Sometimes you just have to give yourself permission to shit your pants.

Isn’t it crazy how we set the goals, we ask for our desires, and then when we see it starting to come to fruition we freak out, pull back, sit on our assess frozen in fear?

The Universe shows us the resources that will support us, but it still takes some form of effort on our side and so we turn away from it because taking that final leap of faith just seems too much of a risk.

Or is that just me?

I doubt it.

I’ve worked with too many people for too long to be delusional about my uniqueness when it comes to fear.  To self doubt.  To wondering if I’ll be enough.

What I have come to realise is that every time we start observing the evidence that we’re on our way to success, we have to question all our self-sabotaging bullshit from yesteryear.

We have no choice but to admit to ourselves that shit is getting real and that we are badass manifestation queens!

That we truly can be, do and have all of our heart’s desires.

And that scares us half witless.

So what do we do?

We go straight into doubt and fear and shitting our lacy panties.

We desperately seek for all the fuck-ups of yesterday and pin that donkey on our backs saying that we’ve never done it before which means we can’t possibly succeed this time around.

We pull out the big guns to convince ourselves that really, it wasn’t THAT bad before so why not just settle for what we had.

It was so much easier.

So much more comfortable.

Our energy plummets.

We feel out of sorts.

We take ourselves out of alignment, out of the game.


Personal growth can be a real bitch at times.

What makes this even worse is the fact that very few people are prepared to talk about this shit.

They only want to give you the steps that will ‘definitely’ work for you if you just implement.

They only want to share with you their rags to riches stories once they have come out on the other side and then convince you life becomes easy once you have ‘arrived’.

Well Hun, you only fucking ‘arrive’ to a place of ease when you croak.

Until then, life is all about growth.  And growth is not easy for anyone.

It’s not easy for anyone to question all they’ve done before and leave behind the shit that weighs them down so heavily.

It’s not easy to wake up in the morning and make that decision again and again that your past will not define you.

Your bank account will not define you.

Your marital status will not define you.

Your genitals will not define you.

Your heritage will not define you.

If it was easy everyone would be thriving and skipping with the bunnies, singing with the birds.

Instead, making a commitment to success, true success including money, contribution, love, health, happiness, is making a commitment to doing the real work for the rest of your life.

It also is a commitment to understand that yesterday and all the years before is done!  You can’t go back.  You can’t go change anything.

What you CAN do is to take inventory, find the lessons, and move the fuck on.

What you CAN do is to make a clear decision of where you want to go and be relentless in the pursuit of your happiness.  Embracing the fact that the road of happiness IS growth.

Making a commitment to no longer settle for anything that had you feeling ‘comfortable’ before because we both know that you weren’t thriving being comfy.

If you had, you wouldn’t be reading this piece today.

Instead you’re left feeling unsatisfied.

Like having really bad sex.

Sure, from the outside it can look as if though you’re having the time of your life.

You can scream and scratch and breathe really loud.

You can probably even fake an orgasm.

But inside…



Less than numb


Cut off from your true potential to feel the energy created when the body is turned on and explodes into a chasm of creative tension.

And maybe that was good enough for your granny

Maybe it was even good enough for your mother

But if you don’t shake off the shackles of lies of what you are meant to experience, that there are no bad desires, that there is no limitation on what you can ask for AND receive, you’re just faking it Darling.

And nobody is buying it anymore.

People are waking up.

They are seeing past the photoshop and the pretence.

They’re sick and tired of the nauseating “Little Miss Sunshines” poisoning themselves with suppressed emotions.

Suppressed anger festering into rage.

Resentment fertilising cancer eating up body and soul.

It’s fucking insanity!

And you deserve more!

You deserve to wake up in the morning, embracing the fact that you were built a warrior.

You have everything it takes.

You have the courage.

You have the burning desire.

You have the grit.

You have the wisdom.

Now all you need to do is stop saying no to your truth and start saying yes to your journey.

Your journey to greatness.

Your journey to impact.

Your journey to thrive.

Now in all honesty, if you’re reading this piece and thinking I’m smoking dope, you’ll never get it.

You’ll never get the fact that I choose to live on the edge because this is my legacy.

This is my purpose.

This IS the dream for me.

I have no desire for comfort anymore.

Lord knows I’ve had it long enough and it sucked the soul right out of me.

I’m a goddamned warrior and I will continue to face the demons in my darkness every single day for the rest of my life.

Going deeper each morning as I sit with my journal.

Each call with my coach where I get challenged and triggered and want to tell her to just fuck off and leave me alone FFS.

But I don’t.

And she doesn’t.

Because for me, THIS is the real work.

It’s all about growth Darling.

All those goals you set for yourself.

It’s not about the money.

It’s not about the clients.

It’s not about the boat.

It’s not even about the beach.

It’s about the growth.


Get this, and you will become unstoppable.

You too will start setting the goals that challenge the pants off you.

Where you simply can’t see any way possible.

Success will require letting go of bullshit.

Success will require thinking differently.

Doing differently.

Believing differently.

And all of this is challenging.

Especially if you’re a high achiever and you don’t want to look like a fool.

The only fool is the asshole staying the same day in and day out thinking she’s happy.

I’ve gifted myself permission to be real.

I’ve gifted myself permission to be scared.

I’ve gifted myself permission to fuck up.

I’ve gifted myself permission to go full out for my dreams and to make the sacrifices they demand.

Sacrificing toxic relationships.

Sacrificing toxic food.

Sacrificing toxic beliefs.

I’m fucking worth it.

And so are you.

What are you giving yourself permission for today?

Here – you can have my slip….

Fill it wisely.

For death is coming.

You can choose to exist, or to thrive until then.

With love eternal,


PS:  2018 can be your year.

The year where you rise above your current fears.

The year in which you give yourself permission to stop creating your future results based on your past behaviours.

The year you give yourself permission to stop running a hobby and to build an empire.

It won’t be easy.

It won’t be effortless.

It will take brass ovaries and shit tons of determination.

But if you’re ready, and you give yourself permission to be supported exquisitely through the process, I invite you to book your free consult today.