Just in case tomorrow doesn’t come…

Hey Beautiful

It’s the eve of my birthday.

I’m feeling a little pensive.

A little sad.

A tad emotional.

As I look back on my life I see forty five years filled with some of the most exquisite life lessons and experiences.

Lessons in love.

Lessons in courage.

Lessons in belief in self.

Lessons in forgiveness.

Lessons in awakening, questioning, wisdom.

Lessons in healing.

Lessons in remembering.

Some of these lessons were learned through exciting, joyful relationships and experiences.

Most of them weren’t.

I guess that is where the sadness comes from.  The realisation that I truly did intend to learn my lessons through pain and heartache.  Through a maze of choices which at any turn could have me sitting somewhere else today.

Yet here I am, in my beautiful home in New Zealand watching the sun creep up over the ocean highlighting the deep purple of the lavender bushes outside my door.

How blessed am I?

How blessed indeed.

So I’m not sure why the sadness.  Probably because I know that I’ve reached another chapter in my life.  There’s great changes happening in my world right now which is exciting and scary and exhilarating and terrifying.

Let’s be honest here, change is never easy – no matter how positive it is.

Change always involves loss of some form.

Relationships that are ending.

People whom I love leaving my life once again.

People who I honestly thought would be with me for a lifetime.

But what if this is my lifetime?

What if tomorrow doesn’t come?

Would I have shared with you that which I already know – knowing that if more is to come I will have more to share?

I’m not sure.

Which is why I wanted to write this piece for you today.

Just in case tomorrow doesn’t come.

These are some of the truths that I have learned in my lifetime.

To share all would take a few books.

I want you to know that you are enough.  You truly are.  I wish I could take my vision and gift it to you.  Oh, not my human eyes which requires thick spectacles just to see the letters on the screen.  But my soul eyes with which I view my family, my friends, my clients, every person that I have the privilege of meeting.  For with my soul eyes I see your perfection, your greatness, your brilliance even if your human creations are presenting you with challenges that has you doubt yourself on a continuous basis.  You have everything you need right inside of you Darling.  Believe in yourself.  You are enough.

I want you to know that you are very loved.  You are loveable.  You are love.

I want you to know that in order for you to experience that love, true love, you have to start loving yourself.  There is no greater love than this.  There is no purer love than this.  We are taught that loving ourselves is wrong – that we’re full of ourselves if we adore the face in the mirror.  Even without the make-up.  Before we straighten our hair. Just as we are, all wrinkly and pillow squashed when we wake up in the morning.  It is when we are able to connect with the love inside of ourselves, that we are able to start healing, that we are able to start shining and bringing our best version selves to the world.  There truly is no greater love than this.

I want you to know that there is a power within you that is unlocked through the scared trilogy of body, mind and spirit.  You were designed with this exquisite key which activates your creative abilities and unless you use all three in harmony, you are in fact NOT achieving your true potential.  See why I’m so passionate about people moving?  I am yet to meet a person who doesn’t increase their results when they incorporate all three elements into their daily lives.  No matter how successful that person.

I want you to know that you are not the sum of your past experiences and relationships.  Stop defining yourself by what’s happened.  Everything, every last relationship, every fuck-up, every hurt, has been an opportunity to learn and grow.  Stop hating the past.  Stop blaming the past.  Get curious.  Get loving.  Forgive.  Learn.  Let go!  Look at your body for the way, you put stuff into your mouth.  Some of it is good, some of it is shit.  It goes through your system and your miracle of a body takes out of it what it needs and excretes the rest.  Keep the good and let go of the shit!

I want you to know that your desires are all good!  All of them.  They are your desires for a reason.  And as long as you suppress your desires, as long as you shame your desires, as long as you fear your desires, you are committing soulful suicide.  You see Darling, we are all here for a powerful purpose.  And those desires are always in support of your purpose.  Even if it doesn’t make sense to you on a logical basis.  I’ve seen women thrive after buying that ridiculous dress because it elevated their sensual creative energy to magical heights, it was an essential piece to the puzzle of thrive!

I want you to know that it’s not your responsibility to save anyone else.  Seriously.  None of us are created stronger or better than others.  All of us are equal.  All of us have free will.  All of us.  Every time we ‘save’ someone we are in fact keeping them in struggle for they never get to work their bad-AF muscle which is needed for them to unlock their internal power and wisdom.  Save yourself.  Heal yourself.  Then share your journey with others so they may take what they will from your story.  That’s right, stop being a saviour and become a story teller!

I want you to know that you are perfect, whole and complete.  Right here.  Right now.  You don’t need to add or detract anything!  You don’t need to go find yourself.  You don’t need to drop a dress size.  YOU’RE FUCKING PERFECT!  The moment you embrace this truth, you will smash the mirror of illusion and return to your physical state of perfection.  It just happens.  Yet as long as you focus on your ‘imperfection’ you create more of that.  Bullshit.

That’s it.

That’s all I want to share with you today.

Oh wait, and stop existing FFS!  Stop waiting for shit to happen to be happy.  Choose happy NOW.  Play hooky and go do something that lights you up.  Go do something crazy.  Go have fun!  Grow down.

Why wait?

For what?

For when?

Death is inevitable after all.

Thriving is a choice.

With love eternal – even from the other side,


PS:  I would love to hear from you.  After all it’s my birthday tomorrow and honestly I can think of no better gift than to hear from you.  What you are up to.  What you are creating.  What you are learning.  Even if we have never spoken before!  Drop me a mail at anel@anelbester.com and let’s celebrate all of ourselves, our lives, our lessons, our perfection.  Why the hell not?