#sorrynotsorry I don’t speak Average

I know I’m not the only one.

I know there are others like me,

who at times listen to the questions being asked,

the advise being given,

tilting your head to the right

thinking to yourself

“I don’t understand”.


How do I stay motivated to achieve my goals?

  • I don’t understand

You have to be more gentle with yourself.

  • I don’t understand.

How can you not listen to the news?  You have to know what’s going on in the world.

  • I don’t understand.

Things are really bad.  We’re screwed.

  • I don’t understand.

You shouldn’t be training that hard at your age.

  • I don’t understand.

You really should take a break.  You work too hard.  You’re going to burn out.

  • I don’t fucking understand.


I was pondering the concept of patience this morning.


I’m often accused that I’m not very patient.

I don’t understand.

I’m the most patient person I know.

I’m willing to work for my dreams for the rest of my life,

to keep going regardless how long it takes.

How the hell is that not being patient?


Then I started thinking about when exactly I’m accused of impatience.

I realised that it’s never about me being impatient,

but rather me being intolerant of the snails pace at which most others work and live.


It’s the incompetent person working behind the counter who actually don’t give a shit about the fact that you have places to go, people to meet, epic shit to create.

It’s the bored out of her skull teller more interested in her nails than the person in front of her.

It’s the average Jolene who wants to take a fucking decade to do what she can achieve in an hour of ‘in the zone’ effort.

It’s the mile long red tape in corporate preventing decisiveness because nobody wants to take ultimate responsibility.

It’s the fence sitting behaviour we’re breeding because people don’t want to fuck up and look like an idiot.

Passive aggressive behaviour suffocating results.


I don’t see this as patience.

I see this as compromise,


mediocre bullshit that has us all sloooooooow down to the point where high achievers start smoking dope in an effort to become more



Oh, you can take your ‘patience’

and shove it up your chimney.


And it doesn’t stop there…


It includes the fallacy of ‘balance’.

What the actual fuck?

Do I look like a scale?

Do I appear to be something that needs equal of everything in my life to be ‘balanced’ and happy?

I have NO DESIRE for balance in my life.

I thrive on unexplainable obsession.

Going all in on my passions

understanding that as I evolve in one area,

I bring this FULLNESS OF SELF to all areas of my life.


“All work and no play makes Anel a boring girl” – yes Darling,

I can understand that if you’re one of those selling their soul – their passion – their THRIVE – for a meagre salary,

thinking that you’ll be rewarded for you suffering when you go on pension,

this could be true.

For Alphas –


If you define boring by the fact that I don’t have to drink to be an energiser bunny, then yes I’m boring.

If you define boring by the fact that I have no desire to gossip or complain to fit in, then yes, I’m boring AF.

If you define boring by the fact that I would rather sit in a toilet-cubicle creating a value-add IG post than stand in the noisy pub staring at strangers, then yes I’m boring.

Average living bores me to tears!

My work,

now THAT lights me up like a Christmas tree.


Let’s talk about being selfish.

The BS that we have to always be available for others.

Even complete strangers we meet online,

unfulfilled in their lives and then thinking that you should just press pause to entertain them.

That we have to be nice to others.

Oh puh-lease!

Alphas respect Alphas.

We don’t fucking intrude.

We don’t distract.

We don’t need others to take our minds of the monotony  of life.

For us,

every day is a motherfuking ADVENTURE.

FILLED with extraordinary,



and before you tell me I’m going to get adrenal fatigue,


bitch please.

Alphas don’t get adrenal fatigue.


My conclusion is this:

The tower of Babel is still very much in effect.

Except it now goes way deeper than English, Afrikaans, French, Mandarin, Portuguese, Xhosa, Zulu,

and the gazillion other official languages.

There’s Alpha language, and there’s Average language.

Even though the words SOUND the same,

the meanings are vastly different.


So the next time someone says

“You need to be more patient”,

instead of trying to explain your impatience with incompetence,

just calmly reply

“I don’t speak Average”.

When they say

“You’re going to burn out”,

tilt your head right and with a small smile,

“I don’t speak Average”.

When they tell you

“That’s not being realistic”

I give you full permission to burst out laughing and heartily exclaim

“Darling, I don’t speak Average”.



I know that MAJORITY of people won’t get this,

that’s why it’s called the AVERAGE,

you know,

if you have take the numbers,

oh whatever.


This piece is for YOU, Alpha.

It’s time to just own the fact that you don’t operate by average rules.

You don’t speak like the average person.

You don’t derive satisfaction from average existence.

And no,

you’re not crazy,

they’re simply speaking a foreign language

and you’ve been trying to make sense of it all based on a false interpretation.


That’s all I have to say today.


Death is inevitable.

Thriving is the choice of those who actually know what I mean by thrive.


Live with honour,



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