Isn’t it time to reclaim your YES and your NO?

The intention behind this piece is NOT about stating a new universal truth making all other truths wrong!
It’s simply sharing my new truth,
designed from decades of immersing myself into my life-experience, becoming the oberserver of how my thoughts create my reality, and choosing a story that feels better to me.
You get to choose for yourself.

Two of the most powerful words in your vocabularly:

These words are instrumental in what you are creating in your life.
It’s also the two words
which most women have given away for others to decide when they are used,
and in the process
given away their power.

Swallowing their true desires along with the thick bile,
the sickness they feel,
from the imprisonment within their own minds.

Creating cages in which to perish,
slowly fading away into nothing but a shadow of themselves.

Well Sugar,
I’m here to tell you that the prison is of your own making
and it’s time to choose:

Will you continue to exist in suffering
or will you finally
Fuck This Shit,
shattering the illusion of disempowered status

RiseAlphaFemales ?

This is going to sound cold,
but honestly,
enough already of the motherfucking pity party.

Pretending that you don’t have what it takes to be phenomenally successful in EVERY dimension of the word as you’ve finally left behind your toxic relationships.
When you’ve endured more pain in the last few decades than most will ever be able to imagine in a life-time.

I know you’re tough AF.
Resillient to a fault.
And in the process of living in an abusive relationship,
you’ve managed to create the mind of a world-class fighter.
Don’t you DARE insult yourself by pretending that you don’t know if you’ve got what it takes to get from where you are to where you desire to be.

Break down.
All the way down.
let it all out,
and then,
once you’ve spent all the years of hurt,
you go within
to your heart
to your soul
and you fucking


Start saying YES to your true self and start saying NO to your bullshit stories of weakness.
Weakness does not exist.
It is simply the absence of faith.
It’s the disconnection from who you truly are.

Pretending that love means you have to stand by another regardless of their personal choices.
Pretending that love means you have to WORK at fixing yourself, the other person, the relationship.
Pretending that it’s your responsibility to walk the long walk of martyrdom in the name of love.
Pretending that sticking it out somehow makes you a saint.

I’m putting it to you Darling,
that the moment you think the other person should change,
it is in fact YOU that need changing.

You need to change what you are saying yes to,
and what you are saying no to.
YOU are the one tolerating bullshit.
YOU are the one showing up as a slave-girl and then expecting others to treat you like a queen.
I know,
that one stings like a wasp-bite.
And it will also set you free from the illusion of victimhood.

Start saying YES to radical self-love, self-acceptance, self-appreciation and self-respect and start saying NO to codependency.
Say YES to standards of excellence for and of yourself and start saying NO to mediocrity.

Pretending that there’s an inequality between the sexes
and that men are to blame
when you and I both know
that NO MAN has the true power to oppress a woman.

Yes, they might be physically stronger than most of us,
but mentally we are equal,
and emotionally we are stronger,
therefor the balance is restored by our very natures,

I’m proposing that the oppression of women
is created through the narrative of women
started by god knows who.
Handed down through the generations
and the poor bastards are simply pawns on our board of inequality.

Oh I know this is probably not going to be received well.
My ‘hate-club’ will grow tremendously,
and that’s just perfect.
Because NOT choosing to raise this controversial issue
means that I would be another silent witness
and I might as well go home.

That’s not what I signed up for.
I am the instigator of a thrive evolution for Alpha Females who are ready to liberate themselves,
and those choosing to cling to what ‘was’
will not choose a new thrive!

You can sit and recite every single piece of history
for all of time and memorial
and my question to you will be this:
To what purpose???

What does the rehashing of events contorted by the story-tellers do in changing the current status?
Instead, it sweeps up resentment, anger and a hunger for vengence,
the witch-hunt has simply changed from women to men,
and all of your evidence of validation actually means jack shit sister.
Because you’re still stuck in the story and you will ALWAYS find evidence for your beliefs.
You’re still a prisoner in your desire to be ‘right’ and to ‘fit in’ and have a sense of ‘belonging’
rather than a desire to be truly happy!

Does thinking of inequality make you feel good?
Does saying that you’re limited by your genitals make you feel good?
Does complaining about the unfairness of it all make you feel good?

If it does, by all means, you keep chanting my friend.
And if it doesn’t, stop it!

Start saying YES to a story that makes you feel FABULOUS
and NO to reciting a story of old that has caused so much misery.

Here is what I choose to beleive and find evidence of:

YOU are magnificence in human form.
And so is everyone else.
Celebrate this magnificence every day in every form and you will experience the depth of beauty available to us at this time.

YOU are powerful beyond comprehension and nobody has power over you, you can simply suppress your own.
Liberate yourself by changing your stories and operating from a space of what feels good and you will move through your day delighted by miracles unfurling left right and centre.

YOU are love in your essence.
And so is everyone else.
Choose to operate from love, leading from this energy, creating from this energy, sharing from this energy, and you will blossom and bloom at every age.

YOU have a heart.
And so does everyone else.
Connect to the heart of every person and your life will be beautifully supported by the most amazing human beings alive at this time.

In other words Alpha,
start becoming conscious of your language,
especially when it comes to the words you speak in silence.

Cosciously choose your yesses and your nos to move you towards a state of ecstacy.

Say what you mean.
Mean what you say.
And do as you say.

For death is inevitable.
Thrive is a conscious use of language.

Live with honour and love,


Anel is the Instigator of a Thrive Evolution for Alpha Females.

Her work is aimed at empowering women to trust themselves and their intuition, reclaiming their authentic voices, and creating a life they’re madly in love with.

Through enhanced self-love, self-worth and self-confidence they know the satisfaction and pride of a woman who lives unapologetically aligned with her purpose.

Those ready to step up and receive support on their journey are invited to connect through a potential partnership consultation.

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