It’s almost the end of the year.
I get that.
People have been through the ringer.
I get that too.
But I also get the fact that it’s time we stop living our lives according to the calendar, to the digital watches on our wrists, to the demands of a faceless machine called industry.
That we stop compartmentalising and only focussing on some of what’s important to us as people and mostly on what is important to others.
That we stay connected to our cups and filling them up every single day.
It’s the most loving thing we can possibly do for everyone.
It’s in the times that we do everything we’re being told to do to the neglect of our joy, our health, our relationships, our purpose, the we go into robotic automation. We lose our spark. We lose our creativity.
We become vanilla.
Fuck, I hate vanilla.
I’m as pumped now as I was in January.
About my goals.
About my values.
About my aspirations.
About my life!
Because I’ve stayed connected.
My goals are written in a way that always brings a rumble in my belly and a smile to my face.
They are done with passion and clarity and meaning.
This wasn’t always my experience.
I used to kill myself to achieve my goals and if I hit the mark I would be thrilled for about five minutes and then left feeling deflated, empty, listless.
I used to pull out all the stops and be so focussed on the outcome that the minutes of my life was disappearing down the drain devoid of any pleasure.
And if I didn’t hit the mark, OMG I would crumble into a heap of defeated shame of not being good enough. That others were doing it which meant something was missing with me. I must have blocks. I must be doing it wrong. I’m a factory reject.
Damn I was a hot mess!
Yet it’s been an incredible journey and thank the dimples on my ass I took the time to do some deeeeep introspection, work with some fabulous coaches who were strong enough to hold up the mirror for me, and get to a new level of understanding.
I’ve come to understand that being a high achiever is not about crossing the finish line, even though it still has me clapping my hands in glee.
It’s about the thrill of the journey to get to the line.
It’s about staying connected with why I set each and every goal. Not the outcome, but the emotions it brings.
The joy, the sense of being a bad-ass manifestation machine, the sense of accomplishment, the learning that’s taken place, the excitement of meeting amazing people as I always do, all of it.
It’s about that exuberance I feel when I see that I’ve once again honoured what I value in the face of opposition.
I’m pumped from the adrenaline gained by facing the unknown, the fear, the drive.
I’m revving engines high from the opportunities to really get out of my comfort zone.
Of checking in along the way and asking myself how is this feeling right now?
If it feels hard, bring it on.
If it feels draining it means there’s a better way of doing it. I simply have to start thinking out of the box and do it differently with the expectation to succeed but the willingness to fail.
If it feels on fire, GIVE ME MORE MORE MORE!
I’m not done.
I’m not feeling like OMG I need a holiday.
Every day is filled with passioned activity that lights me up.
In other words Darling, I don’t need a break from my life!
Yes there’s days where it all comes crashing down and I just want to say fuck it all.
When a particular challenge seems insurmountable and I’m bruised and exhausted from the climb.
When I’ve been inside too much doing what I think has to be done.
Ticking the boxes.
Yes, I still tick my boxes.
I have no shame in giving myself permission to throw a tantrum.
To get it out of my system.
To rant and rave at the Universe and anyone who is unfortunate enough to be walking in the vicinity.
It’s part of the deliciousness of being human.
The ability to lose your shit.
And when I say fuck it all I walk away and go do something completely out of my routine. Out of my schedule. Out of my norm.
I go ride my bike regardless of what the time is.
I go sweat the gym.
I go eat an ice-cream.
I go sit outside and have a glass of wine.
I remember it’s just a journey.
And I’ve made the choice that I want to be present in my life and get to the end of each year feeling even more alive than the year before.
That I want to grow old and have wonderful stories to share with anyone who wants to listen.
So every day I consciously choose how I experience my life.
The very first prompt on my daily planning sheet is “Today I choose to feel…”
Today I chose fun.
I had an incredible bike ride through grass so long and wet that I had water dripping of my helmet.
I coached a badass woman who is changing the system.
I’m sitting in the sun, barefoot and smiling, writing this piece for you with music pumping in my ears and the dogs running around like wild rabbits.
It’s available to you too!
But you first have to disconnect from the drama.
You have to stop believing the bullshit you’re being fed of what will make you good.
If you’re not feeling on fire, if you’re not excited, thrilled, happy, feeling free, feeling inspired, feeling creative, then something is wrong!
Stop thinking that just because everyone around you is complaining about the same stuff that it’s normal.
It’s not normal!
You were born to thrive!
You were born to be happy!
That’s your default setting.
Everything else is just a signal that there’s a misalignment.
I invite you to throw your hands up in the air and just say ‘Fuck It!”
I invite you to book a day sick leave (even if you’re the boss) and play hookey and remember what fun feels like!
Here’s a clue for you – YOU’LL BE RADIATING!
Smiling from ear to ear.
Laughter will be bubbling up from inside of you.
Your body will be breaking into spontaneous movement.
You might even, heaven forbid, howl!
This is the energy from which you want to set your goals. From which you want to take action.
You say you don’t have time?
Well do you have time to be dead?
Because if you’re on that godforsaken hamster wheel that’s exactly what you’re doing Sweetie.
Death is coming soon enough.
Do you choose to thrive until then?
With love eternal,
PS: Boundless energy, grit, passion comes from clarity.
It comes from setting the goals that are in alignment with your purpose, your joy, your values, your thrive.
It comes from taking the time to understand the emotions that you’re secretly craving which you believe will come from achieving those goals and then stepping into them right now!
Because you’re the boss.
It’s about training your mind to stop fighting you with the drama, with the continuous degradation which we so often hear from our ego by identifying the belief systems that will empower you to greater levels of achievement.
This is the purpose of Ignite sessions.
90 minutes of deep dive, clarity, passion, bullshit elimination to get your ass in gear for iconic living.
Because that’s where you are born to play.
But only if you’re done with seeking sympathy and Molly coddling. I don’t hold hands and I don’t play the violin.
I see your magnificence and I don’t settle for anything less.