The Silent Warrior – Are you respecting your dreams?

This is my personal truth.

In a decade of coaching you get to meet some pretty spectacular people and I have been blessed with a career where I’ve served authors, start-up entrepreneurs, established entrepreneurs, executives, athletes – really anyone with ambition and drive to get to the next level.

2015 I made the decision to focus my energy and passion on empowering women entrepreneurs to take themselves, their businesses and their lives in general to the next level.  This is done by facing their fears and getting rid of all the bullshit they tell themselves of what they can and can’t do so that they can live phenomenal lives of empowered, conscious choice.

And do women have a lot of bull-shit!

I can say that today because I’ve lived that disempowering life of trying to please others and serve others to be liked.  It is fucking exhausting and draining to say the least.

People wonder why divorce is so rife these days.  How about the fact that boy meets sexy girl.  They get married.  She falls pregnant and feels like a fat cow.  Then she has the baby and is exhausted most of the time from trying to care for the little bundle of shit and puke whilst looking gracious because heaven forbid she should be judged as a bad mother for not loving this experience.  Meanwhile man goes on with his career and life, so a little seed of resentment is planted.  Then the kids come fast and furious and her poor body is so confused with hormones and stretch-marks and her tits start sagging as if in competition with her ass and she feels a little more miserable every day.  Husband’s ass still looks fucking amazing.  The seed of resentment sprouts.

She finally decides she wants to have it all and starts up her own business.  Except she is doing this ‘around’ her life.  Kids come first otherwise the neighbors will say she’s a shit mother, and the husband comes next otherwise he will say she’s a shit wife, and the house has to be cleaned otherwise mother-in-law will say she’s a shit woman.  By now our little seed of resentment is growing into a magnificent pine tree with fairy-lights on.  Her tits and her ass still competing to see who can hit the floor first.  She works herself into the ground trying to serve people who don’t want to pay for her services, and she is always broke, and she just wants to cry, and her husband doesn’t understand, and she feels like a complete failure and unworthy of love of success.  Then she looks at her husband with his round ass and boom – divorce the bastard!

This my darling is all bull-shit and you are doing all these crazy things so that people will like you.  Except how can they possibly like you when you aren’t showing them the true you?  The woman with the fucking spectacular dream and the potential to live it.

The biggest difference that I see between male and female entrepreneurs is that men respect their dreams enough to put them first – the way it’s supposed to be.  Hold on to your pantyhose and listen.

YOU were born for a beautiful purpose (so was your man by the way).  And for us entrepreneurs that purpose takes shape as a business and this is how we are meant to serve.  Your purpose comes first otherwise you’re just sucking up oxygen.  The moment I ‘got’ this, my life changed.  I started building a business instead of having a hobby.  That means that I ask for help and support with the other areas of my life such as house and family.  From the age of 5 my eldest learned that when mommy’s office door is closed that means she is unavailable.  A lesson which he in turn explained to his baby brother.  That means that if they wanted or needed something they had to ask the nanny or their dad if he was around.  I focused on my business.  And yes, I employed a helper because cleaning time is time that could be used in serving my clients which meant more in alignment with my purpose.

The next thing I realized was that I needed a shit-hot powerhouse body for me to rock it in my life.  It makes me feel good to look good.  So I sat my man down and we came to an agreement that Saturday mornings was my time to ride my bike and he would look after the boys.  We quickly learned that he would also have to cook as I would be too tired from my ride (I know – this keeps getting better and better).  Once I started competing, this arrangement extended to Sundays.  This was a win-win for us:  I was fucking phenomenally happy to be back in shape and compete and I had more energy than ever before, my husband got his sexy, confident, radiant wife back with an appetite for his ass to match.  Happy wife, happy life (a saying my kids know well).

I started investing in myself and the skills required to build my business.  I hired my own coach, I signed up for the group programs, I joined the Master Mind group.  All of this was to show myself and the Big U that I was taking my dream serious and I was committed to make it work.

I don’t mean to make this sound like a breeze.  Make no mistake, I’ve had days where bread was a luxury in our house.  Where I’ve had to ask my mom to help out with food for my kids.  Where training was done at 4 am every day to finish in time so I could get to my business by 8 am.  I’ve cried more tears than a swimming pool can hold.  But it is still worth it.  Because I believe in my purpose and I believe in myself and I believe that the Big U will always support us when we take our dreams serious.

All the bullshit of being in service like a servant girl is not true!  Think of it this way:  a queen can serve thousands more than a serving girl.  But you can’t be a queen when your first priority is to clean the fucking house.

So decide today if you want to build a business or a hobby and put the support structures in place to make it happen.  No excuses.  No drama.  No bullshit.

If I can do it – anyone can!!

Walk with honor.

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The Silent Warrior – Living A Life On Purpose.

This is my personal truth.

Purpose – one of the current buzz words in the personal development space that is turning out a new generation of snobs and overwhelming the rest of the population with so much insecurity that they are not even willing to try and figure it out.  But what the hell does living a life on purpose really look like?

For me, it is understanding the reason I was born, the impact that I’m to make on the world, and living with that sole purpose every single day in everything that I do.  Every decision I make is to inspire women to face their fears and live phenomenal lives of empowered conscious choice which lifts them out of the clutches of mediocrity.  Every goal that I set is to inspire, every book that I read is to be inspired in order for me to vibrate on a higher frequency and then to inspire, every meal I eat is to nourish my body to have more energy so that I can inspire (yes that includes chocolates), every challenge I take on is to become stronger, more disciplined, more focused so that I can inspire, every word I use is to push buttons so that women will be inspired to start questioning their beliefs and triggers.

Sadly I have come to the realization that most people, especially women because we are brought up to serve to the detriment of ourselves (fucking martyrdom makes me sick), are only willing to live a life of purpose as long as it fits in with what everyone wants of them.  Heaven forbid that some retarded ass on Facebook will not like me even though that person has fuck-all to do with my purpose.  Or they try and compartmentalize their purpose, so they will work really hard in their business to live their purpose, but then the rest of their lives are completely out of alignment thereby making them easy prey to the culture of the distracted average where they are constantly buying shit, signing up for shit, eating shit, watching shit on TV, reading shit.  They are stuck in a pattern of overwhelm and exhaustion served with a great big dollop of guilt to make them feel worthless.  Then they sit on a heap of ashes and wonder what is wrong with them, why can everyone else get it right and not them?

There is nothing wrong with you sweetheart.  You’re fucking perfect.  You’re just distracted.

I do believe it is time for women to get off the hamster-wheel.  To figure out their purpose.  AND here is the really fanfuckingtastic news –  Your purpose ALWAYS makes you deliriously happy!!  I’m not kidding.  It is lifegasmic when you live in the zone.

Where to start?  Start doing the things which makes you happy.  When you’re doing something and finding your face contorted by a smile, you’re there!  Look at the underlying message of the thing that you’re busy with and the impact it will have on those around you if they were doing it too.  Then ask yourself how you can do more of this?  What other forms could this take?  Where else in your life can you do this in a different form or flavor but with the same impact.  Viola – you have found your purpose!

I found my purpose whilst riding my bike.  In riding my bike.  And I have turned that purpose to inspire into my business.  I now inspire by riding my bike, coaching my clients, laughing with my boys, making love to my man, living in a country where my soul feels at home, eating good quality chocolate and just being genuinely happy!

It really is that simple.  People always take the truth and dip it in a shit-ton of complicated to make it hard to find.  I promise you that the Universe is not sitting around every day thinking “How else can I fuck them up?”  The Universe WANTS you to live your purpose.  The Universe WANTS you to be really happy and feel supported.  The Universe is on your side so stop fighting it.

Get rid of the distractions and find your purpose.  Done.

Walk with honor.

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Patience Pays Dividends…


By Susan Jacobs

With today’s headlines of lone white gunmen on killing sprees, African Americans being beaten and killed by white police during arrests, white police being killed by African Americans, and perennial anti-Semitism and anti-Muslim sentiments around the world, it is hard to believe that tolerance and acceptance are two words in our vocabulary.

The world has gone quite mad, yet there is a growing positive, collective, and elevated consciousness that is spreading peace and love. Years ago, while going through a challenging relationship with my ex-boyfriend, my Kundalini yoga teacher, Krishna Kaur, said I was living in duality. I’d call her crying saying, “I love him but don’t believe a word he says. I know he loves me but is lying all the time.” She was right.

And living in duality will make you schizo and crazy. What duality, madness, and unmanageable inner turmoil must those that commit the above actions be living with?

Tolerance and acceptance of others starts from within.

How do we fix a world where so many people are disconnected from knowing or caring the difference between right and wrong or have any interest in or understanding of self-awareness and personal development? Adding fuel to the fire, I believe, is diet and mal-nourishment with much of the population cranked up on sugar, caffeine, and processed food. Aside from Hitler who was apparently later in life became a vegetarian do you think anyone that commits hate crimes is a vegan? This heavy tone is solely intended to set the stage.

For many years, my career has been creating and implementing awareness-building marketing, branding, and communication strategies, campaigns, and events. Today I wondered, what if the Universe came to me as a client (pro bono, of course!) to produce a campaign to raise the level of tolerance and acceptance in the world. What would I do?

Tough question. I remembered Gandhi’s great quote, “Be the change you wish to see in the world,” and Yogi Bhajan, who introduced Kundalini yoga to the West to the powerful technology of Kundalini yoga saying, “Make yourself so happy that by looking at you other people become happy.” There can be no collective change without individual change first. It all starts from within.

So step away from your electronic devices, put down that mocca frocca iced matte latte cup of joe from Starbucks, and take a moment to pause, breath, drink in the love, and find your own inner peace.

I know firsthand that a consistent yoga and meditation practice works. But often I slack, opting for more sleep or, well, just because. Then I use the all-powerful psychological excuse that starting back on a Monday makes more sense!

We are magnificent beings, yet so often forget. For whatever reason, it is easier to believe the negative rather than the positive when it comes to our self. A few simple shifts can help bring us back to our internal home, thereby affecting a positive ripple effect for the greater good.

Speak your truth. Think your truth. Be your truth. The truth will set you free, always. Be fearless, courageous, and warrior-like when it comes to this. There’s a vibratory frequency to everything on this planet, including words. You create your reality simply with your word choice. Many moons ago, I was a frequent liar—not necessarily lying about anything substantial to others, but lots of lies to myself. Ultimately I developed a raging hyperthyroid—throat, 5th chakra, speaking one’s truth. Hmmm…Once I changed my mental playlist, my thyroid balanced out. Hmmm, again.

Yogi Bhajan says your word is your value as a human being, and the best way to improve your communication skills is to talk to a tree. Find a tree and say something to it, then answer from the tree’s point-of-view. He says this will totally change your way of communication. No trees available except those in full public view and you don’t want appear crazy? No problem, talk to a plant or a vase of flowers.

They say the mind is a terrible thing to waste. How true. Most of us are convinced that the mind controls us, that ‘this is who I am, I can’t help it.’ The opposite, however, is true. We control our mind. The mind has three functional aspects—negative, positive, and neutral.

The negative, or protective mind is the survival gauge, protecting us from pain, anything negative, or dangerous. The positive, expansive mind (my personal favorite!) is after pleasure, fulfillment and is constructive, risk- taking, and active.

The neutral mind is where we find balance as it looks at things in relation to your purpose and reality, with no judgment or attachment. The neutral, or meditative mind is the ultimate win-win mentality. In this state you can see life with compassion. It evaluates the input of the negative/positive minds and provides guidance within seconds. It is intuitive and gives you access to your soul, or higher self. It is from the neutral mind that speaking and living your truth is possible.

Imagine a world where everyone was operating from the neutral mind…

When I began practicing Kundalini Yoga fifteen years ago, all the white turbans and chanting convinced me it was a cult (which, of course, I quickly learned it is not). Chanting made me very uncomfortable at first. One day though, I decided to let go and try it, and haven’t looked back since. Everything about chanting is bliss.

Imagine a world where everyone chanted daily…

Change takes time and patience. A favorite joke my father used to tell strangely applies here. An old and young bull where chilling on a hilltop. They saw down yonder a field of hot cows. The young bull said, “Let’s run and make love to one of them.” The old bull said, “Let’s walk and make love to them all.”

Step by step, inch-by-inch, if we master ourselves, speak and live our deepest truth, share little yogic tips along the way about diet, learning to breathe properly, simple meditations, etc., I have to believe the world’s positive frequency will be raised and tolerance will be found.

Susan JacobsBIO

I’m a world traveler, salsa dancing, yoga practicing, wanna-be Buddhist, and perpetual work-in-progress.  I believe we are co-creators of our lives and that anything is possible when we get out of our own way.  Giving voice to things that matter, sharing stories, and spreading ideas is my heart and soul.

For-hire, I’m a copywriter, content developer, and on- and off-line marketing strategist working with coaches that are looking to make the world a better place through human evolution. The strongest selling point and differentiator for your as a coach is your personal journey and transformation. As a wordsmith, I make sure that your essence is conveyed to speak directly to your idea client, that your content and marketing are in alignment with the high quality of the product of services you offer, and are consistent across the board – website, blogs, newsletters, LinkedIn, and PR and branding materials.

I specialize in cutting through the noise and clutter with authentic, engaging, easily accessible content. From a 25-year career in PR, marketing, and branding I’m able to work to look at all aspects of your business and brand and provide a ‘fresh’ perspective, as an outsider, who creates content that anyone can understand.

I’m a contributing author to the recently published book “Pain, Purpose, Passion: That Was Then, This Is Now,” and my personal essays have appeared in FourTwoNine Magazine, Aquarian Times, Spirituality & Health, PR Week, and IndieWire. I’m working on her first memoir about my holistic healing journey through a hyperthyroid and Graves’ disease for The Round House Press. I’m also a guest blogger for Yogic Living and Identity Magazine. I live in Brooklyn and can be found at:

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The Silent Warrior – What happens when you have nothing left to give?

This is my personal truth.

I’ve found myself at this point on numerous occasions in my life.  It always happened because of one of two reasons:

1.  I’ve pushed really hard in the pursuit of my goals and I’m at the peak point before tapering and recovery or

2.  I’ve been a fucking martyr idiot who thought everyone else was more important than me and I forgot to take care of myself.  I don’t miss those days.

This whole martyrdom culture among women is really becoming old-school.  Think of it in the same way as when you sit on the plane and that annoyingly friendly voice over the speaker-system is telling you that in the case of emergency, first put on your own oxygen mask before helping anyone else.  That’s because you’re useless to everybody you claim to love when you’re dead.  So why is it okay for women to treat themselves like shit, always slaving away to take care of everyone else thereby really giving the world a shadow of her magnificent self?  Are you not in fact telling your loved ones that they are not deserving of your true brilliance?  Because when you think of it in this light, it’s really selfish and stupid.

What does the other side of the coin look like?  The one where I play with so many of my clients who have learned the difference between exhilarating exhaustion and draining-the-life-out-of-me exhaustion.

You understand that you were born for something truly spectacular – a purpose, a mission that is so much greater than the people in your immediate circle.  You live your life to support yourself in achieving this purpose no matter what the price.  You have authentic relationships with the people you love treating them as amazingly powerful human beings who don’t need you to save them, but who chose to share this life journey with you and they deserve to see the same best version of you as your clients do.  You take care of your body because you get the connection between body and mind.  You make time every day for yourself, your learning, your training, your recharging of batteries.  You surround yourself with the people who respect your purpose and vision and who support you in this regardless if they ‘get it’ or not.

And most importantly – you make peace with the fact that the martyrs will always judge you and that is none of your business.

What do you do when it feels like you’ve got nothing left?

You ask yourself why?  If you are being a martyr you stop that shit.  You figure out your big why and you understand that living anything else is a waste of your life!  Being a martyr is fucking easy in a society stuffed with average.  Then again, women like us don’t do easy.

If this article resonates with you come join my tribe of magnificent women who embrace their purpose and live fully at Get Out Of Your Head.  If you’re ready to work with me on a one-on-one basis to shift to your next level of elite, check out my services.

Until next time, walk with honor.

The Silent Warrior – Why I don’t do seven steps

This is my personal truth.

Today is my 16 year wedding anniversary.  I have to be honest, it has not been 16 years of moonlight and roses – well some of the roses came with huge thorns.  Along the way things have gone terribly wrong and we’ve been to counselling or therapy on more than one occasion.  Every time we have tried it the way that others told us to do it, following the seven steps to a highly effective marriage, things went from bad to fucking disastrous.  Now we do it our way, we’ve stopped caring what others think of our relationship and it’s uniqueness and it is magic!

Here is what I have learned along the way: there are certain universal truths such as your thoughts drive your feelings which in turn drives your actions and that gives you the results you see around you.  That and the fact that we live in an abundant universe which loves to support us when we have the courage to ask and believe.  That’s about it as far as universal goes.

The rest is one big fucking adventure of trying, failing, succeeding, learning, loving, hating, laughter, tears, frustration, elation, hormones, sex, booze, food, chocolate, shit and everything in-between.  And each person experiences this glorious thing called life in his/her unique way.

I have learned all about constructs and research showing that people learn easier when things happen in 3’s, 5’s or sevens which is why everyone is selling you the seven steps to a successful business.  I only wish they would rephrase it to “The seven steps that worked for me in building my business which you can try and it might work if you have the same personality as me or it might not – but fuck, what have you got to loose?”

Because there is no one size fits all recipe darling.  There are certain ways that work for certain people.  There are certain routines that work for me and my clients because we thrive in that type of structure, but others hate it and they will never get brilliant results because they need to sleep late to be happy.  This is why every coach builds her own tribe and why she has lovers and haters.  Those who think the same as her will try her recipe and get awesome results because their base belief systems are in alignment.  The haters however will have a fundamentally different belief system and everything she says rubs them up the wrong way and her way will lead to disaster for them thereby proving that ‘she is a fake and doesn’t know what she’s talking about’!

Success is ultimately YOUR responsibility and it starts with getting to know yourself and embracing that without all the judgement.  There is no good personality type and bad personality type.  Each has her strengths and weaknesses.  But how can you maximize your potential if you’re not willing to embrace who you are?

So for the bakers out there who follow a recipe and get success, I highly recommend that you work with the seven steps coaches and you will get your desired results.  But for those of us who like to do things our own way, who want to get the structures in place so we can focus on what we desire and have the support, who just want a compass and a finish line and who want to figure out how to get there on our own, please stop wasting your time with the recipes coaches.  That is just you doubting yourself and that is bullshit.  That is you looking around and thinking that neat and tidy looks nice when in fact you are a down and dirty type of girl.  Find the coach that will keep you uncomfortable.  The one who asks the questions that makes you dig deeper than ever before so that you can find your own answers.  The one who celebrates your fuck-ups because they indicate the size of your balls.

I’m the ’embracing the adventure of the journey to get to your success’ coach. I work with elite performers who know that they have what it takes and they are willing to put in the work to obtain their unique dream.  The ones with the big visions.  The ones who know they were born for a magnificent purpose and they are not afraid to live it.  No matter how tough the path might get at times.  If this resonates with you I invite you to come join my tribe of kick-ass women who do it in stilettos or sneakers but who do it embracing their own style without apology.  Find us Get Out Of Your Head.

Until next time Sweetheart – walk with honor.

With My Life In Danger, Could I Hold Onto My Belief System?

By Susan Jacobs

After decades of swallowing my words and running from my truth, my thyroid said, ‘enough,’ and went into overdrive, causing me to develop a raging hyperthyroid and Graves’ disease. When first diagnosed, I didn’t even know what a thyroid was, let alone where it was located in my body. I came to learn that it is a small but mighty and critical butterfly-shaped gland in the front of the neck, just below the Adam’s Apple, that regulates our hormones and lots of other bodily functions.

To alternative and holistic healers and us yogis, the thyroid is associated with the fifth chakra and is about all things self-expression, communication, truth, and creativity. The fifth chakra supports us in expressing all that we are meant to be, speaking and owning one’s truth. In short, it’s pretty darn important that this critter works properly.

So it was with huge alarm that I received this news, but an even bigger challenge was suddenly finding myself face-to-face with the ultimate test: Could I maintain my belief that not only do we subconsciously create health conditions that force us to look at what is going on in our life, but that we also have tremendous power to heal ourselves? It was easy to strut strong to that belief when healthy, but faced with this diagnosis, I was going to have to walk the walk, and stand tall, while, by my choice, navigating the traditional and alternative medical worlds.

Reality hit hard; I had to make life-saving or life-threatening decisions. This challenge was compounded by how I physically felt — as though there were 10,000 watts of electricity mixed with a steady IV drip of espresso and amphetamines running through my body coupled with a resting heartbeat of over 100 BPM and the ensuing brain fog that topped it all off. Fun, right?!

Before long, my strut went limp and I was caught between confusion and fear. Should I take the dangerous, though seemingly ‘safe’ Western medical route, covered by insurance, or trust my expansive network of alternative healers, none of whom were covered by insurance? At the time of my diagnosis and for many years thereafter, nothing holistic was covered by insurance, which meant it would be an expensive journey. The question of could I afford the alternative path was very real, but what was more important was standing strong with my integrity.  I always believed in integrative medicine—East meets West, West meets East—and while I predominately chose East for my process, I did integrate elements of West.

In addition to the insane hyperthyroid symptoms I was dealing with, the Graves’ disease caused me to have double vision and strange looking eyes.  Thanks to my holistic eye doctor, my contact lenses were switched out for glasses with plastic prisms taped to the lenses. While somewhat unsightly, this did correct the double vision symptoms, not the cause.

If the physical symptoms weren’t bad enough to live with, my endocrinologist scared the crap out of me every time I went for blood tests, telling me I was putting my life in danger and being irresponsible. He wanted me to follow the standard treatment of drinking radioactive iodine to kill my thyroid, causing me to ultimately become hypothyroid, and on medication for the rest of my life.

If I chose that treatment, I would have been so radioactive afterward that I wouldn’t have been able to be around children or animals for a couple of days.

Sure, sign me up, that’s right up my alley. Ultimately my endocrinologist fired me as his patient because I wouldn’t succumb to these ‘routine,’ yet radical Western treatments.

Perhaps I was risking my life, but I stubbornly believed I could heal. I didn’t have a clue how this was going to unfold, and despite leaving his office after each visit in tears, I mostly held strong. Not only was the doctor against my decision, I also had to endure the forceful opinions of my family and friends who were extremely worried about me.  At 5’7, I was weighing 105 lbs and a wearing size 4.  Today, healthy, still 5’7, I’m 140 lbs and size 8-10 (I know women don’t normally admit this but stay tuned for another post on this subject!).  Not speaking from vanity, but how much better I now look is significant.  Years later friends and colleagues confessed that when they saw me at my worst they thought I was dying.

It sucked, was horrible all around, and one of the most difficult experiences of my life. At some point along the way, I had an ‘ah ha’ moment. Why did I get a condition that affected my throat and eyes? What wasn’t I saying and seeing in my life? And then the floodgates opened.

With the help of an incredible posse of alternative healers including acupuncturists, homeopaths, naturopaths, astrologers, tarot card readers, nutritionists, and a whole lot more, coupled with my yoga master Yogi Bhajan’s teachings, my Kundalini Yoga practice, and various books including Dr. Dharma Singh Khalsa’s Meditation as Medicine, Carolyn Myss’ Anatomy of the Spirit, Pema Chodron’s When Things Fall Apart, and Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, I began to seek answers within.

Through this process, I became a much more active and conscious participant in my healing, not solely expecting that a treatment method would do the trick, but that I had to get to the root cause which only I had the answer to. This perspective required tremendous energy, focus, and discipline to maintain (and a ton of tears!), and even though I experienced the benefits and saw the proven results, sustaining that level of conscious living remains a constant daily challenge.

Diet and lifestyle played a big part in my healing, but I believe the most important factor was becoming able to see that I needed to speak and live my truth. When I started doing that, my blood numbers and symptoms balanced out over time.

This was a long, hard journey that was accomplished 95% holistically, the exceptions being two eye surgeries for the Graves’ disease, a year on the thyroid drug PTU before my body rejected it with a negative liver reaction, and a short stint on beta-blockers to protect my heart.

It took a long time to me come full circle in the healing process before I realized that I am my BFF (best friend forever) and my most trusted guru. When I speak and live my truth and am disciplined with a daily practice of three simple actions — Kundalini yoga, meditation, and journaling — life flows, stress is minimized, and I receive answers from within and a have a clear sense of direction.

I can now happily report that for the past three-plus years my thyroid has been in remission, my numbers are balanced, and so is my life. I sit here reflecting on all that’s been, the choices and mistakes I’ve made, and lessons learned. I’m healthy, strong, and, generally at peace. My eyes are wide open, my vision is clear, and I trust the process of life. As Louise Hays says, “You can heal your life.” I’m living proof!

Susan JacobsBIO

I’m a world traveler, salsa dancing, yoga practicing, wanna-be Buddhist, and perpetual work-in-progress.  I believe we are co-creators of our lives and that anything is possible when we get out of our own way.  Giving voice to things that matter, sharing stories, and spreading ideas is my heart and soul.

For-hire, I’m a copywriter, content developer, and on- and off-line marketing strategist working with coaches that are looking to make the world a better place through human evolution. The strongest selling point and differentiator for your as a coach is your personal journey and transformation. As a wordsmith, I make sure that your essence is conveyed to speak directly to your idea client, that your content and marketing are in alignment with the high quality of the product of services you offer, and are consistent across the board – website, blogs, newsletters, LinkedIn, and PR and branding materials.

I specialize in cutting through the noise and clutter with authentic, engaging, easily accessible content. From a 25-year career in PR, marketing, and branding I’m able to work to look at all aspects of your business and brand and provide a ‘fresh’ perspective, as an outsider, who creates content that anyone can understand.

 

I’m a contributing author to the recently published book “Pain, Purpose, Passion: That Was Then, This Is Now,” and my personal essays have appeared in FourTwoNine Magazine, Aquarian Times, Spirituality & Health, PR Week, and IndieWire. I’m working on her first memoir about my holistic healing journey through a hyperthyroid and Graves’ disease for The Round House Press. I’m also a guest blogger for Yogic Living and Identity Magazine. I live in Brooklyn and can be found at:

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What is The #VixStory You’re Going to Celebrate in 2016?

By Victoria “Vix” Reitano

So. Vix. It’s a thing my friends and I came up with over the course of many nights out. It was fun, it was me and it was REAL.

Before anything else, I’m real.

And then… then it became something more when I added it to my company. It became a child of mine, a child I loved and pushed… a child I fought for, day in and day out.

My brand is made up of vixes, large and small, and as we enter 2016, I’m adding a new one to the mix. One I think you’ll enjoy very much.

Even though I’ve only been on this earth for a short time, I’m what you call “an old soul.” And as such, I feel I’ve lived a few lifetimes… if you believe in that sort of thing.

I’ve always been the mother of my groups, the one everyone comes to when they need a quick fix of confidence (or three) and that’s what I want to do with my blog brand in 2016.

A digital brand is something that constantly evolves, if you’re doing it right, and that’s why I’m sharing the #VixStory with you — I’ve found my voice these past few months and now? Now I want to give you the digital tips AND confidence to find yours.

The digital tips will still come in the form of The #DailyVix. The #VixStory posts will be quotes that I’ve said or that have inspired me and will be shared across all of my social channels.

I can’t wait to share this journey with you! Let’s vow to all be #FierceFemales in 2016, shall we?

Learn more on my blog, vixinthecity.com.

Vix MAIN HEADSHOTVictoria “Vix” Reitano is the CEO, Founder and Lead Consultant at CreatiVix Media, a digital agency based in NYC dedicated to making social media manageable for all. CreatiVix Media offers concierge social media, managed social media, managed social media ads and digital campaign management for celebrities, entreprenuers and brands. Vix offers 1:1 training for entrepreneurs, bloggers, celebrities, brands, journalists, students and more to help them become engaged partners in the building – and maintainence – of their digital brand. She’s a native New Yorker who is SoulCycle obsessed and loves everything about the City she is lucky enough to call home. You can connect with her on Twitter @VixintheCity, Facebook.com/VixintheCity or on Instagram.com/VixintheCity.

Loving Yourself

By Julia aka Yellow Wolf

 

Something Doreen Virtue said truly resonated with me today. That our spiritual self has never forgotten to love ourselves. Our true self loves us unconditionally and your spiritual truth has never forgotten that.

I LOVE this! It is hard when Ego takes over and makes us doubt our beauty, makes us question our skills, we begin to slowly leak away our power and start standing only in our Ego self.

While I am sure your Ego loves that, Ego is not there to take control and be the captain of your ship. Ego is only meant to be one small part of your posse that helps you. And yes it is great to blame Ego for all the wrongs, the should haves and so forth, the person to take responsibility in this is YOU. Yes a big lesson I had to learn as well.

You are the one with the ultimate control and power, and it is up to you to make nice with every single role that makes up the specialness that is you and give them clear defining boundaries. Don’t get me wrong, if they have been used to running the show, you are going to have a fun time on your hands wrangling them back to where they should be – but it is necessary for you to have the best life you can.

Don’t get frustrated with them, it is essential that you treat them like you would a child as they do not know that how they have been is wrong, they only think they have been doing the best they can for you – and in tune with their limiting roles – they have been. Thank them, explain to them what you think or why you may not take the usual path. Firmly say the new way of being and slowly but surely they will come to stand behind you in support where they should’ve been all along.

Loving yourself isn’t waiting for the right and perfect moment to do it- when you have the right job, haircut, lose that weight. The magic in truly loving yourself – is loving yourself despite all your supposed flaws, because you know what?! When you start to love yourself, all these start to go away, get better or your blinkers come off and you see the real you. The real amazing you that is unique and you start to see yourself as the treasure that you are.

Once you start the process of loving yourself, everything else starts to fall into place. You find partners that treat you right, you find jobs that are perfect for you etc. The list is endless when you begin this way of being.

It can be super hard, especially when you are fighting a lifelong challenge of dislike and hate. It can also have come from outside sources and not just be from yourself, or be a seemingly never ending family trait. This is where you have to take back that power and say NO MORE.

You will more than often find when you look back at people who put you down, that it either wasn’t about you and all about the person in question or that what it came down to is Ego based reasons – they were jealous of you (even if they didn’t know why), they felt guilty and lashed out and the list goes on. It is time to let that go and not carry the burden any more.

It is a never ending process and life will surely give you some doubts along the way. Each time stop before you spiral and say an affirmation or a quote, a song line – anything that gets you out of it and back to love based thoughts.

You will truly start to find your life changing when you get back to your true spiritual nature of unconditionally loving yourself.

I will start sharing some processes, hints and tricks that I am doing to get back to totally loving me in blogs to come. I don’t claim to be an expert, but I am in the process of doing this myself so what a perfect time to come along the journey with me… Are YOU ready to make the change of a lifetime??

Till next time… keep walking your spiritual path xx

JuliaJulia keeps her Left and Right hand side of the brain happy by being a successful business woman within the Mortgage Broking Industry and by having started her own Spiritual Practice.

Julia’s passion is to inspire those around her, with her own experiences as well as with daily inspiration and spiritual insight on her Facebook page.

Julia loves assisting clients and sharing her in depth knowledge to empower others.

You can find Julia here on Facebook…

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WHAT ARE MAIN REASONS WHY WOMEN DISCONNECT FROM THEIR BODIES AND THEIR INTUITION?

By Kathleen Zajac

Yesterday I had an inspiring chat with my friend. She is a brilliant, ambitious, intelligent woman (2 degrees, 3 languages). She is a philosopher. And she made me think of all those traps that make women disconnected from themselves and their bodies.

But first:

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE DISCONNECTED FROM YOUR BODY?

You may experience being disconnected from your body if:

  1. You don’t listen to your body needs
    By needs I mean obvious things such as: healthy food, fresh air, enough sleep, natural cosmetics, time for rest and so on.
    This may sound obvious, but in fact let me ask you – how many times have your pushed your body too much? I used to do that a lot until I ended up having health problems.
  2. You are not aware of how negative emotions and destructive thoughts are stored in your body (in the long term perspective they may create energy blockages that might affect the energy flow in your body)
  3. You don’t accept & love your body (if you are attached to thoughts like: “if only I could look this/that”, “I wish I’d have bigger/smaller this/that” then well… you don’t give yourself self-acceptance. In fact you don’t give yourself permission to be loved right now.
  4. You don’t recognize the connection between the quality of your thoughts & emotions and your body.

Disclaimer: Please don’t get me wrong in this post. I am only mentioning main reasons why women are likely to disconnect from their bodies. There is nothing wrong about being rational or about giving (anyway we need to be rational at work, when driving a car or filling annual tax return). The problem starts when you start losing healthy balance in your life. I simply want you to be mindful about a few patterns.

SO WHY WOMEN DISCONNECT FROM THEIR BODIES?

  1. Cause and result culture

In our Western culture everything we do has to have validation. When you ask a question “Why?” you want to hear a rational explanation, don’t you?
As a woman you have a great unique gift, which is your intuition, your gut, your inner voice (or however you want to name it smile emoticon. Now here’s the problem: you can’t rationalize your intuition, can you? Your intuition won’t give you an answer to the “why?” question. And that is how you slowly stop listening to yourself.

A question to You:

How often do you find yourself in a situation where some thought appears in your head and you immediately say to yourself “oh, no, this can’t be true”?

  1. A “to-do” list attitude

Because our culture values rationality and logic, you may have learnt to treat your life as a “to-do” list of goals to achieve, which may have become….quite an endless list…
(ok, I totally agree and admit myself that thanks to that attitude I have achieved amazing results. I always got what I wanted. )
But this attitude may not really work in your relationship with yourself and with your body. Why? Because it is so much mind-oriented. And somehow it just doesn’t fit to the feminine nature, which is about being soft, gentle, tender, receptive, creative and vulnerable.

A question to You:

Do you feel the need to plan and organize each and every part of your day? Do you let yourself have a moment to “just be” here and now? Do you enjoy that moment of “simply being & breathing”? I love with my whole heart my 10 minutes’ daily dates with cappuccino.

  1. Lack of knowledge

This is one aspect that is truly sad. As women we often don’t really know our bodies. We don’t know how our monthly rhythm looks like and how to use it in our favor. We learn to dislike our menstruation, PMS, and even find them irritating or disturbing in our everyday life.
We also don’t realize how our emotions, feelings, thoughts are connected with our bodies. Or you may be afraid of understanding those connections… because then you may feel responsible for what is happening with your body (for example health problems.).

A question to You:

Do you recognize those subtle connections between your body, mind, emotions and soul? What are 3 most common emotions that you experience during the day?

  1. Lack of balance between giving and receiving

We usually learn that our value as women depends on how much we give to others. How much love, care, attention you can offer to the world. And that is fine, because womanhood is about nurturing and creating space for others. But:

2 questions to You:

What about giving love to yourself?
Do you remember about yourself?

Or are there so many things happening around you that you tend to forget…?
As women we become so used to giving, giving, giving (oh, have I mention giving again?) that we often may overlook that moment when we start to feel tired, exhausted or burned out. You can’t give to others if you feel empty inside, can you? Actually you body can help you here if you listen to it.

A question to You:

How do you feel when somebody pays you a complement or offers something with no expectations? Uncomfortable? A little scared? Thinking of what you will have to give them back in exchange?

SO HOW CAN YOU CONNECT WITH YOUR BODY?

Here’s one simple (and powerful) exercise to practice your presence here & now, raise your self-awareness and connect yourself with your body. One of my friends said: it brings a smile to your face and light to your heart.

SO LET’S TRY!

  1. Find a moment during the day just for yourself. That can be while walking to work, taking a shower in the evening, brushing your teeth in the morning. 5 – 10 minutes will be enough.
    2. Close your eyes and open them as if you were opening your eyes for the first time ever. Imagine you have just woken up in a different world on a different planet. What can you see around you? Let yourself be surprised with whatever you see. Just observe.
    3. Take a deep breath. Feel fresh air coming in through your nostrils and then deeper into the lungs. Exhale slowly. Become conscious of your whole body.
    4. Concentrate on your hands. Remember you have just woken up in a different world with a strange body that has two hands. Touch your hands, stroke each side of the palm, each finger, each nail. Take time to discover your hands for the first time. How does it feel?
    5. Now I pose a question to you: what do you need your hands for? What can you do thanks to having your hands?

HOW ARE YOU FEELING RIGHT NOW?

You can practise this simple exercise with whichever sense (hear, taste, smell, touch etc.), and whichever part of your body you want (belly, breasts, legs, feet etc.).

WHAT IS THE GOAL OF THIS SIMPLE EXERCISE?

  1. You redirect your attention from the external to the internal, from the world outside you to your inner world (so much is happening there, isn’t it?).
    2. You concentrate on being responsive and passive. You practice receiving.

Try this simple exercise and you will quickly see the results. I promise!

Lots of love to beautiful You!

Kathleen

KathleenKathleen Zajac is an internationally recognized body & heart alignment mentor and certified healer. Her mission is to help women reconnect with their bodies, hearts and souls.  She shows women how – by accepting and falling in love with your body – you can step into your inner power and become the woman who you’ve always wanted to be.

Kathleen passionately studied sociology of body, health and illness for her M.A. and PhD studies. She has been practicing meditation for more than 18 years now. On her quest to find her feminine sparkle she tried tango, flamenco, belly dance, yoga, tantra, a few broken relationships and different methods of body energy healing.

“I love that moment when I wake up a sparkle in the eyes and a soul of another woman, and gently remind her that she is beautiful, feminine and can stay vulnerable, yet strong”.

To follow her work and connect with her:

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Resistance, You Must Evaporate…

By Susan Jacobs

‘There’s a new sheriff in town’ was my standby phrase when things went south with my emotionally and verbally abusive ex-boyfriend. It was a passive-aggressive way of letting him know that I could, and was, changing. Repeatedly slipping into Pollyanna-mode, I chose to only see and remember the positive in any given moment. Like an abused dog that flinches when a hand is raised, receiving his version of love and acknowledgement overpowered the painful memory of the abuse he inflicted.
Our relationship thankfully ran it’s course, leaving me with long-healed emotional scars and many lessons learned. As cliché as it is, 20/20 hindsight is so true thing.

But I do love the concept and energy behind ‘a new sheriff in town.’ It commands authority, leadership, strength, presence, power, respect, and abiding by the rules (although I more often like to break them). On this hot September day, this idea popped back into my head as I went to reset the 6:00am alarm but didn’t. Instead, I completed my intention of a taking 7:00am yoga class. And felt great as a result.
Allowing my old sheriff any power will be my demise, and a fast sinkhole into laziness, self-doubt, procrastination, and overall un-productivity. My new sheriff, however, sticks to commitments, gets out of my way, is focused on goals, completes tasks, does one thing at a time, is free of device addiction, and so much more. This sheriff is helping me create more productive habits and let the old ones go.

Resistance is a bitch and only keeps us locked in a cell, imprisoned by our fears, doubts, insecurities, and inertia. The sheriff has the keys and can open the cell door as easily as keeping it closed. It’s all up to us. As Steven Pressfield says in his great book, “Do The Work,” ‘Resistance is always lying and always full of shit. Resistance will reason with you like a lawyer or jam a nine-millimeter in your face like a stickup man.’
How’s your sheriff working out? Are you looking to make changes in any area of your life where you’ve felt stuck, frustrated, and without clear direction? If so, how can you enlist a new sheriff to break through the blocks? Call upon this energy to set clear goals that include intention, deadline, and measurability, focus on what behavior no longer serves you and where you want to go personally, professionally, and spiritually, and find someone to be accountable to. Then gracefully and gently embrace the magic that no doubt will begin to unfold.
Let ‘there’s a new sheriff in town’ become your mantra. Say it out loud with a smile as often as needed. And when in doubt, rent Mel Brooks’ “Blazing Saddles” and see how that new sheriff turned a town upside down, disrupting the predictable, and implementing positive change.
It’s time kick some ass!

Susan JacobsSusan Jacobs – I’m a world traveler, salsa dancing, yoga practicing, wanna-be Buddhist, and perpetual work-in-progress.  I believe we are co-creators of our lives and that anything is possible when we get out of our own way.  Giving voice to things that matter, sharing stories, and spreading ideas is my heart and soul.

For-hire, I’m a copywriter, content developer, and brand strategist for forward-thinking entrepreneurs, brands, and companies that are looking to make the world a better place. I specialize in cutting through the noise and clutter with authentic, engaging, easily accessible content that speaks directly to their target audience. From a 25-year career in PR, marketing, and branding I’m able to work across industries and am often hired as a ‘fresh’ perspective, an outsider, who creates content that anyone can understand.

I’m a contributing author to the recently published book “Pain, Purpose, Passion: That Was Then, This Is Now,” and my personal essays have appeared in FourTwoNine Magazine, Aquarian Times, Spirituality & Health, PR Week, and IndieWire. I’m working on her first memoir about my holistic healing journey through a hyperthyroid and Graves’ disease for The Round House Press. I’m also a guest blogger for Yogic Living and Identity Magazine. I live in Brooklyn and can be found at:

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