Change Your Behavior

This is my personal truth.

You hear it all the time:  people proclaiming to the world that they want to be successful.  In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone say that it is their dream to be an epic failure at everything they attempt in life.  I have never met a person who told me that they want to be mediocre.

Yet when I look around me and see people’s behavior, I’m reminded of the movie Groundhog Day.  Reliving the same day over and over and expecting a different outcome.

If you are sitting down and taking a good look at your life, and you’re not satisfied with the way it is shaping, today is the day to start questioning your routine and improve it.

First things first – there are no victims in life.  Things happen.  They don’t happen to you so stop feeling sorry for yourself every time life throws you a curve-ball.  Stay resolved and keep the course.

Second – you can’t get anywhere unless you choose a specific location.  It is insane to keep drifting through life hoping that you will stumble across Eutopia, especially if you have not even taken the time to figure out what that would truly look like for you.

Third – there is no true happiness to be found in ‘winning the lottery, never working again and sitting on the beach each day sipping cocktails’.  That is a lie given to you by a mediocre society who is trying to strip away your passion, your purpose, your drive, the very thing that gives your life meaning.

Instead, embrace these winning structures that elite performers continue to use understanding the power of focus:

  1. Set specific goals.  You’ve heard it a thousand times before.  A goal has to be Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Realistic and Timed.  You need to understand the exact result you want and by when.
  2. Understand the purpose of the goal.  Your big why will keep you on track every time things don’t go as planned.  And they never do.  If you feel like giving up or your motivation is sliding, go back to your big why and make it bigger.  Start considering the impact achieving your goal will have on your life.  The impact not achieving your goal will have on your life.  The person you will become in the process of achieving this goal.  Why this is important to you.  What is the impact of your goal having on those around you and why is that important to you.
  3. Ditch the distractions.  Over-eating, under eating, excessive TV or movies or video games, partying with your friends every week-end, going to bed late, all of these are examples of distractions.  These are the things that have been created to numb your mind and keep you in a trance of existence which kills your drive.  A focused and driven person understands the power of taking care of themselves in order for them to perform on a high level including diet, training and sufficient sleep.
  4. Leave the naysayers.  Easier said than done especially if those are the people closest to us.  Yet I have learned that they don’t have to understand me.  They don’t have to approve of what I do.  As long as I believe in what I’m doing, as long as my passion burns strong, I don’t need the approval or support of others.  In fact naysayers prove to me that I’m pushing the envelope, that I’m prepared to stretch beyond the norm.  Bliss!
  5. Invest in your circle of genius.  You become like the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.  If you want to become more successful, you need to invest your time with successful people.  Be that a mentor, a coach, a mastermind or your friends.  Ensure they uplift your energy and keep you on track even when things get challenging.
  6. Embrace the freedom of routine.  Yes freedom.  Not having to worry about making petty decisions all the time frees up your mind and your energy to focus on what matters.  My routine includes 5 meals a day.  I am in bed by 8:30 pm to get up at 5 am.  My first hour of the day is dedicated to my mind-set including meditation, journaling and affirmations.  Next is my physical power through training.  Breakfast to fuel.  Starting my day at work and focusing with breaks to stay fresh.  Most days I have a 30 minute power nap in the afternoon for a second wind.  I read minimum one hour each day on personal and business growth.  Supper is at the table with my family, no TV allowed.  Bubble bath with candles to unwind and prep my mind for tomorrow.  The result is high drive, determination, focus and achievement.
  7. Choose happiness every day.  Life is way too short to be miserable.  It drains you of your energy and can never have positive results in your life.  Instead choose to be happy.  Make this choice every day regardless of what yesterday looked like.  There is so much energy in joy.  Just try it – right now, smile!  It’s like a light switch that uplifts everything.  Powerful.

Don’t believe the lies any longer.  Don’t believe the lies of happiness in doing nothing.  Of people having to like you in order for you to be happy and fulfilled.  True happiness and fulfillment comes from living your purpose in a way which is completely supported by the Universe and which brings you a sense of satisfaction each day because of the impact that you’ve had on those who are watching you quietly from the side.

Live to inspire, not expire.

Remember that death is inevitable.  But truly living is a choice.

Walk with honor.

If you need some assistance in getting focused or deciding on that big goal which will have you on fire, drop me a mail at anel@anelbester.com or check out my services and book a free discovery call today.