It’s just one of those days when I don’t feel like talking to you #keepingitreal

I’ve been at this for more than an hour.

Three blogs written.

All three deleted.

Ugh.

I feel like a petulant two year old ready to throw her toys out of the cot.

 

It’s a rare thing for me to find myself in this space.

But I’m here and it’s real.

 

I don’t WANT to write today.

I don’t WANT to tell you anything.

I don’t WANT to show up.

I don’t WANT to share a piece of me.

 

Except,

that means ‘they’ win today.

Those continuously trolling the internet,

waiting to pounce and misconstrue everything and anything creators, writers, artists, contributors,

share with the world.

 

Fuck ’em.

They will not win today.

Not today…

 

So this piece is for every woman out there,

NOT showing the fuck up,

because she’s exhausted from constantly defending and explaining herself,

because she’s had enough of the hurtful insults,

because she thinks it has nothing to do with them,

and everything to do with the fact that she’s not good enough.

 

Darling,

you’re not alone.

And it’s time for you to HTFU,

to set yourself up for success,

by allowing yourself to connect to the untamed beast within.

 

We’re constantly encouraged to be more visible,

to be more vulnerable,

to be more courageous and speak our truth.

 

Except,

those who encourage us are rarely on the field.

It’s so easy to cheer from the bleachers.

It’s so easy to criticise from the sidelines.

It’s so fucking easy

when it’s not YOUR skin in the game.

 

Not only do they want you on the stage,

pretty tutu hypnotising them with blinking sequence,

they want to believe the illusion of weightless and effortless grace.

 

Whilst your skin is ripped,

toes bleeding,

another nail falling off.

But you show up,

and you smile,

for your art.

 

You simply CAN’T do this shit for the audience.

You CAN’T do this for ANYONE other than yourself.

Because if you do

you will find yourself run out of passion,

out of motivation,

out of love with the art.

 

Why am I writing today?

 

Because I made a promise to myself,

to my muse,

that I will show up RELENTLESSLY

every single day

regardless of my circumstances

regardless of how I feel

and I am a woman of my word.

 

Period.

The end.

No other reason needed.

 

It’s this level of commitment

that I bring to every area of my life.

Which is why I don’t allow the layout of the journey to phase me.

I prepare for it.

I train for it.

On my bike.

On my runs.

 

I put myself in physical positions of fear and fury

and I harness the energy to get me through the toughest of situations.

To get me back home.

 

Even after vomiting and passing out next to the road.

Even after sobbing uncontrollably to release the pent-up terror I’ve held in check to keep moving forward.

Even after going through the moments when I acknowledge that I’ve bitten off more than I can chew.

Wondering how the fuck I’m going to survive this one.

Except, there’s never a back-up.

There’s never a plan B.

I have not given myself any options other than to keep going.

 

It’s time Alpha,

for you to start training your body

as the warrior you are

so that

you can have an indestructible mind.

 

It’s time Alpha,

for you to stop listening to the haters and the nay-sayers,

to shut out the noise,

to find the silence

in the zone.

You find the zone

by training your body and then translating the skill into business.

 

It’s time Alpha,

for you to stop seeking approval,

to stop asking for permission,

and then buy into the bullshit that we as women have to fight for equality.

NO BITCHES.

We ARE equal.

The ONLY way we can feel anything less than,

is from INSIDE of us.

And until women stop showing up as inferior to men,

until women stop acting as though they are weaker than men,

women will always have a chip on their shoulders.

 

The same goes for men by the way.

 

We’re all created equal Gorgeous.

Inequality comes from the stories we tell.

 

Who will you let win today?

 

Your muse?

Your purpose?

Your integrity?

Because you promised yourself that THIS is going to be your year.

Because you promised yourself that 2019 IS the year when you break through your fear-laced barriers.

Because you promised yourself that this IS your time now,

and you will take the next step courageously NOW.

 

Or will you let them win?

Will you let the tall poppies win who stomp down everything and everyone around them so they don’t have to grow?

Will you let the trolls win who pump up their own egos by insulting others so they won’t have to face themselves in the mirror?

Will you let the copy-cats win who don’t have the discipline to create an original body of work?

 

Who will you let win TODAY?

 

Knowing that tomorrow will bring another opportunity to choose.

So if you’re really just feeling too weak to rise today,

stay down,

and choose again tomorrow.

 

Just know that for you to start winning,

you have to start approaching life differently.

For if you’re constantly allowing yourself to lose the battle today,

and you don’t have a different plan for tomorrow,

you’re simply setting yourself up for failure.

 

That’s all I have to say today.

May she land where she’s meant to.

 

Death is inevitable.

Thrive happens one choice at a time.

 

Live with honour,

Anel.

 

PS:  Clearance 2 Clarity is your 30 day life overhaul of releasing the toxins and clutter SO THAT you can invite in the new with clarity and certainty.

 

This program is designed for the woman entrepreneur who know it’s time to step it up.

In ALL aspects of her life.

 

This is how we play:

 

Week One – Confidence:  I know that if you don’t BELIEVE in yourself, if you don’t BELIEVE you can do this shit, you won’t.

Week Two – Clearance:  We detox your body, your mind, your home, your business, releasing ALL that no longer serves you.

Week Three – Connection:  We go within and connect to the power that’s always been available to you, identifying YOUR truth, connecting you with the RIGHT people for your next phase in life.

Week Four – Clarity:  With a rock solid foundation, you get to create your next level vision, your goals, your avatar.  THIS is where empires are built Darling.

 

The results:

 

  • Increased stamina and energy
  • Increased fitness and physical strength
  • Increased confidence which leads to powerful conversations, better clients, better business, better sex
  • Increased clarity of thought, focus, productivity and creativity
  • Less clutter means less distraction and overwhelm
  • Releasing toxic relationships and forming a circle of genius that serves and supports you
  • New levels of discipline as you’re held accountable every step of the way
  • A rock solid foundation which has you go higher
  • Locked in goals and vision which has you create your next level of success in record time.

 

We start on the 26th of August.

Grab all the details and I’ll see you in the Facebook Group later today xx

 

https://alphafemales.biz/c2c/

 

 

 

 

 

 

Have you turned your greatest asset into your biggest weakness?

 

 

Do you realise

that you have been gifted with the greatest power in the universe?

 

Free will.

 

That’s right Cupcake.

Your ability to decide for yourself,

to choose for yourself,

is what makes you the equivalent of a god (don’t take this out of context).

 

I do wonder when society became such disempowered, permission-asking, toeing-the-line wimps when it comes to decision making…

 

So fast to make the inconsequential decisions,

‘oh yeah, let’s have another drink’,

and slow to change their minds about their shitty habits,

‘oh it’s going to be so much effort to get my arse on a bike’,

yet they are soooooo fucking slow in making the powerful decisions,

‘I just need some time to think it over for a week or two’,

and so fast to change their minds when they’ve stepped up,

‘sorry my partner doesn’t think it’s the right time and after a lengthy discussion I agree with him’.

 

People constantly have to weigh up the potentially life-altering options:

and here’s a little insight for you Darling,

you NEVER go and think it over to stack the odds in your favour,

you go think of ALL the reasons NOT to take the plunge so you can have a ‘valid’ reason for saying no to yourself whilst saving face.

 

Oh for the love of titties.

Do you want to go through your entire existence,

precious little porcelain doll wrapped in bubbles?

To be put in a coffin as your well preserved boring AF cadaver?

Or do you want to actually feel the adrenaline pumping through your veins,

as THRIVE pulses through your cells,

waking each morning with that cheeky grin and daring life:

What mischief can I accomplish today?

 

Why are people so depressed,

so tired,

so overwhelmed,

so anxious?

 

Because they’re ‘playing it safe’!

As if you came to this life to be a little bitch.

Safe is BORING!!!!

 

Why are people constantly in shit-street?

BECAUSE

SAFE IS BORING!

 

In an attempt to feel remotely stimulated,

they unconsciously attract anything and everything to them,

they call it ‘problems’

to keep their minds ticking over.

 

PRO TIP:  CHOOSE YOUR ‘PROBLEMS’!

 

#RiseAlphas

 

You think that you’ve made some ‘expensive mistakes’ in the past so you can’t be trusted when it comes to these things.

What will it take for you to understand that you

ALWAYS

make the right decisions and everything

ALWAYS

works out FOR you??

 

Every single decision you make is perfect for the learning you require for an increase in the trajectory of your life.

It’s this insane notion that things have to play out in the exact way you had it in your mind

that has you losing out on pure gold!

 

Personally,

I find that my most ‘expensive mistakes’ as you call them,

has been the greatest investments in my most transformational learning!

 

Decisions are way less complicated than you’re making them:

  1. What’s the best thing that could happen if I say YES?
  2. What’s the worst thing that could happen if I say YES?
  3. What’s the best thing that could happen if I say NO?
  4. What’s the worst thing that could happen if I say NO?

 

Want me to make it even easier for you?

 

Okay here’s my thought-process when presented with the BIG opportunities that has me tremble with excitement:

  1. What’s the best thing that could happen if I say YES?  I could have one helluva adventure!  I will definitely learn something new.  I will grow in the process.  I will most probably meet other badasses saying yes to this.  This could be FUN.
  2. What’s the worst thing that could happen if I say YES?  The learning could turn out to look like a pain in my arse.  I could end up in a different place thereby end up with a whole new puzzle to solve (oh wait, that’s a good thing!).  I will probably be criticised by those I know.  I could end up falling on my face, again, and look like an idiot, again, and get up, again.  I will in all likelihood lose some friends on the journey, again (oh wait, that’s another good thing).
  3. What’s the best thing that could happen if I say NO?  Everything stays the same – ugh…
  4. What’s the worst thing that could happen if I say NO?  Everything stays the same.  I feel like a pussy.  I die with regret for not giving myself permission to fail forward.  I miss out on a magnificent experience.  I lose my courage muscle for not using it.  I become like everyone else.  WHAT THE FUCK????

 

And this my Darling,

is why I don’t think shit over for a day.

 

In my opinion, life is meant to be lived!

Fully.

No regrets.

 

I don’t have time to sit and ponder and doubt myself because then I will ALWAYS fuck it up.

Oh,

and nothing is every fucked-uppable beyond transformational potential into something even better.

 

Here’s my invitation to you today:

 

TAKE BACK YOUR POWER!

Decide that you’re going to stop asking for permission,

stop asking for input from those around you if they’re on the same level as you,

stop saying NO to your greatness just because it feels scary.

Decide that everything ALWAYS works out for you,

that you ALWAYS make the right decisions when you say YES to your best adventures,

that you ALWAYS learn and grow when you say YES to the BIG opportunities.

 

#RiseAlphas

 

Or not.

Just decide that you’re not an Alpha.

That you’re just wanting to get through life in one well-preserved pickled state,

so the worms can feed on your low vibrational corpse.

 

Death is inevitable,

Thrive is the choice of those willing to DECIDE for themselves.

 

Live with honour,

Anel.

 

PS:  Are you a purpose-driven, DECISIVE man ready to take IT ALL next level?

 

I have 2 spaces remaining to work privately with me.

 

This is for the man who

  • loves to be challenged to be more, do more, have more;
  • has a zero excuses policy – I don’t want to hear about time!;
  • is committed to his thrive and that includes your body – if you don’t want to train, I’m not the coach for you;
  • is coachable – I honestly don’t have time for ego Darling, you either want to be right or you want to win;
  • has drive, dedication, discipline and determination – or at least are committed to having these by the end of our three months together.

 

“Right from the start of our journey, Anel began challenging me at every turn to re-shape my thinking, re-frame my beliefs and to face my fears head-on.  She did this in a manner which was at all time affirming, inclusive and uplifting.  Her ability to hone in quickly and accurately on areas that bring about positive results is testimony to her innate understanding of human nature.  

My time with her was the most satisfying and stimulating period any entrepreneur could have.  I would therefore unreservedly recommend Anel to any organisation seeking to grow, motivate and encourage their teams toward higher achievement and ultimately, excellence.”

P.  Janneman

Director

 

 If you’re ready to commit, send me a mail anel@anelbester.com and let’s see if we’re a good partnership for your next goals.

 

What would you be thinking about, if it wasn’t for the drama?

You hear them too don’t you?

It’s okay,

you can tell me.

I won’t think you’re crazy.

 

Those voices in your head.

Running on repeat in the background

every waking moment.

The narrative sometimes going unnoticed,

except for how you feel.

 

How are you feeling most of the time?

Are you feeling light, excited, in-love for no apparent reason?

Are you feeling badass, confident, like you’re taking on the world,

and winning?

Are you feeling irritated, worried, anxious?

Are you feeling out of sorts and you just can’t put your finger on it?

 

Well,

stop trying to puzzle out your emotions

and turn your attention instead to

THE VOICE.

LOLOLOL.

Okay I’ll be serious.

 

I’ve written about this before,

yet the message came through so strong this morning that clearly someone needs to hear it again.

Maybe that person is you.

 

We’re finding ourselves in a time of humanity when society is addicted to DRAMA.

OMG

SOOOOOO much drama.

All you hear about is how people are struggling,

they’re overwhelmed, burning out, depressed, broke, addicted, exhausted, insecure, abandoned, abused and on and on it goes.

I’m not making small of this,

I’ve lived through all of the above, or so I told myself.

 

When I was INSIDE the story,

the voice in my head gave Shakespear a run for his money.

I felt like a complete and utter victim.

Helpless,

waiting for Jesus to save me,

or a prince on a white horse,

or the president,

whichever came first.

 

Except,

I was simply victim to my own bullshit.

You see Gorgeous,

no force on earth is greater than YOU!

 

That’s right.

YOU are unstoppable,

indestructible,

phenomenal,

and so in order for you to fit in to the prevailing cult of mediocrity,

you turn on yourself with your greatest asset:

YOUR MIND.

 

Because let’s be honest,

society don’t like you when you’re too happy.

 

Since taking control of my life,

my mind,

leaving behind the shit that I had erected around me to stay in ‘captivity’,

I’ve been really fucking happy.

In fact,

I have nothing to complain about.

Which irritates the shit out of most people.

 

So every now and again,

I catch myself thinking there MUST be something wrong with me.

I MUST have something that’s not good,

not working out for me.

 

And I go make up a story,

around anything,

just so I can feel ‘normal’.

I know, I know,

being human can be a bitch at times.

Then again,

this is the game we’re here to play.

Might as well make fun of ourselves whilst playing it.

 

I have to confess,

it doesn’t last long.

I’m #sorrynotsorry

but honestly Gorgeous,

bullshit doesn’t taste as good as chocolate.

And momma loves chocolate.

 

It’s really easy to turn this around by the way.

You can do it in an instant!

 

First of all,

start paying ATTENTION!

Mostly to how you’re feeling as that is easily accessible to you.

The trick is NOT to make your emotions wrong,

because when you do that you just become defensive and that screws you over.

Instead,

become curious.

“Aaaah, I feel like caterpillar poop.  What’s that about?  What’s the story I’m telling myself at the moment about my body, my relationships (oh we LOVE this category for drama), my money, my business?”

Just notice,

with a sense of humour.

Now, you have a choice:

you can go to therapy for the next 5 years trying to make sense of the story,

or

you can just ask yourself:

“What would I be thinking about if I didn’t have this to focus on?”

 

TAAADAAAA.

You’re welcome.

 

Your answer is going to give you a wealth of information and indicate the action to take!

 

First off,

if you don’t have a really exciting vision pop into your minds’ eye that IMMEDIATELY lifts your energy,

THAT’S where you need to start.

Sign up with a coach RIGHT NOW.

Without a vision,

you’re fucked.

 

And don’t tell me you’ll do it yourself,

if that was true,

you would have a vision already.

Stop being so cheap with your life.

 

If you DO have that vision,

shift your focus on that.

Right now.

IMMEDIATELY.

NO EXCUSES.

 

Set yourself up for success.

Work with a coach that challenges you to the extend you don’t have time to think about your drama.

If you’re working with a coach already and you’re still saturated in the soap-opera of life,

I would consider finding a new one.

No offence,

coaching doesn’t tolerate lame-ass excuses for NOT being your BEST self.

 

Train your body insane so you train your mind-muscle to BEAST.

Clean out your eating – constipation (aka being full of shit literally and figuratively) doesn’t just slow down the energy in your body, but also the clarity and creativity in your mind.

Stop talking to your usual crowd,

for if they were any good for you,

you wouldn’t find yourself in a position of melodramatics in the first place.

 

Before you say a single word of how you can’t or don’t have the money or don’t have the time or don’t have the ambition or this is just not the right time for you or you need to sort out something first or have to discuss it with your partner or have to think it over,

ask yourself this:

is that story making you feel like the queen of the world?

If not,

know this:

it’s just a STORY you’re telling yourself.

 

Until you understand THIS,

NOTHING will change in your life.

 

Change the story,

change your life.

 

It’s that simple.

 

Death is inevitable,

drama is boring,

challenge is exciting,

thriving is the choice of the Alpha with 5 seconds of insane courage.

 

Live with honour,

Anel.

 

PS:  Clearance 2 Clarity is your 30 day life overhaul of releasing the toxins and clutter SO THAT you can invite in the new with clarity and certainty.

 

This program is designed for the woman entrepreneur who know it’s time to step it up.

In ALL aspects of her life.

 

This is how we play:

 

Week One – Confidence:  I know that if you don’t BELIEVE in yourself, if you don’t BELIEVE you can do this shit, you won’t.

Week Two – Clearance:  We detox your body, your mind, your home, your business, releasing ALL that no longer serves you.

Week Three – Connection:  We go within and connect to the power that’s always been available to you, identifying YOUR truth, connecting you with the RIGHT people for your next phase in life.

Week Four – Clarity:  With a rock solid foundation, you get to create your next level vision, your goals, your avatar.  THIS is where empires are built Darling.

 

The results:

 

  • Increased stamina and energy
  • Increased fitness and physical strength
  • Increased confidence which leads to powerful conversations, better clients, better business, better sex
  • Increased clarity of thought, focus, productivity and creativity
  • Less clutter means less distraction and overwhelm
  • Releasing toxic relationships and forming a circle of genius that serves and supports you
  • New levels of discipline as you’re held accountable every step of the way
  • A rock solid foundation which has you go higher
  • Locked in goals and vision which has you create your next level of success in record time.

 

We start on the 26th of August.

Grab all the details here and I’ll see you in the Facebook Group later today xx

 

 

 

How will you allow their words to influence your authentic self?

People are fascinating creatures.

They all seem to get to a certain level of financial success

and then decide that they have the universal gospel truth.

 

With respect,

and I truly have immense respect for every individual who conquer their inner demons and rise to where they desire to be,

we all live in little bubbles,

and there’s a shit ton of bubbles Darling.

 

Every now and again our bubbles will merge for a fraction of time,

giving us the opportunity to peek inside the world of another.

Sometimes we’re intrigued, we choose to linger and learn before taking the gain and moving on.

Sometimes we find this is so much better than where we were before we decide to stay.

Other times we feel like an alien, and not in a good way, and speedily leave.

 

I really want you to get this today

because ultimately there’s

NO ONE TRUTH,

NO ONE PATH,

NO ONE WAY,

for everyone to follow to their personal thrive.

 

When people are saturated with insecurity and fear and a sense of hopelessness

they will cut off their big toes to fit into the glass slipper.

And then we wonder why so many women have chronic bunions and foot problems.

 

Case in point the statement:

“Women who curse online will never make lots of money”.

 

When I heard this spoken with authority and certainty,

I didn’t even blink an eye.

I didn’t argue the point.

I didn’t have any desire to prove him wrong with real life examples.

I let it wash over me as this is a particular trigger I chose to release some time ago.

 

For in his world,

this is true.

In his world,

women are well dressed and wear stilettos to the gym,

they speak like ‘ladies’,

they know how to be the female equivalent of the male suite.

 

Respect to them.

I can appreciate them and accept them.

I can choose to wear my heels when the mood dictates,

and I can choose to be covered in mud on my bike,

and it’s ALL perfect.

There’s no right or wrong.

 

He also dropped the fact that he believes he has no choice in his religion,

and doesn’t love to train or experience ‘the burn’ rolling his eyes.

I’m not making this wrong.

I’m just pointing out how different we are!

 

I’ve also come to know that just because we’re different,

doesn’t mean we can’t learn a shit ton from each other.

You simply have to release your triggers to gain the gold.

I want you to start paying attention to who you’re listening to and to find the similarities and the differences Darling

and not make ANY of it wrong!

 

I’m also going to say

THANK FUCK

women in my bubble

are self-made multi-millionaires

giving themselves full permission

to say whatever the fuck they want to say

however they fuck they want to say it

and let it land where it may.

 

For me it comes down to faith

that you’re NOT broken and wrong just because you’re different.

It’s the delusional bullshit that we all have to be the same to be happy

that has so many people depressed.

 

Why do I give myself permission to curse online?

For one thing, I curse in private.

I have no desire to be two different personas.

I continue witnessing how the ‘mighty’ fall when they’re ‘brand’ is all sugar and spice and it turns out they’re human after all – which is all the holier than thou are waiting for to crucify them.

 

Quite frankly Gorgeous,

when I asked myself why I WOULDN’T curse online,

even after I was told to rip down my website by professional business mentors,

there were ZERO GOOD REASONS.

 

Why wouldn’t I curse online?

  • I don’t want to offend the precious people
  • I don’t want to potentially lose out on clients who judge those who curse
  • I don’t want to appear unprofessional by those who judge my professionalism by appearance instead of results
  • I don’t want to be accused of being stupid because apparently people who curse have low levels of creativity and intelligence

 

Except,

I have NO DESIRE TO WORK WITH THOSE PEOPLE.

 

Why not?

Because they also tend not to love the burn;

they tend to judge themselves all the time and then feel judged all the time which means I can’t provide a space for them where they liberate themselves from their own shame and walk proud;

they tend to pretend and wear masks and I have no time to work with those who won’t be real with themselves;

they’re easily offended and can rarely cope with my no bullshit approach to life and honestly, I didn’t tolerate sulking when my kids were toddlers, I definitely don’t tolerate sulking adults; and

I happen to know that my levels of professionalism, integrity and authenticity is higher than most you’ll ever meet and I don’t have to prove it by pretending I don’t speak passionately.

 

It comes down to knowing who you are,

what you stand for,

and not needing to change yourself or prove yourself by pretending to be someone you’re not,

out of fear of scarcity and non-conformity.

 

I don’t judge people for NOT cursing.

I don’t judge people for choosing to do business in a certain way.

I don’t judge people for NOT training.

I simply don’t speak TO THEM in my writing

and I choose not to work with them because it’s not fun for me!

Life, and business, is a game,

why would we want to play if it’s not fun?

 

I believe there’s a gazillion ways in which we can bring value to the world,

and if we all have to do it the same way,

that’s a lottle fucked-up

and boring.

Plus, what are we really telling people?

You have to sacrifice your authentic self for money?

That simply doesn’t sit well with me.

 

Here’s my invitation to you Darling:

where have you squeezed your toes into a shoe that’s too small for you, for the sake of ‘professionalism’ or because someone told you that you have to be a certain way if you’re ever going to be happy?

Where have you watered down your message for the sake of ‘success’?

Where have you made yourself wrong because a mentor or coach said if you want A you have to stop being B?

 

For me, there’s a big difference in coaching for transformation and coaching for conformity.

 

And is it worth it?

If it is,

keep doing that shit.

If it’s not,

you can choose to walk barefoot in the sand today.

 

Death is inevitable,

Thriving is the choice of the Alpha who loves, appreciates and accepts herself just as she is.

 

Live with honour,

Anel.

 

PS:  Clearance 2 Clarity is your 30 day life overhaul of releasing the toxins and clutter SO THAT you can invite in the new with clarity and certainty.

 

This program is designed for the woman entrepreneur who know it’s time to step it up.

In ALL aspects of her life.

 

This is how we play:

 

Week One – Confidence:  I know that if you don’t BELIEVE in yourself, if you don’t BELIEVE you can do this shit, you won’t.

Week Two – Clearance:  We detox your body, your mind, your home, your business, releasing ALL that no longer serves you.

Week Three – Connection:  We go within and connect to the power that’s always been available to you, identifying YOUR truth, connecting you with the RIGHT people for your next phase in life.

Week Four – Clarity:  With a rock solid foundation, you get to create your next level vision, your goals, your avatar.  THIS is where empires are built Darling.

 

The results:

 

  • Increased stamina and energy
  • Increased fitness and physical strength
  • Increased confidence which leads to powerful conversations, better clients, better business, better sex
  • Increased clarity of thought, focus, productivity and creativity
  • Less clutter means less distraction and overwhelm
  • Releasing toxic relationships and forming a circle of genius that serves and supports you
  • New levels of discipline as you’re held accountable every step of the way
  • A rock solid foundation which has you go higher
  • Locked in goals and vision which has you create your next level of success in record time.

 

We start on the 26th of August.

Grab all the details and I’ll see you in the Facebook Group later today xx

 

https://alphafemales.biz/c2c/

 

 

Are we really just spoilt for choice, or is there a serious lack of commitment?

 

 

When you sit in a room with the world’s number one wealth coach,

and you see less than 80 attendees,

you have to wonder…

 

Hearing that not even 10% of people registered chose to get into their cars,

drive to the venue,

and dedicate a day of their lives

to learn from a self-made multi-millionaire who brings together A-list celebrities,

I felt, what’s the word,

disgusted

in the lack of commitment.

 

Now we can go through all the normal excuses of humanity:

oh it’s free so it won’t be valuable,

oh we all know they’re going to pitch a sale at the end,

oh my kids,

oh the weather,

oh the traffic,

oh I’ll go next time…

 

We could blame the thousands of coaches and speakers who are offering so much free content,

saying that they’re spoiling us for choice.

Knowing that something else will always come along when it’s more

convenient…

 

I’m calling bullshit.

Success doesn’t happen when it’s convenient.

I’m going to pull back to take a much bigger view,

so instead of downplaying the symptoms,

we get to see the bigger problem.

 

It’s not a lack of commitment to the event,

it’s a lack of commitment to the self.

 

Majority of society lacks a clear vision of where they desire to be next, what they’re committed to achieving.

It’s the vision that provides you with the filter for distractions and

commands the reticular activating system pay attention,

easily distinguishing the opportunities which will get you closer to achieving your goals.

 

 

It’s a lack of commitment to success,

that has people come up with a million excuses why NOT to put themselves in an uncomfortable situation.

Such as attending an event where you probably won’t know anyone,

and have conversations with those ahead in the game,

hoping to the lords of espresso beans

you don’t ask the question everyone laughs at.

 

I’ve spoken about this at length before.

Winners are comfortable being uncomfortable because this is simply the zone of growth.

 

It’s a lack of commitment to our best selves,

that has people put everyone else’s shit before their personal growth,

allowing the agendas of others to intrude on your potential greatness.

Of course, we can blame our social upbringing for this,

or we can simply decide to grow up and make our own decisions for ourselves.

 

 

It’s a lack of commitment to potential magnificence

that has so many sitting there without a very clear vision to start off with.

And honestly Darling,

at this stage of the fight

I just don’t get it.

Every single day is precious and gifted to you to get further ahead,

but without a direction for where you’re committed to go,

you’re simply floundering around

wondering why you’re so tired all the time

with so little results to show.

 

Here’s the thing:

You can choose to be part of the 90% in the 99% who don’t show the fuck up.

You can choose to be part of the 90% in the 99% who don’t have a clue what they even want.

You can choose to be part of the 90% in the 99% who say next time.

You can choose to be one of them.

No skin off my nose.

 

Or you can choose to be one of the very few people

who have a vision that’s so exciting to your SOUL, you will do WHATEVER IT TAKES,

who eliminates all distractions without thinking it’s weird to show this level of commitment,

who says YES to the RIGHT opportunities and then make it to the event,

who has very clear intentions for every event, every training, every conversation BEFORE it happens thereby creating a container with which to mine gold,

who trusts your gut,

who stays the hell away from the naysayers and complacent who have no desire to see you thrive,

who feeds your mind, your soul, your body with high vibrational nourishment,

who goes home and IMMEDIATELY takes action on the learning

thereby instantly shifting the trajectory of your life.

 

You can CHOOSE to be an Alpha.

 

Yes,

there,

I said it.

 

Being an ALPHA is a CHOICE you get to make.

You don’t get to play the DNA card with me.

 

 

Here’s the thing Darling:

STOP FOCUSING ON THE PAST AND MAKING YOURSELF FEEL BAD ABOUT THE DECISIONS OF YESTERDAY.

Shame is such a pointless thing – seriously, I’m rolling my eyes.

This piece is about introspection,

getting real with yourself,

and choosing from where you’re at.

I don’t really care where you come from.

I don’t even care where you are right now.

I’m only interested in where you are COMMITTED to going next.

 

And then,

I’m interested in you SHOWING us what you’re made of.

 

Death IS inevitable.

Thriving is the choice of those COMMITTED to thrive.

 

Live with honour,

Anel.

 

PS:  Are you a purpose-driven man ready to take IT ALL next level?

 

Yesterday I was told I’m selfish for NOT working with more men.

Okay then gentlemen,

I’ve opened 3 spaces to work privately with me.

“Over the last number of years my Company has employed the services of Anel Bester to coach senior executives.  We have seen the achievement of incredible results as an outcome of the techniques employed by Anel.  her approach is no nonsense, goal orientated and task driven.  Anel demands high accountability.  I would high recommend her services fo both one on one, and group coaching sessions.” – Tom Creamer, MD Telesure Investment Holdings.

“In a space of 6 month I moved from having my dreams to living my dream.  Her style of coaching is result orientated and becomes a lifestyle rather than work. She has unique and unorthodox way of igniting the fire within and making sure one continues to keep it burning.” – Tshepo Nyatlo, Founder of Gorogang Consulting

This is for the man who

  • loves to be challenged to be more, do more, have more;
  • has a zero excuses policy – I don’t want to hear about time!;
  • is committed to his thrive and that includes your body – if you don’t want to train, I’m not the coach for you;
  • is coachable – I honestly don’t have time for ego Darling;
  • has drive, dedication, discipline and determination – or at least are committed to having these by the end of our three months together.

 

“I have for many years struggled with procrastinating everything I do. I don’t know if there is a cure or remedy for it beside having someone to help you understand a sense of urgency even when you don’t see it. Anel has been that person for me. She helped me see how my personal goals as an entrepreneur affected by business goals and vice versa. Anel made me see the impact my business has on people’s life that I may not even know; planning appropriately and sticking to the plan guarantees results which has an impact in our delivery, which impact our clients satisfactions. Today I plan everything and teach my employees to plan in details for every project so I can make their planning part of the bigger plan for a common goal; SUCCESS. Thanks Anel for your impact in Plurtione and Ruddy’s lives” – Ruddy Mukwena, Founder of Pluritone

 

“Anel’s coaching style is like an injection of vitality into your willingness to achieve your goals.  She was brilliant in confronting  me and my fears.  Being coached by her I learned the power of using my energy and moods towards the completion of my goals.   As a result of working with Anel I connected with my masculine power and male energy.  If you wonder why is it you don’t have enough passion to build the life you desire, Anel is the coach you need to energize and shake your believe system in order to create a the most authentic version you can be’ – Pierre Giannotti, Business Coach

If you’re ready to commit, send me a mail anel@anelbester.com and let’s see if we’re a good partnership for your next goals.

 

 

 

 

Which energy are you feeding today – bitch or beast?

You know the story about the two wolves within every man –

one is supposedly good and the other bad,

and which wins depends which we feed the most.

 

Well,

I’ve also noticed that people have two energies inside them:

one is being a little bitch

and the other

bring it on beast!

 

And they choose to feed one or the other with

EVERYTHING.

From the food they eat

to the programs they watch,

the music they listen to

and

most of all,

the questions they ask.

 

Lately, my response to a lot of questions has been –

I simply can’t relate.

 

Seriously Darling,

if you’re feeling ashamed of your current choices,

STOP DOING THAT SHIT.

Publicly shaming yourself for doing things that makes you feel ashamed,

well,

what on earth is that about?

 

If you don’t like your lack of discipline,

BE DISCIPLINED.

Just decide what you’re actually committed to achieving,

identify the actions to take,

schedule it in,

and it’s DONE.

No excuses.

No debating with yourself.

It’s just done.

 

If you don’t like your habit of procrastinating,

TAKE ACTION.

 

If you don’t like your life passing before your very eyes,

whilst you’re sitting on the sideline

shivering with fear,

GROW SOME TITANIUM OVARIES AND GET YOUR ARSE ON THE FIELD!

 

These questions are not in the energy of  those committed to finding the answer that will shift them,

but victims seeking sympathy.

And boy oh boy,

do they get a ton of that.

Or academic BS answers of proven methodologies crammed with so much hoyty toyty jargon

that NOBODY knows what the hell they’re actually supposed to do next.

 

NO!

Life is really simple Darling.

 

YOU  GET TO CHOOSE EVERYTHING.

 

And it starts with who you choose to be.

You can choose to be one of the billions of people thinking they’re here at the mercy of some big brother waiting to pounce on them and screw them over,

you can choose to be one of the victims who simply can’t live beyond the stories of others,

you can choose to ask the wrong questions,

the symptom questions,

because you’re looking for some pollyfilla to fill your cracks,

OR

you can choose to be the powerful creator of your reality.

 

This is the realm of the Alpha.

It’s not for everyone,

and most people look at us with a mixture of awe and revulsion because

you know

we have the audacity to call a spade a spade.

 

Why do I not console,

not even myself?

Because quite frankly I simply don’t have the patience to tell the little bitch in me the lies she feeds on.

I don’t have time to kiss her toddler arse

until she subsides

sucking her thumb

rocking herself to  sleep

so that

my beast can get shit done.

 

OH HELL NO.

I allow my beast energy,

to reign supreme.

 

 

Does it mean I’ve killed off my wee bitch?

Hell no – I honour and adore all parts of me.

I still feed her ice-cream and love songs when I feel like playing with her.

I still watch “The Notebook” with my box of tissues.

 

But when it comes to living my life,

building my empire,

training my body,

it’s pure

BEAST MODE ON!

 

I feed her every single day,

listening to hardcore music whilst training,

surrounding myself with those who challenge and inspire me to go even higher,

putting myself in the game,

knowing that this is where I will ALWAYS have the most transformational growth.

And without daily growth,

there’s daily decay.

I’m in no way ready to walk around as another zombie.

 

My invitation to you today is to start paying attention to the energy of your choices.

The energy of your food – does it leave you feeling energised, light, and ready to go run a marathon?

The energy of your music – does it have you shaking arse with wild abandon feeling like a rock star?

The energy of your friends – do they challenge and inspire you to go do the work to be your best self?

The energy of your work – does it fill you with absolute pride knowing that you get to bring a positive experience to another?

The energy of your questions – do they come from a space of empowered determination to committed growth?

 

If not,

why?

What’s the benefit of you feeding the little bitch?

Is it that you’re feeling lonely and sorry for yourself and it gets you attention?

Is it that you actually love being a victim because people look at you and tell you the shit your momma never did?

Is it that you don’t have to take responsibility for your choices and so you can keep fucking up with your ‘get out of jail for free’ card?

 

I don’t mean to be rude.

I just want you to be honest with yourself.

There’s always a benefit Sunshine.

That’s why we do what we do.

 

Are your pay-offs the stuff that fill you with pride?

If it’s not,

just be compassionate with your past choices,

and consciously choose your next!

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is the choice of the Alpha who’s willing to be real.

 

Live with honour,

Anel.

 

PS:  Are you ready to release ALL that is standing between you and your next level thrive?

 

I’m talking releasing toxins from your body.

I’m talking releasing clutter from your home.

I’m talking clearing your inbox, your dropbox, your drive.

I’m talking revealing your true supporters from your secret excuses for NOT taking the aligned action.

 

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This program is for you if you desire to

  • Feel inspired, confident, clear and knowing EXACTLY what your next moves are.
  • Wake up in the morning with more energy, more excitement for the day ahead.
  • Desire to feel supported every step of the way.

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When shit hits the fan, I just choose to HTFU!

 

**HTFU – Harden The Fuck Up**

 

For alphas,

life is always happening at a million miles an hour.

People coming and going,

sometimes at such a rapid rate

it feels as though there’s a revolving door and they don’t even get more than a hasty ‘hello’ in.

Creative geniuses,

there’s NEVER a cap on the amount of projects we have on the go.

Normally overlapping,

one is just underway

when the next one is already coming through us in so much vivid detail

there’s no way in hell we’re going to ignore it.

Our fitness is non-negotiable,

Train mean.

Eat lean.

That’s how we stay Beast.

Family is KING.

I’m talking real family Darling,

not the socially dictated familial lines through biology.

 

In short,

there’s very few days that shit isn’t REAL AF!

 

People have always been astonished by how much I can keep going,

without batting an eyelid.

Well,

that’s because I deal with my batting in private.

 

There’s times when I look up at the enormity of what is on my plate,

and just for a moment,

I feel ‘human‘.

I get into that

‘What the fuck have I bitten off now?’ mode,

questioning my sanity.

If I give in to chewing it over,

I can even start going into a sense of overwhelm,

a little freak-out creeps into my mind.

 

THIS

my darling Alpha,

is when I give myself FULL PERMISSION

to KICK MY OWN ARSE

and HTFU!

 

I have zero tolerance of myself for being a little bitch.

I just don’t have time for that shit.

Things to create.

People to inspire.

Lives to transform.

Worlds to conquer.

 

Is this me not dealing with the underlying emotions?

NO BITCH.

This is me not being available for my own bullshit!

 

I understand that most people LOVE their little labels,

it gives them comfort to put everything into a neat box,

makes them feel less like an outcast.

Well, there’s only ONE mental health label I am interested in:

MOTHERFUCKING BADASS.

That’s it.

I don’t care for any of the others.

 

Why do I train to the point of screaming in agony?

Why do I push to the point of lying in a heap of exhaustion and then get up?

Because I KNOW,

that regardless of how tired I am,

regardless of how scared,

regardless of how challenging the journey,

there is ALWAYS more strength available to me.

 

I learned this during my Sky Run.

 

When you’re sitting in a bog,

pitch dark,

exhausted after more than 16 hours of running and hiking over the rugged mountainous terrain,

adrenaline seeping out of you to overcome your terror of heights,

feeling so small as you see the immensity of earth,

the only nourishment still left is you eating your own vomit from the pain in your twisted knee and sprained ankle,

and you KNOW,

you KNOW,

it’s ‘move motherfucker or DIE’- time,

YOU MOVE!

 

You go to wherever you have to go,

inside

above

you conquer the exhaustion

you connect to a power greater than you

that’s part of you

and your will to live

shows you what the hell you’re truly made of.

 

Are you pushing the boundaries of what you believe is possible for your physical body?

If you’re not,

you’ll NEVER know what is possible for your mind!

 

#RiseAlphas and move your arses!

 

The ONLY process I’m interested in,

for ANYTHING,

whether it’s dealing with trauma

or loss

or anxiety

or failure

is DECISION!

That’s it.

I just fucking DECIDE

that this happened FOR ME,

and I drop into the deepest of appreciation

for all the players on my board.

I receive the learning,

I say “Thank You Universe for gifting me ALL that was required to get me to THIS point in time,

now let’s rock this house like a wild woman!”

 

And then I MOVE FORWARD.

You can choose to continue believing that you have to go through the seven prescribed phases and stages and whatever the fuck.

I’m like NOBODY ELSE,

why would I prescribe to what works for ‘everyone else’?

I get to live life on my own terms

trusting my own rhythm

and before you tell me that I’m not allowing myself what is required to get to lasting happiness, answer me this:

Who is waking up with a LIFEGASM in the morning?

I AM.

 

I simply DECIDED that if I had ONE DAY LEFT TO LIVE,

I don’t have time for their tedious steps and stages.

 

QUANTUM Cupcake.

 

If you’re anything like me,

right now,

you have a shit ton going on.

My question to you today is:

Are you whining like a little bitch to everyone and anyone who will give you the time of day,

addicted to sympathy and drama?

Or are you putting that t-spoon of cement in YOUR coffee?

 

Sympathy will get you nowhere in life.

Other than enfolded in the arms of the average who love it when you pretend to be like them,

it makes them feel less shitty about their own crappy choices.

 

Challenge will keep you BEAST.

Make no mistake Darling

Alphas are beasts to the core.

 

Time to leave behind your wooly blankets and

#RiseAlphaFemales

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is the choice of the fierce.

 

Live with honour

Anel.

 

PS. – You deserve to Clear the Space for Absolute Clarity

 

A 30 day life transformation eradicating confusion by clearing the clutter in your internal and external life, thereby gaining perfect clarity on your next desires and connecting to your conviction with which to take action.

Here’s how we’ll play:

Week One – BEAST MODE ON!

We flick the switch, work through the BS, increasing your belief in self. Why?  Because NOTHING will shift in your life unless you truly believe success is possible for you.

Week Two – CLEARANCE.

We detox.  I’m talking physical body detoxification through fasting as well as tackling every inch of your environment, gifting you space to breathe fully and think creatively once more.  Staying accountable means NO MORE PUTTING OFF till tomorrow.  Procrastination does not live in my space.

Week Three – CONNECTION.

I know that one of the reasons you’re stuck, is because you have a myriad of open loops in your life, most of them leading off into outdated nothingness.  Time to reconnect to YOUR truth, YOUR power, YOURSELF thereby re-engaging all cylinders from which to stoke the fire.

Week Four – CLARITY.

From a space of zero interference we connect to what you truly desire next, who you desire to be and the aligned action to take so you get results FAST.

And to ensure YOU have ALL the SUPPORT you require, you receive your personal accountability coach for daily check-ins and inspiration when shit gets real (as it always does when you play with me).

We start Monday the 26th of August 7 pm (NZT) but why you want to sign up right now, is the first TEN women receive a 30 minute private coaching call with me (which you can use at any time during the 30 days).  Spaces are filling up Darling.

If this feels aligned, and if you’re ready to go to your next level of success,
I look forward to welcoming you on the inside.

Details at https://alphafemales.biz/c2c/

 

 

 

#sorrynotsorry I don’t speak Average

I know I’m not the only one.

I know there are others like me,

who at times listen to the questions being asked,

the advise being given,

tilting your head to the right

thinking to yourself

“I don’t understand”.

 

How do I stay motivated to achieve my goals?

  • I don’t understand

You have to be more gentle with yourself.

  • I don’t understand.

How can you not listen to the news?  You have to know what’s going on in the world.

  • I don’t understand.

Things are really bad.  We’re screwed.

  • I don’t understand.

You shouldn’t be training that hard at your age.

  • I don’t understand.

You really should take a break.  You work too hard.  You’re going to burn out.

  • I don’t fucking understand.

 

I was pondering the concept of patience this morning.

 

I’m often accused that I’m not very patient.

I don’t understand.

I’m the most patient person I know.

I’m willing to work for my dreams for the rest of my life,

to keep going regardless how long it takes.

How the hell is that not being patient?

 

Then I started thinking about when exactly I’m accused of impatience.

I realised that it’s never about me being impatient,

but rather me being intolerant of the snails pace at which most others work and live.

 

It’s the incompetent person working behind the counter who actually don’t give a shit about the fact that you have places to go, people to meet, epic shit to create.

It’s the bored out of her skull teller more interested in her nails than the person in front of her.

It’s the average Jolene who wants to take a fucking decade to do what she can achieve in an hour of ‘in the zone’ effort.

It’s the mile long red tape in corporate preventing decisiveness because nobody wants to take ultimate responsibility.

It’s the fence sitting behaviour we’re breeding because people don’t want to fuck up and look like an idiot.

Passive aggressive behaviour suffocating results.

 

I don’t see this as patience.

I see this as compromise,

complacency,

mediocre bullshit that has us all sloooooooow down to the point where high achievers start smoking dope in an effort to become more

‘patient’.

 

Oh, you can take your ‘patience’

and shove it up your chimney.

 

And it doesn’t stop there…

 

It includes the fallacy of ‘balance’.

What the actual fuck?

Do I look like a scale?

Do I appear to be something that needs equal of everything in my life to be ‘balanced’ and happy?

I have NO DESIRE for balance in my life.

I thrive on unexplainable obsession.

Going all in on my passions

understanding that as I evolve in one area,

I bring this FULLNESS OF SELF to all areas of my life.

 

“All work and no play makes Anel a boring girl” – yes Darling,

I can understand that if you’re one of those selling their soul – their passion – their THRIVE – for a meagre salary,

thinking that you’ll be rewarded for you suffering when you go on pension,

this could be true.

For Alphas –

WORK IS PLAY.

If you define boring by the fact that I don’t have to drink to be an energiser bunny, then yes I’m boring.

If you define boring by the fact that I have no desire to gossip or complain to fit in, then yes, I’m boring AF.

If you define boring by the fact that I would rather sit in a toilet-cubicle creating a value-add IG post than stand in the noisy pub staring at strangers, then yes I’m boring.

Average living bores me to tears!

My work,

now THAT lights me up like a Christmas tree.

 

Let’s talk about being selfish.

The BS that we have to always be available for others.

Even complete strangers we meet online,

unfulfilled in their lives and then thinking that you should just press pause to entertain them.

That we have to be nice to others.

Oh puh-lease!

Alphas respect Alphas.

We don’t fucking intrude.

We don’t distract.

We don’t need others to take our minds of the monotony  of life.

For us,

every day is a motherfuking ADVENTURE.

FILLED with extraordinary,

excitement,

adrenaline,

and before you tell me I’m going to get adrenal fatigue,

ugh,

bitch please.

Alphas don’t get adrenal fatigue.

 

My conclusion is this:

The tower of Babel is still very much in effect.

Except it now goes way deeper than English, Afrikaans, French, Mandarin, Portuguese, Xhosa, Zulu,

and the gazillion other official languages.

There’s Alpha language, and there’s Average language.

Even though the words SOUND the same,

the meanings are vastly different.

 

So the next time someone says

“You need to be more patient”,

instead of trying to explain your impatience with incompetence,

just calmly reply

“I don’t speak Average”.

When they say

“You’re going to burn out”,

tilt your head right and with a small smile,

“I don’t speak Average”.

When they tell you

“That’s not being realistic”

I give you full permission to burst out laughing and heartily exclaim

“Darling, I don’t speak Average”.

 

Look,

I know that MAJORITY of people won’t get this,

that’s why it’s called the AVERAGE,

you know,

if you have take the numbers,

oh whatever.

 

This piece is for YOU, Alpha.

It’s time to just own the fact that you don’t operate by average rules.

You don’t speak like the average person.

You don’t derive satisfaction from average existence.

And no,

you’re not crazy,

they’re simply speaking a foreign language

and you’ve been trying to make sense of it all based on a false interpretation.

 

That’s all I have to say today.

 

Death is inevitable.

Thriving is the choice of those who actually know what I mean by thrive.

 

Live with honour,

Anel

 

PS. – Are you ready for CLARITY?

It’s finally time for us to play ANEL-STYLE – and you know what that means 😉

Yip, there will be squats, there will be pushups, there will be cursing, there will be breakthroughs,
and it will be FUN AF!

That’s right Darling,
after reviewing all the programs I’ve presented over the past 3 years, I’ve come to understand that what women like us enjoy the most, and which has the most powerful results, is when I bring my unique flavour of body / mind activation.

Which is why I’ve now created Clearance 2 Clarity just for you!

This is a 30 day life transformation where we eradicate the confusion so that you will have perfect clarity on your next desires and the conviction to take action.

Here’s how we’ll play:

Week One – BEAST MODE ON!

We flick the switch, work through the BS, increasing your belief.

Week Two – CLEARANCE.

We detox every area of your life from the inside out.

Week Three – CONNECTION.

We connect the dots of your truth and your power setting your foundation right.

Week Four – CLARITY.

From a space of zero interference we connect to what you desire next and who you desire to be.

And to ensure YOU have ALL the SUPPORTand ACCOUNTABILITYyou require, you will receive an accountability coach for daily check-ins and support when shit gets real (as it always does when you play with me).

We start Monday the 26th of August 7 pm (NZT) but why you want to sign up right now, is the first TEN women receive a 30 minute private coaching call with me (which you can use at any time during the 30 days) and TWO SPACES HAVE ALREADY BEEN CLAIMED!

If this feels aligned, and if you’re ready to shift gears FAST,
I look forward to seeing you on the inside.

Details at https://alphafemales.biz/c2c/

 

The wolf does not lie with the poodle.

#SoulSmackDown!

 

Really?

You want to do this again?

 

Standing there looking all sheepish,

because you know,

you fucking KNOW,

that YOU

have once again

let YOU slide.

 

I can do this all day long Sweetheart.

I can give you the punches,

the ‘failures’,

the uncomfortable situations,

so you can choose to shape the fuck up!

 

I’m willing to provide you with as many rock bottoms as is required

SO THAT

YOU can choose

to stop the soul-destroying bullshit behaviours you’re so fond of.

 

I witness every time you experience a glimmer of what is truly possible for you.

Instead of just charging ahead like a berserker,

you look around

and you desperately cling to the familiar.

Look,

I get it,

not really but okay,

that it’s not easy being a human at a time of tremendous evolution,

when you keep on convincing yourself you don’t LIKE change.

 

Just to prove the sense of humour of the Universe

you’ve been blessed with that feeble little ego of yours,

convinced it’s her job to keep you safe.

Thinking that you taking another breath,

is ‘safe’.

 

Even when you endure abuse from another.

Even when you endure abuse from yourself.

Poisoning your body slowly so that you’ll stop hurting.

NOTHING hurts more than abandoning of your true self Darling,

and the only true relief

is when you die.

 

DO YOU SERIOUSLY WANT TO DIE???

 

There’s no end to my passion,

to my persistence,

but it means nothing

until you actually

COMMIT

to being your best self.

 

The relationship with self

is not like all the other relationships which come and go in your life.

Side note:  some of them should go LONG BEFORE you allow them to.

 

Yet, you seem to think that you’re here to be the plaything of another.

Instead of realising that this life has been gifted to you

to test your limits

to see just how far you can push the envelope

revealing your immense power, potential, abundance,

THRIVE!

 

What will it take for you to start prioritising your relationship with YOU?

What will it take for you to start putting your dreams FIRST?

What will it take for you to become selfish enough to say

FUCK THE SOCIAL COMPLACENCY AND HYPOCRISY FOR ACCEPTANCE

AND RISE ALPHA???

 

How long will you allow yourself to be treated less than spectacular?

How long will you allow yourself to be surrounded by those who have no appetite for greatness?

Thinking you have to actually settle for the feeble living attempts of others,

simply because the prevalent culture of mediocrity says it’s okay.

That you should settle for average anything.

That you should compromise on your standards of excellence to meet the laziest person in the rooms 1% effort.

That you should dim your brilliance because those with zero ambition feel bad when you show the fuck up and show what is possible for ANYONE willing to do the motherfucking work.

 

The REAL work.

The INTERNAL work.

The MINDSET work where you finally get to grips with your ego

and you put that little bitch in service to YOUR greatness,

instead of being a slave to her.

 

Who do you think you are to bow down to the pressure of another?

Who do you think you are to feel shame for failure

when the pure act of failing

shows that you are one of the FEW who have the balls to go for it?

Who do you think you are to run from fear

when she’s here to GROW you and CHALLENGE you and STRENGTHEN you.

Who do you think you are to apologise

for ANYTHING that you do

when quite frankly

your behaviour is in alignment with YOUR true values,

and simply because it’s not the same as everyone else’s you make you wrong.

 

Who do you think you are?

Oh,

you think you’re one of them?

You think you’re one of the masses?

Just because you have similar DNA…

 

Oh Darling,

nothing could the further from the truth!

 

It’s about bloody time that you start taking that tail out from between your legs.

YOU were not bred to be a domesticated bitch licking her masters hand,

regardless of how he treats her.

YOU do not have the loyal nature of the pup who never questions anything her ‘owner’ does.

 

YOU ARE ALPHA!

WILD

RAW

POWERFUL

PASSIONATE

YOU CAN NOT BE TAMED.

 

And the fact that you’re different from the ‘sisterhood’ is absolutely perfect.

The wolf does not lie with  the poodle.

 

Own that shit.

 

Today is a new day.

You get to choose

AGAIN.

 

Will you continue to toe the line?

Will you continue to set yourself up for failure by not setting yourself up for success?

OR

Will you finally DECIDE

DEATH BEFORE DNF

Surrounding yourself with those who are in it to win.

Making yourself your number one priority.

Not settling for ANYTHING that does not LIGHT YOU UP!

From hydration to nourishment to training to relationships to home environment to business to clients.

ALL OF IT.

 

Yes,

it will feel challenging to break the band.

You’re going to have to go inside,

deep inside,

to your very core

and harness the power available to you at any time.

You’ll have to stoke the furnace

with passion

and then

from a space of absolute CONVICTION

RISE ALPHA RISE!

 

This is my call to the Alpha Females:

It’s YOUR time now.

YOU are ready to take the step.

 

Believe in yourself and the world WILL BE your oyster.

 

Death is inevitable Darling.

Thriving is the choice of those who embrace their true nature.

 

Live with honour,

Soul.

 

PS. – Are you ready for CLARITY?

It’s finally time for us to play ANEL-STYLE – and you know what that means 😉

Yip, there will be squats, there will be pushups, there will be cursing, there will be breakthroughs,
and it will be FUN AF!

That’s right Darling,
after reviewing all the programs I’ve presented over the past 3 years, I’ve come to understand that what women like us enjoy the most, and which has the most powerful results, is when I bring my unique flavour of body / mind activation.

Which is why I’ve now created Clearance 2 Clarity just for you!

This is a 30 day life transformation where we eradicate the confusion so that you will have perfect clarity on your next desires and the conviction to take action.

Here’s how we’ll play:

Week One – BEAST MODE ON!

We flick the switch, work through the BS, increasing your belief.

Week Two – CLEARANCE.

We detox every area of your life from the inside out.

Week Three – CONNECTION.

We connect the dots of your truth and your power setting your foundation right.

Week Four – CLARITY.

From a space of zero interference we connect to what you desire next and who you desire to be.

And to ensure YOU have ALL the SUPPORTand ACCOUNTABILITYyou require, you will receive an accountability coach for daily check-ins and support when shit gets real (as it always does when you play with me).

We start Monday the 26th of August 7 pm (NZT) but why you want to sign up right now, is the first TEN women receive a 30 minute private coaching call with me (which you can use at any time during the 30 days) and TWO SPACES HAVE ALREADY BEEN CLAIMED!

If this feels aligned, and if you’re ready to shift gears FAST,
I look forward to seeing you on the inside.

Details at https://alphafemales.biz/c2c/

 

Inconsiderate, unsympathetic bitches or empowering badasses?

Okay Sunshine,

let’s talk.

 

I’m just so over you sitting there thinking that you have to settle for ANYTHING less than spectacular.

When you were born

for absolute

MAGNIFICENCE.

 

You wouldn’t be reading this otherwise.

 

Would you agree with me that right now

someone else already has the level of success that you desire?

That someone else is already driving your dream car,

having the incredible relationship you hunger for,

building the empire of impact bursting to come out of you?

 

And we both know that they’re no better than you.

They’re not smarter than you.

They don’t have four arms,

or 30 hours a day.

 

You can keep finding reasons to excuse yourself from the game,

time,

money,

children,

sagging arse,

whatever your flavour of BS is,

or you can get real with yourself.

 

First off,

if you’re serious about going next level,

finally living the life you’ve stopped dreaming of,

you have to stop listening to what you’re saying,

and start paying attention to your actions.

 

I’m #sorrynotsorry to tell you,

our egos are cunning little bitches.

She’ll tell you whatever she has to in order for the status quo to remain.

She will find the evidence in your environment to substantiate her lies.

Which is why you have to ACT IS IF your desired outcome is ALREADY DONE

REGARDLESS

of your current circumstances.

 

Why do most people NOT review their day?

Because it reveals our true victories

and self-sabotaging behaviours

which in the beginning can suck…

Especially if you’ve been screwing around with your potential up till now.

 

You HAVE to stop being so fucking precious!

 

And for the love of peanut butter bliss balls,

don’t tell me that you don’t want to feel bad.

Pussy 😉

You’re feeling bad for a reason

and the sooner you give yourself permission to feel the shit,

the sooner you will get your arse into gear

and actually DO SOMETHING about it,

or not.

You can be like billions of miserable fuckers who love suffering

day in

day out.

Yawn.

 

Once you’ve committed to your brilliance,

stop screwing around with the sheople

and get yourself onto the Alpha field.

 

#RiseAlphaFemales

 

Oh, it’s going to feel uncomfortable AF in the beginning.

You’re going to walk on and think

“Dear god, they’re going  to eat me up alive.

They’re going to chase me away.

They’re going to see right through me and call me out as a fraud.”

 

Here’s a nugget for you:

Alphas don’t do that shit!

 

Born Alphas RESPECT those courageous enough to put skin in the game.

It’s a camaraderie few will ever experience.

 

We understand that the more people become truly successful,

the more success and abundance is created for ALL of humanity.

Which is why we will ALWAYS support those who are serious about success.

And quite frankly,

have zero tolerance for those who have no true desire to BECOME successful

as they’re just wasting everyone’s time.

 

Now,

to be clear,

the reason most people think that Alphas are rude bitches,

is because we don’t treat you like a helpless pup.

 

I see ONLY the greatness in you.

I speak ONLY to the strength in you.

 

If you expect me to do the work FOR you – go away.

If you expect me to feel sorry for you – go away.

If you expect me to save you from yourself – go away.

I will point you in the right direction,

but I’m not going to scoop you up and carry your sorry arse to your destination.

 

That’s because

the JOURNEY

IS

THE FUN PART!

 

Not the destination Darling.

 

And yes,

the journey will always feel challenging at times.

There’s days when everything hurts,

and you wonder where on earth you will find the willpower to take another step.

There will be times when you sit crying,

wanting to throw in the towel,

thinking it’s all BULLSHIT.

There will be days when you will look at those ahead of you,

furious that the selfish bastards won’t come and give you a hand up,

won’t wait for you,

won’t give you a break.

 

It’s in these days that you will show your true colours.

For the alphas will work through all of that,

and connect to WHATEVER they need to in order to keep going.

For me,

it was pure RAGE for a long time,

I don’t care,

it got me back up,

it kept me going,

until I no longer needed to feel angry.

For as I kept taking another step,

and then another,

my anger turned into a flicker of belief in myself,

and then into wonder at my tenacity,

and next thing you know,

I was HAPPY!

 

Doesn’t mean the tough days stop.

I wouldn’t want them to either.

There’s always another mountain top calling my name.

 

Plus, I know the immense sense of pride which floods me

every time  I hit a milestone,

knowing I did it myself

(with a lottle help from my Creator of course),

simply following and being inspired the badasses who keep strutting ahead of me.

 

I REFUSE to take that away from others.

I REFUSE to rob them of that elation when they hit their mark

thinking

“HOLY SHIT, I DID IT!”

There’s no better feeling in the world Darling.

 

So here’s my invitation to you today,

regardless of your current terrain:

 

Get real with yourself.

 

What do you REALLY desire?

With all your heart…

Why?

Why do you want it so bad?

What makes this a non-negotiable for you?

 

Then I want you to look at three things:

  1.  Your current actions – are they moving you towards your desire, or away from it.  And yes, you can roll your eyes at yourself at how obvious it is you’re actually ensuring failure, and then choose to stop doing that shit;
  2. Your environment – have you put yourself amongst the alphas?  You’ll know because you feel a little inferior LOL – we ALL do.  Or are you just wallowing in duck-shit in a shallow pond surrounded by, well, what makes duck-shit?;
  3. Your current requests from others – are you asking people for free ‘help’?  Are you begging to be rescued, to be given the outcome for free, to be given their wisdom for free, to be given anything for free?  What you receive for free will NEVER have the same impact in your results as you have no container with which to receive.

 

Your answers will reveal what got you to this point.

Your next DECISION is what will reveal your destiny.

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is the choice of the determined alpha.

 

Live with honour,

Anel.

PS:  Alpha Female, are you ready to clear the bullshit for clarity?

NOTHING kills your dreams faster than confusion.

It literally saps your energy,

your enthusiasm,

until you give up and slip back into the folds of mediocrity.

 

NO MORE!

 

Clearance 2 Clarity is starting on the 26th of August.

 

This is going to be an INTENSE AF 30 days where I take you step by step through clearing and detoxing ALL OF YOU:

body, mind, home, relationships, business,

thereby allowing you the space to connect to YOUR next level vision with crystal clarity, taking the next step with CONVICTION.

 

This program is for the woman who KNOWS it’s her time and she’s tired of being stuck in a space of indecision.

No more pussy-footing around Darling.

 

I’m going to train your body and yes, your arse is going to firm up, your core is going to strengthen and your shoulders will be proud.

I’m going to rid your body of toxins so that you can feel more energised and have greater clarity of thought.

I’m going to give you daily live training and actions so you don’t even have to figure out a damn thing,

no more overwhelm,

just show up and do the damn work.

PLUS, each participant gets to connect with an accountability coach to ensure you have the emotional support required to get this DONE!

I’m going to take you through my exact process of connecting to the vision and BECOMING that version of you, always knowing what action to take next.

 

You will finish the 30 days with ZERO barriers to success.

It’s time for us to play Darling.

And yes, DOMS is a given.

Just saying 😉