Alpha Female – Time to choose LOVE

Hey Sugar,
pull up a chair,
grab a coffee,
and let’s have a chat.

Just you and me.
There’s nobody else here.
Things might get a little steamy.
And it’s about bloody time,
don’t you think?

My Darling Alpha,
when did you stop romancing yourself?
When did you stop adoring who you are?

What happened that you fell out of crazy love with yourself?
What did they say to you that made you think that you are not worthy of,
everything your heart desires?
What did they do to you that had you pull your head in like a tortoise,
thinking that it’s not safe to be seen,
not safe to walk proud,
not safe to be in your skin?
What happened that you swallowed your voice,
acid scorching your throat
every time you don’t speak your truth?


More importantly,
how long are you going to allow your past
to control your present
thereby creating your future?

I realise that I might sound like an insensitive bitch right now,
and I want you to know that it comes from a space of deep and unconditional love for you.
I want you to know that the reason I don’t wear kid-gloves is because I suffered for DECADES,
imprisoned in a story of I am not good enough,
that I deserved to be humiliated when I shone brighter than him,
that I deserved to be torn apart,
left lying on the floor,
not wanting to take another tortureous breath.

I believed them when they said that I’m too full of myself and that my mere presence was the cause of discomfort for others.
I believed them when they said that who I am at my core, what I stand for, is responsible for the mental diseases in others.
I believed them,
and in the process,
I hated myself.

And I cannot in all good consiousness sit here and shut up when I witness MILLIONS of people suffering in the same state of self-abandonment,
when I KNOW
that the key to get out of their self-imposed hell
is right there,
in their hands,
more specifically in their minds,
more specifically in their hearts.

So here’s my bitch-slap to shock you out of your complacent misery:


Stop believing bullshit.
And you KNOW it’s lies because the buttholes who tell you this crap are miserable snails simply not proud of their own efforts.

Stop defining yourself by the standards of others when those who judge you are nothing like you.

Stop looking at yourself and only ever seeking evidence of what is wrong according to the distorted feedback you’ve received, when it makes you feel like horse manure.


It’s madness and quite frankly it’s not serving us anymore.

Why am I instigating a thrive evolution?

Because you’re worth waking up in the morning,
connecting to the fullness of who you truly are,
and from this space
have an exquisite day!

Every day.

You’re worth looking in the mirror
and falling in love all over again
with every wrinkle
every stretchmark
every muscle
every curve
your smile
your eyes
your hands
your breasts
your hips
your crooked little toes.

You’re worth seeing yourself,
delight coursing through your veins,
becuase you’re just so incredibly beautiful and feeling fully athrive.

You’re deserving of bringing this radiance to the world
and allowing those on a similar vibration to greet you with a hearty
And for the rest to just,
you know,
go about their lives.

You’re deserving of sharing your amazing gifts unique to you
with those who will appreciate them.

You’re deserving of falling into the arms of your lover at the end of a satisfying day,
having him safely and confidently hold your hands above your head,
delighting in every inch of your body,
and having waves of pleasure wash over you
until you release in ecstacy.


You don’t have to do anything to receive it.
You don’t have to change who you are to get it.
You don’t have to be anyone other than who you are.

it’s YOURS!

I don’t give a belly-button ring about what happened before this smoking hot moment.
And I would recommend you stop caring so much too.

I would recommend that right now
you lift that stubborn chin of yours
pull your shoulders back
draw a line in the sand of time and say:

“Fuck it!
From this moment forward I choose to ONLY see the brilliance in myself.
From this moment forward I choose to ONLY speak that which I desire to experience.
From this moment forward I choose to ONLY see the gifts and appreciate everyone and everything that’s gotten me to this place and space in time and I now choose to release EVERYTHING and step forward with love.
From this moment forward I choose to romance myself,
every part of me,
every single day,
because I AM an Alpha Female.
I take full responsibility for myself and my life.
I take full responsibility for my thoughts and I guide them to better feeling destinations.
I say what I mean.
Mean what I say.
And do what I say.
I choose to fully embody the energy of my Empress self: Queen, Warrior, Lover.
And so it is done.
And it is fucking fabulous.”

put down that cup of coffee,
get out of the chair,
and go build your empire.

Death is invetable,
choose to thrive!

Live with honour,


Anel is the Instigator of a Thrive Evolution for Alpha Females.

Her work is aimed at empowering women to trust themselves and their intuition, reclaiming their authentic voices, and creating a life they’re madly in love with.

Through enhanced self-love, self-worth and self-confidence they know the satisfaction and pride of a woman who lives unapologetically aligned with her purpose.

Those ready to step up and receive support on their journey are invited to connect through a potential partnership consultation.

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