I’ve been intrigued by the increase of coaches who are slamming the concept of discipline.
Highly successful leaders who I personally follow and respect.
More importantly, I’m watching the effect this has on those who mindlessly absorb everything they say,
adjusting their own behaviour accordingly,
and getting matching results.
Results which smacks of failure.
Leading to frustration.
And to a large extend more people hanging their heads in defeat.
Thinking that once again, they’re just not getting it.
Which must mean there’s something wrong with them.
They must be lesser beings.
What saddens me is the fact that most people are so busy that they’re not taking the time to sit back and take in the bigger picture.
Missing out the context.
The truth is that when you closely study these individuals,
they’re disciplined AF!
They are typically high achievers who have trained certain critical behaviours to the point where it’s automatic, and they no longer have to consciously think about it.
Thereby creating a life that feels easy and in flow.
Action no longer feels like the original effort.
And then they use the language that’s now aligned for where they are,
forgetting how they got to this point in time.
They forget that when you’ve spent a life-time not working your mind because you fell into the trap of unquestioned obedience,
when your body is poisoned, fat, exhausted, dehydrated,
when you’re building a new business from scratch,
discipline is the EXACT thing that is required to shift your arse from where you are to where you desire to be!
When the muscle is weak from not being used,
it takes effort to discipline your thoughts,
it takes effort and discipline to increase your water intake,
it takes effort and discipline to deepen your breath,
it takes effort and discipline to create a habit of daily meditation,
it takes effort and discipline to remove the resistance to your thrive,
it takes effort and discipline to create your art every single day.
it takes discipline to build in recovery to ensure longevity and endurance.
I’m not making these coaches wrong in any way, and I get that what they’re preaching is the fact that we are not required to work ourselves to death in order for us to receive success, abundance, joy and love!
Not the way our parents told us –
That all it takes is hard work;
That happiness is to be found in a big bank balance;
That you have to be miserable, sacrifice, put thrive on hold,
just to pay the rent.
I get that.
But please don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.
I’m all for creating an epic life where your delicious arse is on fire with passion and purpose, adventure and excellence.
It takes an enchanting vision,
an avatar you can easily step into,
and aligned action daily.
It takes the discipline to step into this way of living until this way becomes your new normal.
And people look at you and wonder how the fuck you do it all…
Understanding as well that as you continue to rise,
your desires will increase,
and you will continue to do the work.
The real work.
The mind-set work.
It will feel so natural that you take it for granted and say it’s so easy, so effortless, that you don’t need to be disciplined to live this way.
I’ve come to realise that one of my soul-gifts is the gift of remembering.
All of it.
I never disconnect from the steps I took to get me to where I am.
I choose not to forget the pain, heartache, desperation, frustration, defeat, screaming my defiance to Creator when I was broken on the floor, yet refusing to throw in the towel.
I choose to remember.
All of it.
To stay connected to my pain.
For every tear I’ve ever spilt is in service to another.
It is in my remembering that I serve as a bridge.
This is why I’m able to keep it real for my clients.
Yes, I absolutely can share with them the new ways of doing, of being, of collapsing the manifestation of their dreams.
But I’m never going to tell them they don’t need discipline,
that they don’t have to take action,
that no work is required.
Ain’t going to happen.
Because I know that without the foundation, your castle will always come crumbling down before you’re halfway there.
My invitation to you today is to pay closer attention.
Where have you been listening to contrasting advise,
words that felt completely wrong,
ignoring the uneasy feeling in your crop,
and then not getting results?
Where have you stopped questioning, stopped looking at the bigger picture, stopped taking the time to evaluate the context?
And what impact is this having on your life?
I believe that right now, our world is filled with wisdom.
But wisdom without discretion is a dangerous thing my friend.
My criteria is to remain open to learning,
to feel what is aligned for me and retain that as building blocks for my next level,
and lovingly release the rest.
Without having to make it wrong.
Everything is right for someone.
It’s just not always right for me.
You’re wiser than you know Darling.
Time to start trusting yourself.
Only death is inevitable.
Thriving is always the choice of the brave.
With love, appreciation and respect,