Which victim label is ready to be released?

Victim labels are such sneaky little bastards.
Interwoven into our daily language to the point where most people no longer recognise them for what they truly are.
Socially acceptable,
socially approved,
socially applauded,

I am so overwhelmed.
I am so anxious.
I don’t know.
This is so hard.
I am an overcomer.
I am broke.
I am exhausted.
I am…

Side note: Damn straight I’ve said each one of those on multiple occasions over the years. If you’re expecting a perfect little saint or guru here, you’ll be abundantly disappointed.

However we’re living in a time of awakening,
of evolution,
of creating new awareness,
and if you’re going to say the same shit as you’ve always said,
you’re going to create the same results you’ve always created,
you’re going to hurt even more as the collective consiousness is evolving at ligthning speed and those stubbornly holding on to the old are either going to suffer or check out.

So let’s take a closer look at our labels of victimitus and I’m going to invite you to just open to the POSSIBILITY that maybe, just maybe, life can be sweet and easy and fucking exhilirating.

I AM is the most powerful statement of creation.
It is YOU TELLING the Universe who you insist on being and the experience you insist on having.

You want to tell the Universe that you WILL BE THE ENERGETIC MATCH FOR OVERWHELM,
Oh baby,
expected avalanches of chaos to sweep you off your feet, finding yourself sobbing on the floor as the weight of it all crushes the air out of your lungs.

You want to tell the Universe that you WILL BE THE ENERGETIC MATCH FOR ANXIETY and you best expect monsters of all shapes and sizes to seize your mind, your body and your life to the point where you’re pissing your pants, frozen as you wait for the worst to happen and then finally you will be released from the horror through death.

WHY for the love of all that is fabulous are we teaching ourselves and our children to become an energetic match for the exact things we DON’T want to experience anymore?


All of the things that we claim to be:
are nothing more than FEELINGS.

What are feelings?

They are messages for you to pay attention to something that requires you to see it differently, to see a new opportunity, a new possibility.

And NO,
I’m sure AF not going to tell you to live in denial!
I’m not going to tell you to say
‘I feel fabulously light as rainbows and unicorns are sweeping me through clouds of candyfloss’
whilst you’re feeling like a fly suffocating in the stench of horse farts.
What I will recommend is that instead
you start acknowledging your current feeling with the pure intention of creating awareness, opening yourself up, and from this space, start making new choices determined to feel better.

Because if all you’re doing all day every day is acknowledging your emotions for the sake of staying stuck,
then I have nothing more for you.

Yes, you’re feeling overwhelmed. I heard you the first time.
I might even have compassion for the second time you say that.
But by the third time hunny, I’m going to ask you
So what do you want to do about it?
Do you want to keep feeling that?
Or do you want to feel something better?
What would that better feel like?’

And no pendulum swinging on my arse either.
There’s no way on my chinny chin chin that you’re going to go from depression to raging exhiliration.
Allow yourself to go to the next level which is normally MAD!
Yip, you get to be that crazy bitch throwing plates and planting punches into your pillow.
You get to be the banshee screaming at the top of her lungs.
You get to curse like a drunken pirate falling overboard and for just a fraction of a second you get to be completely unfuckingreasonable.

Once you’re spent from the release of your torrent of energy,
you get to regroup and feel sorry for yourself, gently soothing your system with compassion and understanding from where you will feel your heart opening up and a new ray of hope ultimately gives way to radiant joy.

There’s a path you get to follow and it all starts with acknowledging your emotions, a willingness to shift the energy, a willingness to see things differently.

Which label of victimhood are you willing to release today Darling?

Which label are you prepared to take out of it’s pretty little dress of ‘stating reality’ so that you can recognise it for what it is, and more importantly, the impact it’s having on your life?
Which old saying that once made you feel like a badass are you willing to stop reciting as you realise that you’re ready to stop proving your worth and instead welcome in ease and support and receiving?

For me, it’s the idea that I have to overcome, that I have to conquer, whether my fears or the summit or anything that I’ve made really hard in my head.

I’m willing to see a new way.
I’m willing to speak in a new way.
I’m willing to receive more support than ever before.
I’m willing to be enough with nothing further to prove to myself or anyone else.

Here’s a fun exercise for you to do:
Have a look at all the messages you’ve sent to your friends in the last two weeks and circle the words that carry even a whift of ‘victimitus’. Any word that let’s you off the hook to really rock it out in life. Any word that gets you a drop of sympathy or as women like to say ‘understanding and empathy’. Any word that has you folding in on yourself. Any word that has you saying ‘no’ to stuff you really want to say ‘yes’ to.

And then,
with a healthy dose of humour,
call yourself out on your old patterns by exclaiming:
“Well blow in my ear and call me balderdash – no wonder I keep feeling like this!”

Give yourself a BIIIIIG hug, slap your sexy arse and do a little jiggle because YOU have just changed the trajectory of your future as you get to see just how POWERFUL you are in the creation of your life experience, and considering that we live in a friendly universe that ONLY flows WELL-BEING to you, for you to create chaos and problems means you can now create the opposite with no effort required.

In fact, EFFORT is YOU keeping YOU down from your true magnificence.

It’s time for a thrive evolution, and you can bet your sweet nipples I’m the cheeky bitch instigating it.

For death might be inevitable,
but thrive is your birthright and natural state of being.

Live with honour,


Anel is the Instigator of a Thrive Evolution for Alpha Females.

Her work is aimed at empowering women to trust themselves and their intuition, reclaiming their authentic voices, and creating a life they’re madly in love with.

Through enhanced self-love, self-worth and self-confidence they know the satisfaction and pride of a woman who lives unapologetically aligned with her purpose.

Those ready to step up and receive support on their journey are invited to connect through a potential partnership consultation.