I never said it would be easy – I said you’re worth it…

These are the moments that light up my life…

As I watch her twirling around the kitchen floor laughing and dancing with her squealing toddler in her arms my heart overflows with joy and more than a little pride if I do say so myself.

It’s been a year since we started working together.

A year of celebratory highs, screaming dives, laughing twirls, crying lows.

A year of hugs and “Thank you’s” and more than a few “Fuck you’s” as my truth cut through her egotistical defences.

And yet after a year I look at her and I know that this is only the beginning.

It’s women such as Lilly that has me up at 5 am every morning.

Women who are prepared to break the chains of conformity and who dare to dream bigger than they ever thought they could.

Women who have the courage to connect with their life purpose, their true message and then use this passion to challenge the system.

When I first met her in a local coffee shop I instantly knew that this fireball was born for greatness.

Yet she was also one of the most humble people I had met in a long time.

As so many others she was well ‘socialised’ in how to conduct herself to be liked by the local community which resulted in her first goals being, well, ordinary to say the least.

The gift is that when a woman such as Lilly meets someone who sees the greatness in her, someone who is prepared to hold her to that which others don’t want to see because it scares them, and challenges the fuck out of her self-limiting beliefs and bullshit stories, she blossoms into an exquisite flower astounding all who witnesses her unfurling.

Slowly but surely I watched as those ordinary goals stepped aside for the grande visions.  And as those visions were allowed to breathe the Universe rose up and met her with the most astounding opportunities to live to her potential.

Before you think that means that everything fell into her lap I think it’s important that you understand the Universe doesn’t work with pussies to bring change.  When I talk about opportunities I’m talking the earth shook and broke apart!  Literally.

New Zealand experienced a devastating earthquake leaving communities isolated, families in terror, revealing a system which simply can’t cope with the reality of what is.

Lilly had some choices to make.

Be the well-liked little lady of a sleepy town going about her business as usual,


a force to be reckoned with who would not take no for an answer and make shit happen.

Lilly’s Angels were born.

Because Lilly stepped up to the plate.

And she continues to do so.

I witnessed Lilly go like a fucking tornado, never stopping, bashing down obstacles with her sheer willpower and determination to get to those in need with so much love and compassion that honestly, failure was never going to be an option.

I watched as Lilly stood, feet firmly planted, demanding government cooperation on national TV.  I watched as she stood at the checkout counter of the local grocer, absolutely exhausted and spent with her son on her hip, digging into a tub of ice-cream whilst paying for groceries because she needed the sugar just to take another step.

This, my Darling, is the path of a change catalyst.

It’s filled with moments of celebration and moments of despair.

It’s filled with laughs and the tinkle of champagne glasses and times of complete exhaustion and paralysing fear.

So often we look at the results of others discounting their daily reality of struggle and fear and rise and fall.   We tell ourselves that they’re different, special – and we use that as an excuse to never rise to our own potential.

To never courageously unfurl the big vision.

To never challenge the system which we all know is broken.

It’s just easier to keep setting our ordinary little goals and wait for others to take care of the shit.

Which is cool for the masses who never came here to live extraordinary lives.

But it’s not cool for you.

There’s a reason why you’re reading this – there always is.

If you’re reading this it’s because some higher force is telling you that YOU are a change catalyst!

YOU are here to bring healing, to create, to thrive.

And it’s going to be one helluva ride!

It’s not going to unfold the way it does in faerie tales.

It’s not going to be easy.

It’s going to be opportunities to make powerful choices.

Choices where most people will just burrow down deeper with their heads up their arses.

Choices where you have the opportunity to stand the fuck up and plant your feet and speak your truth.

Stop thinking that just because things are hard that you’re on the wrong path.

Stop thinking that just because you hear about being in the flow that the flow is an easy cruise down the river.

Sometimes it is.

But each river goes through torrents.

You have to be prepared to ride those out as well.

Are you?

Are you ready to stop playing small and to finally grow that pair of titanium balls so you can do the work you came here to do?

Are you ready to be in it for the long haul because purpose is not instant!

It’s for the rest of your life.

Are you ready to commit to that?

For death is inevitable.  And as far as I’m concerned mere existence is the equivalent of death.

Thriving is a choice.

With love eternal,


PS:  Lilly – you fucking rock my world Darling.  It is such a privilege to work with you.   I appreciate you more than you will ever know.