This is my personal truth.
I find it fascinating how society keeps taking powerful tools and turning them into ways to keep the masses average. One of the ways in which this is done is through information overload partnered by a lack of wisdom.
Confused? Let me explain through example.
Goals – we’ve all heard how important they are to set and that this is what sets the elite performers apart from everyone else. So everyone got onto the band wagon and started setting goals. They started off with really big goals, but few managed to achieve them. So the goals got smaller, and still people are not achieving them. Why? Because mostly people are setting the wrong goals for the wrong reasons and therefore lack the motivation to push through the hard times.
In my opinion the purpose of setting a goal is to change an aspect of my life and the person who I am today compared to the person I will become when I achieve my desired outcome.
So first of all, it is personal! It is never about pleasing other people. It is never about living some else’s life for them. It is about me, my life, and my personal growth.
Second, you can’t possibly set 5 to 10 life-changing goals and expect to put in the work that it will take to achieve them all at the same time! My magic number is 3. One is always physical (my body is my play-ground for mental toughness), one is always around my profession (turning my craft into mastery), and one is always around love (with all the magnificent people in my life, as well as my relationship with myself and the Universe).
Third, a goal is non-negotiable. The pain of not achieving it should outweigh any pain that you will go through on your journey to achieve it. And make no mistake: magnificent goals means challenge and growth which always entails some measure of pain and discomfort. If you are willing to walk away from a goal, then rather don’t set it!
Fourth, a goal is specific down to a T! Please stop with the fluffy goals that mean Jack sh*t! “I want to be in better shape” is not a goal! That is you wanting to beat yourself over the head every time you get onto a scale or look in a mirror. What does that even look like? Or feel like? And if it is going to be life-changing, why are you not in better shape already? What do you value more than being in better shape that you got out of shape in the first place? What is the real goal?
I don’t mean to sound cruel, but cruel is setting goals that you think will make you a better person but that has nothing to do with your purpose or true values. So you end up setting these goals that you have no true desire in achieving only to tell your subconscious mind “see, I told you you’e a failure!” Stop being cruel to yourself. Set specific goals that you WILL achieve no matter what and change the voice in your head.
We are officially half-way through the year. There is no better time than today to review your goals and see if they really matter. If you are stretching, aching and growing in your journey to achieve them. Review your goals today, and if you are not working on them every single day, if they are not important enough to sacrifice for, change them!
If you are feeling stuck and would like to discover if elite performance coaching can take you to the next level in your life, I invite you to book a free discovery session here. I stand for the goals that will change your mind, your body, your business, your relationships, your life.
Walk with honor!