I can’t help but wonder what more it will take for people to wake up and see that by continuously rescuing others from their struggle, we are crippling them as we remove the strength gained from growth.
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For every Alpha
just a moment
I highly recommend that you close your eyes and listen to the reading of this piece.
I love you.
The beauty of ALLOWING evolution,
is the ripple effect it has on your life.
It always starts with a decision, a choice, to BE a better version of yourself, a willingness to SEE things differently, and from a space of self-love, raise your standards.
This is where it stops for most.
But for Alphas, this is where it starts…
This is nothing more than the internal conversation as my Inner Child demands that I step up and acknowledge that which I see and to remember why I chose this path in the first place.
This could well be the Inner Child Revolution reminding us what is at stake if we continue to choose mind over heart and machine over human.
The life area which you cannot achieve,
the one that Alpha Females long for,
is the one where nothing she DOES can ever create deep satisfaction.
For it’s the One who requires that she strips back EVERYTHING and allow herself to be received for who she truly is.
And until she can receive HERSELF through unconditional love, she is incapable of receiving the One.
Are you ready to acknowledge who you truly are?
Are you ready to take off your mask – whether that mask was pretending to be ‘normal’ or pretending to be alpha?
For Alphas are those who are willing and able to work in the dark, through the dark.
It’s time to have the conversations they’re trying to hush so we can bring REAL change.
It’s time to slow down,
to take a step back,
and to see how the masses are creating more destruction faster through their mindless fear-based behaviour.
This is NOT about blaming.
This is about observing.
From a new perspective.
So that we can see that which people have not been willing to see, to extract the wisdom of the collective, and to record herstory.
Alpha Females, this is the time you were born for. To be the tellers of HerStrory from a space of wisdom, hope and inspiration.
And yes, there’s work to be done. Healing to receive. Energy to be cleaned up before sharing.
It’s where we choose to acknowledge the pain and release the suffering for the impact we have on the collective consciousness.
You are not alone in this.
Herstory is not just about speaking your truth. It goes way deeper than that.
It’s the RESPONSIBLE sharing of your truth from a space of having done the work.
The deep work.
So that, your story, your truth, is one of loving wisdom with the intention of uplifting the frequency of humanity. It’s the compassionate sharing of the impact of action taken without heart so that the empowered masculine can complete their quest and our children can have a better future story to tell.
Alpha Females are being called to RISE, to LEAD, to be SEEN.
Which, in truth, is a big ask.
So big, that few are setting aside their fear, their pain of past rejection and ridicule, instead choosing to keep their heads down and keep reciting stories of old of why they’re nothing special.
In the process, the cult of mediocrity grows stronger as they have no issue milking the cow whilst she stand immobilised.
This one if for the Alpha Females ready and WILLING to rise.
It’s time to put the puzzle pieces together as crazy as they all sound.
For now IS the time for Alpha Females to rise and you’re NOT going to do it by setting different goals or taking different action.
Today for the first time I speak about the truth that being an Alpha Female, is about vibrating on your true frequency.
Just because you were BORN for a time such as this,
does NOT mean you’re going to rise.
For that will mean releasing your hurt, your anger, your bitterness and putting LOVE first.
It will mean you move through the pain FASTER so that you can lead BETTER.
It will mean that you either stop hiding who you truly are,
or be swallowed up with the masses
and meeting our Inner Alpha at your grave knowing that you chose to say no…
It’s time for us to have the uncomfortable conversation as NOT doing so, would be completely irresponsible of me.
This is about making the choice to prepare for the worst and expecting the best ALWAYS, not just in times when the shit hits the fan.
I don’t care about the other people, I only care about YOU.
Quite frankly, life can be challenging enough without having the shitty behaviours of others keep you imprisoned in suffering.
This piece is about why I recommend forgiving everyone so YOU can release yourself from the resentment and find your vibe of thrive.
Legends don’t ask for permission.
Alphas don’t ask for permission.
For you have to DECIDE to become legendary just as you have to CHOOSE to be Alpha every day.
Know this, as long as you’re asking for permission, you’re hiding behind your fear.
Women ask ALL the time.
Yet, it’s in the RECEIVING that they really struggle.
For one, receiving your NEXT level desires, always entails NEXT level faith and NEXT level action.
Plus, when you believe you have to ACHIEVE for you to be DESERVING of receiving, it’s a mind-fuck to then allow yourself to BE WORTHY of your desires.
There is nothing you have to ACHIEVE before claiming who you choose to BE.
Once you CLAIM it,
you have to ACTION it.
Now tell me again, why you can’t be what you say you deeply desire to be?
This will feel like a confronting piece, especially on the heels of ‘Woman’s Day’.
It’s for the woman who is ready to see the bigger picture to the true impact of her choices.
For the woman who is ready to BE the woman who lives the life she desires for her children.
For the woman prepared to take a stand for radical healing across generations because her love for her children is more than lip-service.
THRIVE is the choice of courage.
For we’re living in a time when exhaustion is praised and a woman who prioritises herself is rejected and cast out of the ‘clan’.
We’ve put ‘achievement’ on a pedestal, and enjoyment in the bottom drawer.
In truth, our society is set up to keep you tired, so you won’t think for yourself, so you won’t create the exceptional, so you won’t BE your BEst self.
Time to see things differently, don’t you agree?
How we experience life, has nothing to do with our external ‘reality’, but the angle we take from the inside.
Yes, I know – it sucks when you bought into the stores that YOU are a helpless victim of circumstances. That YOU are not responsible for what’s happening right now. That YOU don’t have a choice and you DESERVE to suffer.
My question is: What do YOU want?
There is so much more to love than meets the eye,
for right now,
everyone seems to believe that love is all about what making others feel better.
Love starts with ourselves. It entails radical self-appreciation, self-acceptance and self-respect born from self-love. And then, a courageous willingness to release anything not energetically aligned.
This piece is not for anyone who choose to live in shame and blame. This piece is not for anyone who choose to hold on to the past and hide behind the regurgitated stories which breeds victimhood.
This piece is for the woman who is committed to thrive, the one willing to see things differently, the one willing to acknowledge the TRUE FORCE which is woman!
I’m often berated for my blunt approach.
As if, it’s better to allow others to suffer in their daily misery whilst pretending everything is ‘fine’.
In my world, fine is not fucking good enough!
So if you’re done pretending you’re fine, and you’re ready to be your TRUE self Alpha, then this message is for you.
I simply don’t understand the current mentality of fear, scarcity, jealousy, breaking down of another
and the lack
of applauding the winners.
Then again, this is one of the signs of a true champion.
For a champion is NOT what you DO, but WHO you choose to BE.
Just to be clear – this is NOT an inspirational or motivational piece.
This is my soul kicking my arse for you to see.
It’s time to raise the bar.
It’s time to release the last of the excuses.
It’s time to rise alpha females!
This is a compassionate piece as I understand the safety in hiding.
Hiding behind socially approved masks.
Hiding amongst the others whilst dimming your own light.
Hiding in the camaraderie of men.
However the time for hiding is done, it’s time for the rise of the alpha females.
It’s time for a radical soul smack-down as way too many Alphas are STILL playing in the pit of average.
Either you are prepared to RISE in love, or you’re keeping all those whom you claim to love under. For you were born to lead, to evolve, to see things differently. And as long as you’re choosing to ‘fit in’ you’re selling out your purpose and your true potential.
Let’s have an uncomfortable conversation to get your week started with some new awareness, learning to new choices, if you’re prepared to work through your triggers.
You keep asking me to only talk mind-set,
and I’m saying NO!
Because mind-set will NEVER get you to heart-set and it’s only when we choose to do the mind from a space of love that incredible transformation occurs.
Ready for some real talk?
The kind that you don’t want to have but know you HAVE to have if anything is going to change?
Time is speeding by like a jet-plane, yet most are still dawdling along as if they have another 100 years. More importantly, they’re distracting everyone else in the process.
I KNOW every woman has a powerful message, a powerful story, so what will it take for you to share THAT instead of being white-noise?
If life is not feeling absolutely fabulous right now,
and if you’re an alpha,
pick up the pace!
For you’ve clearly forgotten who you are and fallen into the thinking that life is about staying safe instead of thriving.
I understand that we’re told that this life is all about how valuable and helpful we can be to everyone else.
But what if the ONLY way to be of TRUE value to humanity is in fact you living for YOU to be your best YOU?
Comfy in your prison of propriety Darling?
Anything else we can get you to make you stay in there longer?
Or are you actually ready to stop pretending you don’t have a choice and rise alpha female?!
Not sure which one of you got me up at 3:30, but that’s the way life works when you say YES to your purpose.
Someone prays for a sign, a message, a glimmer of hope, and as you’ve raised your hand to say that YOU will show up, YOU will surrender and allow the message, the work, the art, to come through,
not when it’s ‘convenient’,
but when it damn well needs to,
so you get your sweet arse out of bed at 3:30, switch on your Mac, and let the message through.
Now tell me again that you ARE one of the 1% willing to surrender to your muse…
Have you become bland and #sorrynotsorry boring because you’re following ALL the rules without question?
Life is too short for boring and bland so show me what you’re REALLY made of.
Are you depriving the world of chocolate cake?
Because we both know you can either keep following their ‘recipes’ being another vanilla cream pie, OR you can delight the world with your true brilliance.
Are you done pretending that existing is good enough?
That going through the motion is exciting?
That the guaranteed outcome path creates an ounce of joy in you?
If you are, it’s time for you to get real about who you are, what you desire, and how YOU want it all to work
It’s time to bring it home to YOU and from this space experience the sensational transformation possible through love.
Everyone is looking for the magic bullet…
Well, what if I told you that YOU ARE the bullet,
and right now you get to choose if it’s going to be a bullet of magic, or the bullet of death as you allow it to sustain mediocrity.
Only you can choose.
If you think about it logically, the self-help industry is like DIY surgery, except it goes even deeper into your mind, what you believe you’re worth, and why you don’t DESERVE to be supported like an empress.
I’m PROUD to be an alpha female as I know this is not something I was JUST born to BE, but someone I CHOOSE to BE every single day.
When strategies, rules and perfection gets in the way of you showing up and sharing your message, it’s time to start questioning what’s truly going on under the suface.
It’s time to stop fooling yourself into thinking that being a nice girl is going to bring positive change to the world.
It’s time to stop fooling yourself into thinking that you can break the habit of people-pleasing all by yourself.
It’s time for you to stop fooling yourself into thinking that you can take all the time in the world with baby-steps whilst thousands are dying on our watch.
In the moments of doubt and thoughts of not being good enough, I want you to know that all of that is simply programming to keep you away from the truth.
The truth that not only are you good enough, but you are worthy, you are perfect, and you ARE the fucking point of life.
Learning doesn’t have to be hard, you simply have to be WILLING to see things differently and ALLOW the lessons to be easy.
Of course, I do highly recommend a healthy sense of humour.
Today I invite you to start paying attention to any rules or beliefs you’ve bought into that’s stifling your true creativity, your unique message and voice, your muse.
For you’re either living in the energy of love or you’re living in the energy of fear.
It’s time for you to get out of the cage you’ve created with your words. The cage you’ve created with your old patterns. The cage you’ve created with your old beliefs.
For it might feel safe, but it will never create freedom and THRIVE!
When last have you had a mental enema?
Where you lovingly release your brain from of all the old stories, the old BS that has you stuck in a rut so that you can go through life a little lighter, a little thriver…
What is the reasons we cling to all the rules when majority of the time, they’re a vice on creativity? In fact, I’m observing that the more rules we make up, the less people choose to think for themselves and instead, live in mindless obedience. Mindless does NOT create thrive. And I’m taking a stand for thrive.
It’s time to increase your well-being by brining a fresh perspective of your relationship with yourself, the Universe, and the world.
It’s time for me to introduce you to your Tree of Self.