get tired.

Not because we’re weak.

Because we disconnect with our breath and the moment we lose control over it everything goes to hell.

For iconic results you have to stay connected to your breath.  Focus on the inhalation – making it long and slow.  Focus on the exhalation – equally long and slow.

More oxygen in.

More carbon dioxide out.

More power in.

More shit out.

It works exactly the same in business Darling.

The quality of your results is hugely impacted by the quality of your breath so you better start paying attention to it.

Most people have fallen into the habit of shallow breathing.  Which largely means they’re in a perpetual state of stress – stressed bodies, stressed minds.

It doesn’t take much for them to completely get caught up in dramatic stories and the more submerged they become, the faster they breathe and the more anxious they feel.

They start taking erratic action but since the driver is in a space of fear, the quality of the action is poor and the energy is one of desperation.

And of course the results are poor which makes you breathe even faster, spiralling you further down into the abyss of panic!

STOP!

Fuck.

Slow down.

Connect to your body.

Breathe!

This by the way is why running is so powerful for mindset work.

When you run and you lose control of the breath, you get a stitch which immediately causes pain, bringing you back to your body!

Keep doing this and eventually you will connect to the breath and learn to control it so that you tap into your endurance potential.

If you’re sitting behind your desk and you feel that the world is crowding in, that you’re breathing like a fish out of water, go put on your running shoes and run as if your life depends on it!  Because it does.

Connect with your breath.

Connect with your power.

Feel your mind clear.

Feel the bullshit draining away as the sweat pours down your body.

And then come back,

breathe in,

release,

focus,

create.

Except this time around stay connected to your breath.  Become super aware of it.  Slow it down.

Breathing deeply also has a powerful connection to faith in abundance.

You exhale fully because you trust that there will always be more air to inhale.

You exhale fully because you know that there’s an abundance of oxygen and you have no need to fear taking a lot because you’re not taking away from anyone else.

The Universe has set things up perfectly that there will always be more oxygen for everyone regardless of how many people walk on the face of the earth so take your fill Darling.

As the fog lifts from your mind through the increase in oxygen, you start understanding that abundance aka wealth aka money is exactly the same as air.

There’s always more than enough for everyone.

There’s no scarcity so you can stop living in the shallows for the more you exhale the more capacity you have to inhale.

As the quality of your breathing improves, so does the quality of your thoughts.

It’s like magic!

You start understanding that it’s not about how many actions you take each day, but the quality of your actions.

Same as breathing.

You start understanding that when you create your work from a place of deep breathing, your results improve because it’s presented with calm and confidence.

Yes

The deeper you breathe the more confident you feel.

So give it a try.

Put your hand on your tummy so you can remember what it feels like to take deep belly breaths.

Close your eyes.

Take a nice deep inhale through your nose, and release it with a sigh through your mouth just letting everything go.  Feel your shoulders go down.  Feel how you sink into your body again.

Hmmm, feels good doesn’t it?

Now focus on your breath.  Four counts in through the nose, hold it for a count of four, exhale for a count of four, hold for a count of four.  Do a minimum of ten rounds.

This is referred to as Pranic (meaning life force) breathing.

It is powerful.

Immediately you feel calm.

You feel focussed.

You feel more energized.

Always come back to your breath.

Set your timer to go off every few hours to check in on your breath and to reconnect.

The more you do, the more connected you will become until eventually you reach a point where you have taken control back of your breathing.  Deep.  Rhythmic.  Nourishing.

I guarantee you that your state will change.

The quality of your actions will change.

The quality of your results will change.

After all, thriving is a mindset.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  When last have you checked in with your body?

When last have you connected with your sacred vessel and received the messages she stores for you?

The body, the mind and the soul is you triad of potential.

They are all connected.

Not a single one is more important than the others.

Not if you’re a high achiever.

Not if you’re on a mission to succeed at iconic levels that inspire others to make conscious empowering choices.

Which is why I don’t believe in compartmentalised coaching.

My coaching style is holistic, taking into account all aspects of you, your life, your ambitions.

We often work on the areas you’ve been neglecting and which quite frankly is now causing you to have a lopsided life full of discomfort and frustration.

Because you know you were born for greatness.

You know you’re here to make an impact.

And settling for those average results is simply unacceptable.

Ready to thrive Gorgeous?

Book your consult today and let’s play.

Are you sending God half-assed telegrams of desire?

You know the saying “Ask and it is given”?

Well God wants to know why the fuck you’re not asking properly?

She says that all she’s getting from you is half-assed telegrams and she’s kinda confused as to why you’re bitching and moaning so much about your results (or as you state it, lack of results).

She’s giving you exactly what you’re asking for, so if you want chocolate stop asking for shit.

This is what came through my journaling.

And of course at first I got my back up.

Of course I went into defensive mode.

Of course I threw a wee tantrum exclaiming “What do you mean I’m not asking properly?  You’re God.  Can’t you read my mind?”

She laughed.

When I finally jumped from my high horse and started doing the introspection, getting out of my own drama, taking off my 3D glasses, it finally all made sense.

This is the missing link I see in 100% of clients when they first start working with me.

There is no clarity.

People say they want to be rich.

People say they want to be free.

People say they want to be wildly successful.

People say they want to have a shit hot body.

People say they want to have fabulous relationships.

But here’s the thing Darling – we are all unique.  Which means for each and every one of us these concepts have different meanings!

One person’s rich is another person’s poor.

One person’s free is another person’s prison.

And when we are continuously shooting off these half-assed rockets of desire we get exactly what we asked for and then feel cheated as we’re left dissatisfied because in our minds it looked different.

In our minds we live in LaLa land.

We skip and dance naked without cellulite, riding unicorns and there are no debt collectors.

Everyone kisses our ass and behave exactly how we want them to in order for us to be happy.

Because, you know, the world revolves around us!

Small problem –

For the leader, the creative, the achiever, LaLa land is boring AF.

Your soul detests LaLa land because she’s a powerful bitch who thrives on challenge, learning, overcoming, achievement, expansion.

She understands that in order for you to be happy you first have to get to a space of complete empowerment.

A space where you finally get that YOU are the creator of your reality.

A space where you finally stop the blame and shame and take control understanding that when you master your internal world, you master your external world.

She understands that in order for you to be happy you first have to own your dark side.

Realising that all relationships are mirrors providing the most loving opportunity to investigate your shadow and choose your behaviour from this place.  That means you appreciate relationships for what they are but you also release relationships once the learning is complete.  You stop hanging on to other people for dear life.  Your thrive does not depend on anyone else so you stop suffocating them with your neediness.  Instead you can choose to enjoy them for the time they are sharing your journey in a way that feels amazing for both of you.

Your soul understands that in order for you to be happy you want the odd challenge so you have the opportunity to scratch your head and be creative.  After all, you are a creative force!  You were never meant to be a mindless drone consuming all in your path without a second thought of how to contribute to the thriving of our gorgeous planet.

Everything that you’re cursing in life is in fact your greatest blessings!

Your soul understands that in order for you to be happy you want evidence of your creative power and the only way to do that is to hold a very clear vision and then building it in your world.  This is the point where you finally take the time to dig deep.  To go beyond the surface level work and instead connecting with your soul purpose, your soul desires, your soul wisdom.  This is when you go into the tiniest little details until you can taste it, smell it, feel it in your body.  Where the vision is so compelling you can’t sit still for a moment longer.  You don’t want to sleep.  You don’t want to waste your time with distractions.

YOU ARE OBSESSED!

Sweet spot Baby, Sweeeeeeet spot!

This is where you thrive.

This is where you are swept up by your passion and you become super-human!

This is where you crap your pants and move through the fear because not creating THIS is simply not an option.

You don’t care how long it takes.

You don’t care how much you have to sacrifice.

You don’t care how little you sleep.

You don’t care what the haters say.

All of that stuff is the stuff of your lower level self.  And the moment you connect with your soul desires you move next level.

This is the time you get the fact that the Universe is always on your side and you are delighted at the unfolding of miracles in your life.

And here’s the funny thing –

You start celebrating EVERYTHING!

Not just the things that you thought you wanted but all the challenges, all the seeming failures, all the disappointments.

Because you now understand that everything happens for you.

And since you are crystal clear on your desires, and you know that you always receive what you ask, your fear evaporates!

This is why most people live in doubt by the way.

They are in perpetual fear because they are vague on what they’re asking and their subconscious minds know this.

So why would they find the blessing in everything when they don’t understand that everything is to keep them on course to your true desires?  After all, the Big U has a front row seat from which to view the entire playing field compared to your limited vision.

My friend, are you ready to stop being one of the 99.9999% drifting around in uncertainty?

Are your ready to stop waking up each morning deflated, defeated, frustrated, angry, fearful?

Are you ready to stop the blame and shame and take back your power?

It all starts with a decision.

Let me here you shout it out loud!

“I AM THE MASTER OF MY OWN SHIP!”

YEEEEEEEAH!

Now sit your sexy ass down, take out that journal and pen and start digging.

Here’s you question – “What do I have on desire?”

Set your timer for 1 hour!

And you keep asking yourself that question and going deeper and deeper.

Everything.

Get it all out on the paper.

Nothing is too big or too small.

But make sure you’re being true to yourself and your soul.

No ego allowed.

Oh I’m so excited for you.

You truly are magnificent my friend, and you have just taken the first step into your next level self.

How does it feel????

Write me a mail and let me know!

It’s important to share this stuff.

anel@anelbester.com

Don’t keep it in any longer.

For death is inevitable.

Thriving is a choice.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  We are in the final two weeks of Ignite session!

90 minutes of pure clarity, kick-ass goals and solid beliefs.

Limited spaces are available so stop thinking and start doing.

I’ll see you on the other side.

 

 

 

Are you living in a perpetual state of pain or pleasure?


When I first heard that we all have two main driving forces – getting away from pain and heading towards pleasure – I thought, how wonderful and simple.

To have a phenomenally happy life all I needed to do was identify what causes me pain and run the fuck away from it and pinpoint what will bring me joy and chase that.

Right?

Well kinda, but it goes deeper than that.

What I discovered is that I can’t run away from the actual thing which causes me pain aka the stories I tell myself about people, about things, about life.

I also can’t cross an actual finish line and all of a sudden find I’m happy.  For joy is a feeling and as with any emotion it’s internal based on the stories I choose to tell myself about people, about things, about life.

For the longest time I fell into the same trap I see so many others stuck in – I made my happiness dependent on other people and things and as that’s impossible, I was in perpetual misery.

So I would use substances to dull the pain of the story in my head of how it’s never enough which means I’m not enough, which means I’m worthless.  And of course I would attract every asshole in a fifty kilometre radius to confirm the bullshit.

I started over drinking, over eating, over training, anything and everything that was socially acceptable to some extend.

I went from being critically emancipated to a fat bitch with rolls hanging over the top of my jeans to skeletally thin to chubby cheeked.

Sunday I would be fall down drunk puking my lungs out and Monday I would write the exams to get the acclaimed honours degree.

I would set the goals that I believed would make me happy as it would provide social recognition and what could possibly be better than having the social noddy badge of success?

The husband, the kids, the house, the business, the sporty red car, the degrees, the dogs, the cats, the hamsters which got eaten by the cats, the fish which got eaten by the cats, the holidays.

Tick

Tick

Ticked the boxes

BOOM!

When you abandon your truth, you personal values, your love for self, you’re miserable AF.

You might tell yourself it’s not that bad, but if you’re not happy, you’re sad.

There’s no middle ground.

There’s no grey area.

If you feel like there is – that you’re neither here nor there – you’re simply drifting in the hypnosis of existence.

For me existence is worse than death.

It’s mind numbing pain that cuts your soul to shreds.

Been there, done that, flushed that toilet.

Instead I choose thrive.

Thrive means that you nourish your body so that she feels on fire with passion and sensual energy and creativity and exuberance and mobility.

Thrive means that you take hold of your mind and you choose what you believe in a way that empowers you and has you living your best version self.

Thrive means that you recognise the power of your soul and allowing her full expression of her potential by getting out of your own way and letting the art through.

The art that you’re here to create.

The art that is pounding in your heart, begging for release, for holding it in becomes unbearable and your soul will only tolerate it for so long before brining you to your goddamned knees so you will bow down to the power that is you!

It is only in the release of your potential that you will ever find true happiness.

When you recognise the bullshit and choose consciously what you think.

About people.

About things.

About circumstances.

And in order for you to start steering your ship you HAVE to start becoming aware of what you’re saying.

To yourself when you think nobody is listening.

To yourself when you’re not even listening.

To others.

Your words are your wand and everything that you choose to form with letters you choose to form in your material experience.

So if you’re continuously telling yourself that your boss is a doos, you will always experience him as such.

If you’re continuously telling yourself that you’ll be unhappy, unworthy, unloved until you become rich, you will always experience yourself as unhappy, unworthy and unloved regardless of how much money you have in your bank account.

If you’re continuously telling yourself that nothing will ever change until it changes but you don’t take different action, you will always experience nothing changing.  Except it is!  For nothing stays static.  Which means even when you think it’s remaining the same it’s fucking deteriorating!  Without expansion there is only death.

Which all comes down to the truth that you can’t move away from pain or towards pleasure.

What you can do is to start identifying the stories that you’re telling yourself and feel into which ones cause you pain and which cause you pleasure.

Change your stories and you will change your experience of life!

Does this mean that you will stay in the miserable job, the passionless relationship, the out-of-shape body?

Of course not!

Your natural state is thrive and when you start aligning your thoughts with joy, your actions automatically changes and so does your results.

Your external world is simply a reflection of your internal world.

So if you think your life stinks it’s because your thoughts are shit.

If you think life is box of chocolates you know that your thoughts are setting you up for a good time so you want to think more of those!

And life is about continuous expansion.

Which means the more you thrive, the more you want to thrive!

The more you thrive, the more humanity thrives!

But it’s the choice and responsibility of every single person to wake up!

To fight for their lives by questioning the voices in their heads.

The values handed down to them by an outdated system.

The senseless pursuit of external happiness.

It’s time to stop fooling yourself Darling and to take a good hard look in the mirror.

Are you happy?

I mean really happy?

With who you are?

With the choices you’re making in life?

With your relationships?

With your vocation?

With your body?

All of it counts.

And if you’re not happy, own up to the fact that it means you’re sad.

Own the fact that sad is a choice and ask yourself why are you choosing to be sad right now?

Why are you choosing to play that broken record of stories which bring you pain?

Why are you choosing to be a victim to bullshit?

Make no mistake – being a victim is way easier than being a warrior.  Victims get Molly-coddled.  Victims get sympathy.  Victims get saved by Prince Charming except Prince C is a codependent narcissist who will continue your story of despair.

I spent many years in the guise of a victim.

Sucked the fucking life out of me.

Today I choose to be a warrior!

I choose to bleed for my art.

I choose to rise and continue the fight.

I choose to be aligned with my truth.

I dictate the story in my head.

And my story brings me joy.

Death is inevitable.

You can choose to thrive until then.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  Mindset is everything!

That is because your mindset dictates your beliefs, your emotions, your actions, your results.

Whether you’re ready for a change in your physical body, your relationships, your wealth or your business, it all starts with mindset.

It starts with unearthing that which is in your subconscious so you can choose to release what no longer serves you.

It’s about learning how to install the beliefs that will support you in creating your dream life AND being happy on the journey to your destination.

Thrive is a choice my clients make because being miserable brings no measure of true expansion and my clients are the leaders, creatives and achievers who are on a mission of living iconic lives.

Lives of legacy.

Lives creating more abundance for all.

Lives of passion.

Lives of purpose.

If you’re ready to choose thrive then book your consult today and let the games begin.

But only if you’re serious about being the captain of your ship.

 

 

 

Beware the energy vampires in leadership clothing

Everything matters.

Everyone matters.

In your personal space.

In your social space.

In your online space.

It’s called emotional contagion – the psychological phenomenon where we start taking on the personality traits of those we spend our time with.  We start becoming like those around us.

This includes vibrating on the same level as them.

And there’s a lot of fucking low vibrating vamps out there at the moment Darling bringing others to the ground without them ever realising they’ve bent their knees.

Their hunger is insatiable.

Their hunger for sympathy.

Their hunger to suck the high vibration out of those who are dedicated to their art and doing the work.

The real work.

The work that has them showing up as true leaders for their soul tribes.

Whether that soul tribe is clients or family or friends.

These vamps are vibrating on the bottom of the ocean and it’s their mission to bring everyone down to their own level.

And they’re oh so crafty about it.

They don’t walk around with a big sign stating “I’m taking you down with me!”, sharpened teeth overhanging their lower lips, energetic blood dripping down their chins.

Oh no!

Instead they worm themselves into positions of trust, where they say the right words, have the right titles, make the right claims, except there is an energetic discord between what they are saying and what they are doing.

They are very likeable.

They pull you in with their charm and their promises and then slowly but surely they start complaining a little here, a little there.  Next thing you know they share their constant struggles and have mini meltdowns on social media.  They come into your space and sit with slumped shoulders waiting for you to kiss their booboo.

Seeking sympathy.

And OMG do they receive an abundance of sympathy!

Every Tracy, Henriette and Sally throws their energetic arms around them, soothing, rocking, comforting.

Smothering them with words of ‘sorry’ and ‘it will be all-right’ and ‘hang in there’.

The vamp gets exactly what she wanted.

She starts smiling.

She raises her chin.

Yeah!  She’s overcome everything!

Just look at her – what a real little trooper.

But what the sly bitch has done is bring all the sympathisers to an energetic pause in their lives.  For a moment they lowered their vibration to be equal to hers in a show of sisterhood and instantly they’ve taken themselves off their previous trajectory.

Tell me honestly:

Are you an energetic vampire?

or

Are you a vampiric feast?

This sounds harsh but quite frankly the world is changing too fast and there’s too much turmoil for us to continue tolerating this behaviour.

Who is it serving other than those who are working to keep you small?

Know that it’s not your responsibility to save anyone else!

Your soul responsibility is to become your best version self thereby inspiring others through your example to pull up their proverbial socks, do the fucking work, and choose to thrive for themselves.

As a leader it’s your responsibility to surround yourself with other leaders who focus on creative solutions NOT the losers who only see the boulder stating it’s a mountain.

Where in your life are you still tolerating the slow suck of a vampire?

Everywhere counts!

Are you hanging in groups where there’s a shit ton of vamps thinking that as long as you don’t get caught up in their posts you’ll be okay?

You’re fooling yourself Gorgeous.

They only need your energetic stamp in the group to hook you.

More importantly, why are you tolerating it?

What is the value, the belief system, that says it’s your fucking responsibility to save those who are too bloody lazy to save themselves?

Everyone has the ability, the capability, of rising above their challenges and thrive!

Sympathy doesn’t provide the foundation for strength.

So the more you sympathise, the more you are feeding their addiction to victimhood.

Does this mean that leaders don’t have meltdowns?

That leaders are fearless?

That leaders are always confident and have their shit together every single minute of every day in every area of their lives?

HELL NO!

But true leaders take up the calling knowing that stepping into the front means you have a massive responsibility to show up for your tribe as your best version self.

This is why true leaders always have the professional support required to keep it together.

They work through their private shit in private with trusted advisors, mentors and coaches.

They do the mindset work every single day to ensure that they have the grit to weather the storm.

To instill confidence in their followers.

Never once have I seen a true leader expect to be sheltered from the storm.

A true leader takes the brunt of it knowing and believing that every obstacle, every hardship, every challenge, is a gift for learning and strength.

A true leader feels the fear and takes the action regardless.

Leadership is different for everyone.

Maybe you’ve chosen to be the leader of your family.

Step the fuck up and lead!

Maybe you’ve chosen to be the leader in your company.

Step the fuck up and lead!

Maybe you’ve chosen to be the leader in your community.

Step the fuck up and lead!

Lead with honour.

Lead with conviction.

Lead with faith.

The warrior doesn’t stand on the battle ground telling everyone around him how terrified he is.

He sucks it up.

He puts his game face on.

He prays to his maker and he makes his peace to die today if that is what it will take!

Will you die for your tribe?

Will you?

If not, get off the pedestal, go do the work, and come back.

Or stay in the back.

There is no shame in being part of the crowd if that is where you truly desire to be.

There is only shame in dragging those who trust you down into your pity party.

It’s time for the true leaders to step up and ruthlessly evict the vampires!

My castle.

My rules!

What are you choosing today?

For only death is inevitable.

Thriving, leadership, is a choice.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  I am the least sympathetic coach you will ever come across.

That’s because I believe in you.

I believe that you are capable of eradicating your self-limiting beliefs, reset your emotional set point, and succeed!

I believe that anything you can possibly dream of, you have the ability to achieve, regardless of how impossible it may seem at the outset.

I believe that whatever you see in another that triggers a desire in you is available to you as well.

But I also believe that you have to stop playing around with your goals.

I believe that for you to become the leader, the creative, the achiever you claim to be you have to do the work.

The real work.

And you need to fight your demons in a sacred space created just for you out of the public eye.

That is the space I hold for my clients.

A judgement free, bullshit free space where you get to make empowered choices of how you show up.

A space where you get to cry, curse, shake and tremble knowing that by the time we part ways you will have the t-spoon of cement in your espresso to go back and kick ass.

I work with those who choose to thrive.

If you’re ready for the ride book your consult here.

 

 

Stop being such a selfish bitch and instead choose to thrive!

You were born for greatness.

Of this I have no doubt.

That’s because out of the billions of people walking around, you are completely unique.

You have something special that nobody else has.

Whether that be a specific talent, or your vibrant energy, or massive ability to express love, or a wicked sense of humour.

Unique.

And if you play in my space you came here to make an impact.

You came at a time when there is massive transformation on this planet.

A time when chaos seems to be at the order of the day.

But in truth, the chaos is simply change.

Big change!

And no change happens in comfort.

So instead systems are crumbling and some are getting crushed under the rubble.

People are starting to understand that they are way more powerful than they were brought up to believe and that yes, they are co-creators of everything that they see around them.

This level of responsibility is daunting at first, liberating in the extreme!

And with this shift in perspective it’s time for you to step up to the plate and play your part in human evolution.

It’s time for you to get off the victim bandwagon and to mount your steed.

It’s time for you to stop feeling exhausted and overwhelmed and out of your depth and a fucking martyr and instead choose to thrive.

Because it’s not about you!

It’s about all the lives you promised to impact.

In whatever form that impact takes.

It might be in the nourishing foods that you serve, reconnecting people to their bodies and what it feels like to refuel compared to the sluggishness they feel when poisoning their bodies with crap.

It might be increasing their confidence and radiance with a gorgeous new hairstyle that has them showing up on a higher vibration to do their life work.

It might be sharing your story inspiring strangers to find their own personal brand of passion and purpose so they may liberate hundreds of thousands of souls to break free from the monotony of existence.

It might be dressing them in the finest of garments thereby providing a vehicle of expression for their own personal style which enhances their inner beauty.

Whatever it is, stop underestimating the importance of what you are here to do!

And stop thinking that you can have that massive impact when you’re struggling and exhausted and stressed out!

That’s total bullshit!

I was criticised once again for my focus on wealth creation in my personal life – told that I’m obsessed with money and that it is wrong and makes me evil.

What will it take for you to get that IT’S NOT ABOUT THE MONEY?  IT’S ABOUT THE IMPACT!

Let’s stop pretending that you can have a massive impact on a penny.

For one thing, the work we came here to do is energy intensive to say the least.

It takes money to surround yourself with the support required for you to be freed up from the mundane tasks and to focus on your zone of genius.

It takes money to nourish your body with the best food so that your engine keeps purring for hours.

It takes money to get your message out to a bigger audience thereby impacting more lives.

It takes money to get those weekly massages which has your muscles release toxins and knots thereby increasing the energy flow throughout your physical and energetic bodies.

It takes money to thrive!

And for me to thrive means to be in service to my soul clients and to make a difference.

To thrive is leaving behind a legacy which makes me a proud momma.

To thrive is to increase not only my own vibration, but every single person I have the privilege of coming into contact with.

I believe that to thrive is the most honourable thing to do.

And it’s time for you to get this as well.

YOU my Darling, were born to thrive.

I implore you, stop playing so fucking small.

Stop thinking it’s good to struggle.

Stop thinking that it’s normal to have anxiety attacks, feel depressed, pop pills, eat junk, sit on your ass.

It might be normal for average people, but YOU’RE NOT AVERAGE!

Yet nothing will change until you decide to change your beliefs of what is normal and good.

Nothing will change until you decide that you’re worthy, whole and enough.

Nothing will change until you tap into your soul tribe and understand that what you do, whatever you do, is not a luxury in their lives, but a necessity.

Nothing will change until you fall in love with yourself to say ‘fuck the naysayers’ and stop believing their bullshit.  What they believe to be true might be true for them, but you get to decide your own truth~

Nothing will change until you own the fact of who you truly are.

What will it take for you to reach this point?

How many more years are you prepared to wait?

How many excuses will you hold on to in order for you to play small?

Your kids.

Time.

Money.

Responsibilities.

Social appropriateness.

That’s all just excuses.

Instead, take a stand for the AND.

You can build an empire AND be an epic parent.

You can be paying off debts AND invest in the most important thing in the world – YOU!

You can be a free spirit AND take care of your responsibilities even if that means delegating most of the tasks.

Well I don’t know why you would want to be socially appropriate?

After all, you’re a born rebel and change catalyst.

My question to you today is where are you holding on to outdated beliefs that has you living less than thrive?

How are those beliefs serving you?

How are they keeping you stuck?

Which are the beliefs that would instead see you thriving?

Do you choose to now take them on as your own?

For as always, everything comes down to your choices.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving truly is a choice.

With love always,

Anel

PS:  The fastest, most powerful way to shift your experience is through proper goal setting.

I’m not talking about the quick 5-minute goal setting which has you all hyped for a week and then slipping back into your old shitty behaviours.

I’m not talking about the New Year’s resolutions which we both know is going to be filed in file 13 never to be looked at again.

I’m talking about the transformational goals that connects you to your purpose.

The goals that are driven by your values ensuring zero self-sabotage.

The goals that has you growing into your next level self thereby changing EVERYTHING.

These are the goals which I’m setting with some exquisite clients in their Ignite sessions.

90 minutes where we nail your values, unleash your desires, set your SMART goals and identify the beliefs that will shift your ass from where you are to where you desire to be in the least amount of time.

These sessions are my gift to you at an ultra low investment because I want to see you thrive!

I want 2018 to be your most epic year ever and I know that it starts with you setting the right goals.

I’ve had clients message me within a week seeing change happening.

YES it truly can happen that fast.

But you have to take the first step and book your session today!

There’s only a couple of weeks left and then this offer is coming off the table.

Are you choosing to thrive?

 

What would you do with a clean slate?

How often have you either heard the words or uttered them yourself?

If only I could start over.

If only I could wipe the slate clean.

If only…

This is not a philosophy I personally buy into.

For two reasons:

  1. I do believe that each and every night the Universal slate gets wiped clean and each day we are gifted with the opportunity to show up however we choose to; and
  2. Starting over suggests regret and I don’t regret anything in my life.  Not the good, not the bad and sure as hell not the ugly.  For it’s been these experiences that have provided me with the most magnificent of learning opportunities unfurling the woman I am today.

But let’s just say that you’re sitting here today, looking back at the past year, maybe you’re even looking back at the past decade or two and thinking “What the hell was I thinking?”  Maybe you’re sitting here and thinking to yourself that you’ve made some seriously fucked up choices in life and you’re not all that happy with the consequences.

Maybe you’ve been working too hard and neglected everything else in your life to wake up today, alone, miserable, confused and sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Maybe you’ve been living excessively and lost touch with your physical reality ending in a break-up of your marriage, debt up to your eyeballs, and a boep hanging over your pants making it uncomfortable to tie your shoelaces.

Maybe you’ve just not built the business to where you said you wanted to and you’re frustrated with the pile of bills that are stacked higher than the invoices.

Maybe you’re just feeling dissatisfied because you’ve done okay, you’ve got the job, the spouse, the 2.5 kids, the white picket fence, but there’s this emptiness inside and you just can’t figure out why you’re not ecstatic every day.

Wherever you find yourself my friend I want to tell you this –

YOUR PAST DOES NOT DEFINE YOU!

Not the bad, not even the good.

For no matter what you’ve already achieved thus far, it’s but the tip of the iceberg.

Oh if only you could see what I see.

I wish I could take photos with my eyes.

You would see that you are the most beautiful, most expansive, most loving soul alive!

You would see that nothing is impossible and everything comes down to choice.

What you choose to think

How you choose to feel.

What you choose to do.

What you choose to create.

What you choose to allow into your experience.

All of it.

And just because you’re not 100% satisfied with your past choices doesn’t mean that you’re stuck in this space forever more.

One of the most beautiful gifts I’ve received in the last decade is a change of perspective.

Understanding that I’m not a helpless victim of anything or anyone.

That in any given moment I can choose to see things differently.

To know that everything happens FOR me and that even when I think the Big U is screwing with me at times, Creator knows exactly what my little heart desires and always keeps me on track.

But I also know that I have one helluva adventurous spirit.

And I’m stubborn as can be!

So instead of walking on the straight and narrow I’m always fucking off into the bushes looking for a more exciting way.

And I’m a slow learner LOL.

I don’t care.

I have my entire life to get to the finish line.

I choose to bash through the marshlands, falling down, sometimes bleeding, sometimes cursing (okay mostly cursing), sometimes crying.

I’ve been seen sobbing on the ground not knowing where I would find the strength to get up again.

I’ve been seen raging against All That Is with my unbridled anger and frustration insisting that something changes right now!

I’ve been seen throwing my hands up as I’m finally ready to release my control freak tendencies and let the chips fall where they may.

I have to say, the chips are falling delightfully and I can’t remember when last I’ve had a day go by without at least one squeal of delight bursting from my lips.

Does that mean I’m anticipating a smooth ride all the way to the grave?

Oh fuck no!

I’m really not that naive plus I would get bored shitless and end up like all the other sheople overdosing with food, booze, entertainment and whatever else they use to prevent the pain from registering.

The pain of a life unlived.

A life of mere existence.

Which in my opinion is worse than death itself.

No matter where you find yourself today know that you have a clean slate.

That right here, right now, you can draw a line in the sand.

You can start by forgiving yourself – I’ve been doing a lot of this!

You can start forgiving everyone else who has ever hurt you understanding that it takes two to tango and that each relationship was there for learning, with a loving soul, a mirror that could show you your shadow side if you are only brave enough to look.

You can start investigating your beliefs and ask yourself where they come from, who they belong to, and if they are serving you?

If they don’t, fucking change them.

You can start identifying and owning your true desires and you can set the goals to achieve them.

The goals that are in alignment with your values.

The goals that are your life purpose in worldly form.

The goals that has you thriving.

The goals that are so big and juicy your mind goes into berserker mode trying to figure out how the hell you will ever achieve them.

The goals that require surrender to a higher power knowing that you are never alone.

Are you ready Gorgeous?

Are you ready to take that magnificent finger and draw that line?

Come on – I dare you!

You’ve got what it takes.

I believe in you.

But you have to start believing in yourself.

For death is inevitable.

But thriving, OMG it is such a stunning choice that I pray you make today.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  Coaching is for those who choose to thrive.

For the born leaders, the creatives, the high achievers who take full responsibility for their lives thereby empowering themselves to create iconic results.

Coaching is for those who are ready to do the work, the real work, the mindset work understanding that nothing will change until they change the way they think thereby showing up powerfully and transforming their lives.

I’m not going to lie to you – it is not a fluffy ride.

It’s not a comfortable journey.

No growth comes from comfort.

But it is exhilarating AF!

It is you showing up for yourself, for your dreams, for your purpose, for your life, that guarantees thrive.

Are you courageous enough to thrive?

Book your consult today Darling.

Hesitation leads to devastation so take the leap of faith.

It’s time for us to play.

What is the real cost for your lack of discipline?

Today is a bit of a smackdown.

I received a beautiful one from my coach yesterday and I do so love sharing the love.

That’s because I believe every now and again we have to get real.

We have to get over the bullshit stories we tell ourselves to justify our shitty choices and OWN the ripple effect.

The impact.

How we sabotage ourselves time and again.

And believe me Darling, this stuff might not be easy.  But once you get the hang of it, it WILL transform your life.

Let me start by saying everything counts.

From your thoughts to what you drink or don’t drink, to how you train or don’t train, to how you show up or not show up.

Everything is a choice.

Every choice is based on the story you’re telling yourself at any given moment.

Every story can either take you up, or down.

By the way, there’s no sitting in the middle.

It’s been my experience that the only reason we’re not prepared to do this little exercise is because we’re in ego.  And ego is a bitch!  She is fragile and loud but like a Chihuahua she’s all yap yap yap but doesn’t have what it takes to bite.

You ready?

Let’s do this!

  •  Spirituality

I know most of us want to believe that we can read the books, sit and meditate, we can even say the prayers and call ourselves spiritual but the truth of the matter is that if you’re only spiritual whilst your eyes are closed and then you operate in ego the rest of the day, you’re nothing but a fraud!  And this takes shit tons of discipline.

Why?

Because maybe like me, you were brought up in a religion where it was modelled for you that as long as you sit on that hard wooden bench for an hour on a Sunday listening to the relentless droning of some pompous old man telling you that you’re doomed and going to burn in hell unless you put your ten cents in the collection plate, you can pretty much do however you please the rest of the time.

And maybe like me, the preacher and his minions pretty much ruled and dominated through fear,  much the same as the schooling system, the government, the patriarchal way of living.

Which has you finding your truth at a much later age and now you have decades of bad behaviour stored in your muscle memory which you have to unlearn and replace with your own truth.

Which is that there is only love.

Everything else is bullshit.

What does this equate to?  The discipline of having faith.  Of believing everything happens FOR you.  The discipline of staying in appreciation.  Of taking the risks when they are purpose aligned.  Of speaking in love.  Of receiving fearlessly.  Of living a life on purpose.

Understanding that NOT doing these things have you cowering in fear.  Living as a victim.  Playing small.

Are you starting to see why this is so challenging?

Why this shit matters?

Let’s keep going.

  • Physical health, fitness and vitality

How disciplined are you really with your eating?

I’m going to fess up – I have not been honouring my body and my values with the food that I’ve put into my mouth.  Way too much meat!  Way too much bread!  Way too little water.  Way too few veggies.

I received a huge kick up my ass this morning after accepting the glass of wine my husband gave me last night.

I don’t drink.

But I was tired and being a grumpy bitch so I gave in.

It only took half a glass to see me lights out just after seven.

Probably my soul saying WTF?  This is NOT who you choose to be.  Go to sleep!

And this morning as I woke up I sat thinking how different it would have been if instead of that glass of wine I drank a glass of water and did a yoga session.

I would have been energised.

I would have been in an excellent mood.

I would have had a productive evening.

Everything counts!

Plus, since I’m being completely transparent here, I haven’t been committing to my daily yoga practice this week.  Instead I’ve been playing in the waves and then justifying to myself that I’ve trained so I could afford to skip the yoga.

Bullshit!

That’s not who I am!

I am the woman who honours her body and mind and spirit through daily yoga practice.

Which is why I take a stand for the AND – I boogie board AND I do yoga.

The impact is not only loss of flexibility and strength, but I have abandoned my values which leads to me being out of energetic alignment of my next level self.

SMACK

  • Wealth Consciousness

Creating wealth in your life is the responsibility of every single person!

When we shift our asses out of the competitive realm into co-creation, we finally get that the more money we make, the more wealth and abundance we create for everyone!

But there’s more to wealth creation than setting financial targets, taking action, and watching your bank account grow.

For one thing, wealth is a mindset!

I see so many people who earn multiple 6 figures yet they are constantly saying they’re broke or they can’t afford the things they want.

I see so many people earning multiple 6 figures yet not tracking their money to understand where they’re spending it to make conscious choices but moan that they’re feeling poor.

I see so many people bitching and moaning about debt repayments instead of living in heightened states of gratitude that a person or organisation believed enough in them to provide a product or service despite the fact that they didn’t have the cash available!  Seriously, why would you not have complete joy in paying for your blessings already received?

I see so many people learning the strategies not understanding that abundance is a mind-set and wealth consciousness reading is simply non-negotiable!

It takes discipline!

I recommend you start with The Science of Getting Rich and you read this 15 minutes minimum every single day.  When you get to the finish you start again at the beginning and see how the layers of fog lift from your mind.

I know personally that when this is part of my daily routine my wealth ALWAYS increases.

ALWAYS!

NO more bitching about money!

SMACK!

  • Your Business

There are certain areas in my business where I’ve been lacking in discipline.

Holy shit, by now you must think I’m some moron for all my lack of discipline.  I agree with you.

SMACK.

One of these is offering free coaching for the fantastic women in my Facebook Group Wild Woman Rebels.  This is a service I used to provide in my previous group and I know it’s powerful for my members.  My most sincere apologies ladies, I’ve got my shit together now and ready to serve at a higher level.

In fact this was part of the conversation with my MasterMind partner last night – that we have not been locking in training into our calendars.  Instead doing it when inspiration struck.

BULLSHIT!

Inspiration is the result of discipline.

There are so many areas in business where you can be sliding on discipline thinking it doesn’t matter if you skip it for a day or two.  But it does!

Just as we have compound success, we also have compound lack of success.

Think of  it as a graph with a straight line.

Each time you make a decision that takes you 1 degree off course, that line keeps going in the wrong direction which means over time you end up in a completely different place!

Everything matters!

Every conversation you have or don’t have.

Every task you complete or procrastinate on.

Every decision you put off until tomorrow.

Every time you don’t reconnect with your goals and your purpose.

And I’m not even getting into relationships today – but you know that is part of this conversation right?

Everything matters.

Discipline is powerful for a reason!

It ensures that you move forward in achieving your goals – the ones that YOU said were important to YOU – regardless of how you feel or what’s happening around you.

Honestly you’re either in control of your mind, in control of your actions, in control of your success, or you’re not.

Start listening to the words coming out of your mouth.

Are they the words of someone who has their shit together, who is in the driver’s seat?

Or do you sound like a bitching moaning tantrum-throwing victim continuously being washed about in the waves?

Discipline doesn’t tolerate victimhood.

TTFU and start showing me how much you really want it.

For death is inevitable.

Thriving is a choice.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  I believe in the power of coaching with every fibre of my being.

This is what I was born to do!

The impact of having an impartial person holding up a mirror and empowering you to see your truth and make conscious choices.

The quantum leaps in results brought by accountability which fosters discipline.

The transformation of lives through setting non-negotiable goals and taking the courageous actions to bring them to fruition.

I believe coaching is the one element in lives of achievers that’s simply a necessity.

Whether your goal is physical, financial, business or relationships, it all starts with mind-set.

It’s the foundation.

You can learn every strategy known to mankind but if you don’t have the right mind-set in place you will NOT execute and you will NOT see the results you truly desire.

The results which take you beyond the reach of average.

The results which has you playing with the iconic leaders, achievers and creatives.

Are you ready to get past your excuses and rise to your potential?

Book your free consult today and let’s play.

 

 

 

What it takes to have an indestructible mind-set.

We’re three weeks away from 2018.

More and more people are slumping their shoulders, desperately waiting for a holiday so they can recharge their batteries and do it again next year.

Giving up on dreams that have not yet come to fruition.

Walking away from unfinished goals.

Telling everyone that next year will be different yet when you ask them what they’ll be doing differently they don’t have a clue.

WTF?

I learned a long time ago that this is the time of year when miracles occur for those who are relentless.

Those who take a good look in the mirror and tell themselves that it’s not done yet.

That even if they still miss the mark they can make a quantum leap forward in three weeks.

That giving up says nothing about their goals, and everything about how they are showing up for themselves.

And you can still make it happen.

But it takes an indestructible mind-set.

You know – the grit to keep getting up regardless of how many times you’ve been knocked flat on your ass.

The stubborn jut of your chin that has you raise your gaze and proving all the naysayers wrong.

Lazer focus.

Zero distraction.

The energy coursing through your veins that gives you superhuman strength and capability.

The mind-set that sees people reaching incredible levels of success that makes you think that they’re special.

That they were born lucky.

That they must have it easy.

They don’t.  They are the same as you.

You simply need to get out of your own way, believe in yourself and do the fucking work!

It’s time for you to stop giving up, HTFU and thrive.

Today I’m breaking down how to have an indestructible mind-set so you can stop your self-sabotaging behaviour, never again giving up three feet from your goals.

  1.  An indestructible mind-set comes from practice.

It comes from understanding that your mind is nothing more than a muscle and you’re failure to train it on a daily basis leads to atrophy.

Which is why it’s become so easy for the masses to be controlled.

They’ve been fed with hormones and chemicals that keep them in a state of malnourishment and addiction.

They’ve been hypnotised to value entertainment above education and quite frankly when you tap into the violence that seems to be the craze, you understand that majority of what they’re being shown is shutting down their humanity.

In the same breath then, practice means that you welcome the obstacles, the situations where you have to get super creative, have to learn new skills, have to be completely out of your comfort zone.  You don’t expect to become a world-class cyclist by only ever training on the flats.

You welcome failure understanding that this powerful phenomenon has been made shameful by those who desire to keep you small.  Failure is fantastic!  It means you had the balls the reach higher than ever before.  That you took the risk and you’ve identified there’s a gap between where you are and where you desire to be.  Bridge the gap and you’ve succeeded!

2.  An indestructible mind-set starts with a decision.

A decision that you will never again settle for anything less than your true desires.

A decision that you will never again accept average anything, least of all an average version of you.

It comes from understanding that you don’t have to spend the next year in therapy investigating every block, every bad experience, every belief you’ve had over the past however many decades.

What we focus on we create more of.

Which means the more you focus on the past the more of that you create right now.

I don’t believe we can look forward and backwards at the same time.

So choose.

If you’re at the point of enough and no more you simply recognise that in the past you were constipated.  You acknowledge that things happened and you no longer wish to hide because of it.

Instead you choose right here right now to become indestructible.  Relentless.  To have grit.  To never again waste the journey.

3.  An indestructible mind-set comes from figuring out your life purpose.

Yes, I absolutely 100% believe that each and every person has a life purpose.  Yet few EVER bother to explore what this could be because once you lock it in, you HAVE to show the fuck up and do the work to live it.  The pain of not doing so is unbearable and will have you slamming your head against the wall in rage to the point of unconsciousness.

I am yet to meet a person with an indestructible mind-set who haven’t connected with their true purpose.

Which always unlocks their core values – the ones inside that drives their ultimate behaviour.

Thing is Darling, if you’re not connected with your purpose you most probably have societal values dictating your actions.  Values handed down to you by others who might not have played full out.  Do you seriously want to cap your big dreams by the values of little people?

4.  An indestructible mind-set comes from setting the non-negotiable goals.

I’m talking the goals that you will die for.  The goals that are your obsession.

It breaks my heart to see how many people are setting goals and then neglecting them like a homeless child, expecting they will flourish naturally without any nourishment or love.

Don’t you understand that your dreams are given to you for a reason?

That they have an energy, a life-force of their own, and your failure to bring them to manifestation is nothing less than murder???

When will you stop suffocating your dreams with your neglect?

I’m seeing shit tons of people who are drained and miserable on the hamster wheel yet too blind to see that all they have to do is stop running to get off.

They tick the boxes and set the goals they think will release them from the monotony but are not prepared to sacrifice comfort in order to invest in themselves and their dreams.  No time.  No support.  No nothing.  They deceive themselves by believing that epic dreams can be built when they have a few exhausted moments left at the end of the day.  Which normally becomes the end of the week.  Next month.  Next year.  Never!

Goals drive my life!

They absolutely deserve my everything!

My dedication.

My discipline.

My determination.

My investment.

And hell yes, for my goals, my dreams, I have cultivated an indestructible mind-set.

It has taken years of blood, sweat, cursing, tears, heartache, pain and sacrifice.

Was it worth it?

Oh hell yes!

Which is exactly why I continue to work my mind-muscle.  Why I continue to challenge myself.  Why I continue to invest in my dreams.  Why I insist on support to keep me on track.  It’s why elites work with coaches and those who just want to have fun, who are happy with average results, don’t.

They think they can do it by themselves even though historically they haven’t.

Make no mistake Darling – anyone can achieve average goals on their own.

You don’t even need an indestructible mind-set for those.

My question to you today is if average is all you desire in life?

For death is inevitable.

Thriving is a choice.

With love,

Anel

PS:  Average people underestimate the courage it takes to work with a coach.

They think working with a coach is the easy way out.

That it’s a sign of weakness – that you can’t do it on your own.

That’s what keeps average people average.

Working with a coach takes you into a whole new realm of self-worth.

It’s you making a statement to the Universe and everyone around you that you’re worth investing in.  That you value yourself, your dreams, your goals.

It means that you’ve reached the point in your life where you’re done playing in the splash pool of average and ready to take yourself serious.

And it starts with booking that consultation where you square your shoulders and say “Let’s do this!”

If you’re done with average anything, and I do mean anything, if you’re ready to get taken out of your comfort zone so far that your legs tremble, and if you KNOW that I’m the right coach for you, I invite you to take action right here, right now.

I work with Hell Yes clients!

Those who know it’s their time now and they are prepared to make it happen.

Option one is Ignite which is only available for a couple more weeks.

90 minutes of pure clarity, anchored goals, values, vision, beliefs.

Or if you’re ready to play full-out, book your consult today and secure the journey at the current investment price which is increasing January 1st 2018.

It’s time for the fast-action takers.

Let’s play.

 

 

 

Nothing ever happens until you give yourself permission.


For me, one of the greatest gifts of my vocation is the constant growth that I receive each and every time I have the privilege of working with a client.  OOOH and I do work with the best clients in the world!

Such as the gift that I received this morning.

It really started yesterday.

A full-on day which came to an exquisite close as I coached a powerful, gorgeous, high achieving woman to give herself permission to dream again.  To give herself permission to raise her expectations in receiving.  To give herself permission to stop settling out of guilt, obligation or a sense of shame.  To truly give herself permission to thrive!

This is what it always comes down to – giving ourselves permission.

Giving ourselves permission to stop looking at others for the answers and instead believing in ourselves that we already know, questioning, going inside, listening to the inner voice.

Giving ourselves permission to stop thinking we have to play small so that we don’t step on toes and instead knowing that as leaders we were born to walk in front where the crowds are not boxing us in.

Giving ourselves permission to stop thinking that receiving support is a weakness and instead  embrace the fact that the Universe is all about co-creating our success and that we deserve to be supported in our expansion and our growth as it is always in service of the collective.

So it was that I sat down under the moon last night, giving myself permission to be fully supported in clearing, releasing, receiving new insights and calling in my next level of thrive.

As it was the final full moon of 2017  there was a heightened sense of urgency, demanding deeper introspection for the next level of learning.  I felt the turning of energy as something shifted inside of me.

I have to confess, I’m not one to easily share my vulnerable moments.  Constantly in warrior mode, I tend to keep my underbelly closed off only sharing once I’m on the other side of the river.

I’m going to make an exception today as the year is coming to a close and I don’t want you to wait another moment before giving yourself permission to live fully.

Throughout my meditation I felt particularly raw around my sacral and heart chakras, the areas of creativity and relationships.  Now thing is, my business, my purpose, my life, is all about creating impact through relationship so I know that this shit matters.  Which is why I took extra time and attention, honouring myself in the moment.  Not necessarily pushing for the answers and the insights immediately, but instead clearing and releasing, stating my willingness to learn.

As I lay in bed later slowly drifting off to slumber, I felt into deep gratitude and appreciation for the past 45 years, every single person I met along the way, how incredibly blessed I am right now, and asked to once again be shown that which I have not seen before.

The Universe never disappoints.

I woke up this morning, grabbed an extra large coffee and my journal and started writing.

My original intent was simply to journal my affirmations of that which I’m creating and the woman I’m becoming in the process.

Instead what unfolded on the pages were all the relationship that I had ended in some form or way due to a feeling of insecurity and false self-preservation.  From romances to family to friendships.

All the relationships where I started telling myself that I had not lived up to their expectations and rather than wait for them to tell me what a stupid, worthless piece of shit I was, I had lovingly faded into the background until the busyness of their lives overtook their thoughts of me and I would never hear from them again.

I know this stems back to a childhood where I was frequently brought down to size by those who feared my individuality, my ambition, my stubborn will, my hunger for independence, my wisdom.

At the time it really hurt like a mofo and I took the insults on board as truth even though in my heart I knew it was not my shit to own.  I was simply too young and too inexperienced to realise the truth of my inner knowing – still trusting those who were in positions of authority due to their titles and age.

Isn’t it crazy that after all these years I’m still having this story run the show?

Yet I’m not sitting here bashing myself over the head.  Instead I have empathy and appreciation for the young girl in me knowing that she did the best she could with where she was at and with what she had available to her.

But I also know that if I don’t give myself permission to do the deep diving that I still allow the protection mechanisms of my younger self curb my results today.

We all do.

And I’m not even talking about past lives, Akashic records, familial oaths, and all the other stuff.

I’m just talking about your current life, and the fact that unless you give yourself permission to love yourself unconditionally, unless you give yourself permission to look back with appreciation to see where your current programming originates from, unless you give yourself permission to take on a new belief, you will always be playing smaller than you’re truly capable of, truly desire to, truly deserve to.

Today I choose to break my old pattern around relationships.  I choose to attract people who are a vibrational match to me who love me unconditionally, even when we get pissed off at each other at times.  I choose to stay open.  I choose to stay connected.  I choose to live my purpose more powerfully, knowing that the little girl inside of me is always safe and taken care of.

How about your Darling?

Where are you not giving yourself permission to see that patterns that has you stuck at your current level?

Where are you not giving yourself permission to play full out due to fears which stems from your vulnerable young self?

Where are you not giving yourself permission to thrive due to outdated values handed down to you by others which quite frankly is stifling your creativity, your joy, your best version self?

 

More importantly, what will it take for you to change that?

What will it take for you to get to the point where you own your self-worth?

When will you make that decision?

For it truly is just a choice.

It always is.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is a choice.

With love eternal,

Anel

PS:  2017 has been rough – on many levels for many people.

It’s been a year where the rebel inside of the achiever has just had enough of swallowing down bullshit, stifling down their truth.

And it’s not done yet.

During the last couple of weeks of the year you can draw the line in the sand and give yourself permission to go next level.  To set down the foundation of your thrive by connecting to your true core values, uncovering the vision that lights you up, set the goals that has you revving on all cylinders, and anchor it down with the beliefs that will finally support you in achieving your desired results.

Ignite is all about this.

It’s a judgement free, supportive and challenging space allowing you the freedom to dig deep and get the gold.

It’s for the ones who know they’re done settling.  They have the inner knowing that there is more for them.  That settling for anything less than their best has become intolerable and they’re taking back their power.

Ignite is for you if you know that I’m the person to lovingly kick your ass into action.

And if you decide after the session that you’re ready for deeper ongoing support, your payment will be off-set on the investment for 6 months coaching.

Time is running out so get your sexy ass off that fence and take action right now.

 

When you’re done putting your results in the hands of average…

The lines have been drawn.

War has been declared.

It’s time for people to make the ultimate choice.

Are they ready to soar, to rise to their best version self, to walk the path of the warrior, the achiever, the leader?

or

Are they determined to stay enfolded in the arms of the masses, thinking that there’s safety in numbers, delusional that average is honourable?

Make no question my friend, the time to choose is now.

And it sounds way easier than it is.

To choose the path of the achiever takes the courage to question, to fight the system, to become more than you are today.

For we have been programmed from infancy to be in service of the community.

To bow down to the cultural norms and will of the few in power.

That we had to strive for peace until they hunger for more and then we have to murder, plunder and rape in the name of the government.

We’re put in classrooms and we are trained to conform, to think only enough to serve but not enough to question, to regurgitate the truth of others as told by the authors of prescribed books and if we dare have a different opinion we are marked to fail, labeled as stupid, squashed back into place.

Our lives up to this point has been all about putting everyone else’s needs before our own, even to the detriment of our happiness. That we were responsible to make others feel supported, worthy, happy, thriving.  And in return we had to hope to god that we meet someone who doesn’t see how fucked up and insufficient we are, who deem us worthy of some praise, some love, so for a moment or two we can feel happy.

Except the instant we put our happiness and worthiness in the hands of others we are at the mercy of their ego, their moods, whatever is going on in their lives.

A recipe for disaster if you ask me.

Even worse, as high achievers we’re on fucking fire with action.

We don’t want to sleep late.

We have no desire to slow down and rest.

We adore the hustle.

We welcome obstacles.

We find honour in the cycle of the heroine knowing that rock bottom is simply a part of the journey and we will hit it time and again.

All of which has been shrouded in shame by a culture of mediocrity, a culture where entertainment is valued above wisdom, where comfort is seen more honourable than strive.

We live in a time where we are more addicted to sugar and alcohol than any other drugs, yet they are legal!

Even for kids.

In fact, advertising is geared towards rewarding yourself by putting more chemicals into your body.

Because you deserve it they say.

And it’s oh so easy to fall into the trap.

What harm can it possibly do?

Just one more glass of wine.

Just one wee chocolate.

You’ve worked so hard to get results in your business, your finances, some in your health, you’ve earned it dammit.

But that’s exactly it!

Every single time you give in to the habits of the average, you’re fucking yourself over.

And understand that it’s not about the weight gain or acting like a complete fool when you’ve had one too many beers.

It’s not about the fact that your spouse will sulk for the next few days because you’ve once again gone back on your word.

It’s not about any of this.

Instead it’s about the fact that you’ve given away your power.

It’s about the fact that you’ve taken yourself out of alignment of your best self energetically.

It’s about the fact that you’ve settled a little.

Bought into the bullshit of their idea of fun.

You have ultimately abandoned your path of excellence.

And it always bites you in the ass.

There’s always an element of dissatisfaction because you know you can do better.

There’s always a hint of guilt which has you shrinking just a little smaller.  Not as confident.

There’s always a price to pay, and the price is your thrive.

And until you start understanding that this is exactly why the culture of average is winning over the masses, you will be in their folds my darling.

You’re talking a big game whilst holding hands with the enemy.

Know as well that every time you blame them for your weakness, they win, you lose.

It takes you square out of the driver seat of your life.

Stop bitching and moaning that you had no choice.

You always have a choice.

Stop saying that it’s just the way you were brought up, just the way you are.

If the indoctrination of generations before does not have you living your most iconic life, it’s your responsibility to question and to change it.

You’re not a fucking robot helplessly following the code of a programmer.

All of these beliefs are simply ego-driven bullshit which you can rise above at any given moment.

Hey, if it really doesn’t bother you, if you’re really happy to settle for 60%, then great for you.  Continue sitting on the side lines stuffing your face with another hot dog, criticising those on the playing field.  Those who are prepared to sweat.  Those who are prepared to bleed.  Those who are prepared to lose today so they can go back to the game-board, learn more, train more, come back for more.

That’s the way of the achiever.

We don’t talk, we do.

It’s never about the current game.

It’s about THE ultimate game.

The game of life.

The finish line is death.

Everything before that is simply opportunity for betterment.

So Sweet-pea, which side will you choose today?

I happen to know that if you’re in my space, you’re a born leader, a creative, an achiever.  But just because you were born to be, doesn’t mean that it will come to pass unless you’re prepared to do the work.  Unless you leave the smothering comfort of average.

It’s always a choice.

Today I invite you to take a look at the tricky little ways in which you’re holding yourself out of alignment of your best version self.

And everything counts.

For me personally, even the fact that I still don’t drink enough water each day is weakness on my part.  The fact that I still eat products such as yoghurt which contains sugar, keeps me two steps behind.  The fact that I still tolerate some average people in my space out of loyalty, slows me down.

It sounds harsh, but this is my life I’m fighting for.

Mine and yours.

I’m not here to serve the masses.

I’m here to inspire those who are truly committed to thrive.

Awareness is the first step.

And even this very first step takes balls!  Because you have to own up to the fact that it’s all in your hands.  All the power that you seek.  Nobody can force you to do anything you don’t want to.  It’s up to you what you put first – yourself, your life purpose, your happiness, your thrive, OR your programming?

Death is inevitable.

Thrive is a harder choice than most think.

With love always

Anel

PS:  We are in the final weeks of 2017 which also means you only have three weeks left to grab your Ignite session.

This is for the ones who are drawing the line and who are determined to set the true goals that are in alignment with their core values, their ultimate vision, their best version self.

It is 90 minutes of pure clarity and passion.  Where you uncover that which you’ve been afraid of owning in public because your fear that they will criticise you, say that you’re full of yourself, that you want too much.

That it’s impossible.

Let me tell you now that Impossible Is Nothing!

Anything that you can dream is already available to you right now.

But you have to own your desires.

You have to make them non-negotiable.

You have to do the work.

You have to rise above the masses.

It starts today with you claiming your spot.

Ignite your passion!

Let’s play.