Ode to the Introverts

These days it’s rare for me to wake up out of sorts.

In fact I can’t remember when last I have.

Until this morning that is.

I woke up and something was out of alignment.

There was an unease like when you’re running on the trails and a grain of sand slips into your shoe.  It’s not causing pain (yet), but it diverts your focus.  Takes you off balance.  It just doesn’t feel right.

I took out my journal.

What to do?

Do I just say fuck it and go to yoga this morning and hope it goes away?

Or do I honour myself and take the extra time to figure this shit out?

Figure the shit out.

Thank chocolate mousse I did.

Over the last few weeks I’ve been delving deep into my yoga practice which meant constantly being surrounded by people.

Don’t get me wrong – I love people.

But there’s a reason why I’m a lone wolf.

Most just don’t get it.

They’re pack animals who love being in the vibrations of others all the time.

Different strokes for different folks.

Me, I’m an empath.  I energetically connect with people and FEEL them.  I feel their unspoken emotions.  All their joy, all their love, all their excitement, all their pain, all their anger, all their frustrations, all their resentment.

This is my gift.

This is my life purpose – to see the truth that others at times don’t want to see because it would mean they will have to own their choices and decisions and take full responsibility for their lives.

I’ve been gifted with experiences that provided the opportunities to learn compassion with these feelings without getting stuck in the drama of the feelings.  Because if I could survive the shit I have AND choose to thrive, anyone else can survive whatever they are going through.

The downside of this gift is that I have to unconsciously and consciously process this all the time when I’m around people.  I have to constantly distinguish between my feelings and their feelings to ensure I don’t get confused of what belongs to me.  I have to make sure I’m always cutting chords when I leave the room so that I don’t take their energy home with me.  I also have to cut chords as people often hook into me and literally suck my vibrations out of me.   Oh this is completely normal – we all do it.  Every time you interact with someone a chord is formed.

Out of respect for their personal journey I don’t share my insights unless given permission – this is normally done in the context of coaching.  I have learned that there’s a reason why people drug themselves with alcohol, cigarettes, chocolate, sex, entertainment. I’ve learned that unless they’re ready the truth will not set them free but instead make them retreat even further into their soul coffins.

This is probably one of the main reasons why I was born an introvert.

I’m starting to think that most introverts are in fact empaths.

I’ve always FELT people more than I SAW the public image people show.  This led to an exquisite childhood where I would constantly be punished for speaking my truth – being called a rebel, a bitch, disrespectful.

Actually it still happens and I completely get it.

People normally don’t like hearing what’s going on inside.

Shit there was a time when I fucking hated what was going on inside of myself.

But I learned to use my pain to turn it around.  I learned that my pain brings me messages and it doesn’t have to be excruciating pain!  It can just be a grain of sand.

Caught up in all the classes, the studying, the growth I have neglected to cut the chords.  I have been around people way too much and have absorbed their feelings as my own. I  have not taken care of myself and that’s simply not good enough for me and it’s not good enough for you.  You deserve better than my sloppy seconds – you deserve the best version of me.

This morning I took the time to cut the chords.  To centre.  To bring my focus back into myself.  To distinguish between what belongs to me and what to gift back to everyone else.

I love people way too much to carry their shit for them.

Apparently shit really needs to get bad these days for people to be inspired to change.

Crazy ass don’t you think?

I wonder if it’s just because people have forgotten how incredibly fucking good good really feels.

Because if they did surely they would take the time to figure it out.

The messages of pain.

The opportunities to sit down and go inside and ask the questions that really matter.

I want to share with you my top questions and maybe today is that day when you sit down, drop all the egotistical crap which prevents you from being raw, and find your truth.  A truth that, when you embrace it, will set you free!

  1. When I feel completely alive, completely on fire, completely in alignment with my soul, how do I feel?
  2. If I’m not feeling THAT right now then what is it that I’m truly feeling right now, in this moment?  What is the pain, the discomfort, the unease?
  3. What is this really about?  What is the message for me?  Where am I not showing up true to myself?  Where am I tolerating things that goes against my core beliefs and values?  Where am I not speaking my truth?  Where am I constantly putting myself in an environment where I have to wear a mask?
  4. What is the true price that I’m paying by tolerating this pain?  What is the long-term impact on my life, my happiness, my purpose?
  5. What am I prepared to do about it?  Now here’s the power of choice – you don’t have to do jack shit if you don’t want to.  You can go from being a pawn to the player who makes conscious choices!  So then you say out loud “I choose not to do anything about this right now.  I choose to live with the pain.”  Or maybe you choose to do something really small today which over the long term will change the outcome, such as getting on your bike and going for a very long solo ride or writing an extra hour in your journal or just listening to some soul stirring tunes that turns your vibes around or asking ArchAngel Michael to please cut all energetic chords that don’t belong.

Now I have to warn you, like most of my recommendations this exercise is not for sissies.  It takes no small amount of courage to do this and to do it with complete honesty.  And if you’re not prepared to be honest with yourself then what’s the point?  The only reason why people are not honest with themselves is because it’s easier in this world to be a victim – it’s become the accepted norm.

Here’s what I want to say to you today Darling – stop thinking that you can hide from the pain.  Instead I invite you to identify the pain and to move through it so that you can find the growth, the truth, the love, the joy which is waiting for you on the other side.  The pain is simply a smoke screen preventing you from looking further.

For if you did and you saw what I see within you, behind all the shit you’re trying to ignore, you would fucking run and crash through it head on!

Because you are phenomenal.





And you are so worth true joy.

Honour yourself.  Honour your needs.  If you’re an introvert, honour your need for social withdrawal so that you can create your art.

Because ultimately death is inevitable.  Thriving is a choice.

With love always


PS:  I have reopened spaces for Kick-Start.  You and me, 30 days.  But only if you’re ready to (wo)man up and get real about your desires, your values, your passion, your power.  When you’re ready to bust through the veil and claim your joy, your badassery, your truth.  This is not for the faint of heart – but then again I know you’re anything but faint.  You are a true warrior.  You are here to make an impact.  You are here to thrive.


Dancing with Yoga

Oh how I adore my life.

I’m feeling so blessed right now.

I’ve completed my first yoga class of the day.

It started snowing as I ran over to the coffee shop.

The girls know me by now so I get to come inside even before they switch on the lights.

My Soy Flat White is always warm and delicious in my beautiful take-away cup.

As I’m sitting facing the door, each person who enters looks into my eyes and smiles.

God, life is magic.

I am so grateful for all of it and take nothing for granted.

I’m so grateful to you for reading my insane ramblings and pray that on the right day you will find inspiration in my energetic presence when you need it.

I’m so grateful for my beautiful new Apple Mac which I’m writing this blog on – a true gift from the Universe.

I’m so grateful for being in a position where I can order a large coffee and not think twice about the cost.

Coffee is so much more than coffee to me.  It’s a symbol of overcoming one of the most trying times in my life.

A time when coffee was a luxury I couldn’t afford.

Hell, we couldn’t even afford food every day.

If it wasn’t for my loving parents there would have been times when my kids would not have eaten.  But they did.

And through faith and the grace of God,  I now live a life where I get to wake up feeling abundant, supported, always receiving.

A blessing that I’m reminded of with every sip of coffee every day.

I am so grateful for this new life in New Zealand.

New Zealand has made me breathe deeper.

She’s embraced me in her loving arms and brought me closer to my soul.

Which is probably why my soul now brought me to my yoga mat.

Yoga and I’ve had an interesting relationship for years.

He’s always called to me yet his voice was way too gentle for my adrenaline pumping body.

So I would dance with him for one song and then walk off the dance floor with the old line “It’s not you, it’s me”.

Yet somehow I found myself signing up for yoga certification.  My Soul knew that I would trust the whisper she gave me.  I always do.  The whispers are what brings me the most joyous adventures.

In the beginning I was so resistant:

  • It’s so slow!
  • It’s so boring.
  • It’s so painful with all my injuries.
  • I don’t like the music – I want some Imagine Dragons.

There’s been so many times when I would have walked away was it not for the investment and commitment I’ve made in the certification process.

So I came back day after day.

And then I upped the ante and I started doing three classes a day.


Yoga took me into his warm loving arms, looked deep into my eyes, deep into my soul, and I fell in love.

It’s a hard thing to explain but once again my physical body is what has opened me up to learning my soul lessons.  The ones that is taking me to a higher level in business, in my relationships, in my life.

Yoga has taught me to follow the path of most resistance.  The path that so clearly will have me thriving but which is completely out of my comfort zone.  A path that is not very pretty to observe.  A path that so many start and then, because it feels awkward, stop.

Yoga has taught me that ultimately I can trust my body, trust myself.  Over the years I’ve sustained many injuries, both physical and emotional, and somewhere along the line I stopped feeling safe.  I stopped feeling like I could truly trust my body.  Instead I started using her to mask what was happening on the inside.  At one stage I even stopped liking my body, never mind loving her.

Looking back now I can see it clearly.

Oh don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t change a thing!  I am filled with gratitude for every experience I’ve ever been through, both the good and the ugly.  Each one of those have brought me to this point in my life and made me the woman I am today.

But for the first time in decades I’m finding myself trusting my body again and feeling safe in her.  For the first time in decades I’m finding myself listening to my body and working with her instead of against her to settle slowly into the different asanas.

Yoga has taught me to breathe.  Not the shallow burning inhalations but a slow, steady breath of life.  He’s taught me how to use my inhalation to strengthen and exhalation to release.  A wonderful lesson in my business.  I inhale connecting with my message, my tribe, and I exhale and release the outcome knowing that it will all work out perfectly and that the more I breathe and trust the further I will reach.

Yoga has taught me that my entire Universe exists within the reach of my physical body.  That is the only space that I truly need to be aware of.  Everything that happens outside of this dimension does not have to impact me.  If the person on the mat next to me falls over, I can continue to stand tall.  If the person next to me goes deeper than I can today I can admire them and still celebrate whatever my body CAN do today.

In the same way Yoga has taught me to learn from the teacher but always go within as that is where my truth resides.  I can take the learning and choose the wisdom.

Yoga has taught me that life only happens in the now.  When I sit on my mat and bring my hands to prayer position, the rest of the world stops for me.  All that matters is now, this moment, me connecting with myself and my God and my body and my soul and my breath and my passion for moving my body.

It’s a beautiful thing Darling.

Next Friday I’ll be doing my final practical exam and even though most would think that I’ve achieved the goal that I set myself and ready to move on to the next thing, I know that it’s only the beginning of my true journey.

For my dance with Yoga is far from over.

My dance with Yoga will continue to evolve as we twirl around and gather more people to sway to the rhythm of breath.

Over to you now:

  • What are you working on right now that’s feeling really uncomfortable but which you know will take you next level?
  • What is your story of discomfort?  It’s only when we can own up to the BS we tell ourselves that we can change the story.
  • What can you put into place to ensure that you push through and come out a winner?  It could be blocking out time on your calendar. It could be finding an accountability buddy.  It could be working with a coach.  It could be cooking your meals in advance.  Anything you can think of, brainstorm that shit down and then take immediate action on at least one thing.

Because death will continue to inevitable.  Thriving will continue to be a choice.

And I thrive in the dance.

With love always,


PS:  If you’ve found some inspiration in this piece to continue through the discomfort of your current learnings so that you too can love the dance please share it with others who are ready to stop being a slave to the rhythm dictated by others.  It’s my belief that more and more people are ready to choose their own music, choreograph their own dance.  And if you would like more, come join me on Facebook where I do regular lives and posts and invite your mates.


The difference between mediocre and epic results

It always fascinates me to see people in the gym, sweating away yet never increasing muscle.

It astounds me that people would take the time and go through the effort of getting to the gym, get changed and not commit to results.

Oh I know you think you are.  I know you look at the pictures and the videos on how to do the moves and copy it yet there’s a missing piece.

I see the exact same thing in everything that people do.

Anything that requires action.

Anything that requires muscle whether bicep or mind.

The missing element, the thing that most people still don’t get, is that it’s not about WHAT you do, it’s about HOW you do it!

Think of it in terms of boxing.  You can hold your arms up in front of your face, but if you’re not HOLDING them with purpose, focus and strength, a fist is going to come crashing through and break your nose.

When I was first asked to train Aqua classes I rolled my eyes.  You have got to be kidding me!

I used to watch the classes with all the elderly ladies (and a sprinkle of gents) splashing around, chatting away like it’s a noon tea party rather than a training class.

Can you imaging me doing that??

Then again I never say never so I agreed.  I went through the training course and my interest was piques so I did additional research and then I did the work!

I did the work properly.

I would climb out of the pool after 30 minutes, breathless and sweating.  My muscles ached in places I didn’t even remembered existed.

It was fucking awesome!

So I watched to see what participants were doing that had them climbing out like glamour girls, curls still perfectly in place.

I identified their weaknesses.

I identified their trigger points.

And then I started teaching.

Those old ladies would climb out of the pool after a session, puffing and cursing me.  After my first class I saw them congregate at the manager’s office and thought for sure I would be called in for a complaint.

Instead I received a phone call – would I please consider doing more classes because the old duckies loved me!

That’s right Darling.

Want to know why?

Because when I first challenged them to stop fart-arsing around they told me to respect their age.  I looked them straight in the eye and replied that I would much rather respect the bad-ass warrior maidens they have been their entire lives.  I would much rather respect the fact that they have birthed children, raised families, stood by their spouses through tough times, lost loved ones to the after life, and yet where others have given up and are sitting watching soapies waiting for life to end, they chose to be here – in the pool looking after their health and their bodies.

No way in hell was I going to go easy on them.

I showed them the difference between moving their arms through the water and not even causing a ripple which is what they were doing up to this point. Then I showed them how to fucking MOVE their arms through the water creating waves.  Moving with focus, with effort, with intensity.  Contracting and releasing and contracting again.  I showed them that when they all started moving and creating waves there was a crashing of power all around them.  They climbed out drenched from all the splashing.

It’s exactly the same with every training move whether in or out of the water.  You can do a bicep curl just going through the motions with a weight and simply get no gains.  Or you can do a bicep curl focusing on the muscle contracting, pinching it at the top to the point where it burns and even without a weight you will start seeing the difference in a few weeks.

Setting goals – you can absolutely go through the motions of ‘setting goals’ wishy washy and ticking the box.  OR you can dig deep, really deep and find the goal that sets you on fire.  You can do the work and figure out which emotions are driving you in achieving this goal.  You can set that goal statement in such a way that it completely thrills you just to read it out loud and raise  your vibration.  Then you can take it next level and say that statement with so much passion and conviction that the air stops and the hairs on your arms stand up.  Then you take it next level and exclaim that statement with so much authority that people stop to stare because even though they might not know you, even though they have no idea what your current circumstances are, they fucking believe you!

You can take it a step further and dig on the big why for your goal.  You can identify the pleasures and you can magnify the pains of not achieving it so that giving up is never an option.  You can go next level and make sure that you have more then ten reasons why you’re committed to achieving this goal and if you can’t be bothered to find at least ten, you can respect yourself enough to stop wasting your own time and just walk away from the goal.

Because these are the differences between mediocrity and epic.

You can absolutely go through the motions Darling.  You can absolutely keep yourself busy.  You can absolutely feel sorry for yourself and say “But I’m TRYING”.

Fuck trying.

Do or don’t.

There’s a reason why those who operate at high levels of achievement work with coaches and trainers.  Because no matter how good you are, there comes a point when your ego steps in and makes you cheat, makes you do a fraction less.  But that fraction over time gives you a completely different outcome.

The video can’t put a hand on your bicep and bring a new level of awareness.

The video can’t feel the point of contraction and teach you what that really feels like in your body.

The video can’t look you in the eye, tell you to TTFU and push you to go next level.

It’s the same in every aspect of life.

This is exactly why I believe in coaching and why I continuously work with a coach every time that I’m ready to go next level.  Every time that I’m ready to get out of my comfort zone.  Every time that my goals are way too important for me to take any chances of getting off track.

My goals deserve the best of me.

And the best of me deserves support.

I don’t have time to just go through the motions.  I have to make everything count.  I demand results from my effort.

I demand the best from me.

So here’s your assignment today should you so choose:

  1.  Journal and ask yourself where in your life are you going through the motions and not seeing the results that you desire?  Is it in your training?  Is it even at the point of goal setting?  Are your goals so important to you that you physically write them out every day?  Because if you’re not, question that shit.
  2. Be honest with yourself and assess the effort that you’re putting into the actions.  I’m not talking about dragging your tired ass around and just trying to squeeze out the last drop.  Then you need to first go refuel Darling because to just keep going is a classic way of self-sabotage.  Get real about where you’re at.
  3. Do it differently.  Whether that means better time management so you can focus uninterrupted on your task at hand, or going to a coach or trainer to learn the correct technique before practicing on your own, or to start doing your actions with the pros so you can learn from them.  It’s really up to you.  But do it differently!

I’m seeing way too many exhausted busy people rushing around mindlessly going through the motions and then numbing the pain of not getting the desired results.

Wake the fuck up.

Pay attention to what you’re doing.

Be conscious of HOW you’re doing it.

And do it better.

Because at the end of the day death is probably less painful than existence.  But thriving is a choice you can make TODAY and have the life you’ve always dreamed of.


With love always,



PS:  Yesterday we officially kicked off Get Your Shiz Together.  The feedback at the end of the call was “Okay now we’re all a little scared, but it’s a good scared”.  That’s because the participants saw true passion in action.  They experienced what it feels like to have that passion behind them, pushing them to go next level, to leave behind the slow rhythm of existence and to embrace the excitement of their true desires.  And they are on FIRE!  I’m keeping the doors open for you until tonight and then they are closing.  This is your final opportunity to join us and to leave behind a life of ordinary because there’s no way in hell you can connect with your true magnificence and remain the same.  But only join if you’re serious about not just going through the motions, but actually getting results.  Get Your Shiz Together today.

What does being a good parent mean anyway?

This is the third time I’m starting this blog.

I know that today I’m being called to talk about parenthood but fuck it’s hard.

It’s hard because there’s so much judgement out there of what makes a good parent.

So much judgement around the sacrifices we should be making to make to earn our stripes as being worthy of raising children.

And when I look at the societal norms and especially my cultural norms, I fail dismally.

Women look at me appalled when I say I don’t cook for my family.  They take turns to cook for themselves and each other.

They roll their eyes when I admit that I’ve stopped doing their washing and it’s up to them if their underpants are clean or dirty.

The feel of disapproval is palpable when I admit that I have no fucking clue where the school trip is going.  I just know I need to buy him toothpaste and lunch for the road and pick him up Friday at 3 pm.

God knows that I’ve been criticised over the years for my complete selfish approach to parenthood.

I guess I could feel bad about the fact that I spent hours on my bike instead of sitting at home playing in the mud when they were smaller.  I could feel guilty when I dish up my food and they’re still hours away from because one of them forgot to take the meat out this morning to defrost.

Man if I wanted to I could feel bad about tons of shit.

But I don’t.

I don’t because ultimately I gave birth to two magnificent, powerful, independent future leaders who are encouraged to question, to think for themselves, to step up and contribute to the household as they will step up and contribute to the world one day.  They are encouraged to be completely self-sufficient so in the event of me taking my last breath, I know for a fact they can continue to thrive.

I hold my boys up to the same standard as I hold myself.  I don’t pull the punches when I talk to them.  I don’t ‘(s)mother’ them.  I don’t get involved in their fights.

I live my life in a way that I pray serves as an example to them so when they have to make the hard choices one day they will say “it’s all good because ultimately I’m doing what I feel called to do to live my purpose and make a positive impact in the world.”

At least I hope that’s what they’re getting from my life.

I believe they are.

Which brings me to today – the first day of school holidays.

Okay I’m going to admit it, historically I’ve not been a huge fan of school holidays.  They never seem to come at ‘convenient’ times do they?  Especially not when I’m on fire to complete my yoga certification, launch Get Your Shiz Together, get back on my bike because we miss each other dearly, and work with a coach who is kicking my ass blue.

Previously school holidays were a complete nightmare of boredom and continuous fights that would raise the roof.

But then one fateful morning I decided to take control of this situation and like any spectacular mother turn it to my advantage.

That’s right – I became the Mommanator.

I renamed them Minion One and Minion Two and make the little darlings earn their chocolates.

What does this mean?

It means my boys have the additional opportunity to support their awesome queen of a mother by doing my laundry instead of just their own.  They get to come out riding with me because with all that testosterone pumping through their legs they have become way stronger than me which means they provide the perfect carrots on intervals.

I have decided that I’m choosing to be an amazing mom by teaching them how to live their dreams one day whilst raising their children.

For too long I bought into the BS that we have to put our dreams on hold until our kids are grown up.  For one thing, how the fuck will I ever have the energy when I’m that old??

I have decided that I’m being an epic mom by teaching them how to encourage fitness and health by dragging your resistant, sulking teenagers on a ride that secretly they thrive on, even though their egos might not agree with me.

I’m being a phenomenal mom by waking up happy regardless of whether my kids are at home or at school.

Because being miserable fucking sucks.  I remember when they were small and I thought I had to be a good mommy by staying at home and giving up my dreams, my passions, my true self.

I will NEVER do that to my kids again.


Looking back I now realise that in fact what I was doing was nothing but suicidal and selfish.

What I was doing was putting my misery on their shoulders so that one day I could look back like so many parents do and say “I gave up my dreams for you” or “now that you’re all grown up I have no idea who I am”.

I’m not doing that shit.

Before you call child services on me understand that my kids have everything from me that will set them up for success:  unconditional love, honest conversations, strong boundaries, life skills, support and there’s always food in the house for them to cook.

Why am I writing about this today?

I guess because I still see so many parents living under a cloud of guilt – the whole I‘m damned if I do and I’m damned if I don’t.

Fuck it.

YOU decide what being an epic parent looks like to you and then you do it!

YOU decide what you want your kids to remember about you when you’re gone and then live it!

YOU decide how you want your kids to feel about you around the dinner table and then you show up for that!

But whatever you do, don’t you dare to use your kids as an excuse to play small, to put your dreams on hold, to procrastinate on everything that you say you desire but in fact you’re too bum ass lazy to do the fucking work to get the results (I raise my hand for historically doing this).

That’s not fair on you.

It sure as hell is not fair on your kids.

If there’s one thing I know for sure it’s that my boys love me unconditionally and they’re fucking proud to call me mom.  I can see it in the way they introduce me to their friends.  I can see it in the way they walk beside me.  I can see it when they jump on my bed to have a lazy conversation with me in the morning.  I can feel it in their big bear hugs.

Do I think I’m a good mother?

I’m going to say a big hell yes!

Because I know that death is inevitable, existing is worse, and thriving is my choice.

With love always,


PS:  Today at 4 pm NZCT we kick off with our very first live call in Get Your Shiz Together.  You still have time to get in.  Don’t use the school holidays as an excuse to not build your epic life.  What better time than to do it in front of your kids and SHOW them that they can have, be and do anything they desire.  Let’s play.  Get Your Shiz Together today.


Ducks and Swans

This blog is especially for Roxanne – the most gracious swan of all.

I love doing shit that keeps me humble.

Very humble.

The type of things that keep my ego in check by choosing to look anything but phenomenal.

In fact if you ever see me practicing my chosen physical activities you probably think WTF?

I’ve heard some of the most hysterical comments when people think my music is loud so I can’t hear them.

That’s because I’m the most unlikely of candidates on any field or floor.

Turns out this is true for yoga as well.

I sometimes look at myself and wonder what the hell ever happened to the ballet dancer?

I kid you not – I pretty much danced from the time I could stand and was planning a career as a professional dancer until I fucked up my knees at age 18.

I used to consider myself extraordinarily graceful and believed that since I walk like a duck I was destined to be a ballerina.  Looking at myself today I might have been delusional.

Then something went South.

I wish I could blame my age except I know that’s bullshit.

I stopped practicing on a daily basis.

My joints started stiffening up.

I picked up a few more injuries along the way from falling off my bike (on numerous occasions) to overusing my joints to just living like a maniac and abusing my body more often than I would like to admit.

It takes me a while just to get up in the morning and have everything settle back into place.

Which is how I found myself in class this morning at 6:15 doing the very un-yogi thing by looking around and spotting Roxanne.

OMG she just makes everything look so graceful and easy.

A real swan.

Regal, long limbed, inspirational.

And then I looked at myself in the mirror.

Apparently my ‘duck feet’ has spread throughout my body and so now I pretty much just look like a duck in whatever pose I attempt to do.

Think short squatty legs.  Think big bottom.  Think waddle.  Think the opposite of swan.

That’s pretty much me!

I had to giggle.

The duck and the swan practicing side by side.

And you know what – never once does the swan make me feel ugly.  We’re just different and we both appreciate that.

Isn’t life great?

I think it’s our difference that keep it real and I love it!

Roxanne will always be a swan and she will inspire all who watch her by how effortless she makes it look.

I will always be a duck and my life is about inspiring people that we can do whatever the hell we truly desire regardless of anything!

That’s why I became an IronMan athlete even though I couldn’t swim.

That’s why I became a SkyRunner when I was told to throw away my running shoes because my lower back is disintegrating and my hip is merrily tearing me up inside.

And that’s probably why I’m doing yoga.

I don’t ever want people to look at themselves in the mirror and think “Oh I could never do that because I’m not as young, not as fit, not as thin, not as strong, not as tall, not as graceful as the professionals”.

It truly saddens me to see how many people try something new and really love it only to stop doing it because they can’t immediately keep up with the pack.  Or because they try for a couple of weeks and don’t see overnight improvement.

It’s all just ego if you think about it.

Yes some people are born with natural talents (we all are) but talent will never beat hard work.

You can have all the talent in the world and if you don’t use it, if you don’t practice it, if you don’t improve it, you might as well not have it at all.

I’m still not sure what my natural talent is but I don’t let that stop me from working my duck ass off to do the things that bring me joy.

Like taking my feet off the wall this morning and doing that headstand!


It has taken me 153 hours of yoga in the past 5 months to get to this point and I’m stupendously proud of myself.

Because it’s hard for me.

Because the first time I was told to take one leg off the floor I doubted for a moment that I would ever be able to do it.

I was terrified.

And the first few times I looked like a hippo trying to pirouette.

I kept coming back.  Getting that big buttocks and short legs up a little longer.

And viola!

I’m a mere 43 hours away from my certification (hallelujah!).

Am I going to transform into a swan overnight?

Bwahahahahaha!  Hell no Darling.

I believe the certification will only be the start of my journey.

But I’m going to show others that it’s not about perfection – it’s about improvement.  And when you show up for yourself every single day you WILL improve.

This is not just physical improvement.

This includes your mindset.  Your business.  Your relationships.  Your art.

Where attention flows improvement goes.

And when you stop comparing yourself with others to keep yourself small and instead compare yourself to be inspired, you will never stop again.  You will keep showing up because you also want to be able to do that.

And if you’re a duck you absolutely want to practice with the swans.

The swans will inspire you.

The swans will show you what will ultimately be possible for you.

The swans will encourage you.

The swans will keep you humble and make damn sure you never loose your sense of humour.

If you do, come do yoga with me and I will show you that it’s never about how you look but about you get to feel.

Now it’s your turn:

Where in your life have you done something a few times that you absolutely loved and then gave up because you didn’t quite get it right in record time?

Where in your life do you have natural talent that you’re just wasting because you’re not practicing it daily?

Where in your life do you hide from the swans instead of being a proud duck?

Quack Quack Baby.

Because death is inevitable but thriving is my choice.

With love and cuddles


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I would love to but…

When did it start?

The first time that we changed our speech from “One day I’m going to…” to “I would love to but…”

As children nothing is ever out of bounds.  Nothing is ever impossible.

There’s just a knowing that everything is possible even if it’s not going to happen today specifically.

Then at some stage we started changing our language.

Instead of saying one day we started saying the dreaded but.

The cursed but.

The but that in fact states that our desires are simply not going to happen.

That we’re not worthy.

That we’re not capable.

That we’re not masters of our own destiny.

The but that takes away our true power and replaces it with excuses – oops, did I type that out loud?

Know why this is really sad?

It’s sad because our desires are there for a very good reason.  Each and every time we feel a desire it’s an opportunity to investigate and learn a little more about ourselves.

It’s also an opportunity to move towards our true life purpose and magnificent destiny.

If we’re brave enough to drop the but.

Are you ready to drop the but like a hot potato and take back the steering wheel?

Then here’s what we’re going to do:

The first step in reclaiming your childlike trust in you is to investigate if it’s really your desire or if it just looks really cool on someone else.  So often I find that other people are living in joy and it looks amazing but when I take a closer look, it lacks the juice for me.  The fastest way to figure this out is to get real about what’s all involved in having or doing said desire.

So for instance going on an overseas trip could involve research, booking tickets, booking accommodation, sorting out those visas, buying additional luggage, packing, finding a house sitter, what about the pets, do the kids need any shots, have you arranged the currency, etc. etc. etc.

If it seems like way too much PT, then it’s not really your desire.  You simply bought into someone else’s ‘thing’ – different strokes for different folks.

Walk away from it and go back to the drawing board.

If indeed it IS yours to own, then step number two is to set a goal!

You might think that goals are bleugh or only for business, but let me tell you that every epic thing in my life started off as a goal.

I firmly believe that a goal is a dream with a deadline.  If it’s not written down, if there’s no deadline, it will always remain a dream.  I don’t know about you but I prefer riding my bike, feeling the adrenaline, the exhilaration of my legs pumping, the burning air in my lungs versus spending my days in a Lala Land because my reality sucks.

The third step is then to find out what’s really behind the desire.  It’s never about the thing or the experience, it’s about the emotion we believe we will feel when we have said desire.

This is a game-changer by the way. So often you will find that there’s many other ways in which to obtain the desired feeling AND sometimes those other ways bring you even more joy and flow.  Just saying.

Once you understand the feeling you’re really after and you can find it inside of yourself REGARDLESS of the physical manifestation of the desire, whatever you desired will just appear.  Viola!  It’s fucking magic.

That’s what happened with my move to New Zealand!

I desired to feel safe.

I desired to feel free.

I desired to see beauty when I rode my bike.

So I started doing some crazy things that had me feeling safe, free and seeing beauty.  I went inside and found that nobody could ever take my freedom away from me.  I found that when I owned my power and my connection to the Universe I felt safe and protected.  I found that the most beautiful place I can ever be in is in my heart.  Next thing I knew the plane touched down in paradise.

However none of this would have happened if I had said “I would love to but…”

Instead I said “I have no fucking clue how, but I’m waking up Christmas morning in New Zealand. It is done.”

And just so we’re clear, I didn’t exactly have a team cheering me on.  Oh hell no!  Instead I had a whole bunch of ‘realistic’ people telling me that it’s a nice dream but –

  • It takes a lot of money and you don’t have it
  • It’s hard to find work in New Zealand
  • The red tape to go to New Zealand is almost impossible
  • You have to sell your house and that takes time
  • You have to sell your cars and that doesn’t happen overnight
  • It takes months if not years to organize a big move like this
  • Blah Blah Blah

Fuck that shit.

I desired.

I set the goal.

I believed.

I received.

End of story.

Take BUT out of your vocabulary because unless you’re a Minion, it simply doesn’t serve you.

Anything that you’re given as a true desire, is yours for the receiving.

Claim it for yourself.

Set that baby as a goal.

Take inspired action believing that regardless of what things might look like right now, it’s yours for the receiving.

And then receive it!

Every time you say “I would love to but” you’re in fact saying that you don’t believe it’s possible for you.

And that’s bullshit.

Everything and anything is possible for you.

It might not always feel as easy but nothing is impossible.

You and I both know that the word in itself says I’M POSSIBLE.

My invitation to you today is to have a look at where you’re saying “I would love to but…” and investigate that.  Is it truly a desire for you or does it just look nice on someone else.  Then set a goal.  Figure out what the desired feelings are and journal those out every single day.  Keep believing and take inspired action.

And receive!

I truly hope today inspires you to stop denying yourself anything that you desire.


Because what you believe in one area of your life you will believe in another as well.  It’s simply not worth screwing yourself over this way.

Ultimately you know by now that death is inevitable but thriving is a choice.

With love always,


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Allow yourself…

I should have seen it coming.

In fact in a way I did.

I knew this morning as I woke up that today was going to be different.

Last night I found myself feeling less than fantastic – a weird feeling right now as my norm is on fire.

Which meant it was time for some introspection.  It was time to investigate what was out of alignment for me.

That’s when I realized that I’ve had so many massive shifts in the last month that I’m shitting myself!  Except because I’m such a bad-ass, I didn’t acknowledge the fear so instead I started sabotaging myself in the sneakiest of ways.

Not taking my power naps in the afternoon.

Not preparing my meals before the time and then eating cheese whilst preparing lunch cause I’m so hungry.

And then there were the cookies!

OMG I ate so many cookies last night it was ridiculous.

For most people these might seem really minuscule, but when you’re on full power blast everything matters.

The moment you go back to your ‘old’ ways of doing and being, you slip.  You go back to being the person you were before you moved to your next level epic.

And going back is simply not an option for me anymore.

I’ve taken that possibility off the table.

Not happening.

Not now.

Not ever.

Now I could have gone into the whole bash myself over the head scenario and feel guilty for eating the cheese and the cookies.  I could have felt like a failure and have a pity party over the fact that I’m human after all.

But how would this serve me?

It wouldn’t.

It would only serve my ego and make me slide back even further.

So I chose not to go that route.

Instead I bundled myself up in bed at 8 pm, closed my eyes and had a serious conversation with God.  We came to the agreement that I would stop sabotaging myself and he would lovingly make me aware any time I do in order for me to stop that shit.

It was a good talk.

I slept.

This morning as I opened my eyes I felt the change.  I simply couldn’t even think about another piece of cheese.  Instead part of my planning for today is my next level menu and ordering everything that I need to go super clean in my fuel.

It is done.

I have two new clients booked in for their intro sessions which is going to be super high vibe – I hope they’re ready for it.

So why on earth would I be surprised when I walked into my first yoga class only to be informed that I would be presenting the class?

I could have refused.

I could have thrown a wee tantrum.

I could have gone into the whole story of I’m not prepared and don’t feel qualified to do it.

But that was the previous level me.

Instead I said “Good morning ladies let’s start in easy seat, hands in front of your heart in prayer position and bring your focus to your breath.”

I creamed it.

It just flowed out of me.

One posture into the next into the next.

It felt amazing.

I felt at home.

This is where I belong.





Replacing fear with love.

Here’s what I really want to share with you today.

Yes it is fantastic to grow and to become more successful and to go higher vibe all the time.  But what nobody ever talks about is the fact that it’s scary as shit.  It’s scary because you have to leave behind your old ‘normal’ way of doing, being, thinking.  You have to leave behind the tatty ‘comfortable’ clothes.  You have to leave behind the ‘comfort’ food.  Sometimes you even have to leave behind relationships.

You have to take trust to a whole new level!  Trust in the Universe.  Trust in your purpose.  Trust in your journey.  Trust that everything is happening for you.  Trust that everything is happening in divine timing.  Above all trust in yourself.

You have to do things that you’ve previously said no to.

It’s uncomfortable.

It’s scary.

It’s a little messy.

Sometimes it’s a lot messy!

And unless you are present in this process you will default and start sabotaging yourself – first in really small ways (maybe having more chocolate than before or drinking coffee even when your head is pounding) and then in bigger ways (not keeping track of your appointments and eating a really big meal half an hour before your yoga class – not recommended!)

So here’s what I want to invite you to do today:

  1.  Have a look at the change you have created in your life this year and how you’ve grown.  Really acknowledge how far you have come!
  2. Acknowledge any fear that you may be experiencing with zero judgement – only love, acceptance and appreciation of yourself.
  3. Notice any little ways that you’ve started sliding or sabotaging yourself, again without any blame.  Just be curious.
  4. Have a conversation with yourself and journal the living daylights out of this.  Empathize with your old self and thank her for everything that she’s done for you.  Thank her for getting you to this point and assure her that she will always be a part of your legacy.  Then let her go and fully step into your new version self.
  5. NOW – what are the support structures that you need to put into place to keep you on track?  For me it was God, my coach, a magnificent mastermind group, a new menu, etc.  What are you putting in place?  Because if you don’t you’re seriously setting yourself up for failure.
  6. And finally say YES to something that you would have said no to before and just fucking do it!  Right now!  Don’t overthink it.  Just go for it.  It will be fun (she says with a wicked grin and an evil chuckle).

So here I’m sitting in a high vibe cafe, drinking my large Soy Flat White, headphones on with Springsteen pumping into my fingers, a smile on my face whilst I’m sharing this with you.  Because this is my new chosen normal and it’s fucking epic!

My wish for you is to create your next level epic today.  Why wait?

I’m serious – why would you want to wait?

You can choose to have it all today.

You can choose to change right now, in this moment, adios shitty habits.

Just fucking do it Darling – because death IS inevitable.  But thriving, Oh Thriving is such a wonderful choice to make.

With my love always,


PS:  Have you heard that the doors to Get Your Shiz Together is open?  It’s four weeks of me, you and some ass-kickers from around the globe taking you thrive.  It’s about stepping into your next level self, setting the goals, learning the structures, routines and mind-set to support you in achieving whatever you decide to achieve.  I’ve made this a really low investment because I want to give everyone the opportunity to go next level.  So are you ready to Get Your Shiz Together because I’m waiting to lovingly kick your ass one step at a time.


Don’t EVER dim your light for their BS

WARNING:  This is going to be a highly controversial blog and piss people off, but it has to come out of my heart before I explode!

I seriously wonder sometimes if people actually listen to what they’re saying!

Such as when a teacher, a coach, a leader makes the statement that their knowledge should be guarded.

Or one that I hear so often, that humans are inherently bad.


I disagree.

I believe that all people are inherently good and deserve to learn all that is available out there.  I mean come on guys – if you honestly believe that we are part of a creation from a Source that is pure love, do you really think he/she got it wrong?  What, you think God has two recipes that is run on automatic, some baking good people and some baking bad people?

Just stop and think about this for a moment.

What instead if you believed that all people are good?  Would you show up differently?  Would you let your message rip from your throat in an ear-piercing howl so that all could hear and then choose which way they want to turn?

What if you believed that at their source people are pure soul simply here to have an experience?  Would you be on a mission to bring them joy and belief in themselves so that they can see what you see and spread THAT instead of the BS that people are bad.

What if all the souls are simply trying to find their way back to truth before the human body kicks the bucket?

I’ve witnessed and experienced that sometimes the mind gets to connect with a glimmer of absolute truth and the person shows up fully and their on fire with their passion and their joy.  I’ve also seen and experienced that sometimes the mind simply gets lost in all the noise and the blinking lights and the noise of the world, which puts said soul in pain and just like any animal who hurts, they simply react in any way they can find in the moment to try and alleviate the torment.

Sometimes they become violent and do dumb-ass shit like hurt others so they can just for an instance feel back in control and transfer the attention of pain.  Sometimes they take chemicals to try and remember what it feels like to feel good.  Sometimes they steal, sometimes they corrupt, sometimes they kill.

But they’re all just fucking hurting!

Do you get that?

Do you get that as a teacher it’s NOT your place to judge all humans as bad just because the noise has increased and more and more people are fucking trying their best but sometimes that best is just messed up.

I refuse to buy into this bullshit.

I’ve screwed up royally.  I’ve smoked pot.  I’ve abused alcohol.  I’ve starved myself to the point of anorexia because I couldn’t stand the image in the mirror.  I’ve drowned myself in food because I couldn’t stand the image in the mirror.  Does this make me inherently a bad person?

Well if that’s what you want to think of me then whatever Darling.  My behavior does not define my soul and quite frankly I am grateful for every shitty thing that I’ve done and that’s been done to me because they have provided the opportunities to learn and grow and to show up as the woman I am today.

A woman who is on fire to un-fuck 10 million people because I believe in the good of humanity!

And it’s statements such as we have to keep the knowledge from people because they’re not worthy that has brilliant people doubting themselves because every time you have the thought that humans are bad energetically that fucks somebody up!

How dare we?

How dare we do this to those who are ready to awaken and learn and take a stand for their magnificence?

Oooooooh I get so mad!

Screw.  That.  Shit.


Believe this.  Believe this and know that there will always be those who are here to keep others in ‘their place’ but on the reverse side of the coin there are also those of us who are here to help you scrape off the mud on your lenses so that you can start showing up as your true powerful self.

The true powerful self who can be, do and have anything that you desire because it’s all good.  The true powerful self who inspire others to wake the fuck up just by standing in your truth and living a life of growth, learning, joy and love.

That’s who you truly are.  Anything else is just part of the journey.

So my challenge for you today is around waking up and becoming aware of two things:

  1. I want you to start paying attention to what people around you are saying as statements of truth all the time (this is crucial for you to start understanding who you choose to hang with understanding that they are imprinting their thoughts and beliefs onto your subconscious mind).  Are you spending your precious time with the people who are empowering you on your path?  Truly?
  2. I want you to start paying attention to what you are saying to yourself and others and really start questioning if you’re empowering others and spreading the love or if in fact you are spreading some of the darkness?  This is not about judging yourself as good or bad.  Leave that to those who sit on their high and mighty thrones because they’re going to judge you anyway.  This is about awareness and making choices from that place of being awake instead of just reiterating what you’re probably hearing on a continuous basis (refer to 1)

That’s it.

You can do this right?

If you have some huge realizations and you want to share them you know where to find me.  Hit me a comment or drop me a message at anel@anelbester.com

Because ultimately if you’re reading this, if you’re in my space, you know that this is true.  You know that as long as we keep saying BS such as people are bad we’re never going to fully show up for ourselves or for them.  Then what’s the point because your purpose is to bring light, to show truth, to inspire.

I believe people are good.

I believe people are more powerful than we can ever comprehend.

I believe YOU ROCK and that you’re doing great even when it doesn’t necessarily feel like it in the moment.  Just keep moving forward Babes.  One step at a time.  Just keep moving forward and you will not only find the right teachers that will get you running, but you will find your people who will be having a party with you that rocks the heavens and has those angels beating drums!

I believe in YOU!

Don’t ever believe anybody who says anything else.

And as always when you take your next breath remember that death is inevitable.  But thriving is a choice.

With love always,


PS:  If you’re ready to learn, I’m ready to teach Darling.  Get Your Shiz Together is now open and we started with some pre-course work yesterday.  Are you in?  Are you ready to say screw all the naysayers and start living life on your own terms?  Are you ready to explore your next level?  Are you ready to set those goals?  Are you ready to learn my systems, structures and routines that keeps me performing at epic levels?  If not get your ass moving!  This is a low-priced investment because I want more people to have access to the tools that I know work and make a difference in your life!  Get Your Shiz Together today and let’s play!




There will always be days when…

You and me, we’re pretty fucking spectacular Darling.

We were born to make a huge impact in this world.

I’m not necessarily talking about ending world hunger or stopping. war.

I’m referring to showing up as our best selves thereby inspiring others to go beyond the self-limiting social bullshit that we’re programmed with.

This sounds almost too easy to be true.  Which is probably why most people don’t believe it.

Instead they think that in order for us to be really valuable and make an impact we have to create something new and spectacular.  Something that’s never been done or seen before.

So instead of actually just doing the work they are here to do – aka be their best selves – they give up and say well if I can’t be THAT, I’ll just sit on my ass and observe the world and life passing me by.

This is a cop-out by the way.  Of epic proportions.

When we start buying into the lie that who we just are is not good enough, we’re simply feeding the commercial industry by numbing the pain with eating too much, drinking too much, smoking too much, asking for too much entertainment.

Instead of doing the real work.

The work that has us focusing inwards.

Stripping away the layers of false perceptions and self-fulfilling prophecies we have picked up over the years and finding our own truth.  The truth that you have a powerful body that desires nothing more than to move and take you on epic adventures.  The truth that what you think and what you have to say is important to your people.  The truth that you must have everything that you desire because each desire is there for a specific reason even though you might not understand it.

In The Science of Getting Rich,Wallace Wattle shares so beautifully that in order for us to have a true impact, we have a responsibility to show up as our best version selves and that means taking care of our bodies, our minds and our souls.

That starts by trusting what you’re being guided to want.

Over the years I’ve learned to follow my intuition even when it doesn’t make sense at the time.  That’s how I became an entrepreneur, how I became a life coach, how I became an IronMan, how I became a SkyRunner, how I moved to New Zealand etc.  None of it made any sense at the time and when people asked me why I wanted to do or experience it, I had no idea.  Yet looking back it makes perfect sense!  Each of these have been in service of my purpose.

Which is why I continue to trust that crazy little voice inside my head.

Okay so she’s not so little but she sure as hell sounds crazy at times.

Currently I have so many people asking me why I’m doing my yoga certification.  Am I going to start working at the studio where I’m completing my practical hours? Am I going to start up my own studio?

And the answer is a resounding NO!

In truth I have no clue why I’m doing my certification.  All I know is that I had a nudge to do so and the moment I said ‘Oh Okay I’ll do it’ everything just appeared and fell into place.  Like magic.

So I know it’s part of my journey and that it is in service to my soul tribe.  Only time will tell exactly how it all fits into the picture.  For now I just trust and I continue to show up and do the work.

It’s important to understand though that just because your only purpose is to be your best version self, doesn’t mean that it always feels easy.  Not by any stretch of the imagination.

In fact, it’s probably the hardest fucking thing in the world especially when you’re in the beginning or the middle of the process.

When all around you you see mediocrity.

When people look at you skew as if you’re bat-shit crazy.

When your loved ones start ignoring you because they think you’re obsessed.

When you look in your bank account and there’s fuck-all abundance in there (except an abundance of emptiness).

This is why most people rather cop out and say ‘Oh I’ll never end world hunger so I’m just going to settle for what I have because it’s good enough’.

If it was easy everybody would be doing it Darling.

And there will be days when you’re on fire and feel like you’re unstoppable.

And there will be days when you just want to say ‘fuck this shit!’ and be like everyone else, grabbing a tub of ice-cream and the entire series of The Hobbit.

Those are the days that has the potential to turn into your most inspiring stories!

The days when you say ‘fuck this shit’ and still sit down and do the mind-set work.  When you take your time and reconnect with your reason why you started in the first place.  When you break through that glass ceiling and look back and think how easy it really was the moment you decided it was already done.  The moment you exclaimed to all who would hear that you’re a badass MOFO who will not be defeated.  Not today.  NOT TODAY!

It’s about just not giving in this time to the pain and the evil voice of the scared ego who wants nothing more than to have people like you.  But you know what?  Like will fucking suffocate you if you’re in my world.  Because if you’re in my world chances are excellent that you’re a born leader, rebel, creative, achiever.

We don’t do ‘like’ Darling.

Like is for the vanilla people.

Are you vanilla?

Are you feeling vanilla today?

How long are you going to stay vanilla?

No two days are created equal.  There will be good days and there will be challenging days.  What you have to ‘get‘ is that all of these days are happening FOR you.  All of them serve a purpose to unlock more of your awesomeness.  If you only want the good days you’ll never break the glass ceilings that leads to the epic days.

You and I both know that obstacles are put in your way to show you how much you truly want something.  And quite frankly if you’re not prepared to get over the obstacles then get off the fucking course.  Because others will find a way and you will sit there on your couch and keep saying “Oh how I wish I could do that”.

Well you CAN!

Nobody is stronger, more enigmatic, more important, more special, more awesome than you are.

But you have to put in the work!  The real work!  The scraping off the bullshit work!  The mind-set work!  The setting the goals and intentions and taking a step forward every single day REGARDLESS of how you’re feeling.  Change your feelings.  It’s all in your power.  But you have to want it.

What are you saying YES to today?

What are you saying ENOUGH AND NO MORE to today?

Because if you don’t take that stand right here right now, chances are you never will.

Believe in yourself!

I believe in you.

I desire nothing more than to see you on fire and succeeding in your life – however you choose to define success.

But you must want it more than I want it for you.

It’s your life Darling.

Are you going to live it as your best version self?


Because death is inevitable.  Thriving is a choice.

With love,


PS:  I’m so excited to have the opportunity to support you for four weeks to Get Your Shiz Together!  The official start date is July the 10th but we’re starting with some pre-course work TODAY.  I want you to start unfurling your version 2.0 so that you can fly!  If you haven’t signed up yet then do so now!  Because there’s never a better time to Get Your Shiz Together than right here and right now.  If you’re constantly saying “next time” or “I’ll start on Monday” know that’s a self-fulfilling prophecy which says you’ll never get started.   That’s bullshit!  That’s vanilla.  Stop being vanilla and instead claim your own flavor of spectacular.  Right here.  Right now.  Let’s play.

Take a stand for the AND to see what you’re really made of

You’ve heard me say it a million times before – I believe that you are here for a purpose far greater than you.

A purpose that impacts the lives of others in a beautiful way.

What I probably should add for clarity is the fact that I believe the way in which we live this purpose most powerfully is when we are phenomenally fucking happy.

When we do the shit that lights us up and makes us smile and laugh.

When we have surroundings that make us sigh in delight because it’s so beautiful and expansive and raises our vibrations.

When our relationships are fun and mutually supportive and lends itself to an upward spiral like gorgeous trapeze artists rolling up in the sky.

In order for us to reach this stage we have to allow ourselves to have it ALL!

And you can!

And you can have it all at the same time!

And you can have it all now!

I believe that society has really done a job by convincing us that to live a purposeful life we have to sacrifice joy in some form or another.  We have to give up our dreams or put them on hold whilst building a relationship and trying to convince the other person that we can make them happy.  We have to stall our ambitions because we’ve chosen to have kids and the right thing to do by our children is to be available to entertain them all the time.

Of course anything different from this we are labelled as selfish.

This is such a load of crock.

I should know because I’ve tried that approach and I nearly died!  I abandoned my truth and instead of thriving, I turned into a miserable, depressed, shouting bitch who scared the bejeesus out of my boys every time they dared to intrude on my private hell.

I wasn’t born to be a full-time mother.  Don’t get me wrong – I ADORE my kids.  I would die for my kids and I would even kill for my kids.

But they are a part of my life.  They are not my whole life.

The pain that I caused myself through self-abandoning was unbearable.

On the inside I knew that I’m here to make an impact.  To go on epic adventures that would inspire others to take a look at their own lives and ask the questions that truly matter.  Questions such as where they might be holding back because of a false belief that was handed to them by someone else.  Questions such as what their lives would look like if they gave themselves permission to go full throttle even when others continuously criticized and insulted them (jealousy makes you…)  Questions such as how they could possibly do it all when they are already so tired!

Here’s what I’ve found:  The more I do (and I’m not talking about keeping busy, I’m talking about doing the magnificent things that light me up completely such as building my business, racing, raising leaders, challenging my body and splashing in mud), the more energy I have.  It’s like I’m permanently plugged into some nitrogen that has me going on and on and on.

Screw Energizer Bunny – he has nothing on me.

The more I allow myself to say yes to the AND, the more I tap into my true potential and life force.  I continue to expand and to grow and to thrive.

Which is why I started taking a stand for the AND.

I can build a very successful business AND

I can be a kick-ass inspirational loving mother AND

I can be a sensual exciting lover and wife AND

I can be a competitive cyclist AND

I can be working towards my yoga certification AND

I can be a hard-core coach AND

I can be a thought-provoking author AND

I can be spiritually attuned and aligned each and every day.

AND yes – I do all of these every single day with a smile on my face – a genuine radiant smile of joy on my face – and I still have the time to notice the sunrise and the snow on the mountains and the birdsong at random times and the construction worker wolfing down his breakfast at the table next to me soberly contemplating his next move in life.

The reason why I can do all of these successfully is because I decided I could.  I decided that I didn’t want to buy into the notion that we have to sacrifice true joy to be good at anything in life.

But I will also tell you what I did say no to – I started saying no to mindless distraction and senseless ‘entertainment’ because I realized that all of these things were simply eating my time and energy without any true benefit or joy.  I’m not saying I never watch a movie – I happen to love a good movie.  But I choose what I want to watch.  I have also found that listening to interesting and inspirational podcasts bring me more joy than listening to the news and endless advertising on the radio.

Just by cutting out distractions my energy, focus and time has expanded dramatically.

It always comes back to questioning the norm, choosing your own truth and then living the life that your soul is craving!  The life where you wake up happy and go to sleep happy and feel happy in-between as well!

When you’re finding that smile is your constant companion, you know you’re on the right path Darling.  If instead you’re keeping company with mister frown you need to start questioning your choices PLEASE!!!

It’s not rocket science.  Stop believing the lies and reconnect with your truth.  Reconnect with your inner knowing.  Dare to be different.  Dare to give mediocrity the middle finger.  Dare to be true to yourself.  Dare to be happy.

I dare you.

Because death is inevitable but thriving is a choice which entails taking a stand for the AND.

With love always,


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