There is no space in faith for your doubt – either you’re in or you’re out.

Stop it!

Just, stop it!

 

Stop telling me that you really REALLY want it,

that you’re deeply committed to building your empire,

becoming a radiant light of human potential actualised,

but you don’t know if you’re doing it right,

not sure if you can do it.

 

Because it’s taking sooooooo long.

 

And in the meantime, you think you might be blocked,

from a previous life where you got ridiculed and the fear and humiliation is still sitting in your DNA,

from a past experience that needs healing,

from karma that’s clearly caught up to you.

You think that you have to sit on your meditation pillow a little longer,

because right now the planets aren’t aligned,

and your chi is muddy,

and you just need to visualise another 100 days,

before you will know the PERFECT action to take and all energies to be in place.

 

 

Stop asking for a sign.

Of goodness knows what.

To show you that you’re doing okay.

That you’re doing it right.

That your ship is coming in.

 

Stop asking for confirmation from others.

For them to tell you that they’re proud of you, no matter what happens.

That you’re doing great.

‘GO YOU!’

 

Why the hell did you start on this path in the first place

If NOT to risk it all?

 

For your art.

For your message.

For your purpose.

For your sense of accomplishment which comes from overcoming the obstacles,

the pride you feel when you’ve reached past the point where others gave up,

turning back,

their doubt overtaking determination,

traitorously abandoning their true desire for thrive.

Opting for ‘safe’,

the proven methodologies and steps.

Vanilla to the core,

with some sprinkles on the top to bedazzle the masses into thinking they’re different.

 

GAG.

 

Entrepreneurship is a commitment to abundance.

It’s about bringing an expansion for everyone,

liberation from scarcity,

fear,

and doubt,

by DOING IT FOR YOURSELF.

Birthing it in a way that is unique to YOU.

And not doing so,

just because it takes a little longer than a franchise,

is a cop out.

 

It’s about making a choice of which is more important to you:

making some cash; or

leaving behind a legacy?

 

For me, there’s no choice in this.

 

I’m committed to legendary.

 

End of story.

 

Regardless of how long it might have taken for me to even get to this point.

Regardless of how long it might take me to get to the next milestone.

 

There’s no space for doubt in this.

There’s no time for me to knock on the doors of those feeble of mind, begging them to blow some smoke up my arse to fuel my engine.

I KNOW that true achievers don’t have time for flattery.

They’re on the field.

Sweating.

Cursing.

Falling.

Bleeding.

Getting back up.

Having one helluva time!

Playing the game.

 

Achievers don’t have time for hesitation because they’ve learned,

the hard way,

that hesitation always leads to devastation.

It’s in that split second of self-doubt that you get out of the zone,

out of flow,

hitting little pebbles as if they are boulders,

missing the opportunity,

and seeing your arse.

 

Does it mean that you’re never going to fall or fail or come plummeting down?

No!

But true faith is you falling freely and failing fast,

because you TRUST

that you will land in the perfect space

from which to learn.

Shaking out the stars in your vision,

making a new decision from this place,

and moving forward.

 

I’m also going to say this:

You get to choose if you want to be the busker dancing to their pop tune for pennies,

or the prima ballerina performing on the exclusive stages of the world,

for those who have a deep appreciation for your powerful, daring, provocative art,

your dedication,

commitment,

resilience,

audacity to believe in your deserving to be in the spotlight.

 

I’m not making either option wrong.

I have a deep appreciation for both.

I’m simply highlighting the fact that there are choices for you to make.

 

If you’re opting the busker route,

be filled with gratitude for that which is in the hat at the end of today.

 

But if you’re going for prima,

you better toughen the fuck up.

Because this level of art demands faithfulness Darling.

The price being your relentless showing up,

for years on end,

bringing ALL OF YOU to the stage,

to the floor,

to the practice hall,

doing the work.

 

Prima-entrepreneurship is not for complainers.

You bleed.

You cry.

You fall apart.

And then you pull yourself together and you do it all again tomorrow.

 

Because your commitment to success is absolute.

Because your faith is unshakeable.

 

Faith that the Universe always has your back.

Most importantly,

faith in yourself.

 

Nobody can give that to you.

It’s a motherfucking decision.

It’s showing up FILLED with yourself,

regardless of what’s happening backstage.

It’s about removing the fear of appearing foolish by

choosing to BE the sacred fool.

Unleashing your crazy onto the world.

Daring to do it differently,

and showing the naysayers that

you came to invent not reproduce.

 

Look, ultimately this comes down to how you choose to define success.

For me, there can be no success without thrive.

And thrive is me doing me, being me.

All of me.

For the rest of my life.

Including my business.

For the rest of my life.

Making no sense to others,

not needing to explain my madness.

Those who resonate with my message rejoice in my crazy.

I go to bed at night satisfied with the fruits of my labour,

proud of what I have created,

what I leave behind,

having lived the day well.

 

How do you choose to define success?

And do you have faith to commit to this vision for as long as it takes?

 

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is a choice for those brave enough to do it their way.

 

With love and appreciation,

Anel.

 

PS:  Are you ready to liberate yourself and finally build that empire of impact you’ve been telling us about?

Are you willing to claim your fears, bust loose from your programming and break through your limiting beliefs?

Are you committed to ending the pain which comes from living a shadow of your desired life?

 

If you’re ready to claim ALL you’ve ever wanted from a space of deep knowing and acceptance of the fact that you are the creator of your reality, message me for details.

 

 

 

 

 

Greeting the morning with a deep sigh of contentment…

I felt my soul enter my body.

Slipping into my consciousness, like a silk dress effortlessly flowing over curves.

I smiled.

My first thought of the day:

“Hmmmmmm,

good morning world.

I’m so happy to be here.

What mischief can we get up to today?”

 

It was quite the delicious wakening.

 

What makes this even more precious for me, is the fact that this hasn’t always been the case.

 

For a large part of my life,

I dreaded dawn.

I would wake up with a start,

as if my soul has been fighting my body to take up residence,

stiff as a board,

terrified of moving,

lest the rest of the world know of my existence.

 

I didn’t feel safe.

I didn’t feel worthy of taking up space.

I didn’t want to be seen because, how could I be judged as anything other than a complete failure?

 

And yes,

according to the social standards of a ‘good’ woman,

I was a disaster.

I wasn’t a ‘good’ mom,

I wasn’t a ‘good’ wife,

I definitely wasn’t a very ‘good’ daughter or sister.

Shit, I even sucked as a friend.

Which is probably why I received the treatment I did from others.

As I felt that this is what I DESERVED.

It’s what I TOLERATED.

 

Looking back, I was punishing myself for being so out of alignment with my authentic self.

 

I am, and always will be, a social misfit.

 

And that is absolutely fucking perfect.

 

I never came here to fit in the mould of what society deems ‘good’.

After all Darling,

spectacular doesn’t fit into good.

Or good enough.

Or any of that other shit they tell you you have to be in order for you to make a valuable contribution to the tribe.

 

I have come to realise that for me to TRULY be in service,

to the level that I came to be,

liberating those driven to grow, expand, succeed,

I have to own my true nature,

without an ounce of shame.

 

I’m selfish AF.

I choose to look after my own needs first.

I ensure my cup is full and from this space I give in abundance to those ready to receive.

If that means that I want to ride my bike whilst everyone thinks I should be slaving away doing god knows what,

then I ride.

If that means that I have the audacity to receive support in areas that either bore the crap out of me,

or is not in my zone of genius,

I do so.

Without apology.

 

I’m unsympathetic.

I really don’t have a drop of sympathy in my blood.

I believe in the greatness of every single person and I’m incapable of seeing the victim they so desperately want me to acknowledge.

I could give them what they want,

the shoulder to cry on,

the “there there, it’s going to be okay”.

I could listen to the endless bitching and moaning of how hard life is,

how unfair everything is,

how everyone is out to get them.

I believe it’s this taught behaviour of talking about problems,

without ANY desire to resolve them,

as this would mean that YOU would actually have to change YOUR approach and behaviour,

that has most people stuck on a conveyor belt of suffering.

Honestly, if all you want is to hear your own voice,

go and record your endless whining and listen to it.

I bet that after a couple of replays even you will get bored of that shit.

 

I say it the way I see it.

I could say it a little nicer.

You know,

a little more PC.

I could tell you the truth wrapped up in pressie paper with a ribbon on top,

keeping you in denial of your role in everything,

because the pretty wrapping has you feeling a little better.

This keeps people in the illusion that they’ve actually done something about shit street.

That they have received valuable input.

Except,

no action gets taken,

because until you hear the cold naked truth in a way that has you paying attention,

accentuating the pain that you’re already in,

until you’ve reached your limit,

you’re not going to take the UNCOMFORTABLE action to get yourself to a better place.

 

So how did I go from suicidal, scared shitless, ass-kissing little bitch,

to proud me?

 

Step One – I took FULL responsibility for everything in my life.

For me, this was the biggest challenge.

I naturally have a strong internal locus of control,

which I dimmed by buying into the continuous cultural training which says that it’s all external.

Plus, it feels so good to blame everyone and everything else for the stuff that’s not working in your life.

And SO EASY!

I had to come to the understanding that taking full ownership, 

is simply taking back my full power.

 

Step Two – I stopped working with the coaches that I liked, and started working with the coaches who triggered the fuck out of me.

I discovered that I liked people because they said things that made me feel better about myself.

Which works for some,

it definitely doesn’t work for me.

I have a deep desire to sort out my shit so that I can continue to evolve as my best self.

That meant I needed a soul-level enema.

And I got it!

Ha – even the investment of working with my next coach had me soil myself!

 

Step Three – I started taking the action I KNEW I had to take, regardless of how scared I was.

And yes,

I was terrified for a long time.

Every time I would connect with my next soul desire and the voice inside screamed,

‘HOW THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU’RE GOING TO DO THAT?’

I would tell it to shut up,

commit,

and then just take a single step.

And another.

And another.

 

Step Four – Keep repeating steps one to three.

There is so much power in repeating these powerful steps.

 

And that is how I woke up,

greeting this morning with a deep sigh of contentment.

 

I’m sharing this with you today because I want you to know,

regardless of where you’re finding yourself on your journey,

maybe you woke up with a smile,

maybe not,

thriving is a daily choice.

 

We can all get to a place of joy and then mistakenly think we can stop doing the work.

Which has us slowly slipping back to the start,

feeling like helpless victims,

knowing that life will continue to gift us with experiences of contrast SO THAT we can choose again.

 

I see it happen in life.

I see it happen in businesses.

I see it happen in relationships.

 

Your thrive is worth your constant energy and attention.

 

And if you’re not in a happy state today,

I invite you to take step one.

 

For only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

 

With deep love and appreciation,

Anel.

 

PS:  Today, I’m taking a stand for those declaring ENOUGH AND NO MORE!

IT IS TIME FOR YOUR LIBERATION!

What does liberation look like?

It looks like you doing what you truly desire to do, when you feel the call of soul to do it, with your soulmate clients, friends, lovers.

Now I don’t know about you, but for me THIS is the true definition of success.

It’s when you stop fucking around with the rules of simpletons and you actually do what you came here to do.

THRIVE!

You stop doing business or having sex or raising kids and you start living in flow understanding that you’re ONE being and your life is an effortless blend of moments, one dimension beautifully enhancing the next in a magnificent kaleidoscope of brilliance.

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM REMEMBRANCE!

Remembering that you are the creator of your own reality. Through your emotions. Through your thoughts. Through your words.

That means throwing out the rule book of the oppressors.

Fuck their steps and systems.

This takes courage my friend – because you will be FULLY responsible for your outcomes.

You said you wanted to be empowered.

Well, let the exhiliration of freedom rush through your veins!

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM DESIRE!

Admitting what you truly want!  All of it.  No settling.  Being completely un-fucking-reasonable.  Diva divine.

Some of the most liberating words I was ever told is that a woman should NEVER have to choose.  A woman should have ALL that she desires.

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM DECISION!

Stomping down that sexy foot of yours and declaring to the Universe what you’re no longer available for and INSISTING on what you will accept as your new normal.

YOUR STANDARDS OF EXCELLENCE!

To the point where anything else is like WTF?

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM RECONNECTING WITH YOUR ESSENCE!

I know that you’re a magical beast. Witch and magician of the old ways. Wise One of lifetimes past.

I know that inside of you there’s a crone who has a shit ton to teach the lost ones of modern day society.

I know that inside of you is a voice, a story, a message which demands to be heard.

A healer, a bard, an artist waiting to be unleashed.

A goddess, an angel, a warrior with a mission.

And not doing so is fucking selfish!

It’s inconsiderate and it’s not the deal you made for this lifetime.

I’m ready to show you the way.

I’m ready to hold you to your truth, to reconnect you with your desire, to ignite your voice.

Are YOU ready?

Message me for full details.

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you think something has to happen for you to DECIDE to commit to a path, you’re delusional.

How much longer are you going to hide in your mental prison?

How much more suffering will you endure?

Sitting there,

indecisive.

Because you can’t figure out the how.

Because you can’t see the possibility.

There’s no social proof for your desire.

Your freedom seeming selfish,

because you OWE it to others to first tick all the boxes.

Hoping to the gods that you don’t end up in your own box before giving yourself a chance to true happiness.

 

You KNOW

that you’re actually just being a coward.

You KNOW

in your heart of hearts that you’re hiding.

From your true self.

From your actual power.

From your THRIVE.

 

Simply because, quite frankly,

misery loves company.

And right now,

the world is wallowing in a pity party of galactic proportions.

 

Okay, so let’s just be clear here:

I’m not speaking to those who choose to cling to their convenient labels as they’ve lost faith in themselves and their true capabilities.

I’m not speaking to those who refuse to open their minds to free thinking and instead choose to hold on to tradition and indoctrination.

Those who only believe what their eyes can see.

Those who only listen to words of ‘reason’ based on study and evidence.

Those who choose to respond to current existing conditions, bitching and moaning that nothing ever changes.

I’m also not speaking to those who are not prepared to take full responsibility for their lives.

Those who pass the buck.

To their spouse,

Their so-called friends,

Their bosses,

Their clients,

The economy,

The anarchy.

 

Instead, I’m speaking to YOU Darling.

Because if you’re reading this today,

I know that you know it’s fucking time to

DECIDE.

 

We both know that the pain of your suffocating bullshit is hitting intolerable levels.

We both know that the shame you feel when you look in the mirror,

the guilt you feel for half-assing your life,

wasting your potential,

is reaching a point which is simply unbearable.

GOOD!

Feel that.

Own that.

Make it hurt so much that you throw your device against the wall,

raging

‘FUCK YOU ANEL’

as your subconscious mind rips apart,

obliterating the fear entrenched ego,

releasing you to finally,

finally,

liberate yourself

simply by

DECIDING

to be all of who you came here to be.

 

Without any need to justify your decision to others.

Without any need to shame yourself for how long it took you to get here.

Without any conditions.

 

This is the smoke screen I see so often;

a way in which people stay stuck by deluding themselves into thinking that they’ve decided.

They say that they have decided to

finally build that empire that’s bursting inside them once they’ve learned how social media works,

finally leave that toxic relationship if their partner doesn’t come to the table,

finally have iconic levels of fitness once they can afford the gym membership,

finally write the book once they’ve completed the course,

finally quit smoking once the packet is finished,

finally make the offer once they have written the perfect sales page and figured out all the bells and whistles,

finally get the support they desire once they can figure out a way to make the money,

finally thrive once the kids are all grown up.

 

That is NOT making a decision Darling.

Decisions have ZERO conditions.

It’s just fucking DONE.

 

Why then are so many reluctant to decide?

 

Well for one thing,

people don’t trust themselves.

They are terrified they make the wrong decision and oh sweet Jesus,

they fail,

and look like a complete moron,

having the entire world coming to a stand-still,

pointing at them and laughing out loud.

 

You CAN’T fail once you’ve decided to succeed.

It’s simply not possible Darling.

Because once you’ve DECIDED,

you will continue to take the aligned action

UNTIL

you succeed.

You will trust that wherever you land next is the PERFECT place from which to make your next decision.

 

They are petrified of others perceiving their decisions as unfair, inconsiderate, selfish.

Not only being abandoned by those being ‘impacted’ by their decision,

but all those gossip-mongerers who have nothing better to do with their boring little lives,

than listen to the unfolding drama of others and then buying into the juiciest story.

 

Honestly, once you make the decision,

shut the fuck up and walk away from ANYONE who does not support you 100%.

If you feel you have to justify yourself,

you’re out of your zone.

 

They tremble at the thought because, for once in their lives, they will actually have to take FULL RESPONSIBILITY.

We live in a culture of obedience.

A world where we are encouraged to be little worker bees.

Never stepping out of line because that will mean we’re a trouble maker and a rebel.

Never speaking our truth because we’re politically incorrect, or too blunt and hurt others feelings.

Keep the peace.

Keep in line.

And in return for our conformity,

we get to hide behind the shield of ‘no responsibility’.

The shield of ‘little ole me is not to blame because I tried to…’

 

Okay then.

You know what,

you can decide NOT to decide.

You can decide to stay EXACTLY where you are for the next week, the next month, the next year, the next decade.

Shit Darling,

you can choose to stay the same for the remainder of your days.

 

I simply invite you to then be HAPPY with that decision,

instead of being in constant agony because you THINK you want things differently.

NO YOU DON’T.

You LOVE where you are at RIGHT NOW

because you get to play small.

You get to fit in.

You get to hide in the crowd.

You get to exist another day…

 

But let’s just say you’re part of the 1% in the 1% in the 1 fucking %

of those born to achieve the extraordinary,

brave enough to thrive,

and you’ve just had your

FUCK THIS SHIT

moment,

take out your journal and write

“Who am I when I give myself permission to be ALL of who I came here to be?

Who am I when I am completely FREE to be myself?

Who am I when I show the fuck up as ME?”

And then,

and here’s the crunch,

DECLARE that you DECIDE to BE that version of YOU

RIGHT NOW.

And you keep making this decision

every single day

until you no longer have to decide,

because it’s DONE.

 

Only death is inevitable my friend.

Thriving is the ONLY choice for the brave.

 

With deep love and appreciation,

Anel

 

PS:  You’ve got this Cupcake.  I believe in you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Their candy-wrapped lies of your fate will always lead to your decay.

Let’s talk pain.

HMMMMM HMMMMM HMMMMMM.

Momma loves pain.

But not the pain you think…

Oh hell no!

You see Gorgeous,

just like so many others,

I used to marinade in the pain of complacency.

The pain of martyrdom as exhibited by a life lived ten sizes too small for who I truly am.

The pain of being a traitor to myself.

To all that I knew to be true.

To the magic flowing through my veins.

The pain of mediocre existence,

which quite frankly tastes like regurgitated vomit,

which you keep chewing finer,

swallowing again and again.

The pain of living in the shadow of those not prepared to rise to their potential.

Those who beat me down with their belts, their fists, their words (thank you for being my trainers).

For a while I used to get right back up.

Defiantly raising my chin to meet their eyes.

Until one day,

I stayed down.

Wild bitch broken into obedient lapdog.

 

Thank the gods for dance – my place of escape from sameness to expression of possibility.

Where I could take all that suppressed rage,

go to the Barr,

training my muscles until they screamed,

skin ripped off my feet,

bleeding for the muse.

For a while, I thought I was going to be okay.

Except life wasn’t done with me.

I smashed my knees months away from my dream.

 

Plummeted back into a life void of purpose,

I felt LOST!

Convinced that without dance, I was nothing special.

Just another mundane person doomed to living a mundane life.

I sought salvation in diet pills.

Maybe if I swallowed enough of them I would finally disappear into nothingness.

Gulping down anything alcoholic until I clung to the toilet bowl,

world spinning out of control.

And when none of the socially accepted addictions worked anymore,

I sought to dull the pain with their prescription pills.

As if THAT would finally set me free

from the inescapable prison of survival.

I so desperately wanted to believe that someone would save me.

Prince Charming.

Jesus.

I didn’t really care who.

All I knew was that I felt like a weak and timid little victim in a world too big for me.

Everything was wrong.

The pain becoming unbearable.

 

You know what was false Darling?

Me thinking I was anything LESS than fucking MAGNIFICENT!

I was born to radiate.

I was born to take up space.

I was born to ‘dance’ for your inspiration.

I was born to lead a revolution of high achievers ready to step out of their comfort zones and

THRIVE!

Like the lighthouses they came here to be.

Illuminations of love in a world clouded in darkness of obedient conformity,

controlled by fear.

Because honestly,

your decaying potential smells putrid,

and average looks SHIT on you!

 

So where does the pain come in?

It’s been my experience that brilliant art does not come without some measure of pain.

Whether that pain is physical or emotional.

It’s our super power.

Our ability to move INTO the pain.

Our nature to find pleasure and joy in the pain.

We understand that there is much energy and passion to be found in purposeful pain,

and we know how to harvest in.

 

Now let’s just be clear here –

NOT ALL PAIN IS CREATED EQUAL.

There’s the growth inducing pain which I hunger for.

And there’s the pain of unnecessary suffering, a blaring warning sign,

which says you’re fucking DYING!

But which most believe they have to endure,

because it makes them a nice person.

Fuck nice and the codependent horse she rides!

 

Personally nice never gets me to the finish line.

Not the ones that matter.

Not the ones where I have to dig deep,

pulling out every last ounce of strength,

becoming resourceful when I think there is no way left,

the ones that bring me the greatest levels of satisfaction.

The ones which evidence my potential.

 

They call me crazy, but really, who is the crazy one?

Why would I not actively seek the challenges that show me what I’m made of?

Why would I not go out in the storm and sweat, rage, curse, push and conquer my weakness?

Why would I not dare to leave behind those who are simply different from me?

Those who want to ‘party’ all the time.

Those who want to ‘raid’ online in Lala land because their real lives are so unstimulated, they simply can’t find the energy to get out of bed in the mornings.

Why would I not dare to do it differently?

Failing forward with pride and enthusiasm.

Believing in myself and that I will ultimately SUCCEED.

Why would I not be willing to take the aligned action, for however long it takes to celebrate my victory?

Why would I not surround myself with my teachers, trainers and comrades?

Even though they might be on the other side of the world.

Even though they might be few.

 

Your messed-up taste buds might say that this life that I’m describing,

a life of discipline,

a life of periodic isolation,

a life of sweat,

a life of creativity,

sounds bland and boring.

That’s because the candy-wrapped bullshit they’ve been feeding you since birth,

has corrupted your ability to appreciate and delight in that which is pure soul Baby.

 

Just like sugar rots your teeth and fat constricts your arteries,

the channels of your life liquid,

for a born achiever,

a lacklustre existence without desire,

is suicide.

 

I’m not interested in judging anyone and I don’t recommend you judge yourself either.

Honestly, this shit has taken me DECADES to work through.

Plus, I wouldn’t be where I am today without some incredible teachers and coaches – thank you to every one who did the work in their own lives and then had the balls to show up for me before you even knew my name.

I also wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for a decision.

And yes, it took me longer than what others told me it should have taken to reach a point of enough and no more.

I disagree.

It’s my journey.

It took the perfect amount of time for me.

I’m simply inviting you to a point of awareness today.

A place in which you can sit your sweet self down, go within and ask yourself:

Are you in pain?

And if so,

Is that pain an indication of growth,

or a scream of a falling star?

 

Now what?

 

With love and appreciation,

Anel.

PS:  Today, I’m taking a stand for you and declaring ENOUGH AND NO MORE!

IT IS TIME FOR YOUR LIBERATION!

What does liberation look like?

It looks like you doing what you truly desire to do, when you feel the call of soul to do it, with your soulmate clients, friends, lovers.

Now I don’t know about you, but for me THIS is the true definition of success.

It’s when you stop fucking around with the rules of simpletons and you actually do what you came here to do.

THRIVE!

You stop doing business or having sex or raising kids and you start living in flow understanding that you’re ONE being and your life is an effortless blend of moments, one dimension beautifully enhancing the next in a magnificent kaleidoscope of brilliance.

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM REMEMBRANCE!

Remembering that you are the creator of your own reality. Through your emotions. Through your thoughts. Through your words.

That means throwing out the rule book of the oppressors.

Fuck their steps and systems.

This takes courage my friend – because you will be FULLY responsible for your outcomes.

You said you wanted to be empowered.

Well, let the exhiliration of freedom rush through your veins!

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM DESIRE!

Admitting what you truly want!  All of it.  No settling.  Being completely un-fucking-reasonable.  Diva divine.

Some of the most liberating words I was ever told is that a woman should NEVER have to choose.  A woman should have ALL that she desires.

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM DECISION!

Stomping down that sexy foot of yours and declaring to the Universe what you’re no longer available for and INSISTING on what you will accept as your new normal.

YOUR STANDARDS OF EXCELLENCE!

To the point where anything else is like WTF?

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM RECONNECTING WITH YOUR ESSENCE!

I know that you’re a magical beast. Witch and magician of the old ways. Wise One of lifetimes past.

I know that inside of you there’s a crone who has a shit ton to teach the lost ones of modern day society.

I know that inside of you is a voice, a story, a message which demands to be heard.

A healer, a bard, an artist waiting to be unleashed.

A goddess, an angel, a warrior with a mission.

And not doing so is fucking selfish!

It’s inconsiderate and it’s not the deal you made for this lifetime.

I’m ready to show you the way.

I’m ready to hold you to your truth, to reconnect you with your desire, to ignite your voice.

Are YOU ready?

Message me for full details.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s time to lift your head up proud and admit that you are a BEAST

As beautifully stated by Esther Hicks, The Universe truly is my freaky friend.

She has a sensational sense of humour.

And the most interesting way of getting through my sometimes stubborn mind.

 

Yesterday I went out on the Cookie Monster (if you’re new to my world, this is my mountain bike).

After a week of my foot recovering from infected blisters,

I was SO turned on by the power pumping through my legs.

Passing the farm-lands with all those bored cows standing around,

nothing to do,

other than huddle together,

chewing on every piece of grass they can find,

I felt radiant,

so OF COURSE I was going to cheerfully greet them,

as is my habit.

I let rip a loud MOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

which is normally met by some curious stares,

and perhaps,

one brave moo in return.

But not yesterday.

Instead,

what I witnessed had me sit up and pay attention.

For before my greeting was complete,

a stampede had commenced.

With the herd running in unison.

My first reaction was complete guilt

OMG I’ve scared them.

How insensitive of me.

Then, taking responsibility for them

I hope they don’t get hurt.

Swiftly followed by bewilderment

I don’t understand, I’ve done this a hundred times before and it’s never had this effect.

Sound familiar?

 

After all of this it finally dawned on me,

that when we are fully LIT UP,

allowing our TRUE selves to shine through,

there’s no mistaking the fact that we are

BEASTS.

The beast can pretend to be part of the herd of cattle,

and when we suppress our true selves, we can even convincingly speak their language.

But it’s not true for who we are.

And when we stop the pretence,

those who are weak of mind can no longer be fooled by our complacent words.

Our energy scares the living daylights out of them.

And they will RUN.

 

Few will understand what I’m rambling on about today.

If you do,

it’s simply because the beast in me is connecting to the beast in you.

If you think this piece is actually about animals,

chances are your beast is so heavily sedated that you can’t receive the true message today.

 

I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve heard the words

‘Not everyone is like you Anel’

and it’s normally not said as a compliment.

It’s normally delivered as a blow,

a criticism,

a statement of the fact that I’m a freak of humanity.

Which, unless I apologised,

huddled down,

kissed arse,

was swiftly followed by a turning away,

walking away from me.

Let’s be honest Darling,

everybody wants to be liked.

Everybody wants to feel like they belong somewhere.

Except the older I get,

the more I give myself permission to be myself,

the less need I have to fit in with those who will never be like me.

Not that they don’t have the capacity or capability,

they simply have no desire to be like me.

Which is perfect for them.

But it’s no longer perfect for me to pretend that I’m anything but full on.

I’m on a mission to liberate as many of my fellow high performers as possible,

to stop buying into the bullshit that ANYTHING LESS THAN THEIR BEST IS ACCEPTABLE,

and as always, it starts with me.

 

So here’s the deal:

if you’re sitting there and you have this feeling of strangulation,

your throat feeling constrained,

a band gripping around your chest,

indicating that YOU have not been speaking your FULL truth,

of the extend of your desires,

of the heat of your passion,

not been showing up as your TRUE authentic self,

in an attempt to be accepted,

it’s time for you to choose today:

Will you remain the same?

Dying with regret for never giving yourself permission to THRIVE,

because,

with love and compassion,

you believed their lies that it would be selfish and inconsiderate of you to live fully,

that you were responsible for them feeling bad about their pathetic efforts in life,

as if that is all they are capable of?

Or will you break free from the constraints that YOU are keeping in place?

No longer telling us of how hard it is…

How you would love to but…

It’s just not the right time…

You KNOW that’s all BULLSHIT.

You KNOW that it’s never a lack of resources, but a lack of permission that keeps you smaller than you’re capable of.

 

That’s it!

It’s all about choice.

 

Yes, it will mean that you will have to leave behind those who have no desire to step up in their own lives.

You know what,

they’re going to abandon you anyway,

the moment you get tired of being exhausted.

Yes, it will mean that you will have to make peace with feeling uncomfortable a lot of the time.

Get used to it.

Yes, it will mean that you will cry some tears, some of pain, some of healing, some of joy.

Your tears won’t melt you Sugar.

Yes, it will mean you will have to change some of your routines, some of your habits, some of your beliefs.

Stay committed to victory and it won’t be as hard as you think it will.

 

The truth is that the pain you’re feeling every goddamned day,

that feeling of depression,

of overwhelm,

of anxiety,

has NOTHING to do with your current circumstances,

and EVERYTHING to do with you not being your true self.

 

The price of conformity

is abandonment of self.

And there’s simply no greater pain than ripping your soul from your body and walking around an empty husk.

 

Only death is inevitable Darling.

Thriving truly is the choice of the brave.

 

With love and appreciation of your beast self,

Anel.

 

PS:

Today, I’m taking a stand for you and declaring ENOUGH AND NO MORE!

IT IS TIME FOR YOUR LIBERATION!

What does liberation look like?

It looks like you doing what you truly desire to do, when you feel the call of soul to do it, with your soulmate clients, friends, lovers.

Now I don’t know about you, but for me THIS is the true definition of success.

It’s when you stop fucking around with the rules of simpletons and you actually do what you came here to do.

THRIVE!

You stop doing business or having sex or raising kids and you start living in flow understanding that you’re ONE being and your life is an effortless blend of moments, one dimension beautifully enhancing the next in a magnificent kaleidoscope of brilliance.

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM REMEMBRANCE!

Remembering that you are the creator of your own reality. Through your emotions. Through your thoughts. Through your words.

That means throwing out the rule book of the oppressors.

Fuck their steps and systems.

This takes courage my friend – because you will be FULLY responsible for your outcomes.

You said you wanted to be empowered.

Well, let the exhiliration of freedom rush through your veins!

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM DESIRE!

Admitting what you truly want!  All of it.  No settling.  Being completely un-fucking-reasonable.  Diva divine.

Some of the most liberating words I was ever told is that a woman should NEVER have to choose.  A woman should have ALL that she desires.

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM DECISION!

Stomping down that sexy foot of yours and declaring to the Universe what you’re no longer available for and INSISTING on what you will accept as your new normal.

YOUR STANDARDS OF EXCELLENCE!

To the point where anything else is like WTF?

YOUR LIBERATION COMES FROM RECONNECTING WITH YOUR ESSENCE!

I know that you’re a magical beast. Witch and magician of the old ways. Wise One of lifetimes past.

I know that inside of you there’s a crone who has a shit ton to teach the lost ones of modern day society.

I know that inside of you is a voice, a story, a message which demands to be heard.

A healer, a bard, an artist waiting to be unleashed.

A goddess, an angel, a warrior with a mission.

And not doing so is fucking selfish!

It’s inconsiderate and it’s not the deal you made for this lifetime.

I’m ready to show you the way.

I’m ready to hold you to your truth, to reconnect you with your desire, to ignite your voice.

Are YOU ready?

Message me for full details.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are you in a habit of winning, or losing?

“Did you win?”

“That’s the wrong question to ask Anel.  I always win.  Winning is a habit.  You should be asking, by how much did I win?”

FUCKING LOVE IT!

And how true.

Yes,

winning is a habit.

As is losing.

Except, most people never have this realisation.

They never take the time to figure out their habits, which forms part of their expectations, leading to their ultimate results.

Probably because it can feel so confronting.

Especially if you’re still in the state of shame and blame,

taking life,

and yourself,

so seriously

that everything feels like a personal attack.

That’s a habit as well by the way.

Now I have some STUNNING news for you today:

you get to choose your habits and when you decide you don’t like their results,

you can CHANGE them.

Hell yeah!

So I wanted to share a sweet process with you.

It might bring up some resistance,

that’s okay Sweet-pea.

You can feel the resistance and then ask yourself if that’s useful?

And this doesn’t have to be hard or take a shit long time.

You can DECIDE that this is going to be fast and easy and fun.

Step One – (because I know you love your steps) AWARENESS.

It’s impossible to change that which you’re not aware of.

I honestly believe this is the number one reason high achievers work with coaches.

It’s not that we don’t know what to do,

it’s that we understand that we all have blind spots keeping us in patterns.

When we work with effective coaches, they take an aerial view and see the landscape and then guide our vision to the relevant areas.

Allowing us to see.

Awareness is always the first step to creating any change in your life.

Step Two – IDENTIFY THE BENEFIT

This one seems like such a contradiction at times, that people often stubbornly refuse to allow themselves this insight.

All of your habits,

even the so called bad ones,

you’ve adopted because you receive some benefit.

When you look at ‘good’ habits such as training, we easily identify the benefits as increased health, energy, stamina, strength, adventure, etc.

So why do so few people exercise?

Because there’s a shadow side to looking incredible and pushing the envelope.

There’s the most obvious one, called jealousy.

Oh make no mistake Darling,

lazy fuckers love hating on those who put in the sweat.

There’s the rejection from the crowd which can sting at times.

There’s the pressure of increased expectation for performance.

There’s the attention that you get when you’re in excellent shape, and for those of us who are naturally introverted, that can feel REALLY uncomfortable.

Those who are fit, simply choose to make the benefits more important than the shadow (and this is true for all life areas)

Which means there’s benefit in being lazy and out of shape.

For one thing,

society has decided that THIS is the norm and should be celebrated.

Once more you are part of the club of mediocrity.

There’s the sympathy that you get from others when you’re constantly complaining about how tired you are, and how you just don’t understand why you can’t lose weight, and blah blah blah.

There’s the fact that nobody looks at you when you’re out of shape so it’s a brilliant way of hiding.

Then there’s the instant gratification of emotional eating so you don’t have to be uncomfortable long enough to sort out that which has you in a state of discomfort in the first place.

Now,

every single habit,

has this going on.

Even winning and losing.

This step takes courage Darling.

You really have to drop into your heart for this, because your ego will rip you apart.

Deep breath,

we’re almost done.

How are you feeling?

Still with me?

Okay, let’s do this, Rock Star.

Step Three – QUESTION THE USEFULNESS

If you’re in my space, I’m taking it you have goals,

a vision of where you desire to go.

If not,

WTF?

Now this is where you get to put on your smarty pants and,

without all the emotional garble,

ask yourself,

‘Is this habit useful in achieving my goals?’

Even your habitual thoughts and stories.

Do they empower you in achieving that which you claim you desire?

And then,

Step Four – CHOOSE

Seriously,

EVERYTHING IS A CHOICE.

You get to choose if you’re going to keep that habit,

or if you’re going to change it.

And if you’re going to keep it,

take that goal sheet,

go to the toilet

and use it to wipe your sweet behind.

Because the goal is NOT in alignment with who you’re choosing to be.

THIS is where so many people are in constant struggle and pain.

“Oh Anel, I REALLY want to have the bikini body,

but I don’t like the taste of water,

and I hate exercising,

and I simply can’t imagine not eating McDonalds every day”

You DON’T want the bikini body.

Stop lying to yourself and everyone else.

“But Anel, I REALLY want to build an empire and make lots of money,

but I don’t like paying my bills,

and I know the economy is bad,

and I don’t like reading,

I don’t journal,

meditation sucks,

and I don’t want to show up,

and I hate sales,

and I don’t believe that I need all the pretty things that brings a sparkle to my eyes when I’m not paying attention to my own bullshit.”

Yeah, you keep eating those mushrooms Darling.

Step Five – CHOOSE UNTIL IT’S PART OF YOUR NEW IDENTITY

Sometimes our habits are stubborn.

Like shit in a wool blanket,

it might not come out in the first wash.

Which is why I so strongly believe in journaling.

You get to CHOOSE your new habits,

daily,

until you no longer have to choose them because they’re simply a part of your new identity.

Where previously training felt like a chore,

it now feels as good as as natural as breathing.

Where you refused to believe that sales are fun and easy,

you’re now connecting and having conversations with the most interesting, incredible people which naturally leads to a sale because what you have adds value to their lives and OF COURSE you want to create win-win all day long.

Because it feels fucking AWESOME.

That’s it!  Five steps.

So simple Darling.

And yes, in the beginning it’s going to feel uncomfortable and it will probably take a longer time

simply because you haven’t trained this muscle,

and you have a LOT of habits you’ve never even given any consideration to.

Persevere!

It WILL pay dividends.

This is part of my daily journaling aka a habit, and it takes mere minutes.

And yes,

there’s always more old habits being revealed to me and some I choose to keep,

some I choose to release and replace.

Without ever giving myself a hard time.

In fact,

this little scavenger hunt is pure childlike fun!

And it’s LIBERATING.

Freedom is your birthright my friend.

Abundance is your natural state.

Magic runs through your veins.

Habits,

well, those are learned.

They do not define you.

Isn’t it about time you give yourself permission to choose happy habits?

Choosing hardship and struggle is a habit too,

not a condition.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always a choice available to the brave.

With love and appreciation,

Anel.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are you done showing up as a scaredy cat?

Have you had enough?

Have you had enough of pretending to be

this…

Done slinking around in the dark alley-ways,

hunkering in the shadows like a pussy?

Are you done with your constant motherfucking wailing

like a cat in heat

on a hot summers night?

Because quite frankly Darling,

it’s a little insulting to the magnificent beast residing in you!

Yes,

I get it.

I used to be one too.

So caught up in my head with all the bullshit they’ve programmed in there for as long as I can remember.

I understand that from the time you’ve said boo,

they stuck you on a little chair behind a little desk,

and started the indoctrination,

to always THINK about everything.

Except,

true thinking is not encouraged in this social system.

Instead,

they train you to sing their song,

filled with fear,

scarcity,

sin.

Labelling you as stupid if you stubbornly refuse to regurgitate their theories.

Labelling you with ADHD if the energy inside of you explodes from hours of captivity.

Labelling you as a rebel when you will not conform,

expelling you from school,

expelling you from family,

expelling you from society.

And they told you that if you don’t play by the rules,

YOU’RE GOING TO DIE AND BURN IN HELL FOR ALL ETERNITY.

Because they love you.

WTF?

Regardless of how powerful you were at birth,

the pain eventually catches up to all of us.

We dim our light,

our roars become pathetic meows,

our once proud strides turn tippy-toe,

another lion house-broken

into an ass-licking pussy-cat.

All the time,

they keep you submissive

by telling you

to THINK!

THIS my friend,

is the key to your freedom.

They’re not telling you to think,

what they are doing

is keeping you in your

HEAD.

The playground of the ego.

And the ego,

OMG

she pumps fear into your veins by taking every little mole-hill and turning it into a dark mountain.

GET OUT OF YOUR FUCKING HEAD!

Your soul NEVER resides in your brain,

she lives in the place of love,

your HEART.

The word courage originates from the old French word ‘corage’ meaning,

you guessed it,

HEART.

Your innermost feelings.

I want you to drop into this for a moment.

Breathe into it.

You’re always telling me you want to be fearless,

and I keep saying you don’t want to be fearless,

you want to be courageous.

So let’s reframe this:

You want to get out of your HEAD and into your HEART!

This is the secret to all of those crushing it in life, those that you admire so much.

Brilliant ideas never originate in your mind.

They come from your heart.

They come from a space of love.

And yes,

we all go into our heads.

We all have our freak-out moments,

where we get caught up in the

‘OMG HOW????’

Nobody is immune to this.

The key is to drop back into heart as quickly as possible

and just take a STEP.

ONE ACTION.

That’s all that is required to gain momentum.

And then,

you continuously,

throughout your day,

consciously connect with your heart,

find your courage,

and ROAR your greatness.

You find your true tribe,

and you walk with

PRIDE (see what I did there?  Lions?  Pride?  So clever)

Seriously though…

The world is going crazy right now.

People are losing their minds for a reason.

The programming of obedience and conformity is ripping at the seams

and we all have a choice to make.

Are we going to resist the change and explode resulting in abuse, addiction, taking as many down with us as possible?

And make no mistake Darling,

if you have kids and you’re sitting there with your cloak of sacrifice,

saying that you can’t be who you know you can be,

because you have responsibilities,

so you’ll just wait until they are grown up,

drinking every night to numb the pain,

you’re fucking over those you say you love above all.

Your pathetic attempt at existence is saturating their minds and they will honour your memory by playing small as well.

And the next generation is feeling the pain even more acutely than we are.

Or are you finally going to stop pretending to be

this…

Mere shadow of your true potential.

Are you finally going to stop complaining about how the world is falling to pieces

and BECOME THE CHANGE YOU SO DESPERATELY CRAVE.

Are you finally going to rise to your full height,

are you going to shake out your wild mane,

are you going to piss on your territory

take up some space in the world

and let us hear your true voice?

Because we are ready for you.

OMG we’re craving you.

Our hunger for your true self is insatiable.

And only YOU have the power to turn yourself ON.

By connecting to your heart,

connecting to the voice of your soul,

and saying YES to YOU.

Yes to your desires.

Yes to your message.

Yes to your gifts.

Yes to your empire.

Yes to your THRIVE.

Stop being such a selfish bastard by staying on the treadmill of exhausted existence.

Stop being broke.

Stop being apologetic.

Stop being apathetic.

Stop being a martyr.

Stop being a victim.

THERE ARE NO VICTIMS IN THIS WORLD.

EVER!

Stop insulting people by calling them that shit.

Stop insulting yourself by thinking that you don’t have what it takes.

I won’t tolerate it a moment longer.

Death is inevitable.

Let’s stop talking about death and monsters and all that stuff.

Thrive is always the choice of those courageous enough to be who they truly are.

Are you ready to connect with your heart and show us your power, your grace, your victory?

Because if you are, and if you want to partner with me in finding your stride, message me.

With love and appreciation,

Anel.

 

 

 

When you’re not getting what you say you want…

Okay Sunshine…

You’re frustrated AF,

I get it.

I’ve watched you struggling for weeks, months, years on end.

Saying you’re determined to succeed.

Every day,

taking action.

And still,

it’s just not happening for you.

So you get a little more desperate

because the final hours are near.

You take more action,

even though you’re tired.

‘What else can I do?

What else can I do?’

At which stage you start doing the shit that everyone else is doing,

the stuff they told you you HAVE to do.

The stuff that you’ve been resisting,

because they just don’t feel good to you.

In fact,

you secretly hate it.

But maybe they were right all along?

Maybe you DO have to follow the seven steps to finally get to the top.

Getting into bed at night,

feeling like a complete traitor,

to your inner knowing,

to your dreams,

to your creativity,

to your uniqueness.

Is it really worth it?

Yes, you might make some money,

and if that is your sole criteria for success,

go right ahead.

Personally, I’m yet to meet a person living out of alignment,

regardless of how much money they have,

who is happy.

As far as I’m concerned,

misery does not equal success.

STOP THE INSANITY.

Take a step back.

Deep breath.

It’s time to do the real work.

Not the ‘steps and strategies’.

The truth is that the only reasons we DON’T receive what we SAY we want is because either

  1. It’s not what we really want but what we think we should want to be accepted and admired or
  2. There’s some interference between you and your desires.

Yes Darling,

I’m going airy-fairy on your arse.

I’ve learned,

the slow way,

that everything truly is energy.

And for us to receive our desires,

we have to be an energetic match for that which we want.

If we’re taking relentless action and still not receiving results,

it’s simply because there’s a shield that we’re putting up to protect ourselves.

Yip,

you’re not feeling safe to receive your desires.

You have a choice right now –

you’re welcome to step into your ego and write this off as a load of horse manure,

or,

if you’re actually serious about getting this down once and for all,

you can put your social programming aside and open yourself up to new possibilities.

I’ve been coaching driven achievers for more than a decade and every single rock star I’ve had the privilege of partnering with has lived a life filled with pure exhilaration and exquisite pain.

Everyone has gone through some form of learning where they experienced defining moments.

Except most people don’t pay attention resulting in those defining moments becoming limitations.

Forming the interfering energies because the purpose of your ego is to keep you safe.

Whether that safe is from something real,

perceived,

imagined

or historical.

And your ego is sneaky –

she will convince you that the mere notion of you not feeling safe is ludicrous.

That I don’t know what I’m talking about.

She will take all the evidence that proves me wrong and hold it up in the court of your subconscious,

convincing you to rather keep taking mind-less action,

exhausting you even further,

so that you will continue to spiral down.

At times these incidences seem so inconsequential,

so stupid,

that we say that can’t possibly be it.

Come now,

it happens to everyone.

Except,

when it happened to you,

it felt horrible!

It left you feeling betrayed,

hurt,

vulnerable,

humiliated,

shamed,

shameful,

invaded.

And if you have to be honest with yourself,

you don’t ever want to feel that again.

So you transfer that experience to EVERYTHING that could POSSIBLY get you into the same situation.

What’s the impact?

You energetically push away all the things you desire that will result in you stepping above this old incident,

resulting in growth,

resulting in strength,

resulting in victory.

I’m also going to say that VERY FEW people are prepared to do this level of work.

It feels vulnerable.

It feels uncomfortable AF.

Especially for achievers for whom appearance matters.

Which is exactly why I don’t work with just anyone.

I’m only available to partner with those for whom success is more important than ego.

Those who are driven by an internal fire and passion that will not allow them to hide from their secret demons.

Those who are willing to compassionately observe their old patterns, thoughts, beliefs,

and release the ones that no longer serve them,

with love.

Understanding that their ego was simply doing his job.

No need for shame or blame.

Honestly Darling,

your fears don’t define you,

your past can’t defeat you,

your emotions won’t kill you.

Even though they tell you it will.

You have EVERYTHING it takes to face your demons,

bring them to light,

release them,

and then

allow yourself to receive all your desires in an avalanche of abundance.

I guess all you have to decide today is which you want more:

To appear badass

or

To BE badass.

Only death is inevitable.

Thriving is always the choice of the brave.

With love and appreciation,

Anel.

PS:  Are you ready to be liberated from your old programming, fears, stories and limitations?

Ready to get clear on your TRUE desires?

The ones you’ve made wrong for so long because you believe they will have horrible consequences including jealousy, retribution and isolation…

Ready to be the person you know yourself to be on the inside?

Resulting in your thrive?

If you are, message me for details on how I partner with the born entrepreneurial leaders and high achievers in slashing through the bindings in their minds, liberating them to step up and claim their legacy.

 

 

 

There will always be days when you’re just not feeling it.

I’m sitting here laughing at myself.

It’s one of those strange mornings where it simply doesn’t feel like flow.

In fact,

the two year old me is feeling petulant,

bordering on a tantrum.

My foot hurts.

A lot.

The infection from my adventure last week is spreading and the doctors are fully booked till late afternoon.

Which means I just have to suck it up.

Grrrrrr.

My son is sick in bed – seriously?

I’m receiving another dog today – wtf?

And my calendar is fully booked with appointments – okay, this one I love.

All of the above human-stuff, ugh,

leaving me feeling less than my high-vibe self.

Plus I haven’t trained in two days with my badly swollen foot not fitting into any shoes and the raw bottom unable to stand for yoga.

In other words,

I feel like a shit-storm waiting to happen.

I was going to boycott EVERYTHING.

I was going to say ‘fuck this shit’ and hide away from you.

You wouldn’t miss me anyway.

Right?

Except,

just as I was about to put away my laptop without typing a single word,

the voice in my head spoke loud and clear:

ANEL, NOBODY GIVES A SHIT ABOUT THE FACT THAT YOU’RE NOT FEELING IT.

SIT YOUR SWEET ARSE DOWN AND LET THE MESSAGE THROUGH.

Bitch.

Which of course is perfect.

THIS IS the message today.

Look Sunshine,

we’re all human.

We all have days when life happens and we’re constantly either smacking our foreheads or rolling our eyes or exclaiming ‘are you fucking serious???’

And most people would use this as an excuse not to show up.

They would give themselves a ‘sick card’, pull out the tub of ice-cream, bottle of wine, block of chocolate,

and try to make it all better through escapism.

Does that really make you feel better though?

It’s been my experience that I tend to feel better for a moment whilst indulging in this shitty behaviour,

appeasing the rebellious toddler,

but then,

afterwards,

I feel even worse.

However,

when I allow myself to acknowledge the crap,

the irritation,

the FFS,

and then DO THE WORK ANYWAY,

not only do I start laughing at myself thereby immediately alleviating the pressure, 

I feel a thousand times better afterwards.

Whether that action is going out and training,

or journaling,

or writing a slightly embarrassing blog being real,

or having that conversation you’ve been putting off.

There’s always an aligned action that is available for you to shift your energy back to where you belong.

Okay so I have to say as well that none of this was possible until I had done some reprogramming.

I decided that I was not willing to be a victim in life.

That everything always happens FOR me.

I decided that I was never at the mercy of another.

That I am FULLY responsible for my life.

I decided that I was not available to indulge in endless pity parties and feeling like shit.

I am in control of my thoughts which feeds my emotions.

Change my thoughts, change my posture, and viola, my emotions shift.

I also decided not to take myself so fucking serious ALL OF THE TIME.

I have an incredible sense of humour when it comes to myself and often roll around laughing at how silly I can be.

Yes,

I do laugh AT myself.

With love,

because seriously Darling,

crying all the time doesn’t look pretty on me.

I have connected to the fact that we are these incredibly powerful beings,

playing a game called life.

When life becomes,

uninteresting?

boring?

predictable?

we start creating mischief so that we can figure out new ways to get ourselves out of whatever we’ve created.

It’s part of what makes our journey so adventurous.

It’s also part of why we choose to be entrepreneurs.

Because we LOVE overcoming challenges.

Now, back to the topic.

When you’ve made the commitment to build a motherfucking empire,

when you’ve made the commitment to success,

when you’ve made the commitment to be in service to others,

you have to understand that honestly,

we don’t give a shit about whether you’re feeling it or not.

We don’t.

Just like you don’t actually care if I’m feeling like it today or not.

This is where DISCIPLINE comes in.

Remember discipline?

That trait where you do what it takes,

regardless.

Where you do what you said you were going to do,

regardless.

Where you understand that how you feel right now is irrelevant when it comes to showing up.

That you’re more than your resistance.

Because that’s all it is.

Resistance.

There’s no actual reason for me to sulk.

Yes my foot hurts.

I’ve hurt more in the past.

Yes my son is sick.

I’ll take him to the doctor.

Yes chaos will rain down when the beagle arrives.

I’ll play with her.

Life is fucking spectacular.

Always.

We honestly have to stop making so much DRAMA out of little shitty things.

We have to stop thinking that we’re OVERWHELMED by it all.

Just take one fucking action at a time.

That’s all you can do anyway.

And make that action good and complete and then move on to the next thing.

We have to stop giving our inner child so much power over our adult results.

Yes, emotions are an important part in my life.

But they don’t fucking RULE me!

They are IN SERVICE to ME.

And there are times when I recognise that the emotions are nothing more than indicators of some shitty stories in my head.

Change the story,

change the emotion,

take the bloody action.

That’s all I have to say about that today.

You can sit and debate this,

you can sit and argue this,

or you can get over your own bullshit,

show up for your dreams,

and take the aligned action.

Only death is inevitable,

thriving remains the choice of the disciplined AF brave.

With love and appreciation,

Anel

PS: This blog was written without any painkillers.

 

 

 

 

It’s not about changing the rest of the world – it never was.

Fuck,

I’m seriously resisting writing this piece today.

I know that regardless of my intention, it’s going to trigger most.

I respect thousands are still reeling from the horrendous events which took place in Christchurch last week, likely not ready to receive this yet.  Words cannot even begin to describe…

I also know that I agreed to step aside and let me the message through,

I know that this message is as much for me as it is for you,

so as I sit here huddled in bed,

cringing,

tears already forming,

I step aside.

May this message land in your heart…

As bullets sprayed onto an unsuspecting crowd,

extinguishing life at random,

as if it doesn’t fucking matter,

as if each individual precious person don’t matter,

as if life is not the most treasured of all that exist,

all life,

I was hundreds of miles away,

hiking in some of the most astoundingly beautiful spots on the face of the earth.

Completely disconnected from all technology.

Which was in fact in the highest of service,

as I had gifted myself this time to reconnect,

so that I may come back with greater clarity.

Unaware of the pain ripping through the fabric of humanity.

Not only the pain of those who lost someone they loved dearly,

not only the pain of those injured,

but also the pain of the tortured soul of a young man who made us sit up and pay attention.

To the fact that humanity is tearing at the seams,

people are losing their minds,

humans losing their humanity,

hurting to the point where they no longer think with their hearts.

We can justify it with all the shit of religion and politics and war and the economy and psychological labels,

whatever makes the masses feel better.

But you and I both know that something needs to change.

And it breaks my heart as I own the fact that

I’m to blame too.

Here is my confession –

I have not been showing up as my best version self.

I have not shown up as my best version self for decades.

because I’m afraid

of you.

I’m afraid of what you will say when I give myself permission to astound with my true capabilities.

My true resilience.

My true potential physical power which I’ve been sabotaging as I simply grew tired of bitchy comments and jealous remarks.

I’m afraid of what you will say when I give myself permission to share with you the deep wisdom I harbour from my ability to tap into the collective unconscious,

drawing on the experience and learning of generations past,

bringing insight to my personal puzzles and confusions,

seeing patterns where others experience chaos,

connecting to the emotions within others as easily as I connect to the feelings inside of me.

I’m terrified of being burned at the stake.

Yes, we might have stopped the literal practice,

but oh my god,

those cruel judgemental bastards know how to do it figuratively.

So,

like most born achievers,

those who came here to create their art,

to share their message,

to bring healing to the earth,

by healing themselves,

which in fact is all of us,

I’ve been playing at a margin of my potential.

After all,

right now we’re finding ourselves in a historical period which will be remembered for breeding mediocre conformity.

A time where the system is churning out obedient little workers,

where we’re programmed to believe the lie that we are not enough,

that we are not good,

that we don’t have what it takes,

that we’re not absolutely astoundingly magnificent,

that we’re fucked up,

needing saving from ourselves,

and in the process,

souls are torn from bodies,

minds lost in a haze of insanity,

and people

are

fucking

DYING!

And it’s MY FAULT BECAUSE I’M NOT BEING MY BEST VERSION SELF.

You see Darling,

we never came here to change the rest of the world.

We came here to change ourselves.

Every single day.

Being our next best version self.

Feeding our minds with thought-provoking intellectually stimulating conversations.

Fuelling our bodies with nutrient-dense foods releasing high levels of energy.

Energy converted into activity which builds lean muscle, explosive power, graceful flexibility.

Expanding our souls with internal connection through periods of silence and gratitude.

And then,

from this space,

live in a way that inspires others willing to choose to do the same for themselves.

I can’t speak for you,

maybe you’re sitting there today and you KNOW in your HEART that you’re ALL THAT YOU CAN BE!

Maybe you’re one of the few who are in fact feeding your mind, your body, your soul,

with the extraordinary,

eliminating all forms of settling and mediocrity,

your vibration so high

that it brings light to the world,

wherever you put your focus.

If that is the case,

I thank you.

Thank you for being one of the few brave enough to have liberated yourself from the bullshit limitations most of us have installed into our human operating system at birth.

That’s not me.

But by the gods,

I’m more committed than ever before to become my best version self.

Every day.

The truth is that we can all choose to sit here in judgement of those who are murdering, abusing, raping, bringing fear and destruction wherever they go.

We can choose to focus on them and say that they’re bad people.

We can choose to point the finger,

sitting on our thrones,

as if we’re better than them.

But in truth,

those who think they’re sitting on a throne,

normally sit on top of a crapper.

Personally I believe it’s time for us to stop talking about getting justice.

I believe it’s time for us to stop dishing out punishment.

I believe it’s time for radical personal responsibility.

I honestly believe it’s time for each of us brave enough to risk ridicule and expulsion from the tribe,

to do the work relentlessly,

the deep work,

reprogramming our minds to be liberated from all that we’ve been told,

so we can remember what we know.

It’s time to commit to our personal best selves,

every day,

always improving,

always rising higher,

always shining brighter,

understanding that yes,

there will always be those who have no desire to see our actions as love,

and that’s perfect too.

Personally, I choose to return to my heart Darling.

My commitment is to myself,

my commitment is to you.

My invitation to you today is to press pause on whatever you were planning on doing next,

to get still,

and ask yourself,

are you truly being your BEST self at this time?

In all aspects?

Body,

mind,

relationships,

work,

lifestyle,

contribution,

art…

Why not?

What are you truly afraid of?

For until you’re willing to name your fears, nothing will change my friend.

Nothing.

Will you take personal responsibility today?

Will you really?

Will you stop pointing the finger at others for everything that’s going wrong in the world right now?

And bring it back home…

To where you can make a change…

Yes, death is inevitable.

But it’s about bloody time more of us find the balls to choose thrive.

With deep love and appreciation,

Anel.

PS:  I’m currently partnering with new clients who are ready to take full responsibility for their lives,

those ready to liberate themselves from the self-imposed limitations that has them playing at less than their absolute best,

regardless of the success they’ve already created in their lives.

If you know that you are one of the 1% in the 1% of entrepreneurial leaders and born achievers ready to create iconic results, let’s talk.