Who would you be without the fear?

‘Who would you be without the fear?’

Such a popular question often asked in coaching.

In fact, I’m sure I would have asked this very same question hundreds of times.

The idea behind the question is to open you up to new possibilities.

To show you what else is available to you if you weren’t feeling so scared every time something spectacular came your way.

But quite frankly Darling,

these days when I hear this question

I can’t help but think to myself

who gives a shit?

Fact of the matter is that fear is a part of the spectrum of human emotions

and no matter how many times you tell yourself you’re fearless

we both know that’s bullshit.

Plus in my humble opinion. if you’re at the point where you’ve eradicated one of the core emotions, you’re pretty screwed.

You’re either high as a kite on drugs

or worse

you’ve dehumanised yourself.

So you get asked the question ‘Who would you be without the fear?  What would you be doing?’

and for a moment you go and play in that sphere of imagination.

It feels amazing!

You’re riding a stallion bare-back,

you’re building that multi-gazillion dollar empire

you’re standing on that stage in front of millions of cheering fans.

Endorphines and adrenaline pumping through your veins.

Yeah baby – invincible.

And then,

you open your eyes and you now have to take action.


Fear comes flooding back,  amplified by this humongous vision

and you freeze.


Your mind goes into overdrive.

The voice

that terrible voice

of shame.

“What the hell is wrong with me?

Why am I such a little bitch?

Where did I go wrong?

What blocks do I have?

Why can’t I do this?

Why can’t I be fearless like the successful people?



You throw your arms up in defeat and leave the room feeling worse than ever before.

Been there.

Done that.

Ripped that motherloving t-shirt to pieces.

Here’s what I found to be more useful:

Remember my core belief that everything happens for me?

That the Universe is on my side?


So that means that everything that I’ve been gifted with in this realm is here FOR my highest and best good.

That means that fear can’t possibly be my enemy.

She’s my ally.

Yes, she’s a bit of a bitch at times.

I don’t always enjoy her company and I definitely tend to cuddle more with happiness.

She taunts me with her darkness.

Then again I do have a weird thing for the dark.

Yet I know for a fact that just behind that red cape she’s swinging in front of me is my next step to fucking awesome!

I’m not talking about the life-threatening type of fear so please take responsibility for your intelligence here.

I’m talking about all those fears that stand between me and the adventures I desire.

I’ve found a more helpful question to ask myself is

‘Who is the best version of me in the presence of fear?’

Just feel how THAT opens you up!

THIS is when I get to choose!

I get to choose which actions I take to cement the identity I CLAIM for myself.









I set myself up for success as I’m not expecting to take these actions without fear.

Instead I get to feel into my fear, I get to swallow her and use her presence in my belly to ignite my passion

Furnace burning

Fire creates energy

Energy gets transformed into action.

Action gets results.


And which do you think feels better for those of us who choose to rise?

  • Easy results that keeps you the same as you were before taking the action?
  • Or the results that had you step up into your best next level through the shear courage it took?

Look, I love unicorns as much as the next person.

But let’s ride those babies in the other dimension shall we?

Time to get real.

Time to HTFU.

Time to be the magnificence in human form you came here to be.

Time to feel the fear and then decide what you want.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always a choice available to the brave.

You know I love you,


PS:  You have six months left of 2018.

Does that excite you?

Or terrify you?

Does the thought of all you can still accomplish light you up, feeling the exhilaration of all the discomfort lying ahead of you as you continue to grow?

Or do you wish for the end to come just so you can break the insanity of your dull and listless routine?

If you’re done living in an illusion (delusion?) where you think you’re escaping the unpleasant circumstances of your current situation, and you’re ready to be courageous and face reality so that you can consciously create your future,

I’ve created Recalibrate and Accelerate just for you.

90 minus of crystal clarity.

Anchoring down your goals with a massive purpose.

Aligning your values to support your success.

Shifting your energy into the vibration of your best next self.

And then

accelerating your results.

You have two weeks left to claim this session and then it’s off the table.

Booking times available into July so feel the fear and then decide what action you will take in the presence thereof.