What if there’s no pot of joy waiting at the end of a road paved in misery?

Let’s shift gears today.

 

I had a ‘human’ moment yesterday and I have to say,

it wasn’t pretty.

It ended at the bottom of a huge strawberry milkshake.

 

What’s sad, is that I refer to my ‘human moments’ as those when I’m out of alignment with my truth.

When I look like the masses.

When I tell the same stories as the average population.

These moments are so infrequent that when it hits me I’m dazed and confused for a while.

 

The rest of the time,

when I’m in flow,

I’m called alien.

HA!

 

 

All I know is that around lunchtime, I felt unhappy.

For no apparent reason.

So my ego, ever in service to my sanity, started making them up.

I started telling myself stories about how hard I am working on a public holiday (I didn’t even know it was a public holiday until it was pointed out to me halfway through the morning),

about how tired I should be,

about how everyone else is outside doing god knows what

whilst I’m sitting behind my Mac creating an EPIC new course for you.

 

I got into my car, literally stomping my foot like a petulant toddler,

reversing out of my garage

raging against the Universe.

 

Declaring that I’m not going to do another stitch of work today.

Soul bedamned.

I’m going to be like everyone else and go to McDonalds ( I KNOW I KNOW!!!)

Sitting in the insanely long queue,

I proudly ordered a large milkshake,

came back home,

switched on Netflix,

and started sucking on that straw watching I don’t even know what.

 

I was sooooo bored 15 minutes into the movie who’s name I can’t recall.

I spotted Chrissie sitting by my feet.

I figured I would rather take her for a walk than have to pretend interest a moment longer.

 

Ten minutes into the walk,

my body started dancing.

So much joy flowing through my limbs, moving like an octopus.

 

Sometimes I wonder what my poor neighbours think when they see me in my own little bubble.

 

Driven by curiosity I immediately pulled out my journal upon arriving back home:

What did this weird human-day mean????

 

Turns out that yesterday was just a gentle reminder from the Universe

that I am the creator of my own life experience.

I get to choose how I view everything.

I get to choose what stories I tell myself.

I get to choose how I feel.

I get to choose…

 

In my middle-class upbringing I was told that life is all about pain, suffering, codependency (they called it love, belonging and connection), martyrdom, enslavement,

so that we will be rewarded in the after life.

Apparently the more we can endure whilst breathing,

the happier we will be when we’re floating.

I’m starting to suspect this is simply a way to keep people from actually getting their shit together,

upgrading their life experience whilst they are

alive!

 

More and more I find that misery loves company,

and if the middle-class doesn’t have something to complain about,

there’s no conversation to be had.

 

Again, I am only sharing my personal experience.

 

When I decided to leave behind the middle-class mentality,

my friends evaporated,

majority of my family left,

because we had nothing left in common.

 

I can’t be fucked listening to people bitching about work and bills and the economy and politics.

I can’t be bothered pretending to believe that I will be rewarded in heaven for scraping by on earth.

 

If those are your beliefs and your convictions,

I respect your choice,

but I have no desire to walk the road paved with bemoaning.

 

Why am I in a state of thrive 99% of the time?

 

Easy:

I GET to create another incredible life-transforming course for you.

I GET to train insane in my gym or on my bike.

I GET to write this blog every day.

I GET to walk my dog on a semi-private beach.

I GET to cook amazingly delicious foods for myself and my loved ones.

I GET to connect with thousands of people across the globe every day via social media.

I GET to continuously feed my mind with fabulous books and new learning.

I GET to pay my blessings received on time every month.

I GET to pay my taxes for living in this spectacularly beautiful country.

I GET to kick ass with driven clients who are on a mission to become their next best selves.

I GET to mentor some transformational next-generation coaches.

I GET TO LIVE AND BREATHE AND CREATE AND CONNECT AND LEARN AND EXPERIENCE AND DREAM AND MANIFEST!

 

This IS the pot of thrive Darling.

And it is available to us right now!

 

How on earth can we continue to believe that we have to suffer for joy?

How can we continue to believe that living in a state of deprivation creates abundance in the world?

How can we continue to think that sacrificing our true selves, our love of self, can possibly create a loving home for others?

How can we continue to say that pressing pause on our dreams, the vision that was given to us by SOUL, the one that has us shake with excitement, is in service to our children?

 

HOW DARE WE BELIEVE THAT WE DON’T HAVE WHAT THE FUCK IT TAKES TO THRIVE?

That we have to slow down.

That we have to walk away from increased vibration and anticipation.

That we have to sit in therapy for years to heal the past,

without looking to the future,

even though the past is only relevant when you think about it in the now.

 

Do you honestly think that you will be able to see something in your future that you can’t handle????

 

For the love of popsicles Darling

think for yourself!!

 

Today I invite some new perspective.

 

As always,

everything is a choice.

If you’re happy in your suffering,

keep regurgitating those old stories.

 

However, if you desire to turn it around for yourself,

I invite you to list out EVERYTHING you habitually bitch about,

and then,

WRITE IT DOWN IN GRATITUDE.

 

“I am so happy and grateful that I get to wake in the morning.

I am so happy and grateful that I get to pay rent for my home which keeps me safe from the elements.

I am so happy and grateful that I get to work today.

I am so happy and grateful that I get to pay for my blessings received (you might call them bills).

I am so happy and grateful that I get to move my body.

I am so happy and grateful that I get to watch the sun rise.

I am so happy and grateful that I get to converse with others today.

I am so happy and grateful that Anel took the time to write another silly blog that doesn’t follow the ‘professional dictated format’ ;-)”

 

Put on some crazy tunes, shake your ass in wild abandon and then FEEL how your temperature rises,

your heartbeat elevates,

your breath deepens,

and KNOW THAT YOU ARE ALIVE!

 

Welcome to my ‘normal’ state.

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always the choice of the crazy motherfuckers who dance when others walk.

 

I love you,

Anel.

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????  For those ready to take control of their lives and make it matter!

That’s right Darling, right now courageous men and women are stepping the fuck up and applying for the next intake of the Coach Apprenticeship.

This is a six month INTENSE certification program for passionate coaches ready to start a revolution by BEING the change they seek in the world, fearlessly leading their cult following, building an empire of lasting impact, and becoming legendary.

THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.

Is it really the teacher, the teachings, or the capacity of your receiving?

Okay……

 

Let’s poke the bear 😉

 

One of the perks of being an introvert, is the fact that I LOVE observing people.

In fact, many moons ago it used to be one of my favourite past-times on a Saturday afternoon with my mom.  We would go to a busy mall, sit in an open restaurant, order a pizza to share, and people-watch.

Better than most movies.

 

ANYWAYS….

 

Back to the topic at hand.

 

It’s always with a sense of  fascination that I observe the coaching world and how many coaches publicly criticise other coaches.

In fact, in case you’re not part of this zoo and you think we’re all composed and have our shit together – it can get downright FUGLY.

 

Of course, this is NOT limited to the coaching industry, I’m simply writing about it today as this is my chosen profession.  What I’m about to describe can be witnessed across the board in any industry or area of social interaction.

 

What continues to blow my mind is that it’s the successful coaches who gets slammed the most – not really surprising as pointed out in a previous blog, you will either have the highest tower by building that sucker, or breaking down those around you.

 

People always find SOMETHING to attack.

Methodologies.

Energy.

Volume of speech.

Routines.

Teachings.

Finding something, anything, to criticise.

Actively looking for the holes and then exclaiming

VIOLA look how clever I AM because I do what they don’t!’

 

Honestly Sweetheart, if those coaches are getting results in their own lives and the lives of their clients, they’re doing it right for THEIR following!  

They are practicing it in a way that meets their clients where they’re at.

What works for one doesn’t work for all.

 

Which is why there are MORE THAN ENOUGH clients for EVERYONE!

 

What’s even more fascinating to me, is how people often find ‘holes’ in the teachings based on the FREE content provided on the internet.

 

Even if the free content is BRILLIANT – as it normally is with A-players – your container to receive is limited!

Meaning that most of what is delivered actually just flows off the sides.

 

I’ve learned that in order for me to truly RECEIVE that which my coach or mentor has to offer, I have to come to the table with a big container.  

Which is created by working privately with my coaches.

I create my container by investing my time, my money, my emotional focus and my actions!

The more I invest on all four areas, the bigger my cup, the more I am able to receive and retain.

 

Once I ‘ve worked privately with these coaches, I pick up nuances in their free content that I didn’t before.  It’s as though my ears can finally hear the gold nuggets which most often gets dropped nonchalantly as it’s just part of their natural being.

I get to read between the lines with my now magnified vision.

Which is why I still read and watch their free content because it’s rich in wisdom which they so generously share!

 

I’m also going to say that when I sign up with a coach or mentor, I take FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY RESULTS.

That means that I DECIDE what I desire to receive.

And I do so!

At times, what I’ve received is NOT the goal I set, but the most transformational learning about MYSELF.

By allowing myself to implement their specific teachings and methodologies,

trying it all on,

and if the shoe doesn’t fit,

I simply take it off.

 

It’s NOT because their stuff doesn’t work!

That portion of it simply doesn’t work for ME.

FABULOUS – I’m an innovative cookie.  I get to create something new that DOES work for me and therefor MY clients.

Which is such a beautiful gift as this life is ALL about experiencing contrast and as always, coaching is simply expediting the journey to success.

Why would I NOT want to experience the good, the bad and the everything in-between?

 

Now before you think I’m painting myself as a saint, I’m anything BUT.

The Universe has blessed me with a HUGE dosage of BITCH in my DNA.

I still get jealous at times – understanding that jealousy simply indicates that someone else already has something that I desire.

Since I KNOW that it’s available to me too, I simply put my head down to get there faster.

I use it as motivation not an excuse.

 

There was a time when I didn’t take responsibility for my life –

OMG I blamed EVERYONE and EVERYTHING for the fact that I had lost my brass ovaries and was showing up as a house-broken hamster.

It was during this time that I would join in the conversations ABOUT others.

Not online, but behind closed doors.  Even back then, I knew that this past-time was not who I am at my core.  It was simply how I was dealing with my pain.

I thought I had to prove myself by disproving others.  

That somehow in order for me to be an expert in my chosen field I had to point out the flaws in the work of another.

 

Yip, I’m not Snow White, Cupcake.

But I also don’t make this part of my story wrong!!

Shaming myself for being imperfect is such a waste of bloody time.

I simply continuously do the introspection into my own behaviours, create awareness, learn from it, and choose from a conscious space going forward.

Nowadays, I can’t be fucked looking at what others are doing wrong so that I can improve on their work.

I choose to create from looking at what others are doing right and then build on that.

I am only interested in learning from my CHOSEN coaches and mentors with a commitment to accelerated growth.

I either talk TO the person, or I shut the fuck up and carry on working on my own vision.

 

I know I know – public shaming and criticism is as old as humanity itself!

Doesn’t mean we don’t have to question it.

Doesn’t mean we should continue to let it slide.

If times are EVER going to be a-changing, we have to be willing to talk about the shit that previous generations have turned a blind eye to!

 

For me, it all comes down to this:

regardless of your industry or profession,

we both know that you will get FASTER results by working with mentors and coaches (and they don’t need to be ‘professional’, your grandma can be a brilliant mentor or coach).

It’s about learning wisdom from others.

The more you take RESPONSIBILITY for your results, the more you will receive.

There is no such thing as everything for nothing.

If you want more, invest more, of yourself.

 

If you’re a true high achiever, stop investing your precious time talking ABOUT people.

Winners have no interest in gossip.

Winners have no interest in throwing shit on others so they can smell better.

Winners have integrity, honour and class.

 

Be a fucking winner.

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

 

With love and appreciation,

Anel.

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????  For those ready to take control of their lives and make it matter!

That’s right Darling, right now courageous men and women are stepping the fuck up and applying for the next intake of the Coach Apprenticeship.

This is a six month INTENSE certification program for passionate coaches ready to start a revolution by BEING the change they seek in the world, fearlessly leading their cult following, building an empire of lasting impact, and becoming legendary.

THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.

How DARE you pretend you’re average?

Well, well, well,

just look at you…

Sitting there,

shoulders rounded over,

pretending to fit in.

 

Are you happy now?

Now that you have ‘friends’ who smile at you when they’re satisfied with you average existence,

and scowl at you when being in your presence makes them feel uncomfortable.

You know,

the times when you dare show a glimmer of your true self.

Your true passion.

Your true brilliance.

 

Quickly hiding your talents once more

when you receive their disapproval.

 

Go eat another cookie.

 

So you choose to pretend to be like the mass-produced factory copies.

 

You fool!!

What will it take for you to admit that YOU, my dear,

are a factory REJECT.

That’s right Pumpkin,

you broke the motherfucking mould!

 

Yes, they’ve punished you for it ever since.

Making it clear that you are not acceptable to the norm.

That you are too loud,

too full of yourself,

too full-on,

too obsessive,

too energetic,

too fucking much to handle.

 

What I want to know is when did you actually DECIDE that you’re going to reject yourself

for the sake of feeling that you belong?

With those who have no desire to exceed expectations,

those who have no drive to go further than anyone else,

those who are so bloated with average that they have no appetite for extraordinary.

 

No wonder your tummy is blubber.

No wonder your words are soft and laced with complacent bullshit.

Telling everyone you’re just fine and dandy.

Or worse,

complaining like a little bitch all day long as this is what the average love.

DRAMA.

SUFFERING.

HARDSHIP.

They say that this makes you more relatable.

 

Let them relate to your round ass because quite frankly this constant whining is BORING!

 

YOU are not a pussy!

YOU are not a victim.

YOU are not this,

what the fuck would you even call yourself?

SHADOW-OF-A-MAN????

 

I’ll tell you what you are – you’re being a hypocrite!

Pretending that you don’t know enough.

That you don’t have the resources required for you to build your empire and make a difference.

That you just need a break.

 

What you need is to BREAK FREE!

From the prison that you have created in your own mind!

 

With all the illusions of death that you have constructed in your imagination.

Oh my parents didn’t approve of me – I’m going to die.

The teachers called me dumb – I’m going to die.

The other kids called me ugly – I’m going to die.

My boss called me a dick – I’m going to die.

The bank said I’m in the red – I’m going to die.

 

What the fuck do you call this???

Average

GAG

Life

GAG

of Settling

GAG

If not DEATH?

 

REMEMBER WHO THE FUCK YOU ARE!

 

You are genius – you have all the wisdom inside of you to make your dreams a reality.

You are an innovator – you’re not here to do it the same as everyone else, you are here to do it in a way that astounds the masses.

You are a creator – you didn’t come here to mass-produce copies of what has already been done before in the way that everyone else is doing it.

You are a warrior – fucking fight for your life, your dreams, your loves.

You are a born leader – as a leader it’s your responsibility to raise the standards to excellence and then allow others the freedom of choice to follow or piss off.

You are a change catalyst – and change starts with YOU!

 

Quite frankly, I don’t care about the form of your genitals, it’s time for you to step up your game.

 

Right now, the world is drowning as people like you keep lowering your standards to fit in with the lowest standards in the room.

 

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

 

They tell you that you should make everyone feel like a winner – fuck that shit – there can be only ONE!

They tell you that you expect too much from others – fuck that shit – expect MORE because those lazy fuckers have way more to give than anyone is demanding from them.

They tell you to slow down, that you’re going to burn out – fuck that shit – the ONLY thing that kills passion is sitting on your fat ass all day long waiting for the time to pass so that you can get back to work which is what you love to do.

They tell you that it’s wrong to hustle – fuck that shit – they don’t understand that the hustle is EVERYTHING that stokes the fire within your heart.

They tell you that you should be more responsible – fuck that shit – the only responsibility you have is to the vision that have been given to you, to become your best possible self so that you can make a bloody difference every single day.

 

Now, you can choose to keep pretending,

to keep huddled in the corner,

thinking that if you can just shrink a little more,

you can be the wind underneath someone else’s wings,

and they will love you.

 

It’s your right to choose that.

 

BUT ARE YOU WAKING UP ON FIRE WITH PASSION AND EXCITEMENT AND BADASSERY???

 

Because if you’re done with pretending to be one of them,

and you’re ready to fucking OWN ALL OF YOU,

it’s time to get your mind in the game

and bring yourself to the table.

 

All of you.

Don’t think you can bring me 10% and expect me to praise you for your valiant efforts.

Not me Darling.

I want it all.

And then,

when you’re lying on the floor puking,

I’m going to ask for more.

 

That’s how we play.

For we are the ones for whom there are no limits.

We understand that limitations only exist in the mind.

Nothing is as orgasmic as breaking those glass ceilings.

And each time you do,

you will hunger for more.

 

Stay insatiable.

Stay focused.

 

Enough of this pussy-footing around.

Let’s play.

 

Death is inevitable.

Will you be one of the very few who have the balls to thrive?

 

In love and honour,

Anel

 

PS:  Right now there’s two ways in which we can play:

 

One is you liberating yourself from the bullshit that’s keeping you from achieving your NEXT level of magnificence.

You know who you are – on the outside you’ve already ticked all their little boxes and received a good measure of what they call success.

On the inside, you’re fucking starving for more.

They tell you that you should be happy with what you’ve got.

I’m telling you that it’s selfish to settle, EVER.

That wanting more is the ONLY loving thing to do.

And it’s time for you to be challenged so that you can finally go to bed filled with pride and satisfaction.

 

The second way is you stepping up and doing your SOUL work – transforming yourself so that you can inspire and guide the transformation of others.

Applications are open for The Apprenticeship for those, who like me, are obsessed with personal development and desire to become one of the best coaches in their field of expertise.

We start May 2019 so get your ass into gear or stay behind.

 

 

 

 

 

It has everything to do with the stories.

We are so clever.

Don’t you think?

We’re always about figuring out the answers.

 

Which is how we’ve been designed.

Little solution-finders.

Making sense of this fabulous journey.

 

Except,

most people appear to have disconnected with their brilliant narrative talents.

Well, in all honesty,

most are so fast asleep in life they don’t even know they’re telling stories.

 

There are two stories happening simultaneously:

 

The first is the internal dialogue that you have with yourself every waking moment.

It’s the voice that has you dissecting every single event, person, relationship, environment and interpreting it in such a way, so as to make perfect sense to you.

It’s our way of feeling ‘safe’ in the world.

What’s really fascinating to me is how people create habitual story-lines that either has them strutting their stuff like a rock star, skulking around like a broken pony, or snapping at everyone and everything like an abused dog that’s gone stark-raving mad.

They either place all the power inside of themselves, telling themselves they’ve got this shit handled, that they can do anything they put their minds to, that they can have whatever they desire and they can do so with ease;

or they put the power somewhere way out there in the abyss of no-man’s land.

It must be terrible to always wait for crumbs, to wait for approval, for permission to speak, never daring to be yourself because it doesn’t please the group if you’re too wild, too loud, too happy.

Considering misery LOVES company.

 

This matters, because the stories we tell ourselves is the driving force behind majority of our FEELINGS!

Think about it:

when you’re telling yourself a story about another person that has you feeling less than a king, you get pissed.  You get all uppity and start telling yourself that you don’t deserve this (or that of course you don’t deserve any better),

which in turn impacts your BEHAVIOUR.

If you blame the other for your current state, chances are you’ll act like a dick.

Leading to retaliation.

And before you can wipe the sleep from your eyes,

all hell breaks loose and you have war on your hands.

 

Or that story you tell yourself about how it’s just too hard.

That you don’t have what it takes to be successful.

Of how you don’t have discipline or creativity.

You don’t have the time, the money, the connections.

You feel defeated before you’ve even started taking action.

Your energy low,

miserable,

hopeless.

But you’ll prove to your coach that you really can’t do this,

so you take a measly action,

with NOOOOOOOOO passion, enthusiasm or intensity.

The needle doesn’t even quiver.

Having you sink even lower.

Doomed to mediocrity for the rest of your life.

 

Compared to you telling yourself that OF COURSE you’ve got what it takes.

You dig down deep,

feeling resolved,

feeling empowered,

unleashing the creative juices from within.

You take insane amounts of action.

Each failure having you get more determined,

bringing a sense of conviction,

obsession,

until finally,

it clicks into place and you’re like “BOOM BITCHES – I told you I could do it”.

 

 

We all have our stories.

About how life works.

About how others presumably feel about us.

About what their behaviour implies about us and our worth.

About what we can and can’t do.

About what is and is not possible.

About our behaviour and capabilities.

 

The good news is that if your stories are not getting you the results you seek, you can change your fucking stories through mindset work.

 

The second story that really matters, is YOUR LIFE.

The ‘book’ you will gift generations to follow.

It’s how you will be remembered.

It’s how you will leave the world behind.

 

In truth, most people never consider themselves important enough to really make an effort.

They think they can just go through this life,

existing,

half-assing,

addicted to anything that will numb the pain of living out of integrity with their potential.

They tell themselves that all they have to do is find another broken individual,

and then say they complete each other,

copulate,

produce off-spring,

go to work,

pay the bills,

and spring for an occasional holiday.

They call this the ‘dream’.

Even though they wake up most mornings feeling like absolute SHIT.

 

They send their kids to school,

instruct them to learn hard, be good, and do better than they are doing for themselves.

 

Putting all the responsibility on the next generation.

 

Have you noticed that the next generation isn’t falling for this crap anymore?

Our kids are WAY smarter than we give them credit.

 

I look at the masses and I thank them for their story:

it serves as a constant warning and reminder of what happens when you go to sleep on yourself.

A mirror of days gone past when I was in that same boat – thinking it’s just how it is.

And quite frankly,

I choose NEVER to be in that sinking ship again!

 

There is another group:

Those who understand the importance of their lives and they choose to make it LEGENDARY.

They choose to make their lives an inspiration for those who quietly observe.

They consciously write a story filled with challenge, true learning, growth, adventure, joy, love, creativity and all-round FUN!

 

You find them EVERYWHERE, in all kinds of environments and jobs and parts of the world.

Some are CEO’s of major corporations having the balls to do it differently,

to lead from heart,

to have the confronting conversations that brings lasting change and improvement.

Some are janitors who take tremendous pride in their assigned buildings and rooms.

The ones who ensure that entering their domain is an uplifting experience.

Some are mothers who choose to raise future leaders,

empowering their boys and girls to think for themselves,

to question everything,

to fail often so they can learn on the way to their success.

 

It doesn’t matter the role or the title or the amount of money in your bank account.

What matters is your energy.

Is your decisions.

Is your focus.

Is your clarity.

Is your purpose.

Is taking FULL responsibility for your life and deciding that it fucking matters.

That YOU matter.

That YOU are enough to make a positive impact in this world.

 

It all comes down to your stories Darling.

 

Today I invite you to do some deep introspection and consciously choose!

 

What are your current internal stories?

Do they have you feeling empowered or disempowered?

What is your current life story?

If it was a movie, would it be seen as a drama, a comedy, a true-life inspiration, a horror?

Who would be watching it?

How would it leave them feeling?

How would your loved ones feel about your story if others had to watch it – especially the movie that plays behind closed doors?

 

How does all of this feel NOW?

 

Let me just say, that if your internal dialogue does not empower you,

if your life story doesn’t fill you with pride,

and you choose to continue the way it is,

you should really unfollow me.

 

If you choose to live a life of pride moving forward,

regardless of what’s happened up to 5 minutes ago,

then you’re welcome in my world.

 

A world where YOU matter.

Where YOUR story matters.

Where YOU choose legendary.

 

The world needs LEGENDS.

The world needs YOU.

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

 

With love and appreciation,

Anel

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????  For those ready to take control of their stories and make it matter!

That’s right Darling, right now courageous men and women are stepping the fuck up and applying for the next intake of the Coach Apprenticeship.

This is a six month INTENSE certification program for passionate coaches ready to start a revolution by BEING the change they seek in the world, fearlessly leading their cult following, building an empire of lasting impact, and becoming legendary.

THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.

They only BOO from the bleachers so keep your head in the game.

Haters – you gotta love ’em.

 

There was a time when they really got to me.

Especially as I first navigated my way onto the online scene.

 

I am naturally shy.

Back then I was also unsure of myself,

of my message.

I would admire all those social media ‘celebrities’ with their gorgeous bodies and brands,

thinking to myself

‘Who is ever going to read anything I write?  I’m a nobody!’

 

Except,

in case you haven’t noticed,

I’m REALLY fucking passionate about my work.

I know it’s never about me.

It’s about the message.

How could I NOT show up?

 

THIS is the sole purpose I get up in the morning:

To challenge the status quo,

the brainwashed complacency,

the soul-draining conformity.

 

I’m willing to do whatever it takes to touch ONE life every day.

THAT, for me, is a day well lived.

 

Whatever it takes means that I’m prepared to train my craft in some form, 365 days a year.

Without bitching about how tired I am.

It means that I’m prepared to fuck up – a LOT!

Without moaning about how long it’s taking me to get it ‘right’.

It means that I’m prepared to put myself in the arena for all to see.

Flaws and all.

Daring to share my message even when it goes against the grain.

Daring to fail again and again,

falling with my face in the mud.

Dirty.

Bleeding.

Sweating.

 

Don’t think it’s not scary.

It IS.

 

Which is why I believe successful people know their WHY.

Without a big WHY, chances are it will get too hard,

the exhaustion will overtake your strength of mind,

and you will step away from your DREAM.

 

As if it’s not tough enough,

you have the trolls of the internet,

sitting in the bleachers,

waiting to pounce on anything you put out there,

so that they can puff up their chests,

and publicly ridicule your work.

Thinking that this will get them a moment of glory in the spotlight.

 

Saying that you don’t know what the hell you’re talking about.

That they could do it better.

That you’re simply getting some accolades out of pure dumb luck.

That you should rather not show your face in public because you’re not a perfect Barbie doll.

That you’re too fat to have brains.

That you’re too thin to be taken seriously.

That you’re too ordinary looking to live an extraordinary life.

 

In the beginning,

it used to punch the breath out of me.

I spent hours curled up on my bed,

duvet pulled over my head,

sobbing.

I couldn’t believe how cruel grown-ass people can get.

 

Until I reached a point of

ENOUGH OF THIS KINDERGARTEN BULLSHIT!

 

I decided to do some investigating,

to look up these self-proclaimed experts and see what they’re all about.

Because honestly, if they knew something that I didn’t, I was open to learning and increasing my skills-set.

 

I stalked them to find their various profiles, their websites, their shares of personal victories.

To understand the message their lives has for the world.

What they are creating that is of value to all of humanity.

How they are living to inspire others.

 

The truth of the matter is, that those who have time to hate on the work of others,

do so because they lack true creative work of their own.

They hide behind their profile pictures and ‘funny’ posts because quite frankly, there’s fuck-all substance to them.

They simply live to distract.

To get into the heads of the real players,

in an attempt to trip them up, slow them down,

SO THAT

they can look like they’re actually moving, even though they’re sitting on their asses.

 

Think of it this way:

If you desire to have the tallest building on the street,

you can either BUILD that motherfucker from the ground up,

or

BREAK down all the buildings around you.

 

I want you to understand it even deeper.

Look at any elite level sport:

there are hundreds of thousands in the stands,

and a handful of players on the field.

 

Which means Darling,

if you have the ganoonies to be on the field,

you’re not one of the masses.

You don’t pay attention to the insults,

and you don’t pay attention to the cheers,

you know that’s all simply entertainment.

You keep your head in the GAME!

Focused on your GOAL.

And you don’t stop until you’ve achieved it.

 

Even if the whistle blows indicating this round is over.

You go back to the training ground.

And you come back to play another day.

 

Those on the field do not hate on other players.

We don’t break down.

 

Yes, we are competitive AF.

It’s the game after all.

It wouldn’t be much fun without the opportunity to test ourselves against some of the best in the world.

Victory is sweet.

But so is defeat.

For it has us pushing even harder.

Determined to wear the mantle next time around.

 

All of this is done in the spirit of respect.

Respect for those prepared to do the hard work.

Respect for those who dare to do it differently.

Respect for those who are prepared to bleed.

Respect for those who are prepared to fail.

Respect for the brotherhood of high performers.

 

And if you’re a true high performer,

you don’t have fucking time to waste trolling the internet,

waiting to pounce on another in an attempt to publicly shame them.

 

So let’s just be clear,

I have zero respect for ANYONE who hates on another online.

They have no honour.

They have no class.

If you truly can do it better,

and you come from a space of sincerely wanting to offer your help,

pick up your phone and call them.

 

I don’t think it makes them look like an authority when they jump on the bandwagon of insults as we so often see.

It’s as if they travel in packs,

going in for the kill,

because,

you know,

apparently if two morons have the same opinion that makes them genius.

 

But enough of them.

Haters quite frankly bore me.

 

Let’s talk about YOU.

 

As a born achiever it’s your responsibility to take control of your mind.

It’s your responsibility to train that big muscle in your head to shut out the distractions;

to stay in the zone.

It’s your responsibility to train your eyes to distinguish between the players and the spectators.

It’s your responsibility to keep your side clean by living with honour.

It’s your responsibility to surround yourself with other players.

It’s your responsibility to stay hungry for more.

It’s your responsibility to toughen the fuck up,

to take the punches,

to wipe that blood off your mouth,

and keep going.

 

It’s your responsibility to be

UNSTOPPABLE!

 

The next time someone boos from the bleachers,

shrug that shit off,

roll your eyes on the inside, and then ‘Smile and wave boys, smile and wave’.

Knowing that anyone who displays this level of behaviour,

is simply not a player.

 

Period.

The end.

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is the choice of those brave enough to live with honour.

 

With love and appreciation,

Anel

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????  Only for those who are prepared to be on the field!

That’s right Darling, right now courageous men and women are stepping the fuck up and applying for the next intake of the Coach Apprenticeship.

This is a six month INTENSE certification program for passionate coaches ready to start a revolution by BEING the change they seek in the world, fearlessly leading their cult following, building an empire of lasting impact, and becoming legendary.

THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.

When will you stop suffocating yourself with those masks?

Looking back I sometimes wonder how the hell I pulled it off!

All those masks.

All those roles.

All those personalities.

All those carrot-up-my-arse conversations.

 

In truth, I probably wasn’t very successful, which is why I was always in some form of trouble.

Always berated for my embarrassing and inappropriate language and behaviour.

 

And I’m not just talking about my spicy vocabulary.

I simply didn’t understand why I couldn’t just tell it like it is.

Why could we not talk about what happened behind closed doors?

Quite frankly,

if you weren’t proud of how you behaved in private,

change your fucking behaviour!

 

Maybe you can relate.

Maybe it was just me.

Maybe I just misunderstood the instructions.

Of how it ‘is’.

 

That I had to be one person at home.

Another in church.

Yet another in school.

Which continued into adulthood.

When all of a sudden I had yet another extension of my chest of masks, for work.

 

Sometimes I would look at all those masks,

and ponder who I was without them.

 

I honestly couldn’t remember.

It came to the point where I thought if I lost my role identity,

I would loose myself.

 

Is it any wonder that so many people go through an identity crises?

Oh, not all of them.

Some have it down to such a fine art,

it’s so integrated in their thinking,

that for them,

it seems crazy NOT to live this way.

 

They simply cannot understand how you can BE yourself,

across the board!

From the bedroom, to the boardroom, to everything in-between.

 

Apparently it’s our responsibility to be ‘pleasurable’ to be around.

It’s up to us to have others like us.

It’s up to us to make others feel comfortable around us.

For that to happen, you have to conform to their expectations, their values, their rules.

Don’t dance in the shopping isles.

Don’t run in the house.

Don’t sing too loud when you’re cleaning the kitchen.

Don’t be too outspoken in the company of elders as it is seen as disrespectful.

Don’t be too happy because life is serious business.

Don’t call a spade a spade – it has to be done in a politically correct way so you don’t accidentally pull any pubes.

Don’t upset the cart.

 

 

Except,

HAVE YOU FUCKING MET ME???

Most days I have so much energy,

passion,

creative juices flowing through me,

I can hardly contain myself!

If it wasn’t for my intense physical training where I tap myself,

I would be bouncing of the walls!!

 

How on earth do you expect me to put that into a pencil skirt and buttoned up blouse and behave in a respectable manner?

 

Oh don’t get me wrong.

I did for a long time.

They tell me I “clean up nice“.

For most of my life this felt ‘normal’.

 

I abhor normal.

 

The cookie finally crumbled after moving to New Zealand.

 

If you don’t know the story of how I came to live here, hit me a message and I’ll tell you.

It’s a goodie.

 

I knew I came here for a purpose.

The unfolding of the move was simply too miraculous for it to be anything other than divine.

 

Except, I kept feeling that I wasn’t connecting with those around me.

I was hungry to serve.

To contribute.

I was willing to do whatever it takes.

 

Which eventually saw me sign up with the local business mentors organisations.

First thing I was told:

TONE IT DOWN!

 

Take down all the provocative photos from my website.

I didn’t look approachable enough.

Didn’t look feminine enough.

Didn’t look friendly.

Get new photos taken by local photographers who would understand the market.

 

Change all the copy.

The curse words had to go!

All of them.

Including my blogs.

I had to write “how to” and “seven steps” articles.

 

Basically, I was mentored to drain all the colour out of myself,

all that makes me me,

and present this bland piece of dough to the world,

so that I may serve the weak of mind who do not desire to be challenged,

who do not desire to stand out,

who do not desire to revolt against the system of average.

 

That lasted about 6 months,

as I was passed down from one mentor to the next.

My crazy simply uncontainable for long durations of time.

 

Until one day, I reached my “FUCK THIS SHIT” point.

Quite frankly, I would rather go scrub toilets in MacDonald’s than write another boring fucking piece, or have another polite conversation, or put another band-aid on someone’s ouchie and kiss it better.

 

Because ultimately this ‘professional personality’ was impacting ME!

My body ballooned with ten kilograms of social BULLSHIT overnight.

No matter how much I trained or how clean I ate,

it wouldn’t budge.

My friends started asking me who the fuck I am as I was soooooooo average.

 

Basically my body was showing me that

YOU CAN’T BE A BAD-ASS WITH A GOOD ASS WHEN ALL YOU DO IS KISS ASS.

 

I would wake in the morning with a heavy energy and tell myself

‘You can do this Anel.  Just get through the day.’

 

Sound familiar Darling?

 

In the process I came to understand that life is way too fucking short and precious for us to ‘just get through the day’.

 

I happen to like me.

Foul mouthed.

Passionate.

Energised.

Creative.

What box?

Challenging.

Against the grain.

Provocative.

Introspective.

Inspired.

Ballsy.

Loving.

Relentless.

 

I choose to live in integrity instead of imprisoned by conformity.

 

Don’t get me wrong – I LOVE New Zealand.

Since bringing myself back to life, I have connected with some FABULOUS people and they rock my world a little harder.

 

But I’m still human and when we go through periods of change and uncertainty, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of pleasing others so we can find our spot in the sun again.

I simply want you to start becoming aware of the price you pay for NOT being ALL OF YOU in EVERY SPHERE OF YOUR LIFE.

 

Those who choose to work me, get this.

They respect this in me.

They are the courageous ones who choose the same for themselves.

 

Because we understand that success is not derived by action alone.

It comes from who we choose to be.

And for me,

there’s simply NO SUCCESS WITHOUT JOY!

 

Joy which comes from deep self-acceptance of ALL of me.

Joy which comes from deep self-appreciation for ALL that makes me unique.

Joy which comes from deep self-love for the crazy that is ME.

Joy which comes from deep self-respect for choosing myself above the safety of the crowd.

 

I no longer have to worry about how my clients see me in public.

I’m the same person whether doing a FB Live or drinking coffee or running on the beach or deeply focused in a private session.

I no longer have to stress that someone will find out what’s happening behind the scenes.

My life is an open book.

I no longer have to concern myself that someone is going to say I’m a fraud.

What you see is what you get Darling.

 

And you can take it,

or you can leave it.

I have no attachment to the outcome.

 

THIS my friend, is FREEDOM.

It’s where life flows.

It’s where you wake up with passion and excitement.

Where every day feeds your Soul because you ONLY do the things that light you up.

You only have stimulating conversations.

You only have satisfying creative processes and products.

You only work with those who rise to your standards.

 

Don’t you think you’re good enough to be seen for who you really are?

Because quite frankly,

if you don’t show me all of you,

the real you,

how can I possibly choose if I want to play with you or not?

 

Burn those fucking masks.

You’re perfect without them.

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

 

With love and honour,

Anel.

 

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????  Not for the average!

 

That’s right Darling, right now courageous men and women are stepping the fuck up and applying for the next intake of the Coach Apprenticeship.

This is a six month INTENSE certification program for passionate coaches ready to start a revolution by BEING the change they seek in the world, fearlessly leading their cult following, building an empire of lasting impact, and becoming legendary.

THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.

 

 

 

 

 

The key to unlocking EVERYTHING you desire: Freedom, Joy and Orgasms.

Stop!

Everything.

Park the car.

Put your phone on silent.

Close the browser.

It’s time Darling.

Take off those rose-coloured glasses that you use to hide your reality.

Today is a day for honesty.

 

Right now, you’re probably telling everyone how busy you are all the time.

How exhausted.

That you can hardly get through the day with all you have going on.

And of course,

because you work so hard,

Monday to Friday,

8 – 5,

you NEED your down-time.

 

YOU

FUCKING

DESERVE

IT.

 

I’m rolling my eyes and calling bullshit.

 

It’s been my experience that people who need ‘down-time’,

lack obsession.

For their LIVES.

 

They have fallen into the trap of

‘same shit different day’.

Going through the motions,

receiving some monetary compensation

for pissing  away their true potential.

Their life force waning,

leaving them feeling worn out.

 

I know.

Been there.

Done that.

Burnt that motherfucking g-string riding up my arse.

 

The more ‘normal’ I was,

the less of ME there was.

And ME:

she’s a crazy,

obsessive,

passionate,

raving,

full-on,

bitch on a mission!

 

She has no time or tolerance for distraction.

She is ruthless and nasty.

Don’t go sending her time-wasting messages on social media.

She will simply delete your energy from her sphere.

Make your words purposeful or say nothing at all.

 

Don’t think that she will Molly-coddle you when you’re feeling at your lowest.

Instead,

she will dare you to either get the fuck up yourself,

or stay down in the stink and the dirt,

where you think you belong.

If you don’t have enough belief in yourself to connect to your strength,

she will leave you behind and continue on her journey.

 

Insensitive.

Selfish.

 

She has zero tolerance for weakness.

 

Weakness of mind.

Weakness of body.

 

For I know that in order for you to BE who you can be,

you have to stop being such a pussy,

you need to get your back-bone back,

and you need to start training like a MOFO!

Mind AND Body!

 

Have you figured it out yet?

That you’ve been gifted a combination lock which holds the key to your actual desires.

 

Or are you still living one-dimensionally?

 

Do you seriously still think you can just have a socially respected title, and then you will be successful?

Do you still buy into the fallacy that as long as your bank balance is bigger than your dick that you will be loved?

Do you still think that the answers are out there.

Somewhere.

In the hands of someone else.

Thinking that if you keep feeding your mind with proven theories,

you will find the secret to your joy.

 

Walk your sweet self to the mirror.

Take off all your clothes.

I’m not kidding.

Go.

I’m waiting for you.

 

What did you see?

 

From head to toe:

looking into your eyes,

the mirror to your higher self,

looking at your arms,

your hands,

your shoulders,

your back,

your abs,

your ass,

your legs,

feet.

 

DID YOU STAND TALL WITH PRIDE AS YOU WITNESSED EXCELLENCE AND STRENGTH?

 

Or did you slump a little?

Because at best, you’re average.

 

Ugh,

let me just swallow some vomit.

 

Don’t give me the age excuse either Darling.

Or the big bones.

Or the genes.

None of that shit.

 

If you’re not rocking your body,

you’re simply lacking self-respect, self-love, self-appreciation and honour.

 

There are three parts to your combination lock,

and for you to have ASTOUNDING levels of energy, clarity, creativity and joy,

you have to focus on all three,

continuously.

Because the numbers keep changing as you become stronger,

it’s fucking genius!

 

What are the three parts?

 

Oh come now,

you already know the answer to that.

 

You always have.

 

Part one – YOUR MIND!

That’s right Sweet-stuff.

You have to work that baby until the day you die.

You think you can finish school, maybe get a degree, and then you’re set for life?

I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but our educational system doesn’t train your mind for a century.

The way it stands, in large our system is about retaining ‘facts’ that serve the machine.

It’s not about problem solving.

It’s not about hungrily questioning and finding a higher level answer.

That’s what life is there for.

Always paying attention.

Biting off more than you can chew SO THAT you can sit there with a puzzle to solve.

Sometimes it looks like temporary failure.

So most steer clear of this.

Sad.

 

Part Two – YOUR BODY!

Your body is a machine!

She is a perfect combination of creative bones, muscle tissue, organs, cells.

And she DESERVES to be worked like a BEAST.

She in service to your mind.

As she forms part of the mechanism that trains the mind to focus,

to be disciplined,

to go into the zone.

When pushed hard, her feedback loops creates MASSIVE amounts of pain in the mind,

which you have to overcome

for you to get to your next level.

And when you use her effectively,

she will open up your mind to new thoughts, new ideas, new insights,

in record time.

She is the key to your energy.

To increasing your life force.

Understanding that what you put into your mouth directly impacts that.

So put that shit down that’s already halfway to your lips!

Yes, I’m a mom.  I see everything.

 

Where the mind goes the body will follow.

Your mind will give in WAY before your body.

Which is why you USE your body to make your mind resilient AF.

And then, as you finally push through the point of no return,

where you conquer the voice in your head that says you can’t,

by taking one more step thereby proving you can,

OMG something insane happens!!

 

Your mind starts believing.

And you become addicted to that sense of personal power.

So you push your body to the next level where the mind now resides.

Until she has adopted and all of a sudden the potential in your body is greater than your mind believes.

The spiral continues.

 

Now,

if you’re serious about unlocking the key,

you push it further until you tap into

 

Part Three – YOUR SOUL / HIGHER SELF / THE UNIVERSE / GOD

Whatever you call it.

There comes a time when you, in and of yourself, no longer has what it takes.

A time when you release the push.

Whilst refusing to give up your desire.

This is when we receive break-throughs,

quantum leaps.

When others observe and say ‘that’s not humanly possible‘.

Because it’s not.

Then again Darling,

you are more than just your human form.

 

But you don’t believe me.

You think you’re made of porcelein,

and that if you push too hard you’re going to break.

 

You think that once you break down,

it’s game over.

They’re going to wheel you into a padded room where you’ll spend the rest of your days.

As historically genius has been labelled madness.

 

Well,

maybe it’s time for you to get a little mad.

 

Regardless of where you find yourself today,

you can be more,

do more,

have more.

YOU KNOW IT.

 

It’s time you start raising your standards for yourself.

Back to excellence.

Challenge those around you to do the same not through your words,

but through continuously raising the bar for yourself.

Walk away from the lazy fuckers who only want to be average.

For they will be the death of you.

 

It’s time to become obsessed with your life:

your emotional mastery,

your physical mastery,

your mind mastery.

It’s time for you to decide that you will have the best,

and only the best,

for yourself,

from yourself.

Mediocre anything will no longer be tolerated.

 

Or you can continue settling?

For average health.

Average relationships.

Average orgasms.

Average conversations.

Average success.

 

Another walking dead.

 

For only the brave shall choose to thrive.

 

With love and honour,

Anel

 

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????  Not for the average!

 

That’s right Darling, right now courageous men and women are stepping the fuck up and applying for the next intake of the Coach Apprenticeship.

This is a six month INTENSE certification program for passionate coaches ready to start a revolution by BEING the change they seek in the world, fearlessly leading their cult following, building an empire of lasting impact, and becoming legendary.

THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.

 

 

 

 

 

 

How much longer will you choose to be a sheople?

Beware the sheep in lion’s clothing.
For they will feed you fear-laced pudding.
Sapping you of all belief in yourself,
so that you will be part of their flock.

The allure of this is that people who have lost faith in themselves,
will always look for the biggest flock,
thinking that clearly THAT ‘leader’ must have the answers they’ve been seeking.

So they fall into line.
Without question.
Desperate to stop the pain ripping up their insides, from showing up as a sliver of their potential.

They drink the ‘proven’ limitations like cool-aid.
All the time,
weakening their own will, their ability to think for themselves.

Not to insult you,
but considering humans call animals dumb,
I want you to turn your attention to nature.

Do you see hundreds of lions flocked together?
Or do you see that those who own their power in the animal kingdom,
choose to surround themselves with few.
No need to hide in numbers.
Not counting on another to be WEAKER
so that they may survive another day.

I challenge you today to start waking up,
to start questioning,
to start thinking for yourself again.

Are you following a ‘leader’ because all your mates are in the herd?
Because listening to them is soothing your frayed nerves?
Do they feed you with fear sprinkled with hope-amine?
Telling you that basically you’ve fucked up.
You dared to fly too high and in the process, you got what you deserved:
Burnt, bruised and hurt on the floor.
Stupid child!
What were you thinking?

They tell you to lie still while they fix you.
To stay in the safety of the crowd.
Their flock will be your protection.
They will heal you,
rescue you,
teach you the one and only way to be successful, by crawling on your knees.

THERE IS NO ONE AND ONLY WAY!

You were born to CREATE motherfucker.
Unique in your make-up.
Stop thinking you’re here to imitate,
to copy,
to manufacture.
Stop thinking you’re weak and insignificant.
That you need to learn more.

NO!

You were born with everything you need INSIDE of you.

All you need to do is to UN-FUCK yourself: releasing all the bullshit you’ve bought into and start being your radiant, powerful, magnificent self.

Unless you want to be a sheep.

In which case,
what the hell are you reading this for?

This piece is for those who know they were born to OWN THE DAY AND NIGHT IN EQUAL STRENGTH.
The ones who woke up this morning,
took a hard look around them,
walked to the mirror,
and fearlessly called themselves out on their bullshit.

Those who have reached the point of ENOUGH AND NO MORE.

Enough and NO MORE settling for mediocre ANYTHING.

You did not come here to be average.

It’s time for you to up your game Sunshine.

It’s time to choose to play where few dare tread.
Where it takes daily discipline and courage to stay in the game.
Because NOBODY waits for you.

The winners keep raising the standards of excellence for themselves,
daring you to connect with a deeper drive,
a stronger power,
so that you may find the way to continue playing on their field.

And if you don’t,
they respect your choice of weakness,
and leave your sweet arse behind.

For they take full responsibility for themselves,
expecting you to do the same.
From a space of deep belief and respect of who we truly are.

Nobody was born a sheep.
We are all equal in potential.

We simply get to choose who we surround ourselves with,
who we choose to identify with,
what we choose to eat – fear or courage,
how we choose to show up.
And it’s a daily choice.

Regardless of how long you’ve been duped into believing that you are weak,
that someone else will save you,
that someone else has the answers you seek,
you get to choose differently today.

Or not.

I completely respect and honour those who choose to live in fear.
I completely respect and honour those who choose to believe in limitation.
I completely respect and honour those who choose to conform.

I simply choose not to be one of them.
I choose not to work with them.

I choose to only work with those who are committed to victory.
Those who take full responsibility for themselves,
who choose to feel the fear and courageously do it anyway.
I choose to work with those for whom the pain IS the game.
I choose to work with those who will be LEGENDARY!

The world is in chaos Darling.
It’s burning the fuck down.
Insanity spewing bullets from machine guns.

What will you do about it?
Will you sit in front of your screen,
watching the whole world go up in flames,
hypnotised by the destruction,
listening to a voice trying to make sense of it by desperately finding someone, something, to point a finger at and blame?

Or will you be one of the very few who finally rise the fuck up.
BEING the change you desire to see in the world.
Understanding that YOU are the only person YOU can shape into a brilliant version of embodied human potential. and in the process inspiring others to do the same.

THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO CHANGE THE WORLD.

CHANGING OURSELVES.

Truth is that for us, there is no middle ground.
For those of us who choose to achieve,
those of us who choose to create abundance,
those of us who choose to have adventure,
to fail until we succeed,
there is either THRIVE or DEATH.

Existence is simply not an option.

What will you choose today, Gorgeous?
I want you to understand that THIS is the only choice that will ever matter.

Not any of the choices that brought you to this point.

And if you so choose, I look forward to challenging you to your greatness.

With love and honour,
Anel

 

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????  If so, how much longer will you be a pussy-cat?

 

That’s right Darling, right now courageous men and women are stepping the fuck up and applying for the next intake of the Coach Apprenticeship.

This is a six month INTENSE certification program for passionate coaches ready to start a revolution by BEING the change they seek in the world, fearlessly leading their cult following, building an empire of lasting impact, and becoming legendary.

THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.

When you’re finally ready to deal with those bastard fears.

As I sat with my journal this morning, I felt the old frustration of being human.

 

Why the hell am I still holding back?

Why am I still not showing up fully as who I am?

What are the fears still lurking out of sight, that has me tippy-toeing around?

 

The power of journaling is you can’t bullshit yourself.

Well,

I mean,

I know you’re a master bullshitter,

but when you set the intention for the truth to be revealed,

the pen obeys your soul, not your ego.

 

Line after line after line appeared on the pages.

Old fears reborn through ink.

Most of them I kept thinking – I’ve dealt with you so you can just fuck off!

Until it popped up:

I felt the pain,

like a punch to the gut.

There she was.

Sneaky little bitch!

 

“What if I lose it all again??????”

 

I sat staring for a while.

This one had no argument to her.

Evidence is real.

I have lost it all before:

  • I’ve lost family before
  • I’ve lost my physical power before
  • I’ve lost my friends before
  • I’ve lost my lover before
  • I’ve lost all my money before
  • I’ve lost my health before
  • I’ve lost my will to live before – and this one was worst of all.

 

BUT AM I DEAD YET?

 

Fuck No!

 

Quite frankly, I was ready to deal with this gremlin once and for all.

 

I acknowledged her in full.

Down to her lacy g-string.

She was seductive,

a siren,

no wonder I kept her voice in my head.

 

But you know what,

I’m not the little woman I was when I lost all those things.

I’ve “grown up” some.

Aaah, who are we kidding???? LOL

I fucking refuse to grow up.

 

I’ve just remembered a little more of the wisdom that’s resident inside each of us.

 

I now know that everything happens FOR me.

I understand now that everything is energy and that as we choose to upgrade our personal selves,

all of which chooses to remain the same,

has to be released.

It’s the most loving thing in this world.

 

Which means every person who has left my side,

has done so with soul-love.

And, each time, I have fallen a little more in love with myself.

Which has been a HUGE part of my learning in this life-time.

 

Okay let’s digress a bit, this shit is important so bare with me.

Like majority of the world I grew up believing that love was something to be experienced outside of myself.

That for me to be loved, I had to be loveable.

It is something I had to earn,

and then stay the same so that I could keep it.

Except there’s certain ‘relationships’ which demands unquestioned ‘love and loyalty’.

Mostly in the guise of what we call ‘family’ including putting a ring on your finger.

As I was born with a vagina, I had to submit to the penis-gender in order for me to be considered worthy of love.

I had to be the little woman behind the big man.

I had to feed the troops as they would protect me.

I had to hold my tongue when elders spoke,

even when what they said made no sense to me whatsoever.

 

As a ballsy little rebel you can see that I was screwed from the word go!

I had no chance of EVER being loveable.

God knows I tried.

I went so far as to take my true nature,

stick her in a coffin,

and buried her alive.

Thinking she would quietly suffocate and I would FINALLY be what they wanted.

And then,

I WOULD BE LOVED AND THAT WOULD AUTOMATICALLY MEAN I’M HAPPY!

 

Ha!

We both know how that worked out for me.

 

It took me 45 years to return to myself.

To go dig up that grave and find love where it’s always been –

INSIDE OF ME.

 

I learned that love is IMPOSSIBLE without self-love.

Now, you can love me or you can leave.

Never again will I abandon myself for the codependent bullshit you call love.

 

 

Okay where were we?

 

Ah yes –

  1. I acknowledged her,

  2. I thanked her for the reminder of the learning, and then,

  3. I stacked evidence against her of all I have created since the original events.

 

  • Where I previously lost family, I remembered the true intent of the concept of family: love, respect, acceptance, appreciation.
  • I’ve outgrown some friends, connected with new friends, and learned to enjoy and truly appreciate the seasons of each in my life.
  • I’ve lost my physical power, and through strategic training I have not only regained it but exceeded what I’ve had before.
  • I’ve lost my lover and gained my love.
  • I’ve lost my money and built an international powerhouse company impacting way more people and making way more money.
  • I’ve lost my health, adjusted my lifestyle and have never been healthier than I am right now.
  • I’ve lost my will to live and discovered my ability to THRIVE.

 

Every one of those losses have provided the opportunity to learn, to do it better, to create an incredible infrastructure which allows me to go even higher, be even stronger, more creative,

MORE ME!

 

For me, this means every loss creates an even greater gain in my life!

 

And people wonder why I’m so passionate about doing the real work?

 

This is why my Darling.

Those who refuse to do the introspection,

because you know,

“I don’t journal”

“I don’t believe in personal development”

“It’s just not who I am”,

are sitting in a heap of hopeless suffering.

They sit there feeling lost and lonely as life continues to lovingly give them the lessons.

Except, due to their stubborn refusal to WAKE THE FUCK UP life gives them compound learning.

Which means the lessons become more painful

and at every moment

they have the choice

to pay attention,

or sink down lower.

 

Why are suicide rates so high?

Because whether you want to admit it or stick your head in the sand and have your ass whipped,

more and more bitches and bastards like me ARE doing the work.

We are elevating global energy Darling and if you choose to sit on your low vibe,

your pain is going to be amplified.

No longer will we rescue you or carry you or kiss your arse.

With love, if you’re not happy with where you’re at,

start making better choices.

 

I will not step down because the older generation are ‘set in their ways’.

I’m fighting for our kids.

 

Which is why I continuously choose to grow down.

Remembering who I knew myself to be when I was but a little tod.

A super-hero!

Unstoppable.

Invincible.

Limitless.

 

Isn’t it about bloody time you choose to grown down a little and come play with me in the sky?

 

Or will you continue to live like you’re already dead?

 

Thriving is always the choice of the rebel hero.

 

And you know we need more of those right now.

 

With love and appreciation,

Anel

 

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????

 

That’s right Darling, right now courageous men and women are stepping the fuck up and applying for the next intake of the Coach Apprenticeship.

This is a six month INTENSE certification program for passionate coaches ready to start a revolution by BEING the change they seek in the world, fearlessly leading their cult following, building an empire of lasting impact, and becoming legendary.

THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How do you know that this time around it’s going to be different?

I know Darling,

entrepreneurship is one of those journeys nobody really prepares you for.

Like parenthood,

there’s no comprehensive handbook.

A lot of what you experience has you feeling so out of your depth,

at times you wonder if it’s all worth it.

 

Quite frankly, if you think it isn’t,

then it’s not for you.

For those of us committed to the path,

it fucking is.

 

I suspect the reason why most businesses fail is because people don’t take the time to figure out their WHY.

 

And I’m not talking about making money.

I’m not even talking about the impact and contribution they desire to make.

 

I’m talking about the heart-why.

 

It always comes back to this:

GROWTH.

 

Immense, intense, unparalleled personal growth.

 

It’s about becoming resilient,

creative,

resourceful,

obsessed,

selfish,

focused,

disciplined,

structured,

rebellious,

victorious.

 

Entrepreneurship is about becoming your best self.

Because quite frankly,

anything less than your best self will see you crumbling and fold.

Or having a fucking heart-attack.

Whichever comes first.

 

Unfortunately most resist this truth,

wailing piteously,

‘NOOOOOOOOO Anel,

I just want to be FREEEEEEEEE.

I want flow.

I want ease.

I want to just flutter through my day,

touching here and there,

and then see millions flow in.’

 

Because they’re lazy.

Soft of mind.

Soft of body.

Candy-floss sheople – all sweet and pretty with zero substance.

They don’t want to do the work to become focussed.

They don’t want the challenge to become strong.

They don’t want the structure to become creative.

 

They look at those who are crushing it and complain that it’s not fair,

they want what the truly successful have too.

They also want to work 2 hours a day.

They also want their laundry folded for them.

They also want the chauffeur-driven car.

 

Except those people you see at the top,

aren’t there because of what they’re now physically doing in their day to day activities Darling.

They’re at the top because of

who they have become on the journey!

 

They’re successful because they GREW into embodying success.

They’re reaping the rewards of years of disciplined, courageous, action.

 

And let me just say to you as well,

that they make it look easy because they’ve pushed through the hard and messy parts,

practicing every single action until it seems effortless.

Accomplishing more in two hours than most do in two decades.

 

From setting their sights on the mountain top,

and then climbing that fucker.

 

Understanding that some days are sunny with easy slopes where they get to breathe and enjoy the view.

Simply going on automatic and putting one foot in front of the other.

Other days, the heavens open up and shit storms rain down on them with such velocity that it feels like skin is being stripped from bones.

They keep going.

Taking one more step.

Wiping the stench of fear from their upper lips.

Crying their souls clean from the resistance to adversity.

All the time,

growing stronger mentally, emotionally, physically.

 

Trusting that as long as they can keep going,

keep making progress,

they will reach the summit.

 

Sometimes there’s an avalanche,

seeing them sliding down,

screaming in terror.

Hitting a ledge with intense force,

pain shooting through their bodies,

their heads,

to the point where weaker men give up.

 

But those achievers simply lie there for a moment,

catching their breath,

and once stars subside from their vision,

they get back up,

and without bitching about the fact that they’ve already climbed this slope before,

they pull themselves up tall,

and take another motherfucking step upwards.

 

THIS IS THE WORLD OF HIGH ACHIEVEMENT BABY, AND IF YOU’RE NOT UP FOR THE CLIMB,

THEN GET OUT OF THE FUCKING GAME.

 

It’s that easy.

 

If you’re not prepared to bleed, puke, cry and break some nails,

then get off the trail.

 

Now before you get your panties in a knot,

I’m not talking about making a comfortable living.

I’m talking empire building.

 

Just admit that you have no desire to leave a legacy.

Just admit that all you want is a hobby.

And then go create your vision and your lifestyle around that.

Without the continuous grumbling because quite frankly,

the world of entrepreneurship is so bloated with complainers and blamers at the moment,

that it’s feeling a little like kindergarten on the first day where all those toddlers are crying for their mommies.

 

The difference between the 1% in the 1% in the 1% and the rest,

is they know the deal is that once they get to the summit,

it’s time to find a higher mountain.

 

For in the absence of growth,

is death.

 

Plain and simple.

 

Why do so many brilliant people die shortly after retiring?

Because you can’t take a thriving human and tell them to go sit on their arse all day and not be stimulated, challenged and excited.

And then we call this their ‘reward’.

 

Why are so many born achievers lying in a little ball of depression?

Because society has made the hustle, the growth, the polish, the challenge wrong.

 

They tell you that if you’re working seven days a week there’s something wrong with you.

You need ‘balance’.

Or else apparently you’re trying to avoid healing something that happened in 1975.

 

Not understanding that the WORK is our fuel.

Our passion.

It’s what invigorates us.

And when I say the work,

I’m talking about all of it.

 

I have more so-called ‘balance’ in a single day than most people have in a life-time.

I understand that for me to be at my peak,

creating,

focusing,

teaching,

coaching powerfully,

I have to look after my mind AND body seven days a week.

 

It’s called aligned action.

 

Now, let’s get back to the title of this piece:

‘How do you know that this time around it’s going to be different?’

 

Well, I would think it’s rather obvious:

it will only be different when you’re prepared to stop bullshitting yourself and everyone else;

it will only be different when you’ve sat your sweet self down and asked yourself:

What do I truly desire?

What is underneath that?

What is underneath that?

What is underneath that?

What is underneath that?

Until you get to the core.

 

And then, from this space,

you DECIDE what the fuck you’re going to do about it?

Identifying ALL THE FEARS that are springing up inside you.

All the insecurities.

All the limiting beliefs that you’ve held on for so long.

Identifying what you are prepared to sacrifice and what you’re no longer willing to tolerate.

Especially from yourself.

 

If what you TRULY want is easy,

then entrepreneurship is not for you.

If what you TRULY desire is growth,

then welcome to my playground.

 

Now,

go put a t-spoon of cement in your coffee and HTFU.

It’s time to get to work.

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

 

In love and honour,

Anel.

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????

 

That’s right Darling, right now courageous men and women are stepping the fuck up and applying for the next intake of the Coach Apprenticeship.

This is a six month INTENSE certification program for passionate coaches ready to start a revolution by BEING the change they seek in the world, fearlessly leading their cult following, building an empire of lasting impact, and becoming legendary.

THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.