Transformational growth comes from evolution, not rejection.

Is it just me, or do you too have a tendency to come down on yourself like a brick house?

 

I suspect if people had a front row seat to what goes on inside my head,

hearing the voice shouting relentlessly,

YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN THIS,

GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER,

MOVE BITCH,

GO FURTHER,

JUMP HIGHER,

GET UP, GET UP, GET UP!

most would run for cover,

horrified of how consistently tough I am on myself,

they would think I’m bloody insane.

 

In fact,

often times I’m accused of being TOO hard on myself.

That I should love myself a little more.

That I should cut myself some slack.

That I should accept myself just as I am.

As this apparently, is self love.

 

Whatever!

 

I’m NEVER going to embrace a roll around my middle.

I’m NEVER going to think rubbing thighs look sexy on me.

I’m NEVER going to settle, saying that how I am showing up, is enough.

 

Because I’m a goddamned HIGH achiever.

And achievers have to achieve.

 

It’s about a relentless pursuit for MORE, BETTER, HARDER, FASTER.

 

You’re either fist pumping right now with a loud “FUCK YES!”

or you’re not one of us.

 

Exit stage left please.

 

Which means that now, I’m ONLY talking to the true achievers.

 

Okay Darling, I’ll never tell you to unconditionally love how you are showing up right now, to the point where all you do, all day, is lie in bed masturbating because you think you’re just the best thing since sliced bread.

 

That’s just fucking ridiculous.

 

Instead,

I want you to kick your own arse

every, single, day.

Because YOU CAN BE, DO, HAVE MORE!!

 

There’s absolutely NO cap to your potential.

 

And I see that in you.

 

BUT

and here’s what I want to share with you today,

growth comes from EVOLUTION,

not from rejection.

 

I see so many achievers trip themselves up here.

 

One of the exercises that I take my clients through, is creating an avatar of the person they are as already having achieved their goals.

 

The one that’s already built the empire.

The one that’s already rocking that body like a sin.

The one that’s already climbing the mountain,

and getting to the top first of course,

relishing as the troops come panting up behind you.

The one with the incredible love life,

the deeply connected relationships.

 

With the understanding, that when the time is right, she will in turn create HER next level avatar.

 

This is one of the most powerful exercises you can ever do for yourself.

And you go deep – you make that image so vivid,

that you taste like her,

feel like her,

think like her,

believe like her.

 

And then,

you simply CHOOSE to be her NOW.

 

Except I started picking up a struggle in some of my clients.

They would create this magnificent,

bad-ass,

confident,

sexy AF,

BEAST of an avatar,

and months later,

still peep like a mouse.

 

Which had me take a closer look,

and what I discovered was that their avatar was NOT the BEST next version of themselves,

embracing all of who they have been up to now,

and then turning UP the good,

and the average DOWN.

Instead,

they would write down almost the complete opposite of who they have been showing up as.

And in the process,

they’ve poured bucket loads of self-rejection all over themselves.

 

So now they had two shitty emotions going on:

There was the shame of being themselves,

leading to self-abandonment,

as if you can cut pieces off yourself to create a better you,

and then there was the resentment:

of their journey,

of their behaviour,

of their life,

of themselves!

 

There’s a HUGE difference between IMPROVEMENT and REJECTION of self.

 

In fact, all you’re doing is playing into the game that the rest of the people are playing:

making who you are WRONG.

 

Fuck that shit Sunshine.

 

YOU’RE FUCKING MAGNIFICENT.

 

What I encourage you to do is to simply stay hungry for MORE, as this relentless hunger is part of who you are, part of your super power.

AND YOU DESERVE TO ALWAYS DESIRE MORE OF YOUR BEST QUALITIES!

 

Okay okay,

so now you’re sitting there really confused.

 

‘But Anel, you just said that you are hard on yourself.  That you won’t settle for as is.’

 

And yes, I am.

 

I kick my own arse harder than I kick anyone else’s.

 

But it comes from a space of DEEEEEEEP SELF-LOVE.

 

I hate to admit it, but I’m still human (NOT! but okay let’s just pretend ha ha).

I’m having a human experience.

And yes, I get scared too.

In fact, I’m actually a really shy, introverted old lady.

On a mission.

So every day, I feel the fear and I show up anyway.

 

There’s a price to pay:

People get nasty.

People leave.

People choose to reject my message, staying stuck in their misery, and it hurts!!

 

Which means every now and again all I want to do is crawl into a hole and hide.

From them.

From you.

From my purpose.

From myself.

 

Except, there’s no fucking hole big enough for me to crawl into.

So instead,

I self-sabotage.

I eat a tub of ice-cream.

I train with less intensity.

I write a nice blog without any passion words – like a good girl, so they will like me..

 

Whatever the case is,

I do something to make myself stand out a little less by being a little less of my brilliant self.

 

And then,

when I look more like all the other sheople,

my soul gives me a bitch-slap and tells me to get my arse out on my bike,

and go hard,

go fast,

until I puke up my fear-induced-mediocrity,

and do what I came here to do.

 

My avatar,

the one that’s at the head of MY next level empire,

is simply more of my TRUE self,

and less of my personal self-sabotaging bullshit.

 

But she’s by no means PERFECT.

She’s still scared.

She still has a tub of Ben and Jerry’s in the freezer.

She still slips every now and again,

seeking approval,

seeking acceptance.

 

Because if I was NOT being that too,

I would be dead.

 

Soooooooo Sweet-Pea,

what does YOUR avatar look like?

Have you fallen into the trap of self-rejection?

Have you written down a foreigner that you don’t recognise,

because you think he looks like Dwayne Johnson,

but the gap is insurmountable,

because you’re NOT The Rock?

There can be only one Rock,

and there can be only one YOU.

Or have you polished your rough diamond,

leaving in some of the ‘faults’,

simply making the brilliance outshine the specs?

 

THIS is personal growth and transformation.

 

And yes Darling,

it’s fucking personal.

 

Perfection comes when you’re dead.

Death is inevitable.

But what will it take for you to find the courage to thrive?

 

In love and honour of your brilliant self,

Anel.

 

PS:  HAVE YOU SEEN THAT APPLICATIONS ARE OPEN????

 

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THE APPRENTICESHIP IS ONLY FOR THOSE READY TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES, COMMITTED TO THEIR OWN BEST VERSION SELF.

In all honesty, I don’t work with just anyone.

I work those who are serious about success.

The ones who are prepared to do whatever it takes.

I’m unfiltered, passionate and I don’t pull my punches.

If you’re a little fragile, if you prefer a soft touch, I’m probably not for you.

And I know that for you to TRULY become confident, showing up in your power, takes attention.

Which is why this program is limited to a very small number of hand-picked apprentices.

The application process is rigorous.

It will take courage.

You will feel out of your depth.

You will feel uncomfortable.

Which is the first hurdle.

I want you to show me that you WANT this with a burning desire that won’t back down when others falter.

I want you to show me that you’re going to DO whatever it takes to become that leader worthy of raving fans.

And once you’ve demonstrated this level of commitment,

You will enter the program KNOWING that my commitment to your success is absolute.

If this is speaking to your SOUL,

If you know this IS what you’ve been waiting for,

Message me for the details so we can get you started with your application Darling.