This is my personal truth.
Success is a fickle thing. We all say we want it yet so few of us have taken the time to define what true success looks like for us.
I have been a successful coach for almost a decade now. I work with fucking amazing clients who fill my soul with joy. It finances my family’s needs, unexpected holidays, original art pieces for my home because I like pretty shit around me, my sport which most people think is absurd as my bikes tend to cost more than my cars, nourishing food, massages, jeans and the best running shoes. Happiness is!
Then I joined the online marketing community and all of a sudden my mind was bombarded with a new image of success. Beautiful women with big hair, exquisite dresses, gold and diamonds and they all said that they have it figured out, they are phenomenally happy and they can teach me why my success was less than I deserved and I deserve to have it all dammit! I second guessed myself, jumped onto their bandwagon and started to transform myself. Daily blow dries, doing make-up, wearing high heels and pretty dresses. I looked fucking spectacular if I have to say so myself. And for the briefest of moments I started making more money and I was thinking “A-ha! I’ve been doing it wrong! Now I’m set for sure.”
And then it came to a screeching halt and everything dried up overnight. What. The. Fuck?
That was when I realized that it was time for some real soul searching. Why was I repelling success? You know the answer right? I bought into the on-line media’s portrayal of success and I hated it! I didn’t want to be exhausted every day from trying to look pretty. I wanted to be exhausted because I’ve been running my ass off, riding my bike and working with amazing clients who adore me for my mind, my insane sense of humor, my never-say-can’t attitude, my adventures, and my complete unavailability for their bullshit. I want to live the best version of me and that includes very little make-up most days, my hair is in a pony tail, and my faithful jeans and boots because I don’t have time to walk slow over the cobble-stones. Unless of course I’m going out and choose to do it because I’m a woman and I have many different sides to me (I love being a woman!) – and then I look smoking hot!
Please don’t get me wrong here – if the pretty dresses, the big hair, the 5 star hotels light you up, then you work those manicured fingers darling and you go for it! In fact I work with some of you and I love kicking your asses to work harder for the next level your success. I have no judgement around this. BUT if the idea of riding your bike through the mud and falling your ass off laughing all the time is what lights your fire, then THAT is what you need to focus on when building your business.
I don’t know about you but I did not become an entrepreneur to do it the same as everyone else. And I sure as hell did not do it to sit in front of my laptop all day when I know my best inspiration comes to me on my bike and that is when I can serve my tribe on the highest level.
So here is a different question for you: Instead of always looking at your past to see what is your ‘block’, look at your future and what you are working towards. Because I can honestly tell you that since I went back to my truth, my success, my clients could find me again. In my jeans and boots. Kicking their gorgeous asses.
How does success look like to YOU?
Walk with honor.