Your satisfaction comes from the experience.

What is your current level of enjoyment?
Right in this moment?
Throughout your day?
In every aspect of your life – especially that thing we call ‘work’?

As I kicked off the journey with a new private client,
I read through her welcome packet and smiled.
this was all A-type, driven, kick-ass, take no prisoners answers.
I could immediately see that she approached this the way she did all her preparations for boardroom meetings.
Which, as efficient as it was,
left no room for the power of the creative feminine.

I’ve discovered that the reason I’m so consistent in creating content without ever bitching about how overwhelming it feels,
the reason I’m consistent in training every day without ever thinking that it feels like punishment,
the reason I’m consistent in journaling every day without complaining that it feels like another chore,
the reason I’m consistent in EVERYTHING I do,
is that my levels of enjoyment in each of these are through the roof!

Now before you think it’s because I only do what I love doing,
I want you to know that there was a time when I did the same tasks WITHOUT the same level of enjoyment.
The difference?
I discovered that for me to have next level results,
I had to stop DOING shit
and start CREATING EXPERIENCES for myself.

I took the time to decide the type of experiences I desire to have,
and I set the stage.

Think about going to the theatre.
You don’t go there to see a black stage with black curtains and a bunch of ballerinas dancing, hearing their grunts and scrapes of shoes on resin,
with no music or backdrops or costumes.
It simply wouldn’t create the magic of being whisked away to another world the way you expected when you bought the tickets.
In fact,
I bet you would leave feeling pretty disappointed
regardless of their level of competency and execution.

Your life is the same Darling.
At the moment,
most people are so focused on the task and the minimum result expected and being lean and efficient and boring AF,
they’ve robbed themselves of the deliciousness of the creative process
thereby eliminating the levels of pleasure available in everything we do.

Why do I LOVE creating content for you?
Let’s see,
I’m sitting cross-legged on my bed,
crisp egyptian cotton sheets,
there’s a berry scented candle burning,
smooth strands of jazz flowing around me,
my coffee is hot and strong,
along with a refreshing bottle of water to ensure I stay hydrated throughout the process.
My fingers hitting the keys of my Mac which is always spotlessly clean and a delight for me to work on.
The lace on my sleeves feeling soft against my skin as my arms move slightly.
Every now and again I look up and see the brilliant purple of the lavendar bush outside my bedroom door.
The sun is shining,
birds are delightfully singing behind me as my window is open for the light breeze to blow through the room.
I’ve taken the time to set the stage and create a magnificent experience for myself!

When I train,
I ensure that I’m wearing the sport appropriate clothes.
I’ve created play-lists of my favourite music for different experiences.
I’m not going to listen to the same playlist going hard on intervals as I am on my endurance ride on a weekend or for a long run on the beach or for a yin yoga practice.
I set the stage for each of these.

I do the same when preparing food,
having a shower,
creating my new program,

Every part of my day is an experience to be enjoyed and savoured and worthy of remembering.
More importantly,
by creating these fabulous experiences,
I always end up smiling
releasing serotonin
telling my body and mind that I like this and I want more of it!

What once felt like a task
now feels like a treat.

As I brought this way of thrive to my client
starting our session with a relaxation exercise,
decreasing her stress levels within a couple of minutes,
taking her out of her head and into her being,
guiding her through an EXPERIENCE,
dropping into the pleasure available through introspection and music and candles
her answers transformed
into something so much richer and deeper and enjoyable
that we closed the session with her astonished remark
“OMG this can actually be fun! I’m looking forward to doing this again.”

I believe you deserve to experience joy and satisfaction every single day.
I believe you deserve to experience flow and ease in every single activity you do.
I believe you deserve to have a deeply fulfilling life by having deeply fulfilling experiences in everything you do.

It’s all about setting the stage.
In the beginning it takes a little more time and effort
as you’re simply not used to it and chances are you don’t have the candles and the music and the playlists and the flowers.
Just like you have to change the contents of your fridge once when embarking on a new way of eating,
you simply have to make the effort of creating your pleasure trove once and then keep topping it up.

You might feel you don’t deserve this level of luxury in EVERYTHING, you do.
Maybe you’re reading this and you don’t have a vagina so you think it doesn’t apply to you, it does.
You will only allow yourself the level of pleasure to the level of love you have for yourself which means if you don’t think you deserve to have fabulous experiences in all you do,
you need to go work on your love of and for yourself.

Quite frankly,
it’s worth it and will dramatically increase your results in every area of your life.

Don’t take my word for it!
Give it a go for 30 days recording your findings along the way.

Simply bring your attention to every ‘task’ and ask yourself: “How can I make this more enjoyable, more satisfying?”

You’ve got nothing to lose,
and potentially everything to gain.

Only death is inevitable.
Thriving is after all an experience.

Live with honour and lifegasmic satisfaction,


Anel is the Instigator of a Thrive Evolution for Alpha Females.

Her work is aimed at empowering women to trust themselves and their intuition, reclaiming their authentic voices, and creating a life they’re madly in love with.

Through enhanced self-love, self-worth and self-confidence they know the satisfaction and pride of a woman who lives unapologetically aligned with her purpose.

Those ready to step up and receive support on their journey are invited to connect through a potential partnership consultation.

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