Do you have the audacity to stop treating the symptoms and go straight to the root cause?

It was fucking insane!
One moment I’m a badass cyclist,
kicking arse in the pack.
The next,
I’m vomitting from excruciating pain one kilometre into a stupid training run.

This started a fascinating journey of medical professionals
placing wedges in my shoes
poking needles into uncomfortable places
drugs to keep me from passing out whilst training
hours and hours on hard tables contorting my body.
You name it,
it was poked, stroked and strapped.

This went on for months.
All the time
I continued training and preparing for the race.

As I sat on my bike to have it set up for my new tri-bars,
the technician stood behind me,
watching the mechanics of my body to ensure my seat was at just the right height and angle when he asked:
“Is your left hip hurting?”
I was a little confused at this question as about the ONLY part not hurting, was my left hip!
In fact,
all the pain I experienced was on the right side of my body.

Which all the medical professionals had been treating.

Here’s the thing,
every professional I went to listened to my symptoms,
in the process forming a construct in which to treat me,
one symptom at a time.

The technician,
without knowing any of this,
had an unobscured view of my body.
The ONLY thing he was interested in
was how I moved in order to get me to a space of efficient effort and energy expenditure.
He followed the lines from where my feet touched the peddals,
the working of my legs,
the engagement of my core and hips,
all the way to my fingers on the bars,
and picked up there was a break in the energy-flow in my left hip.
The MRI confirmed that THIS is where the obnoxious little bone is sticking out.

One of the most transformational lessons I’ve learned in my life
is to differentiate between symptoms and the origins of contraction in well-being.

Everything is energy,
energy flows.

When there is a lack of flow
you have to go find the place where it’s constricted.

Your life is all about your personal well-being.
Well-being referring to every single aspect of your life.
From relationships to money to business to friendships to lovers to health,
the whole caboodle.

Here’s what I desire for you to receive today:

The origin of any constriction
is you.

It’s your relationship with yourself.
It’s your stories about who you are, what you deserve, what you need to do in order for you to receive, who you are with, the work you’re doing.
It’s the degree of you remembering who you truly are.
Not the little human personality of you,
the true you.
The all-powerful creator of your experience.

It’s about truly aligning with the words you speak.
It’s about truly aligning with the actions you take.
It’s about taking the time to understand what you desire to align with in the first place.

THIS is where so many people are getting tripped over right now.
They don’t want to take the time to figure out what the hell they TRULY desire to experience in life.
let me take it a step back:
they don’t want to do the work to get to a space of radical
self-love and

Let me break this down even further for you today because honestly, until you GET this piece,
you’re stumbling around in the dark.

Self-acceptance :

The welcoming of every part of you that has ever been.
The supposedly good (or what others find good and pleasing in you),
the real good (connecting to the fact that you ARE the essence of what is good),
the bad (you know, the secretly judgmental bitch in you, the one who gets mad, the one who curses in private whilst sugar melts in your mouth in public),
the ugly (the codependent little girl seeking approval, the one who has a secret stash of chocolates under the bed, the abused you that felt too weak to leave, the broke you, the broken you). I mean you accept ALL OF YOU right here, right now, NOT once you’re done with therapy.

Self-appreciation :

Appreciating that every single thought you’ve ever had, every single experience you’ve ever had, every single word you’ve ever spoken, every single eccentricity that is you, has brought you to THIS moment in time so that you can choose the woman you desire to be from this point moving forward.
Without the diversity, the contrast, the joy, the pain, the failures, the wins, you would NOT be RIGHT HERE right now.
EVERYTHING happens FOR you.
In service to your best self.
You don’t have to change a single thing for you to live an extraordinary life moving forward.
It’s in the rejection of your life experience,
that thing they call regret,
that keeps you out of alignment with joy!
For it’s your life EXPERIENCE that is the source of wisdom Darling.

Self-love :

Love, the energy of abundance, the energy of growth, the energy of expansion, the energy of healthy boundaries, the energy of worth, the energy of value, the energy of receiving, the energy of upliftment, the energy of truth, the energy of beauty.
It starts with YOU.
It starts with allowing this energy to flow
INTO you,

in avalanches of exquisite joy and from this space it flows into the world around you!
And sure as fuck not from others.

Self-respect :

Being a woman of your word and first and foremost keeping your word to yourself.
It’s about being real with what’s truly important to you by questioning everything you ever have and ever will learn, going inside, connecting with your inner wisdom, and allowing yourself to receive and integrate that which aligns and without any need to explain or validate or make wrong for another, release the rest.
It’s about shutting out the voices of everyone else and living your life in such a manner that you go to bed proud every night of what you’ve lived today.

Answer me this:
how much of your TIME and ENERGY and RESOURCES are you dedicating to improving and deepening the relationship with yourself
compared to treating the symptoms in your life?
How often do you go to the mirror just so you can witness yourself and speak words of love to yourself
compared to how often you tell others you love them?

Let’s be honest here,
it’s easier to treat the symptoms isn’t it?
It’s more ‘normal’ and socially acceptable to invest in your business than in yourself.
I bet most people have never even looked in the mirror
and with deep and true connection
spoken the words
“I love you”

Have you?

This my Sweetheart,
is the difference between life and thrive.

For death is the only certainty,
thrive is a choice few will ever have the audacity to make.

Live with honour,


Anel is the Instigator of a Thrive Evolution for Alpha Females.

Her work is aimed at empowering women to trust themselves and their intuition, reclaiming their authentic voices, and creating a life they’re madly in love with.

Through enhanced self-love, self-worth and self-confidence they know the satisfaction and pride of a woman who lives unapologetically aligned with her purpose.

Those ready to step up and receive support on their journey are invited to connect through a potential partnership consultation.

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